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One person can make a difference and every person should try.
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Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
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Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
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'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
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I am a 33 year old man and I have been having an affair regretfully with someone for 2 years. I have tried to break it off with her twice and she always threatens to tell my wife. As long as I am having sex with her she doesn't care about my marriage. I am continuing with the affair for the sake of my marriage and I don't know what to do. (link)
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Unfortunately you can continue with the affair for the sake of your marriage,for another year or two, maybe even 5 years, BUT it will always come to the same point, that every time you try to break it off, she would threaten you, and when you decide to just come clean and tell your wife after another year or two or five, that will make it even worse and less possible for your wife to forgive you.
I'm pretty sure you did not get into this affair to be threatened or blackmailed, or to be unpleasant and increase your burdens, I'm sure you were looking for pleasure or a good time, or someone who would understand you, but then that's not how it turned out. It would be miserable for you to continue in this affair, when you probably no longer feel the same sexual way towards her, because you are just now sleeping with her because you're afraid and she's holding something against you.
I've been down that road, blackmail. And believe me, in my shoes, I had so many things I could hold against that person, much stronger than what he was holding against me, things to destroy his life, his home, his family, his marriage, BUT, because I was the better person, I chose not to hurt that person although this person wanted to hurted me. I could have blackmailed him back, so we would be even, and none would tell about the other, but in the end, he told on me and destroyed my own life, and I still did not hurt him by saying a word about things I knew about him.
She doesn't deserve that you be a better person than her, but again, right now, what you should think about is yourself and saving your marriage, you made a mistake, I'm not judging about having an affair, I'm saying you made a mistake by having an affair with the wrong person, so unfortunately and sadly you have to deal with it. You have to tell your wife, better it comes from you, than from the one you're having an affair with. Apologize, cry, beg for forgiveness, give excuses, but when you do come clean to your wife, DO NOT tell her that now your mistress is blackmailing you, cause she will only think that you came clean to her ONLY cause you were being blackmailed, and that otherwise, you would have continued in your affair and not bothered to tell her. Tell her in a way that shows that you woke up one day with regrets and just wanted to make everything right, and no matter what, it's always the truth that is best than anything else, because if we keep on lying, all the lies will pile up on one another and we will end up with an even bigger mess than how it started.
You might need more advice and support if you do choose to tell your wife, or if you do choose to continue with your affair, so let me know, feel free to contact me, if you need to talk more about it.
And by the way, you might think that your entire life will fall apart and things will be bad if you tell your wife, that's why you don't wanna tell her, but also, the feeling of living in constant fear of 'when is she gonna tell my wife?', this feeling is unbearable, there is nothing worse than the feeling of being blackmailed and threatened and living on edge.
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my boyfriend is acting wierd...... Is he cheating? (link)
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No not necessarily, don't blame him or make such bad assumptions, and even if he is unfaithful, which we don't know at all now for sure, you should trust him, because it's important that a relationship is built on trust.
Maybe he just has something on his mind, and he doesn't really want to talk about it, that's why he hasn't told you, and it's upsetting him or taking up his time and thinking, so I think that you should sit with him and talk, and tell him that you've noticed that he's been acting weird, and if there is anything that has been going on in his life that he needs to talk to someone about it, and tell him that you're there for him, and ask him if you've done something wrong. Maybe he's upset at you for something you did or said, but you're not aware of it, so ask him, and tell him if it's something about the both you, your relationship, is something upsetting him about it. Talk to him. Communication is very important in any relationship.But don't tell him are you cheating on me, because if he's not, then that could cause a problem alone, a big fight where he'd get mad at you for not trusting him, and he has all the right, if you did ask him if he's cheating, he has the right to get mad at you, you should trust him. And even if you're right, don't blame yourself for trusting him, on the contrary, you should praise yourself for trusting him, because you're doing your part of the relationship, but if he's unfaithful and couldn't do his part, then that's his problem.
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i am a 20 year old female that is in love with my highschool sweetheart and when i met hiim he was the sweet shy guy and even though we are 3 years apart we are still together after 7 years. unfortunatly all we do is fight. and it is over stupid stuff he tells me all the time "i love you to death but god you drive me insane and sometimes i really hate you" it makes me feel ugly and not worthy of anything. i completley ignore the words "i love you" when after that he tells me he hates me. :( HELP!! (link)
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Sometimes when you love someone so much, there are certain things about you that you have to change inorder to please this person or satisfy this person. Ofcourse in reality, you should never change who you are for anyone, but sometimes you find yourself obliged, or you do it out of love, like when you sacrifice something you really love to do, or your career, or whatever it is, to be with the person you love. So in your case, maybe there is a certain thing about you or about him, in the personality, or a certain action or behaviour that triggers the fighting, usually there is a source which the reason behind the continuous fighting and tension and that lets you get on each others' nerves. So try to find that, and maybe change it. And if there isn't anything, then try to follow a different strategy, try to not fight back when he fights, and like smile or laugh out loud, not in a way to piss him more, but to just laugh it off, you know how you laugh something off, to make it seem of a lesser problem than it really is? Do that. Or like reply back in a low tone and quiet tone, to make him realize how bad and foolish he looks like shouting out at you, so he'll lower his tone. Or simply tell him, I don't want to fight anymore, and just like you know, kiss him or hug him, or talk sweet talk to him, because in the very end, I'm sure that he loves you, and that you love him, and you've been through alot together, so don't throw that away, I don't want to have to tell you to throw that away, because beneath all that fighting, it means so much to you, and to him, so don't lose it, fight for it.
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well they is a guy that i like and he is always giving me hug when he hugs me it doesn't feel like they mean anything what should i do and is they anything to help me please (link)
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Well there are some type of guys who do that, it seems kind of girly though, because that's usually something your girl friend would do, but some guys act that way. I can't really tell you if it means that he likes you or not, because you didn't provide any kind of information about the kind of relationship going on between you, like how long have you known each other, and if there are any other signals that show you that he likes you, or is he just friends. I'm not sure. But my advice to you, is to not to do anything about it, and to just go with the flow, and if he does like you, and if it means anything, then you'll see more signals than just a hug, because no one impresses someone or tries to express their love by just hugging, there has to be more to it. But don't rush into anything, or confess that you like him or anything, because you have to be sure first that it's a two sided relationship, and that he does really have feelings for you. So for now, just look out for signals I guess.
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hi, im fourteen and i need to go to illinios to see the girl of my dreams and i need to no the easiest way to do it....i take all suggestions and i have tried to get family to take me but they wont so help me plz (link)
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You want to run away? That's wrong. Did your family allow you to go see her on your own? I doubt that.
Running away to see her is not the right way to be with her. You can contact her in many other ways. You can talk online via video chat or talk on the phone, or even visit each other but on holidays and occasions. But you can't run away and leave your life and family behind to be with her. Besides, why isn't SHE running away to be with you? Why isn't she thinking the same? You think it's because you are the guy, so you are the one who should run away to be with her? That's not necessarily, if she was inlove with you as much as you were in love with her, you would be running away together, and not only you running to her.
You are still fourteen, you are not IN love, you are only overwhelmed by a sensation of admiration and excitement, a new feeling that you feel, but it's not love, you don't know love yet, and you may not believe me, but whether you continue to be with her or not, one day you WILL be in love, and you'll know that what you felt now was nothing in comparison.
So for now, don't rush things, be with her, but in a long distance relationship, till after a couple of years, when you join college, maybe you could move to illinois and go to college there, and then you could be with her, and if she's the same age as you, maybe you could even join the same university. This is how things work, but it's not by you running away and leaving your family and education and life and going all the way there, just so you'd realize that you have no money or place there, and it's not like she'll take you into her home and her family would agree. What are you going to do then? How would you support yourself? Are you going to get a job at 14 years, you won't find a job at your age.
So always in life, when you want to do something, you have to put out a plan, and see if it'll work, you have to plan ahead and work out all the different possibilities for your plan, but right now, for your plan, there is 0 success that it will work.
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Could you please tell me what my friend is saying to me.He said, "Catie,Bahibek ad el-sama wo arad.Bahibek ya hilwa.ma3a 7oby men moshkeltak el lazeeza." I keep asking you questions and you so gratiously keep answering them. Tank you. Maybe I should buy a dictionary to help me since I feel like I shouldn't bother you so much. Thank you again for all your help.
Catie (link)
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No its okay, feel free to ask me at any time, I'm glad to be of help.
what your friend said exactly translates into 'Catie, I love you as much as the sky and earth, I love you beautiful. With my love from your sweet problem'
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Thank you for all the help so far. One more question, if I want to say "Abubakar, my love" how would I say it spelling it out in English? If he says it back to me would he say it the same way? I really appreciate the fact that you take the time to answer my questions. (link)
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If you say it to him, you will say, ' Abubakar, 7oby' where the 7 is an h. 7oby means my love.
If he says it to you, he'll say it the same way, but using your name ofcourse, like '(your name), 7oby'
Feel free to ask any questions.
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How would I say "I still love you" to a man spelling it out in English?Someone told me it was" Ana ba'ad ahib anta or anti". Is this correct and would I use anta or anti since I am a woman saying it to a man? (link)
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The sentence you said is incorrect, I don't even know how to pronounce it, it doesn't make since. When you spell an arabic word in English, we use the english letters along with numbers, so you should say ' Ana lesa ba7ebak' , and that '7' means an 'h' but by pronouncing it heavily. This is exactly the correct thing to say if its a woman saying it to a man. You keep asking me this same question lool, but don't worry, I'm positive about my answer, cause dude my first language is arabic, I don't think any one will tell you a more correct answer than mine loool
Feel free to ask me at any time :D
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16/f So I like this guy and I want to tell him. But I'm wondering if it would be lame to talk to one of his best friends, a girl who is our mutual friend, about it. I was thinking that telling her might save me some possible embarrassment. But it's not full proof because even if i told her to keep it a secret she could easily tell him about it. Also, I can't help feeling that telling her instead of him just cheapens the whole thing. It makes me feel like I'm 10 or something! What is the best way to ask a guy out? (link)
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I think telling his best friend is NOT a good idea, because she might tell him, and not only tell him, but tell him in this way as in making fun of you, or encouraging him against it, or telling him something negative about you, no matter if your her friend too, you never really know what she'd say, after all she's a mutual friend, but she's not your best friend that you totally trust. So she might just say something wrong that could fire back at you.
There is no best way in asking a guy out, actually it will always be awkward and weird, cause you don't really know if this guy likes you back, so imagine the embarassment if he doesn't, and if he says that to you, or if he tells his friend to tell you that, and then you'd have to see him everyday in school, when he knows that you like him and you tried to ask him out, but he didn't like you back. I'm not saying that to put your hopes down, but I'm trying to help you picture the situation, cause some guys could be mean, and go around telling their guy friends that you asked him out but he doesn't like you back and he rejected and stuff.
So the best way is, is to get to know the guy, go up and talk to him, befriend him, see how he really is like, what type of person, see if you would even still have the same feelings for him when you actually get closer to him and get to know him, he might not be the person you thought he is from a distance. And when you do know him, then it will be your choice to think whether you want to be with him or not afterall, and even if you still do, at least he would have come to know you more, so when you ask him, it wouldn't be weird, cause you know what, maybe he would have liked you then and he would ask you first.
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Is it a good idea to pursue a high school relationship during senior year? I can't predict the future of this relationship, whether or not it will last, but in all likelihood we will be separated by college. I'm going on to college and the girl is still going to be in high school. Is it worth it? (link)
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To be completely honest, if you're here and asking this question, it means that you don't really love this girl, as in love love, as in true love. It's probably just like another person your dating and then you expect that one day you're going to break up, like you know that she's not the one.
People who are really in love, don't even think of that, don't even think that since they'll be seperated in the future, then should they continue their relationship? On the contrary, they think of ways to be together, and they even start planning how would they manage seeing each other, and when would they visit and how they'll stay in touch, some even go to the extent, of changing their whole future for each other, like changing colleges next to her high school, or she transfering next to your college. But when you come here and say, is it worth it? Then no, it is so not worth it, and I say that without doubt, without even knowing anything about your relationship. Do you understand what I mean?
But my advice to you is, somewhere along the line, you might discover that she IS the one, only time would show. So I suggest for you not to break off the relationship, because why would you? what would be your reason? Like ' oh I discovered we will be seperated after a year, so I'm breaking up with you now' it doesn't make since, and it would hurt the person in front of you, cause you have no reasons. Maybe she's an amazing person, and yet you break up with her, why? You know. I think you should continue with this girl, and if things really don't work out for solid reasons or if before you graduate, you still think she's not the one, and your still questioning yourself if she's worth it, then break it off.
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hi, so im a junior in high school 16 years old. i've made out with 5 boys only one and a half where my boyfriend....long story short. i like this boy a lot, hes a year older dropped out of his senior year than he came back. we hang out at LEAST 2 times a week.. hes unbelievably gorgeous.. model material -seriously. i reach his standards- i think. i'm 5"4 and 110 pounds, not so many pimples and i dress cool. i jjust need to know WHAT IS THIS? should i end it? i dont know what it is i see him in school everyday, s he takes me home if i need a ride and he's so sweet, but in front of people i dont know if it's shyness or something but he doesnt talk to me, he barely looks in my direction. all of my friends know about him, and many of his friends know about him and i. what are we, a thing? i hooked up with him, hes fingered me, ive given him a handjob. he wants to go down on me, i wont let him. is he in it for the ass? he's turning 18 in like 3 monthes.. i reallly think i love him, but he also hangs out with "shtoop'" =public school girls who give the boys ass. he doesnt have somany morals when it comes to that and claims that he doesnt hook up wiht anyone but me nnbut how am i supposed to trust him? if i hooked up with another guy (no desire to) but if i did hed probably get pissed off.. we hang out a lot, more than use=ual these days. we bbm during school an he gives me the cutest looks.. what is this? what am i doing with my life, please help me. my whole family dissaproves becasue of his reputation with girl; he used them and talks about it after.... i dont know what to do, i tryed stopping hanging out with him but i just cant do it i cant let go, i feel like ive found someone exactly like me not a soul-mate, but boyfrined material an adorable... hes so inntimidating and scares al my friends- he's really gorgeous. but i am not scared of him, i like him and how everyone;s scared, i like everything about him, i dont care when he smokes or drinks, but other girls--thats killing me trust, and what are we? please help as soon as you read this n be honest, i sound like a pathetic 13 year old but its my life. i live in a tightnit community and things get out and around quick.. i dont want this out, and if it does i want to have been his girlfriend..... help please remmeber same school, my family disaprroves, and hes unbelievabley beautiful- inside and out. sorry for spelling i cant spell to save someones lifee (link)
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I think you should definitely let go. You see, from where you are, when you are the one with the problem, when you are involved in it, you are too blind to see how it really sounds, but me, from where I am, a complete stranger listening to it, I can make total sense out of it, and read what it really means, and you might not be convinced with what i will say because of that, but this is the truth.
He is not a good person, he's the kind of boy who's a player, he just wants to have fun, he's not in it to commit or to look for a serious relationship, he doesn't even want a girlfriend, he doesn't want to be in love. What does he want then? He wants to have fun, to get laid and to hook up with so many girls, so he can have a good story to go home with everyday, to tell all his friends and show off that yet another girl fell for his looks and had sex with him,and he is enjoying that so much, and you, with what you are doing, you are exactly just another one of those girls. And I know that you love him so much, and that you can't let go, so you are trying to believe the best in him, and believe that he doesn't sleep with anyone else, but actually he does, and it's so typical the way he tells you that you are the only one, ofcourse you shouldn't trust him.
And what proves what I'm saying more, is that he doesn't talk to you at all in school, you said it yourself, he doesn't even look in your direction, why would he do that? why not even at least say hi? cause your not his girlfriend, and your not the person he wants to walk around in front of people with, and be proud of being with you, he just wants to sleep with you, and take from you as much as he can, and then probably leave you, and think of you as another one of those he once had fall for him.
Please trust me on this and let go, as hard as it is, and as much as you can't resist his looks and his charm, you have to let go, and don't give him anything, don't sleep with him, because he is not the one.
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17/f and he's 20/m
5 hours ago, we broke up for the first time. I mean, actually break up. I swallowed my pride and went after him asking to give me another chance. He said, he really didn't want to be in a relationship with anyone right now. His reason was because he feels like his personality isn't fit for a relationship. It sucked. He knew I was the type of girl who would not date someone that I dated once. Until I said, "if we were destined to be together, then we'll be together later. Just not now." After I said that, he asked if I actually believed in that. Later on, he said... "I hope I'll come back." He cried outside my window for a while, I couldn't believe it was over. We kissed for the last time, and he said "I really do hope I'll come back. I definitely do not want to fall in love with another girl." He promised me we'll still be friends. He said he still really liked me, he just doesn't know about love, he was wondering what was the definition of love.
I woke up this morning feeling empty. I missed my first class because I just felt so sad. If I left now, I'd still be counted absent. I couldn't help myself, but called him. I told him I missed him, he said he missed me. And that karma already hit him, he said he was miserable and everything. Later on, he told me that hopefully he'll come back, when he grows up. What he means by that is that, he wants to find out what he wants to do and have full confidence in himself.
Then he said, he will come back. After he grows up. Now he's laying down next to me, he came over to be here for me as a "friend". But he's really asleep.
I don't know what exactly is going on in my mind. I have that feeling of full confidence, I know things are going to work out. Or something will him have come back, but yet I'm also doubting myself. I wouldn't know what would happen. I don't want high hopes, and I get hurt again. But yet, I didn't cry as hard as I thought. I felt somewhat relieved but at the same time, I wanted him back.
What is he thinking exactly? Is he really telling the truth? What should I do? (link)
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Okay, well it sounds to me like he's confused, really really confused, and has so much going on in his mind. I think that the problem is not in your relationship, and not in you, its in his life, things he feels he has to figure out. Sometimes we feel that we haven't really accomplished anything in our lives, and we feel that our life is such a waste, and we're not really moving, you know, like life is going on, but we're just stuck there in the same place. And even though you might have someone that you really love by your side, which is you, he feels that there is more out there, and more he could do, and not only for himself, but for the both of you, you know. He wants to feel like he's done something,he is something, so he could be enough for you, so he could be fit to commit in a relationship. I think you should just give him time, it's just a phase, and once he has a plan, or a goal or just knows what he's going to do, he'll come back. But for the meantime, you should be there by his side as much as you can, and tell him how much you love him, and you'll wait for him no matter how much time he takes to figure things out, you'll wait.
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Hi all
My ex boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago, I still really wanted to be with him but he didn't show any signs of wanting to get back together, although he said he "still wanted to be with me" and he "still loved me" He was upset when I said I didn't want to speak anymore, I felt I couldn't move on if we still spoke. I started seeing a new guy recently, and my ex boyfriend found out. He text me saying "I know you are seeing other guys so there is nothing I can do but you never know what will happen" I said what do you mean? He said "Things change, you don't know what will happen in the future. You could break up with him and then we get back together"
Why would you say that to someone you don't want to be with???? (link)
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He does want to be with you, but he was just acting cool or maybe he was mad at the moment he said that. But then when he saw that you are really moving on and you are actually dating someone else, he immediately regretted that he didn't take you back when he could have. It's this human nature, that you have to confront the person with the situation for them to believe that its true or possible, like he would have never imagined that you'd move on so fast, and he probably thought that you'd get back together or that you'd keep trying to get him back, but when the opposite happened, he didn't know what to do, so he told you that.
Look, if you don't want to be with him anymore, and if that new guy is worth it and is a good person, then stick with him, and just let go of your ex, and ignore what ever he says, he had his chance to get u back, and if he really did love you, he would've gotten over his ego or whatever and agreed to take you back, instead of acting cool and wanting you to beg him to take you back. You did well when you stood your ground, first you gave him a chance to take you back, and when he wouldn't , you said not to speak anymore, and then you moved on, and that's great, now don't let anything stop you.
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16/F
So for the past 8 months I've been talking this guy on twitter. We used to roleplay as a fake couple. Well five months into talking with eachother I confessed I've grown feelings for him. He admitted the same to me. Then we started talking about real life stuff like our friends, family, school, and our past. Everyday we would talk about the most random things. Soon its been 6 months and we start saying "I love you." And I know the internet is never safe because you dont really see the person behind the screen and it could be some online predator but something felt right. I mean after seven months why hasn't he made a move if he is an "online predator?" He never asked me about my town or school or my last name. He straight up told me everything but never asked me once. So I told him everything and he put "Why did you tell me that? You didnt have to." sooo yeah. He always talks to me about school and homework and how he took his best friend to the dance for fun. And he always asks me to help with his math homework (lol) and I always do. I mean if this guy is a "predator" he's really good and sneaky and patient to meet me. I told my mom about this cause I thought she should know and she wasnt to happy about it. After everything I told her she is still uncertain..but I told Forest,the boy, that my mom knows and he did nothing...wouldn't he be scared and stop talking to me if he know my parents know?
I want to meet Forest cause its killing me inside, I live in Iowa and he lives in California. She says she will believe this when she meets him in real life and well I dont blame her. But how can I convince my mom to get us to meet him?
Sorry if this is long and makes no sense (link)
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Well what about you get to know him more, like using video chat, or make him send you a picture of himself, or like take his number and call each other, and get your mom involved too, like when you chat via video, maybe your mom could be there too, you know? And yes online relationships could be weird and scary, but sometimes they do actually work out. So I think you should take a risk and go forward with this relationship, and you should trust him, because you're right, it's been a long while now, and if he was going to do any pervert thing, he would've done it. But if you're like getting really serious, maybe he should tell his parents too, I mean, it was a really good thing that you told your mom, it means that you are not doing anything wrong or behind her back, but maybe he should tell his parents too, and maybe your parents and his parents could get to know each other, chat or talk on the phone or whatever, you know, just to even assure your mother, that if she talks to his parents, even if for one time, just so she could know that his parents are aware and its safe, you know.
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For some reason I always get these little crushes on guys younger than I am. It hurts me to know that it'll never work out. I'm 18 anyway so it's kind of illegal anyway. I'm not going to date any of them but does any one have a reason why I might like the younger guys?
I also think it may because I'm always told I'm pretty and beautiful but that's it and it never goes any further. My two best friends both have bobyfriends and both go out on double dates together all the time. Makes me feel left out when they do that. We do hang out together other times but it still hurts that they go out on double dates and can't invite me because I'm always single.
I'm very outgoing. I'm fun. I love to party and act silly. I'm in college, but I hate it. I don't talk to anyone and nobody really looks like the care to talk to me.
I just don't understand why I go for the younger guys all the time. Then, I end up getting upset about it. (link)
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Maybe it's cause no guys of your age talk to you or show much interest in actually being with you, meaning what you said that you hate college and you don't talk to anyone, well why don't you? Maybe if you start being more social and getting to know people there, you'd actually meet a good guy of your age and he'll show interest in you, and then just the feeling of someone caring for you back, is going to occupy you, being in a relationship and having someone. But right now, you just completely ignore college, and you probably go for the younger guys cause those are the people who show interest, cause ofcourse they would, younger guys would die to know someone older, and have someone older to show off in front of their friends, and they go like ' oh i'm dating a college girl, I'm cool', but they would never take you serious, cause no guy likes to get involved with a girl whose older, cause it would be weird for him, and it would seem like your the man and not him, he's like younger and childish. So you definitely have to start building some social life in college, and these love things take time,don't rush it, it will come when it comes,and you'll enjoy it then, but right now, you can enjoy the single life, it has its advantages you know, you only learn them when you are involved lol
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20 female - Joe 19
I've known Joe for about 5 years now. He is like my best guy friend. I can tell him anything and trust him with my life which I can't do with many people. I've always had a crush on him. When I find another guy, I always seem to think about him. Sometimes the things he does and how he acts towards me makes me think he likes me more than a friend but I don't know.
He's always giving me hugs
He always listens, no matter what it is
I know he is attracted to me
He talks to me different than other girls I've realized, even texting. He short texts all other girls but with me he's different
Sometimes I will say love you at the end of a text or something and he always says "love you too linds!" which makes me smile
It seems like when we're around people and other guys he tries to "show me off" in a way
When he found out I was "talking" to another guy, I could tell he got really jealous
We ALWAYS flirt when we're together and the occasional cuddle
At a bonfire I was crying because I found out bad news with my family and I came back and he was like Linds come sit right here and he was pointing to his lap so I sat there in his arms..i didn't want to leave.
I could go on and on. But these could just be him being my best friend too right? How can you tell if it's something more or not? The thing that makes me back off a little is he was with a girl for 3 years, his only girlfriend. They still talk and are really close which makes me doubt myself. I would say something about liking him but I don't want to make myself look stupid and have our friendship be awkward.
Then sometimes I feel like he doesn't like me because..
When I ask him about other guys or talk about them he doesn't say much. I don't know if he really is bothered or if he tries to hide it. I always seem to have to text him, but he is always busy, but if he liked me wouldn't he text me every now and then? People say he could be intimidated by me because everyone tells me how pretty I am (not sounding conceited) but he is really cute too all the girls want him. Why doesn't he just make a move sometime!!? Sometimes I feel like he wants to kiss me or do something but he won't.
There are so many mixed signals. Are there any big signs?? More and more I've realized that I have to put myself out there and I've been trying, I mean it's pretty obvious I want him. What do you guys think? Please don't say just tell him, It's not that easy. If I could have I would of 5 years ago.. (link)
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Okay, no I'm not going to tell you to just tell him, cause you shouldn't, I never really believe in girls making the first move, I feel like it makes the girl look manly or something. The point is, you are completely right to be confused, there are so many mixed signals here, and most of them say that he likes you and is trying to make a move but something is holding him back, and that thing could be the same thing that is holding you back, he's afraid you'd reject him, and then you'd lose your friendship as well. Best thing to do here, is to let things fall into place on their own, you shouldn't make a move, he should , and if he does love you, then he will make a move. When a person loves someone, they do anything to be with this person, and even if it means overcoming their fear and risking their friendship. So if he does like you, he will come around, you just have to wait, and enjoy what you have in the meantime. Maybe a little hinting around wouldn't hurt, like when you're talking, you can go like, do you ever picture us being together, do you think its possible, or something like that. Just give him the green light, that hint that tells him if you ask me to be your girlfriend, I will say yes. It's just a feeling you send across.
And about his ex girlfriend, if he still liked her, he would've gotten back with her, or he would've told you, there is nothing to stop him from doing that. So you shouldn't be intimidated by her or make that hold you back. They're probably just close cause after dating, they discovered that they are better off as just friends, some people don't work out as a couple, sometimes they are just meant to be friends, and that's probably how it is between him and his ex girlfriend.
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how do you spell " I still love you" in Arabic using the English alphabet please (link)
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Ana lesa ba7ebak.
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16/f
i really like my best guy friend. we have one class together and we met this year. Wellmy friends thinks that he likes me but im not 100% sure. i really likehi but i dont want to tell him i like him and make our friendship awkward.
well h walks me to the bus, wesit by each other in art, it seems like he trusts me.
well i was sitting with him and he reaches into his pocket and pulls out this littl piece of paper. I wan't gingto look since its not my business but he was smilingand then he folds it back. well was oviosusly peeking to the point where he could see me (i was hintingfor him to tell me) and he showed me it and it was my phone number ( i gave it to him weeks ago)
dos he like me?
and how can i approach him ad asking him without puttng him on the spot?
thanks, (link)
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I think you shouldn't approach him or ask him. Sometimes when you like someone, you start to force yourself to believe that the opposite person is sending you positive signals, when in reality, they are just being who they are, or a good friend. He might like you and you might be right, but at the same time, he might not, or he might not be ready. I think that you are rushing things, and jumping to conclusions, and sometimes if you do that, then you might make the wrong choice, and end up losing him as a friend as well. Just enjoy the relationship you have as it is, and give it its own time and space to develop, for your feelings and his feelings well develop too, and according to that, you can then start to define what you two really mean to each other. Give it time, and if he really does like you a 100%, HE will approach YOU.
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okay me and my ex boyfriend had a fall out about 7 weeks ago and we ended up breaking up. i was completely heartbroken and he seemed to be too. we stayed friends for a while but recently we just stopped speaking. so anyway i went on a date with this guy from my work and my brother told my ex i had. when i spoke to my ex next he was like thats hurt me, i dont suppose there is anything i can do though. i said well i wanted to get back together with you and you wouldnt so im just moving on with my life. he said well i know youre talking to other guys now. i said well im single so i can speak to as many as i want to. its your loss at the end of the day. like a couple of days later my brother told me hes just gone crazy now likes hes out trying to kiss lots of girls and just literally flirting with any girl he comes across. obviously it hurts because i still love him and ive gone on a couple of dates but im not behaving like he is. do you think hes doing it to ease the pain or something? i just wanna make it clear that im not saying what he is doing is wrong, its his life and no longer anything to do with me, but id hate to think what id said to him had caused this (link)
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No he's not easing any pain, it's simply an act, obviously, anyone can figure that out, and i can even bet you that he almost made a deal with your brother, for your brother to tell you that, but he might not actually be behaving like that, at least not to that extent. He's just trying to make you jealous ,trying to make you feel the same way he felt when he found out that you've already moved on, so he's basically trying to send over the message,saying, if you moved on, then so will I. And since you won't get back together, then the best thing you should do is to completely ignore him, don't let this get to you, act like your brother never even told you anything, and don't talk to him about it or confront him or tell him that it hurts or anything, and soon he'll ask your brother how you took the news and when he finds that you don't care and it didn't get to you, then he'll grow up and stop acting like a child and be a man and then he'll either come tell you that you are the one he really loves and that this is all an act and that he wants to be with you and at that moment, you get to choose whether you want him or not according to how you feel about him and if you are willing to go through this all again, or either he'll just leave you alone and stay away.
And this might not be related to the question, but I think that your brother should start acting as more of a brother to you, than a friend to him, he should defend you and stand up for you, not just send messages from him to you and encourage your ex on whatever plans he's doing, and I say that with all do respect.
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Me and my boyfriend have known each other for awhile. Dating for almost 4 months now. We used to see each other a lot, but now he started college and has a part time job. That was fine.. it was a little difficult to set up when we'll see each other. Now his sister is moving in and she has two kids who she will have my boyfriend watch. It's bad enough of that.. but she doesn't have a car, and she might take the car which will make it even harder for us to get together. If she has a job, she might have him watch them when she's away. Plus her room is right next to his, which will make things weird if I stay over. We wont be able to stay up too late or watch tv, talk too loud. Honestly.. it's just a pain. I feel as if I wont see him anymore. I can't stand it. Advice please? (link)
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I know how that feels, it sounds awful, but your just scared and your hating the situation. But it sounds like you love each other and you always try to work things out together, so I'm sure that's just another problem that you're going to work out. There is no way that you're going to lose him because his sister moved in or that you might see him a little less than before. I know it sucks, but usually people who love each other, bare sucky situations lol to be with each other. Maybe things will just have to be a little different, you can still stay over, but try to keep things a bit quiet, maybe eventually his sister will move out again, maybe its just temporary, or maybe she'll get her own place. All in all, the situation will be temporary, maybe you can suggest getting a babysitter or something to watch the kids. Or maybe you could get to know the kids and you can hang out together while watching the kids, its still kind of fun I promise. But I don't want you to worry, I know how it feels freaking out that you'll see each other less, which means things will be less fun, which means a probability of losing each other, but eventually things get worked out, and you just find that you worried over nothing. I'm sure he's not liking the situation either, so you should bare this together, for each other, for his sake.
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