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am i being used? what is this relationship. and is it worth it?
hi, so im a junior in high school 16 years old. i've made out with 5 boys only one and a half where my boyfriend....long story short. i like this boy a lot, hes a year older dropped out of his senior year than he came back. we hang out at LEAST 2 times a week.. hes unbelievably gorgeous.. model material -seriously. i reach his standards- i think. i'm 5"4 and 110 pounds, not so many pimples and i dress cool. i jjust need to know WHAT IS THIS? should i end it? i dont know what it is i see him in school everyday, s he takes me home if i need a ride and he's so sweet, but in front of people i dont know if it's shyness or something but he doesnt talk to me, he barely looks in my direction. all of my friends know about him, and many of his friends know about him and i. what are we, a thing? i hooked up with him, hes fingered me, ive given him a handjob. he wants to go down on me, i wont let him. is he in it for the ass? he's turning 18 in like 3 monthes.. i reallly think i love him, but he also hangs out with "shtoop'" =public school girls who give the boys ass. he doesnt have somany morals when it comes to that and claims that he doesnt hook up wiht anyone but me nnbut how am i supposed to trust him? if i hooked up with another guy (no desire to) but if i did hed probably get pissed off.. we hang out a lot, more than use=ual these days. we bbm during school an he gives me the cutest looks.. what is this? what am i doing with my life, please help me. my whole family dissaproves becasue of his reputation with girl; he used them and talks about it after.... i dont know what to do, i tryed stopping hanging out with him but i just cant do it i cant let go, i feel like ive found someone exactly like me not a soul-mate, but boyfrined material an adorable... hes so inntimidating and scares al my friends- he's really gorgeous. but i am not scared of him, i like him and how everyone;s scared, i like everything about him, i dont care when he smokes or drinks, but other girls--thats killing me trust, and what are we? please help as soon as you read this n be honest, i sound like a pathetic 13 year old but its my life. i live in a tightnit community and things get out and around quick.. i dont want this out, and if it does i want to have been his girlfriend..... help please remmeber same school, my family disaprroves, and hes unbelievabley beautiful- inside and out. sorry for spelling i cant spell to save someones lifee
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if this guy is ignoring you in public, then whatever it is that you two are, it is not on the way to a successful relationship. At this point it sounds as if he is just using you. he may be sweet to you when it is just you two, but he is a teenage boy and he has alterior motives that doesn't include commitment. Stop making excuses for him and realize that no matter how gorgeous he is, it is not worth it to keep pretending that things will go further with you two. embrace it. The sooner you realize things will never be what you want, the sooner you can move on and start looking in another direction. The most important thing is to follow your heart. even though it can contradict what everyone else is telling you to do, stick with your gut and hopefully it will bring you happiness. Just don't act oblivious and really decide if this guy is worth it. If you decide he is not, move on quick and get over him because the longer you mope, the harder it will be to move on. Most importantly, do not settle for less than you deserve! No girl deserves to be treated as some guys "lady in waiting," if he can't accept you in front of his friends, do NOT let him accept you in the private of his bedroom. Be smart, make your own choices, and just don't make any decisions you will regret later. Your a smart girl, and you deserve to be happy, no boy is worth the stress unless there is ultimately something special between you two. And you have to decide that for yourself. Good Luck!
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Well sometimes, people definitely surprises you. So the whole reputation he has, is not a main thing here if he could prove it wrong to you.
I'm not really sure about the part where he treats you differently in front of people. That is him proving the repuation right.
If you like him, and you want to be with him offically. Then you gotta grow some balls, and confront him about it.
His reaction will say it all. That's when you know, if he is in it for the sex only.
Good Luck =]
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I think you should definitely let go. You see, from where you are, when you are the one with the problem, when you are involved in it, you are too blind to see how it really sounds, but me, from where I am, a complete stranger listening to it, I can make total sense out of it, and read what it really means, and you might not be convinced with what i will say because of that, but this is the truth.
He is not a good person, he's the kind of boy who's a player, he just wants to have fun, he's not in it to commit or to look for a serious relationship, he doesn't even want a girlfriend, he doesn't want to be in love. What does he want then? He wants to have fun, to get laid and to hook up with so many girls, so he can have a good story to go home with everyday, to tell all his friends and show off that yet another girl fell for his looks and had sex with him,and he is enjoying that so much, and you, with what you are doing, you are exactly just another one of those girls. And I know that you love him so much, and that you can't let go, so you are trying to believe the best in him, and believe that he doesn't sleep with anyone else, but actually he does, and it's so typical the way he tells you that you are the only one, ofcourse you shouldn't trust him.
And what proves what I'm saying more, is that he doesn't talk to you at all in school, you said it yourself, he doesn't even look in your direction, why would he do that? why not even at least say hi? cause your not his girlfriend, and your not the person he wants to walk around in front of people with, and be proud of being with you, he just wants to sleep with you, and take from you as much as he can, and then probably leave you, and think of you as another one of those he once had fall for him.
Please trust me on this and let go, as hard as it is, and as much as you can't resist his looks and his charm, you have to let go, and don't give him anything, don't sleep with him, because he is not the one.
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