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Ok i just entered 8th grade and last year there wuz this boy..Me and him kinda were like friends in a way ... Between periods we would wave to eachother and say wuts up but then he started talking to me and we became good friends almost at the end of the year..then during the summer we started talkin ALOT on myspace and we new eachother more..At first i called him cute lil bofriend names as a joke and he did the same but then his ex asked me if i liked him and she asked him the same question and we both said YES!After that we started to say our true feelings..We talked on the phone for hours, We texted,Instant messeged eachother and more and we became a "THING" but after a while everytime we talked we started arguing at the end..He made this vid about his best friend sayin he had herpes and i told him that it wasnt right and i told my friend what the boy i liked did and sooner or later the guy i liked started giving me attitude and i told him not to talk to me if he was gonna act like that...So a few weeks went by and i told him that i hated being mad at him and he said me to and i thought we were kool bt all of the sudden i have this girl texting my cell phone sayin "leave my lover alone he doesnt like you" and i wuz like WTF? 15 mins later i found out it waz his EX! and i asked him why he gave her my number and he said it was revenge hor tellig my buddy about the HERPES JOKE and me and this boy started hating eachother but i think i still like him after all of this drama! What do i do?
WOW. ok. i think that if you still truely like him then you need to try to fix your friendship with him first. talk to him and tell him that you miss talking to him and being able to tell him everything. just say you're sorry if he thought you were trying to control party of his life, and that you were just concerned for him with that video.
then if he accepts and you can be friends, wait a little while before flirting again.
but are you sure you still like this guy after he did all these things to you?? you really need to think this through and see if you are 100% sure that you still like him before going through with any of this.
GOOD LUCK!
http://youtube.com/watch?v=cSIvhPj5OyU
i mean not like a video i mean like you can make that and have the song snd how do u do all of that stuff
well they probably already had the movie the notebook on their computer, or they found clips of it online.
then using windows movie maker you can insert the movie clips and add any song you want to it.
windows movie maker is a really cool program and it comes already installed on most computers. but if your computer doesn't have it then i'm sure you can download it for free on a website.
TRY THESE SITES:
http://www.microsoft.com/windowsxp/downloads/updates/moviemaker2.mspx
http://www.pcworld.com/downloads/file/fid,22893-order,1-page,1-c,videotools/description.html?CMP=KNC-SEM&HBX_PK=pcw_01-DWNLD-MOVIEMKR+[windows+movie+maker]&HBX_OU=50&tk=pcw_01-DWNLD-MOVIEMKR
Mkay. So, I'm having some love problems..
There's this guy that I'm practically in love with, but he likes another girl.. I've tried to either get closer to him or forget about him, but neither is working out.. So I'm hoping if I find someone else, I'll get over him.
Well, about three weeks ago me, one of my best friends, her boyfriend, & two of our other friends all went to the movies. I was supposed to 'hook up' with her boyfriend's best friend, but he ended up not being able to come because of his parents.. So I just hung out with my friends. Well my best friend's boyfriend used to like me a little before he went out with my friend. She's known him longer & they were friends.. He liked my best friend more though, & I had no problem with it. I was really happy for her & everything. But after the movies I went to her house & she said that I was flirting with her boyfriend, & that he was flirting with me, but she wasn't angry, since she knew I wouldn't steal him from her. When she told me though, I was kind of surprised, I didn't know I was flirting with him, I just acted like I normally do around guys. I guess that might've been a bit too much :[ I was glad she told me, so I backed off more. After than night, I started talking with her boyfriend's friend.. but I couldn't build a relationship with him like that. I just wanted to be his friend.. but I felt bad because he was seriously starting to like me, & he hasn't dated for two years because his old girlfriend died in an accident while they were going out. I didn't want to make him feel worse though, so I told him I was sorry. He was kind of mad at first but he's okay with it now.. kinda. & now around a week-ish ago, my friend & her boyfriend broke up (the ones from the movies) She wasn't a bit upset at first, but then she was fine again. She still talks to her ex & his friend (the one I was ONLY friends with) & she told me her ex liked me.. She says she didn't care if they went out because she's over him.. I don't want to hurt her, so I'm not sure if I can do anything; & I don't want the his friend to be mad at me for not choosing him. :( I don't want it to seem like I'm using him to get over someone, either. I really do like him.. My problem is should I not go for it, wait, or find someone else?
I know this is long, sorry =[ Any help is appreaciated.. Thank you. :)
i'll try my best to help you :]
well i definitely DON'T think that you should go out with your best friend's ex. that is never a good thing. even if she says that she is over him & fine with it, she's lying and is just trying to be a good friend.
also i don't think that you should feel bad at all for not liking that guy that you were suppose to hook up with at the movies. you never really met him, so why should you like him? just do what you said, and be friends with him. and once you get to know him, you never know, you could start to like him.
sorry if this isn't what you were looking for but i definitely don't think it would be a good idea to go out with your best friends ex.
good luck :]
I like one of my guy friends a lot! and a few days ago we went to WonderLand with our other friends. Well the whole time we were their he ignored me and turned away when i talked to him. Even though in November he liked me a whole lot and a month ago he reminded me. While we were there he was also very close to one of my friends. Maybe it was because she enjoys roller coasters and i don't? I tried, but im just not a roller coaster person, and my never be.
well maybe he is trying to move on since you haven't showed any interest in him back? i don't know, but you didn't tell us if you told him you liked him too or not.
or maybe he was just trying to get you jealous? its hard to tell just by the question.
or maybe you are right, and that he was just talking to her more because she liked roller coasters and he wanted to go on them with her.
guys are confusing and its hard to tell, especially from just a question.
i'm sorry if that didn't help much, but i tried :]
13/f Okay, there's this boy I've liked since 6th grade, and it was pretty obvious that he liked me too. We'd always stare and smile at each other at lunch and in the hallway. But we didn't start hanging out until 8th grade because I lived with my mom (which was out of state) in 7th grade and in 6th grade he was on a different team. Now I'm going to 9th grade and we still liked each other this year, too. But he moved to a different school and came back 2 weeks later to take the PSAT. That was when I saw him last (which was in October). I was sure he still liked me though.
I found out his number and called him two days ago. He sounded happy to talk to me and I was going to ask him to be my boyfriend, but the conversation never worked up to it. It took me most of that day to gain the courage just to call him (with the help of my bestfriend and my cousin). So...should I call him again and ask him out? If so, when? What should I say??? I really like this guy and I've never asked anyone out before. Help would be appreciated. Thanks a bunches
well first off i'm pretty proud that you called him. it takes a lot of courage to do that and most girls wouldn't.
but since you don't see him that often, first make sure that a relationship could workout between you guys. then i think you should keep calling him but just to talk or maybe to make plans to hangout. then once you are in person THEN you should ask him out. i think it is always better to ask somebody out in person.
good luck ;]
soo there is this kid that i like and he knows it and he had told me first that he liked me. and well in person you can tell there is a connection and when were online he doesnt really even talk and when he does its one word answers, nothing to keep the conversation going and its veryy frustrating. and then since its summer i dont really see him that much and when i want to call him people are like no you have to play hard to get but i am horrible at that and well i just dont know what to do since i really want to hang out with him. and like i have talked to him about hanging out except i never really get an answer on when we will hang out. any help would be greatt =]
ok i'm pretty sure that you're the same person who asked me the other question. but i'll add on to my other answer just a little.
instead of just saying "we should hang out soon!" get an exact time and place. so that way you could be like "did you want to hang out with me and some friends at the movies at 7:30?" or something like that. this way you will get a definite answer and will be more likely to actually hang out.
So there is this guy that i like. and he told me that he likes me. and when were in person its like i can tell theirs something there..yah know? and then if he signs on the computer and i IM him he like barely even talks. and he will just randomly stop talking. and since its summer i dont see him as much as i would in school and i want to hang out with him but idk if i should call him or like alot of people say play "hard to get" well im horrible at that. and then people are like invite him since hes shy and like wont call you. so then i always ask my best guy friend who is like a brother to me to talk to the guy i like and now hes like annoyed of me from asking him. soo, im so stuck right now and have no clue what to do.
keep talking to him online. even though he doesn't talk much, you're still talking to him. most guys are like that, they don't talk a lot online and they will like randomly stop talking.
you could try calling him to hang out with you and a bunch of friends. or get one of your other friends to invite him along with you guys one day.
also you can see if he has texted and try texting him to keep in touch. that way he might not feel as nervous to ask you to hang out with him
good luck!
There is this guy at school and I really like him...our last dance is the 15 of june....and I was wondering because it its the last dance and everything....ShouldI ask him to the dance and risk him saying no...I mean my friend says he likes me and we don't lie to each other becasue she knows i could get hurt so she wouldn't lie to me...and a few other people have asked if we are going out because we flirt most of the time we are around each other...so the question is....should I just ask him or should I just ask him to dance one dance.......?....and another question...should I ask him in person or would a note be to corny....?....Thanks!
aww this is cute :]
what i think you should do is start off my asking him to the dance. don't just ask him to dance with you there, ask him to be your date to the dance. that way if he says yes, which i'm sure he will, you know that he is interested in you. and then after the dance you guys could hang out more and then you could ask him out.
and if he happens to say no, which i hope he doesn't, it will be much easier to take since he just turned you down as a date to a dance and not to be your boyfriend.
also i think you should definitely ask him in person. it is never a good idea to ask someone over a text, im, note, or even phone call. in person is always better because if you are too nervous to ask him in person then how will you actually date him? but if you are way too nervous to ask him in person then over the phone is the next best choice, just make sure that he is alone and not with his friends.
GOOD LUCK =]
14 M: if im talking to a girl on the phone or on AIM(but aim is lame for asking out) what is the best way to actually ask a girl to be your GF...like and example of words ""
well the simplest way is just saying "do you want to go out with me?"
but don't do this over the phone or AIM. do this in person. you can start off by saying how you really like her and was wondering if she wanted to go out with you.
what is the number one way you can tell if a girl likes you(besides hearing it from her friends because they can lie) like visual, body action, stuff like that. question would probobly be better answered by the ladies: what do you do to come on to a guy and show him you like him without saying it. this way i can look for those signs in her. 14 M btw
for me i smile a lot. like i will always make sure to smile and say hi when i see him in the hall.
a lot of girls will also laugh a lot at all your jokes, and they will make sure they sit near you.
so just look for these signs: eye contact, smile, laughter, and if you find them near you a lot.
good luck :]
how do i go about admitting to a boy that i actually like him when i've turned him down about fifty times? he's a tenacious kid and he hasn't given up and i think that's why i like him. but i just CAN'T imagine actually admitting to him OR my friends that i'm actually interested in him. help. :(
well you should probably go about it slow, so he doesn't think your kidding when you actually admit that you do like him. ask him to hang out with you and a bunch of your friends. this will make him feel included, and while your together talk to him a lot. then you will have an excuse to talk to him more other times. try some subtle flirting as well. then after a little while you can be like i know i turned you down those other times, but now that i really got to know you, i really like you. or something like that lol
good luck :]
I am 15/f.
There is this guy who I almost went out with... we hung out almost every weekend for months...then he went out with someone else and I got over him. We stayed friends. He just turned 18.
Yesterday I saw him at his graduation, and he asked me to hang out. It was already around 10, and he was going to be hanging out with a few other guys, and that he would take me home. I said, "I don't know..." because I felt it would be awkward with just me and his guy friends. (Not that we would do anything bad, at all.) He said, "It's ok if you don't want to."
So I didn't, and I kind of wish I did.
But anyways, i am going to have a boring weekend.
So should I ask him to hang out?
yeah. he asked you to hang out so you should ask him. just be like i changed my mind and i think hanging out would be fun.
it shouldn't be weird at all that you ask him to hang out since he asked you first.
just go for it :]
ok this girl just asked my boyfriend to go to a water park with her and some other people. she knows that we've been going out all year, and i know her a little bit, but she didnt invite me. at first i thought she was just inviting him cuz shes friends with him, but my mom said that her inviting him like that, without me, means she likes him. do you think thats true? i would never invite someone else's boyfriend to do something like that, so its kind of weird to me. should i be worried?
well i don't know this girl so i don't know for sure. but i have this group of friends and we hang out all the time. there are two guys in that group that currently have girlfriends, but we never invite their girlfriends along because we don't really know them.
I don't really think she is trying to steal him. because he is allowed to have other friends. I just think they're going with a bunch of friends, and since she doesn't know you that well, thats why you're not invite.
so nothing to worry about :]
(15/f)
There this guy I've know for a couple of year. We recently switched from our old school for a more advanced program at another school(He was the only other person I knew who transfered and vice versa)We're pretty close friends, so a lot of people were under the impression we were going out, and by a lot, I mean practically everyone we know.
Question 1: What's a good way to answer when people say stuff like "How long have you guys been going out for?" or "You guys make such a cute couple!"... It's incredibly ackward to respond to those o_O Especially since he has somewhat of a fanclub within the female population.
I don't blame them for getting the wrong impression though. For example today at lunch, he was practically sprawled over me while reading a book, and I was reading over his shoulder. And he has nicknames for me that he uses constantly. And many other reasons... The thing is I actually like this guy, and have for quite some time. But he keeps on sending me mixed messages about whether he likes me or not. He switches from staring into my eyes for no particular reason to avoiding me.
Question 2: Any ways of finding out if he likes me in that way, without being too blatantly obvious of course because I AM friends with this guy.
Good grief, this is a rather long question. Thanks in advance :D
this happens to me ALL THE TIME. seriously like i liked this one guy and we went on a field trip together and three people came up to us and asked if we were going out. now since i liked him i didn't mind that much. but then i have this other guy friend that i definitely only like as a friend, and people think we are dating all the time. we just kind of brush it off and say no we're not dating.
ok back to you lol. when people ask if you guys are dating NEVER answer with "no, we're just friends". because then people go ooh "just friends" thinking that you guys do like each other. and i know that you like him, but you don't know if he likes you back yet. to me it kind of seems like he does like you, but he might be getting scared at some points and backing off. he might be getting scared because people keep asking if you are dating, or because he is actually realizing that he DOES in fact like you.
now for your answer. just causually say no were not dating, and then change the subject. don't make a face and be like ew no we're definitley not dating. because then he will think that you would never want to date him.
GOOD LUCK with everything :]
14/f
this is kind-of long, sorry. :/
me and my boyfriend jordan have been going out since may 1, and as of now, we've only held hands and hugged, not kissed or anything. but we went to this school dance on friday, and they played our song [ bless the broken road, rascal flatts (: ], and after they played it, he looked at me and went in to kiss me, and the moment seemed perfect and such, but i turned away. he said it got him confused becaus he thought it was the right moment, but i told him i just felt like it was too soon. so just a few minutes ago he told me he wants to kiss me tomorrow after school, but i don't know what to do, because i don't think we've been going out long enough.
so basically, have we been going out long enough for us to kiss?? and please don't say it's up to me, or that it's whenever it feels right, because i honestly don't know.
so is less than three weeks long enough to kiss?
and we're going to the movies on friday, so i know he'll want to kiss me and maybe even make out.
thanks in advance..
i know you don't want to here this, but it really is up to you. if you don't feel ready, then don't let him rush you.
your boyfriend obviously thinks its not too soon and is ready. but since you turned away, you must not be ready.
you can't let your boyfriend pressure you into kissing him.
in my opion, its a little early, but i wouldn't shock me if you did kiss at only 3 weeks. i know people who have dated for 4 monthes and still haven't kissed. this just goes to show how much they really care for each other since they can keep their relationship strong without kissing.
and in my opinion i defintiely don't think you should make out with him at the movies since you weren't even ready for just a kiss.
15/F
I've liked this guy for a couple of months and a few weeks ago I found out that he likes me back. A group of my friends and one of my closest friends friends (Sorry if that's confusing) met up at the mall yesterday, and I found out from my friend that he's bisexual. And I still like him. I just don't know if I would want to go out with him anymore. I don't have anything against people who are bisexual, it's just that I've never dated a guy like that before and I don't If I would want to. Am I being unfair? I'm so confused. What should I do?
knowing that he is bi shouldn't affect your opinion of him. being bi just means that he likes guys and girls. and he just happens to like you, a girl. you said yourself that you still like him, so then i think you should still go out with him.
you shouldn't think of him any different then a straight guy. what are you afraid of? the fact that he is bi doesn't mean he is more likely to cheat on you, be mean to you, or treat you any different.
sorry is that wasn't what you are looking for, i'm just being honest :]
by not actually showing that you like her like somethign really good but not perverted....and i really dont know what to say like im usually fine but i really like this girl and all i say to ehr is how is your day going and thats it....she is a grade higher than me so i cant talk about school or anything...so can anyone help me
hopefully i can help, since i'm in 9th grade and the guy i like is in 8th grade :]
i always pick up on sutle compliments he gives me like when he:
notices a change in my hair
compliments my hair
says he likes my outfit
or even if he just hints that i look pretty, its still really sweet.
basically just compliment her, talk to her about her classes since you aren't in any of them (make sure to seem interested), talk about something at school that you both are included in, a movie that just came out, or even just ask about her weekend. as long as you say something, she'll talk back and before you know it you have a conversation going :]
me & my boyfriend have been together for almost 7 months.
we havent done more than like make out and feel up.
(btw were both 14).
i need some more things for us to do,like games & stuff.
im thinking about letting him finger me but im not sure yet.
i dont AT ALL wanna go past that.
please gimme ideas.
thanks ...=]
to me it seems like your not ready to have him finger you. so don't do it.
just hang out with him and watch movies, go for a walk, go to an amusement park [this is soo much fun], go to the beach, a park, out to eat, go to a concert, play boardgames [it might seem childish but i promise its fun], go to the mall, mini golfing, ice skating, bowling, etc.
there is sooo much you guys can do that isn't sexual. relationships aren't all about sexual things, plus you guys are only 14.
have fun!
ok so this guy who i like and i guess he likes me too wants to hang out so bad with me. he asked me for my phone # and he gave me his. first he invited me to his game and then a school dance afterwards which i couldnt go to. now is like the perfect day for him to hang out with me. but you see he wants me to call HIM? and i cant b/c i get embarassed and i just freak out. also i dont even know what we are going to do i havent planned anything but alls i know is im free today, next weekend im not. but you see its already 4 and i dont know what to do right now so help me before the day is over?
I'M THE SAME EXACT WAY!
i used to be soo shy and afraid to call anybody, especially guys. but i finally got over that. i told myself that i shouldn't be afraid to call a guy, because he gave me his number for a reason. and also when he calls you do you think its weird? no.
so just take a deep breath, count to three, and dial. just ask him to go see a movie or something.
GOOD LUCK :]
So there is this guy that likes me. Ours families are good family friends and we live close to eachother. The thing is, i like him, but in some ways i don't. Like i kinda feel like i shouldn't go out with neighbors cause i need some like..personal space i guess you could say. We're also the highlight of mostly all the conversation between the parents its really annoying. Its weird cause i like really like him when i'm alone with him but when were apart he can annoy me. And i dont know why!
if i were you i'd just continue to stay friends for a little while and see how things go. give yourself like 2 weeks to figure out what you want to do. because remember if you do go out with him, your families will ALWAYS remember that. lol. i'm not trying to scare you or anything, but its true.
also if you break up you don't want to ruin the friendship. about the personal space, i wouldn't really worry about that because its not like he will actually be with you all the time, just in the your neighborhood. so you will still have your personal space. plus since he lives close by it will make it easier to see it each other & its easy for sneaking out at night ;] haha
just give yourself some time to sort out your feelings and when you make a decision make sure its the one that you really want.
GOOD LUCK!!