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Best friends or something more?
20 female - Joe 19
I've known Joe for about 5 years now. He is like my best guy friend. I can tell him anything and trust him with my life which I can't do with many people. I've always had a crush on him. When I find another guy, I always seem to think about him. Sometimes the things he does and how he acts towards me makes me think he likes me more than a friend but I don't know.
He's always giving me hugs
He always listens, no matter what it is
I know he is attracted to me
He talks to me different than other girls I've realized, even texting. He short texts all other girls but with me he's different
Sometimes I will say love you at the end of a text or something and he always says "love you too linds!" which makes me smile
It seems like when we're around people and other guys he tries to "show me off" in a way
When he found out I was "talking" to another guy, I could tell he got really jealous
We ALWAYS flirt when we're together and the occasional cuddle
At a bonfire I was crying because I found out bad news with my family and I came back and he was like Linds come sit right here and he was pointing to his lap so I sat there in his arms..i didn't want to leave.
I could go on and on. But these could just be him being my best friend too right? How can you tell if it's something more or not? The thing that makes me back off a little is he was with a girl for 3 years, his only girlfriend. They still talk and are really close which makes me doubt myself. I would say something about liking him but I don't want to make myself look stupid and have our friendship be awkward.
Then sometimes I feel like he doesn't like me because..
When I ask him about other guys or talk about them he doesn't say much. I don't know if he really is bothered or if he tries to hide it. I always seem to have to text him, but he is always busy, but if he liked me wouldn't he text me every now and then? People say he could be intimidated by me because everyone tells me how pretty I am (not sounding conceited) but he is really cute too all the girls want him. Why doesn't he just make a move sometime!!? Sometimes I feel like he wants to kiss me or do something but he won't.
There are so many mixed signals. Are there any big signs?? More and more I've realized that I have to put myself out there and I've been trying, I mean it's pretty obvious I want him. What do you guys think? Please don't say just tell him, It's not that easy. If I could have I would of 5 years ago..
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If you love somebody you should just say it..there's no shame in love..if he just love you as a friend things wont be awkward..he will understand..its better to get it over with and i'm sure things will work out the way that they are suppose to..i know people might say just let things fall into place on their own which is true sometimes..but sometimes fate needs a little help..she can't do it all on her own..so find the courage to tell him..suck it up sister..be the strong lady you are!!
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Okay, no I'm not going to tell you to just tell him, cause you shouldn't, I never really believe in girls making the first move, I feel like it makes the girl look manly or something. The point is, you are completely right to be confused, there are so many mixed signals here, and most of them say that he likes you and is trying to make a move but something is holding him back, and that thing could be the same thing that is holding you back, he's afraid you'd reject him, and then you'd lose your friendship as well. Best thing to do here, is to let things fall into place on their own, you shouldn't make a move, he should , and if he does love you, then he will make a move. When a person loves someone, they do anything to be with this person, and even if it means overcoming their fear and risking their friendship. So if he does like you, he will come around, you just have to wait, and enjoy what you have in the meantime. Maybe a little hinting around wouldn't hurt, like when you're talking, you can go like, do you ever picture us being together, do you think its possible, or something like that. Just give him the green light, that hint that tells him if you ask me to be your girlfriend, I will say yes. It's just a feeling you send across.
And about his ex girlfriend, if he still liked her, he would've gotten back with her, or he would've told you, there is nothing to stop him from doing that. So you shouldn't be intimidated by her or make that hold you back. They're probably just close cause after dating, they discovered that they are better off as just friends, some people don't work out as a couple, sometimes they are just meant to be friends, and that's probably how it is between him and his ex girlfriend.
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Sounds to me like you already know he likes you, and you know you like him. Now the hard part is, is your crush worth risking your friendship over? He's been your bestfriend for a long time, and you said it yourself, he's the only Guy who seems to genuinely care about you. If you feel like you need to talk to him about how you feel, then go for it! Just be aware that you are risking making everything awkward.
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