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Girl I like doesn't like me back
Ok my situation is unique. Im a 17 year old guy. There's this girl that I've met a few times, and I've texted her for almost two years. She used to like me, but at that point in time I didn't like her. Now our positions are reversed...I told her that I like her but she said she doesn't feel the same. She's sending me a lot of mixed signals, saying "if we hung out more I might like you" but then when I said "unless you think there's any chance of us being together, I'm going to take a break from texting you", she said ok. Do I move on? Do I hang out with her more? Or do I take a break and just be her friend? She isn't someone I want to give up on, but I've been rejected so many times by other girls that I just don't know what I'm doing wrong. And I'm not antisocial, and I've been told I'm pretty handsome, but what am I supposed to believe if girls just aren't interested in me?
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Your situation isn't unique. You are every worrisome teenage guy ever. If all she had to say was, "okay," then fucking move on. She's not worth your time and effort if she cannot put the time and effort into giving you a better response than, "okay."
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Hey!
Ok, first of all give yourself a break! Make sure you don't drain yourself from this situation, the worst thing you can do is over-think. You like this girl a lot, don't you? It's actually pretty sweet.
Personally, I don't think it was the best thing to say to her, that you'd quit texting her for a while unless she saw a chance of you both being together. I mean, it might put a little too much pressure on her. A little too much too soon. Us girls hardly ever know how to react, we have to think about things over and over before finally deciding. Truth is like you said, she DID like you. That's the thing. She liked you! You shouldn't think that girls aren't interested in you, it's not as if she never did like you, she did! And that could happen again. You said yourself you don't wanna give up on her. So don't. A girl wants to see that he'll still stick around. Be her friend. Text her, talk to her, and hang out with her. Just be a friend to her right now, it's all you can do. And that way you'll know that you did everything you can do. She knows exactly how you feel, and she must know that she's given you the impression that she doesn't like you, and you're STILL being there for her as a friend. Trust me, she'll appreciate that. And who knows where it will go from there. Don't just stop talking to her for a while, be the decent guy and be there for her as a friend. And plus if you don't talk to her for a while it'll just be awkward the next time you do, so save yourself that awkwardness and keep everything flowing!
Good luck, I hope it works out. Just stick around, don't make her feel like she has to make a decision or anything, just be her guy friend. You get major points for sticking around and still being normal with her, it'll represent the kind of person you really are. And later on in the friendship, if she starts to get feelings back, she'll let you know, because she knows how you feel now, but until then all you can do is just act normal. Trust me, you'll know whether or not you need to move on, you won't have to question it.
P.S I noticed you said you've been rejected by many other girls so you don't know what you're doing wrong. - You're doing nothing wrong if you're just being yourself. Just know that each girl is different; each to their own. They all have their preferences, and reasons but that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you or anything you're doing. Just be yourself and remember to look at things from her perspective too! =)
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Have a great day!
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If a girl is not interested, she's not interested. It doesn't have anything to do with you. It just means that the girl isn't the one for you. All you should have to do to get a girl to like you is to just be yourself.
If you're changing who you are and bending over backwards just so you can be friends with the girl you like, then she isn't worth it. If you try to hang out with her more and she still hasn't changed, then you should probably move on. You can't put your whole life on hold for one person. You have to keep moving on.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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