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hey drew .Iam a 15 year old girl from South Africa...I am not sure about who i am because i change at times .i have days when i feel great about myself than some days i hate myself.i usualy feel like i am a nobody and i just am not loved..i sometimes cry for nothing and even think iam useless expecially when i dont do quite well in a test at school or exam at school...what do you think is wrong with me and how can i fix this..please help (link)
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I'm glad you contacted me.
I think that you should talk to someone close to you like a friend or a family member. Alot of people feel like this sometimes.
I know I've had my moments when I just felt like some of the people I called my friends never really liked me. And believe me I've failed numerous tests. But you want to know what keeps me going?
Sure I may not be liked by some people but that's how the world is. Everybody won't like. But someone who I can rely on to always be there is God.
GOD LOVES YOU because his love is UNCONDITIONAL. There has never been a time where God made me feel useless. God made us in his own image, therefore we are like him a little bit.
Now I know you said that you have failed tests in school. Well if you want to pass the test, then you need to put forth the work and study for the test. I have to retake a class because I never studied. And a test DOES NOT DETERMINE WHO YOU ARE! Nothing can make you feel useless except for yourself. So what if someone says they hate you! You HAVE THE CHOICE to let that bother you or not. But no one can make you hate yourself except for you.
You have to wake up every morning not just knowing, but BELIEVING that you are LOVED by GOD who will NEVER stop loving you. If you don't know about God and Jesus Christ I encourage you to find out about them.
What I'm trying to say is...
if you don't want to feel worthless, look at yourself in the mirror and say, "I am not worthless. No one can make me feel worthless because I am worth something to God." But in order for your words to be true you must believe them in your heart.
You must know that you are valuable in your heart and in your head.
I hope this helps. If you ever need any advice in the future or if I didn't really help you, just send me an email and let me know.
~Andrew~
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Me and my girl friend have been on and off for about seven months now but were currently on a firm relationship but lots of guys usually flirt with her and i do have a bit of an anger problem so usually i just walk out of the room quick and calm myself down, but what pisses me off the most is that she acts like she likes it and i don't want to be mean because some of the people that flirt with her are my friends. I do push them away but not all the time because i don't want to seem overprotective. I trust her but every man has his limits ya know. I just don't know what to do anymore. Help? (link)
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We this is where trust is important in a relationship. You have to TRUST that she loves you the way you love her and that she would never do anything to hurt you. And your reaction when other men flirt with her is normal. You're a man and you don't like other men trying to take something or someone that you deserve away from you. But the next time you find yourself getting angry, remember this: YOU GOT THE GIRL!
No guy can just take your place as her boyfriend with just a few pick up lines.
And if your girlfriend is acting like she likes it, then you should calmly and rationally talk to her about it and let her know how you feel. Women are amazing and mysterious at the same time, but they're not mind-readers. You have to talk to your girlfriend to let her know how you feel.
And another thing. If your friends are constantly hitting on her, then you should talk to them, set some boundaries and most importantly, encourage them to get their own girlfriends. You have to be really lonely or really unfaithful to hit on your best friend's girl.
I hope this helped.
~Andrew~
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I'm 18 years old and already feel like a failure.. I went to college for a year and studied Performing Arts but only came out with a certificate due to personal reasons. I also have a certificate in Health and Social from when I studied it at School/College. I'm not doing anything atm.. Work/School/College and I feel like I'm not going anywhere in life.. My sister has recently been trying to get be back into college for a Social Working course as that would of been my second option after acting. But I just can't seem to put the effort in! I feel so stupid compare to everyone else.. She's so clever and I'm clearly not. Plus, I've always wanted to do acting and finally got into a College for it again but didn't attend to course due to religion. Acting isn't an option anymore but every other career path seems worthless. I've always set my self up to become someone and now I just feel like I'm not gonna get anywhere in life! I don't one be known as one of those people that didn't do anything.
I would be grateful for any advice..
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The best way to fix your problem is to stop crying about it and do it! Your LOVE is acting! SO DO IT! You are making yourself miserable because YOU ARE NOT FOLLOWING YOUR DREAM.
Get up, Go back to college, And you go get your dream.
No one can ever make you feel WORTHLESS except for you. No can ever keep you from REACHING your goals except for you. So take "you" out of the way and start believing in yourself again because you can do this. You just need to have faith and patience.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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I hate you Americans.I am a Pakistani 12 years old girl.Why...Why are you killing Muslims.You all will go to Hell.Why are you killing innocent people.My question is that why are you killing innocent children.Someday,I will kill you all.If not me,than god will sent you to hell. (link)
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What does HATING your enemies do besides create more damage? SO what you're saying is that you plan on becoming a terrorist? What sense would that make?
I am an African American teenage boy and you don't see me saying things that I probably would regret. I know how my ancestors went through slavery and fought their way out of it only to walk into segregation. I know what it means to feel discrimination, but I would NEVER parade around and try to play God. Now I'm sorry that your people are being killed but not all Americans are responsible or even a part of that. Now you say God is going to send us to hell? Well if you do get to live out your dream of killing Americans, then we'll save you a seat right next to us.
I don't hate you for making this comment or asking this question. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and emotions.
But I am sad that you blame an entire nation for a few people's actions. I would never do that to anyone beacause IT WOULDN'T BE FAIR.
~Andrew~
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so I have this gym teacher in high school who is young, (younger than 30 I think) really pretty and good looking and red headed (I love red heads) and she teaches gym and Health and so we are doing the swimming unit and while in the pool she was walking around and she then said to me and some of my friends later that she likes the swimming unit the most because she likes to look at all the boys without their shirts on in the water and it gives her lots to look at. I honestly have zero problem with what she said, but if some kid who was around me heard it decides to go and cry to someone about it, will she get in trouble?
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It's not crying or "tattling" because some kids wouldn't be okay with that comment. But to answer your question, yes she would get in a lot of trouble only because teachers aren't supposed to say those kinds of things to their students or minors in general.
~Andrew~
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I have a huge crush on my math teacher, she is young and extremely hot and I like her personality. She is 28 and I am 17. Unlike other sissies, I went and told my teacher at the end last year my attraction to her and how she is the girl of my dreams. She said "Come back when you're 18 and graduated" that must mean she was willing to go out with me after I graduate! I was so excited, but now, just six months or so before I graduate, I find out she has a boyfriend! What? , I am so sad and angry and jealous now, I feel sick. She might as well have stabbed me, it would have hurt less. Why would she trick and betray me like this? (link)
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She wasn't trying to lead you on.
She probably assumed that you would eventually move on and forget about her. She didn't want to entirely crush your dreams.
But you need to realize, SHE IS AN ADULT and YOU ARE A TEENAGER. I know that's not what you wanted to hear but it's the truth.
There are plenty of girls your age that you would like.
You should really tell an adult that you trust about what you are feeling.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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Ok so there is this guy named, let's say, Tom.. I like him a lot but I'm sure if he likes me. We have this one class together and we flirtin that class all the time. Like this past Thrusday we were sitting there and he was like "The only reason I like this class is becuase it's the only class I have with certain peopole." He asked me if I drove and i said yeah why and he was like I was just wondering. Then eh was like how old are you and I said 16 and he was like me too. We were watching a video this day and we talked throughout the whole video. My hands were like ice and I told him and he took my hands and held them between his and was warming my hands up and he kept touching my face and he kept touching my knee to see if I was ticklish. He kept being really flirting. Well then Friday I said something to hurt his feelings but he was just joking and he was like You hurt my feelings. You have to kiss them and make them better. I was thinking to myself, "How do you kiss someone's feelings." Then he had my pencil in his mouth and I was trying to pull it out and I couldn't get it out with my hands and he was like well you'll have to get it out another way. And we were sharing a paper and we kept getting really really close. Like he waws like an inch away from my face. Then he kept saying my hands were wet and he would hold his hand out like you would do if you were going to hold someone's hand and he was liek let me feel your hands and he said it like 4 or 5 times and I said no remember they're wet and he was like fine. Then I waited like 5 minutes and was like here. He said No remember they're wet. And lastly he out his arm around my chair like he was acting like he wanted to put it around me but was scared. HERE'S THE KICKER!!! Friday we had 30 minutes of free time at the end of class and he completely ditched me and went and hung out with this other girl and completely ignored me.He never tells me bye at the end of class and he never waits on me.And today we were sitting in the commens area for class and we didn't do anything and he COMPLETELY ingored me until like the last minute of class. He was hangin out with the same girl that he ditched me for on Friday. I think that's all. I'm so confused....I have no idea what to do. Do I pursue it or not? We're both 16 but I'm a junior and he's a freshman. (link)
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If I were you, I would not get involved with this guy. Him flirting with another girl after he's been flirting with you for a while isn't a good sign.
But keep in mind that all the flirting has to count toward something. You can't just flirt with eachother forever. You have to decide, "Do I like this guy?". Because if you keep flirting and your relationship isn't changing, then the guy is going to get bored of the idea of "flirting for no reason". If you really like him, then go get him. But me being a 16 year old guy myself, I wouldn't go after this guy cause he sounds like a player. But who knows? Maybe he's a nice guy. But that is your decision.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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Ok my situation is unique. Im a 17 year old guy. There's this girl that I've met a few times, and I've texted her for almost two years. She used to like me, but at that point in time I didn't like her. Now our positions are reversed...I told her that I like her but she said she doesn't feel the same. She's sending me a lot of mixed signals, saying "if we hung out more I might like you" but then when I said "unless you think there's any chance of us being together, I'm going to take a break from texting you", she said ok. Do I move on? Do I hang out with her more? Or do I take a break and just be her friend? She isn't someone I want to give up on, but I've been rejected so many times by other girls that I just don't know what I'm doing wrong. And I'm not antisocial, and I've been told I'm pretty handsome, but what am I supposed to believe if girls just aren't interested in me? (link)
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If a girl is not interested, she's not interested. It doesn't have anything to do with you. It just means that the girl isn't the one for you. All you should have to do to get a girl to like you is to just be yourself.
If you're changing who you are and bending over backwards just so you can be friends with the girl you like, then she isn't worth it. If you try to hang out with her more and she still hasn't changed, then you should probably move on. You can't put your whole life on hold for one person. You have to keep moving on.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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I'm 11 years old and have a boyfriend and I ALWAYS invite him over and go on dates with him. 1 year ago we had our first kiss and I feel weird knowing that I kissed someone I met only for three days! anyway, every time I lock the door of my room so we can talk privetly my mum screams out loud "MY DAUGTER IS HAVING FUN SEX!" she thinks that we have sex but we oblivesly don't ! how do I tell my mum we don't have sex? (without saying "just say mum we don't have sex were too young" because I already tried !!) (link)
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One simple solution to this problem.
1. Leave your door open
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2. Don't take him to your room to talk. That's what the living room is for. Get him to know your family a bit more and maybe you won't feel the need to hide in your room
I hope this helps and good luck!
~Andrew~
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Hi, I'm a 15yo guy.
Er, there's this girl I really like. But I keep getting mixed signals from her.
Sometimes she's really nice to me, and calls/texts me. And sometimes she just doesn't.
I want to tell her I like her, I just don't know how, or if it's the right thing to do. (link)
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This is just my opinion but if you like this person you should go for it. Tell her how you feel. If there's one thing I've learned about liking somebody is that you can't spend your whole life "admiring from a distance". And telling people you like them is never a bad thing to do if you know the person you like. But if it's a person who has never even talked to you before, then you want to form sort of a friendship or just let that person know that you exist and that you are a good guy. Overall I say go for it because you won't know how she feels about you until you ask.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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there is this guy in my grade that i really like and he use to like me too and he also said it to me and told me he loves me and everything and even when i said no didnt like him back i actually did and now we do not even talk and everything and i really like him but he doesnt like me the same way anymore so is there anyway i can get him to like me the way he did before? (link)
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I always tell people, TELL THE TRUTH! Normally the hard part would be for you to have a crush on this guy and be scared to tell him. But in your situation, that part was done for you! The guy YOU LIKED said HE LIKED YOU! But instead you denied your feelings for him. It's never too late to tell somebody that you like them, but that would have been your perfect chance to tell him when he approached you.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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how do i get a boy i like to stop talking about mean things about me
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Well you can approach him and tell him that you don't like what he is saying about you and that he needs to stop. But most kids don't listen so if need be, you might have to tell an adult. But why do you like him if he says mean things about you? YOU SHOULDN'T LIKE SOMEBODY WHO IS GOING TO TALK BAD ABOUT YOU. I think you can do a lot better than this guy.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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what do i say if sombody asks u out (link)
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You tell them the truth. If you like them, then go out with that person. If you don't want to go out with that person, just politely say no.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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I'm from Canada. Anyways there's this guy in one of my classes and I really like him and I don't know how to act around him and make it not so obvious that I like him... So how do I act around him so it's not that obvious that I like him? (link)
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Just stop hiding and let him know the truth. I think that you might be afraid of rejection, which is why you don't want him to know how you feel. But let me be the first to tell you from personal experience, that it is the worst thing you could ever do because some other girl is going to take him and you'll be on the sidelines wondering how things could have been different. You need to let him know that you like him and give any hope of a relationship with this guy a chance.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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Well i used to like this guy and lets say that we 'dated'...then he started going out with my best friend...they hurt me really bad and now they arent together anymore..it happened over a game of spin the bottle...the guy was really sad when they broke up and he didnt talk to a lot of people about it.. although it wanted them to break up i didnt want it to be like this..He talks to me about it and my 'best friend' talks to me about it too... no matter how much i try my best friend(female) wont take him back...her ex(my old crush/'boyfriend') was really sad, he even cired.. the girl cried too but for totally different reasons.. i know this is long and i am sorry but that wasnt even the end..What should i do?? they both really trust me now that this has happened..I dont wanna be mean and drop them both in the dirt but i dont wanna help them because i feel they will get back together...so what should i do??
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This is just my opinion, but if I were you, I would help them get back together or at least get them to stop thinking about eachother only because I don't want to see them in pain anymore. Or if I just broke up with my girlfriend and someone like you helped us get back together, I would never ever be able to stop thanking you for the rest of my life literally. But this is completely your decision. I say your friends are too broken up to try and fix things by themselves and they need support.I hope this helped.
~Andrew~
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I dont feel happy anymore, i feel lonley.
Ever since my boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago, everything has gone wrong. A girl who i thought was my best friend, lets call her "B", got jealous of me and my ex because she introduced us, and was original friends with my ex, so she told him that i cheated on him, which i didnt and he knowes that but he dosent want to be mine agian, saying he wants to be " friends with benifits" because he dosent want to completly lose me... i look at B's facebook satus it says " in a realtionship", "loving life".... this makes me break down into tears, i have lots of friends but i still feel lonley, and if i am happy then i feel that i might die, and that today maybe my last. i just want too be happy. (link)
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I think you don't need these two people in your life anymore. Friends with benefits is just silly because it causes nothing but trouble. Talk to your other friends or make some new ones. And if her facebook makes you cry, don't look at it. You are making your life miserable by reading about hers. The best way to be happy again is to just clean yourself up and continue with your life without those two. Do something you like to do. Go to the movies or take a pottery class. Do something to take your mind of the past. Look for a new boyfriend that will love you wholeheartedly. Letting these two people cause drama and confusion in your life will not make you happy.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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so this guy i like was sitting in the bleachers when they starts flipping out and trying so hard 2 embarrass me at least 7 of my friend gave tried to get him to date me and every time he said eww no. heres the confusing parti missed school sometime last week and my friend maddie told me he was looking for me in the bleachers what else ive observed us that he glances at me a couple times. i dont kno if his feelings are chaging or what. another thing he does is me n like 5 people at lunch we'll say hi and he ignores us so inseriously dont understand him what so ever. Anyone have ideas for what i should do? i speak english and im in 7th grade plz help theres only 2 day of school left and i wont c him untik next year! (link)
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Tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels about you. Both of you need to talk to eachother one on one with no friends around. This is between you and him.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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okay so theres this guy jared tht i like and my friends do watever possible to embarrass me in front of him at the start of the school year this kid nic screwed me over and told him that i like him now he glances at me and looks for me in the morning for when we have to sit at the bleachers my friends say his feelings are changing or hes parinoid of me...what should i do to be his friend and find out answers?
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You need to approach him and tell him how you feel. Information gets so screwed up between people who like eachother becaused the information isn't coming directly from them. What I'm saying is that you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel. Don't just admire him from afar.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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I'm from Canada. Ok so there's this guy and I really like him and I want to tell him how I feel but I'm worried about what he would say if I did tell him how I felt about him!! But he doesn't have a phone so I can't really text him and I don't feel comfortable calling his home.. So I really need to figure out what to do!! Do I talk to him on facebook when he's on or what? Please help me!!! It's really important since it's almost the end of the school year and I won't see him until next school year!! Please Help!!! (link)
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If you really like him, you'll muster up the courage to call that house phone. If your worried about his parents asking you questions, just use that time to tell them how of a girl you are for their son. And facebook is good to, but if you're looking to start a relationship with this boy, you'll need actual human interaction instead of IM's and textmessages.
I wish you lots of luck!
~Andrew~
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