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change in ex
okay me and my ex boyfriend had a fall out about 7 weeks ago and we ended up breaking up. i was completely heartbroken and he seemed to be too. we stayed friends for a while but recently we just stopped speaking. so anyway i went on a date with this guy from my work and my brother told my ex i had. when i spoke to my ex next he was like thats hurt me, i dont suppose there is anything i can do though. i said well i wanted to get back together with you and you wouldnt so im just moving on with my life. he said well i know youre talking to other guys now. i said well im single so i can speak to as many as i want to. its your loss at the end of the day. like a couple of days later my brother told me hes just gone crazy now likes hes out trying to kiss lots of girls and just literally flirting with any girl he comes across. obviously it hurts because i still love him and ive gone on a couple of dates but im not behaving like he is. do you think hes doing it to ease the pain or something? i just wanna make it clear that im not saying what he is doing is wrong, its his life and no longer anything to do with me, but id hate to think what id said to him had caused this
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well i personally think that it is just a pride thing the fact that you moved on before him makes him envious which is why he's going girl crazy trying to in a way compete with you remember if he really did love and cared about you he would've done something about it by now and not try to compete with you so just try and show him that his behaviour doesn't affect you and tell him that you're happy he's moving on if it were meant to be you two would be together remember you have your whole life ahead of you and there is surely someone out there that you would spend the rest of your life with, it just takes time
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No he's not easing any pain, it's simply an act, obviously, anyone can figure that out, and i can even bet you that he almost made a deal with your brother, for your brother to tell you that, but he might not actually be behaving like that, at least not to that extent. He's just trying to make you jealous ,trying to make you feel the same way he felt when he found out that you've already moved on, so he's basically trying to send over the message,saying, if you moved on, then so will I. And since you won't get back together, then the best thing you should do is to completely ignore him, don't let this get to you, act like your brother never even told you anything, and don't talk to him about it or confront him or tell him that it hurts or anything, and soon he'll ask your brother how you took the news and when he finds that you don't care and it didn't get to you, then he'll grow up and stop acting like a child and be a man and then he'll either come tell you that you are the one he really loves and that this is all an act and that he wants to be with you and at that moment, you get to choose whether you want him or not according to how you feel about him and if you are willing to go through this all again, or either he'll just leave you alone and stay away.
And this might not be related to the question, but I think that your brother should start acting as more of a brother to you, than a friend to him, he should defend you and stand up for you, not just send messages from him to you and encourage your ex on whatever plans he's doing, and I say that with all do respect.
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