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Is it lame to tell your crush's friend how you feel?
16/f So I like this guy and I want to tell him. But I'm wondering if it would be lame to talk to one of his best friends, a girl who is our mutual friend, about it. I was thinking that telling her might save me some possible embarrassment. But it's not full proof because even if i told her to keep it a secret she could easily tell him about it. Also, I can't help feeling that telling her instead of him just cheapens the whole thing. It makes me feel like I'm 10 or something! What is the best way to ask a guy out?
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I think telling his best friend is NOT a good idea, because she might tell him, and not only tell him, but tell him in this way as in making fun of you, or encouraging him against it, or telling him something negative about you, no matter if your her friend too, you never really know what she'd say, after all she's a mutual friend, but she's not your best friend that you totally trust. So she might just say something wrong that could fire back at you.
There is no best way in asking a guy out, actually it will always be awkward and weird, cause you don't really know if this guy likes you back, so imagine the embarassment if he doesn't, and if he says that to you, or if he tells his friend to tell you that, and then you'd have to see him everyday in school, when he knows that you like him and you tried to ask him out, but he didn't like you back. I'm not saying that to put your hopes down, but I'm trying to help you picture the situation, cause some guys could be mean, and go around telling their guy friends that you asked him out but he doesn't like you back and he rejected and stuff.
So the best way is, is to get to know the guy, go up and talk to him, befriend him, see how he really is like, what type of person, see if you would even still have the same feelings for him when you actually get closer to him and get to know him, he might not be the person you thought he is from a distance. And when you do know him, then it will be your choice to think whether you want to be with him or not afterall, and even if you still do, at least he would have come to know you more, so when you ask him, it wouldn't be weird, cause you know what, maybe he would have liked you then and he would ask you first.
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Yes actually telling his bestfriend does cheapen the whole thig.
But I will tell you the best way to ask a guy out. Ad it's simply asking him out.
Since you guys aren't very good friends, its way better because that way you have nothing to loose.
Go up to him ad tell him how you feel, and along that mentino that you'd love to go out with him.
Rejections aren't that bad. So in case, he tured you down, it;s okay, there is always more fish in the sea.
Good Luck =]
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