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Do you guys believe in those pictures or comments that say something like "Repost in 4 minutes or else"? I'm scared of those things... (link)
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Hey!
Trust me those things mean nothing, people purposely do that to get more reposts. It's pointless, I always ignore it. Don't worry about it, they make those things up!
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Ok my situation is unique. Im a 17 year old guy. There's this girl that I've met a few times, and I've texted her for almost two years. She used to like me, but at that point in time I didn't like her. Now our positions are reversed...I told her that I like her but she said she doesn't feel the same. She's sending me a lot of mixed signals, saying "if we hung out more I might like you" but then when I said "unless you think there's any chance of us being together, I'm going to take a break from texting you", she said ok. Do I move on? Do I hang out with her more? Or do I take a break and just be her friend? She isn't someone I want to give up on, but I've been rejected so many times by other girls that I just don't know what I'm doing wrong. And I'm not antisocial, and I've been told I'm pretty handsome, but what am I supposed to believe if girls just aren't interested in me? (link)
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Hey!
Ok, first of all give yourself a break! Make sure you don't drain yourself from this situation, the worst thing you can do is over-think. You like this girl a lot, don't you? It's actually pretty sweet.
Personally, I don't think it was the best thing to say to her, that you'd quit texting her for a while unless she saw a chance of you both being together. I mean, it might put a little too much pressure on her. A little too much too soon. Us girls hardly ever know how to react, we have to think about things over and over before finally deciding. Truth is like you said, she DID like you. That's the thing. She liked you! You shouldn't think that girls aren't interested in you, it's not as if she never did like you, she did! And that could happen again. You said yourself you don't wanna give up on her. So don't. A girl wants to see that he'll still stick around. Be her friend. Text her, talk to her, and hang out with her. Just be a friend to her right now, it's all you can do. And that way you'll know that you did everything you can do. She knows exactly how you feel, and she must know that she's given you the impression that she doesn't like you, and you're STILL being there for her as a friend. Trust me, she'll appreciate that. And who knows where it will go from there. Don't just stop talking to her for a while, be the decent guy and be there for her as a friend. And plus if you don't talk to her for a while it'll just be awkward the next time you do, so save yourself that awkwardness and keep everything flowing!
Good luck, I hope it works out. Just stick around, don't make her feel like she has to make a decision or anything, just be her guy friend. You get major points for sticking around and still being normal with her, it'll represent the kind of person you really are. And later on in the friendship, if she starts to get feelings back, she'll let you know, because she knows how you feel now, but until then all you can do is just act normal. Trust me, you'll know whether or not you need to move on, you won't have to question it.
P.S I noticed you said you've been rejected by many other girls so you don't know what you're doing wrong. - You're doing nothing wrong if you're just being yourself. Just know that each girl is different; each to their own. They all have their preferences, and reasons but that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you or anything you're doing. Just be yourself and remember to look at things from her perspective too! =)
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Have a great day!
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Okay, so I get basically 'good' grades at school and everything, but this year I want to try out for the girls' soccer team-even though the coach is sort of rude. The coach doesn't like me, and I'm afraid of her. She says I'm not good enough for the team. And I'm afraid my friends will laugh at me since I think I'm sort of fat, and that they'll say the same. (link)
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Hey!
First of all, I think it's SO good that you're wanting to join the soccer team, that's a sign you putting yourself out there and doing something different. So be proud of yourself for that! Secondly, let me tell you, it's all about attitude. If you know that you're good, or can do good, or are worth it. Act like you know it. Have that attitude of self-belief and confidence. Not in a cocky or arrogant way, but in a way in which it lets your coach see that you're bot backing down, and that you are the type of person to put your all in to it. Soccer isn't just about being good. It's about being a team player, a person with determination and won't go down without a fight. Show them that you're worth it, show them that you have this in the bag. For somebody who isn't even good at playing, they can go far simply based on the fact that they keep getting up every time they fall, keep bouncing back, show that they have the motivation. Just prove them wrong and most importantly, have fun whilst you do it. If you believe you can do it, you can, because nobody knows what you're capable of except you. I wish you good luck, and remember-Go for it! You have nothing to lose!
Nail it!
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I've been having a really hard time at school and I feel like my mom doesn't even love me anymore..I just want my world to end, but I don't know what I should do (link)
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Hey,
School can be extremely tough, trust me, I know this. It's awful, it feels like a roller coaster and when it used to get really rough for me, I just felt drained, exhausted and almost wanting to give up. The pressure of everything is the worst. It must be how you feel right? But let me tell you this, school is like not even 10% percent of your life. School is just a small, tiny little period of your life. In the future you'll be doing different things, meeting new people, experiencing a lot of stuff, and having a career, a family etc. Don't let this tiny part of your life, affect the rest of it. Your life is such a blessing, and school is what I like to call, just a "moment" of it. Take everyday and everything step by step, and more importantly, take care of yourself. If it's the work load of your subjects you're struggling with, take it task by task. Do the work that is more important to you, complete that, then proceed on to the next. If it's anything to do with friends, it's just a part of a life, friends come and go but it's important to always be the bigger person, and remember to always make an effort with people. Sometimes it's just better to step back and do what you feel is gonna be good for you. And as for your Mom, have you tried speaking to her about it? I know you're probably thinking 'No way!' but it's worth a shot, it'd mean that you made an effort, and it can even give you reassurance. And it'll be good for you to get it off your chest and for her to know how you feel. You sound young, so let me tell you this; Enjoy every single moment, find a reason to smile in every situation, believe that tomorrow will be better than today.
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I feel totally depressed and feel that there is nothing left except suicide what is and easy way to do it and not feeling any pain. (link)
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Don't do it. I know things may seem awful right now, and you might feel like it's never going to get better but I promise you it is. You are an important person to the world, whether you believe it or not. There's only one of you. You have the right to live your life just like everybody else! It's YOUR life =) don't let temporary situations lead you to make permanent decisions. It will get better, and when it does, you can inspire somebody else who's in your position and prove to them that this doesn't last forever. Just hang in there! Like Katy Perry says in her song, 'After a hurricane, there comes a rainbow!'
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21/f-I'm absolutely CRAZY about my friend who is in a relationship with a girl who lives all the way across the country. This year has been such an emotional roller coaster for me, caused by this. I feel like such a dumb bitch. My priorities have always been with my education and my close friends and family. How stupid am I to let myself get obsessed with a guy?
I've never had sex, never been in a relationship, and have never had these feelings before. At this point, I just want it to stop. If I could flip a switch that would make me disgusted every time I saw him, I would. I can't control these feelings though. I've tried to see the worst in him and be pissed off but it hasn't worked. Avoiding him is impossible because we're always together for school stuff.
I know we have such a great connection, he loves hanging out with me, and I imagine he's attracted to me. However,he and this girl have a seemingly great relationship and see each other on every holiday.
This is the first time I've had this strong a friendship with a straight guy. My sexual and emotional thoughts have been going wild lately and as a person who is usually very in control, it scares me that these feelings are so overwhelming. If we could be together, I guess this wouldn't be such an issue.
Since I've already tried to stop liking him and it hasn't worked, Ive thought of some other strategies. Maybe I should tease him sexually and see how long he could go without giving in? (this would be my first time doing something this bold). I realize he's a man and men get crazy horny and he can only have sex like every 2 months...I know it's unrealistic that we'll be together but I'd like to lose the battle with him realizing how much sex and fun he's missing out on with this woman who he shares so much in common with, not as a shy wallflower. I want to at least put him in an uncomfortable position and and maybe cause him to question things about this relationship with this girlfriend in Nevada. I'm not trying to be a bad person, but I feel like I need to do this for my own sanity; the goal, really is to get over him.
I know most girls experience these overwhelming feelings at some point; how do you deal with them? What should I do to either get this dumbass to be with me or get over him? Any same experiences/ success stories? (link)
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Hey!
OK, first of all, you're not stupid and you're not dumb. You say it as if it's your fault for liking him, it's not. We literally can't control how we feel, no matter how much we want to. You must've thought 'It's my body, I should be able to control everything about it.' But there's one thing we can't control, and that's our emotion. Our feelings are legit out of our hands.
So you must be feeling, sort of fed up, drained, and feeling like this is something you just can't let go of. Trust me I know. It's just on your mind all the time, right?
I know this is a feeling you can't control, you're simply attracted to him. BUT, make sure you aren't only thinking with your head on this one. Make sure you're thinking with your heart. I know it may seem like trying to attract him to you may seem like the best idea, but in touch with that inner part of you that wants to do the *right* thing. He has a girlfriend. Imagine if you had a boyfriend, and another girl was trying to jeopardize the relationship. It wouldn't look good, not from his girlfriend's eyes, nor his. Before doing anything like this you have to think of all the consequences, this type of action could even change his opinion of you. Girl, I know you can't help it, and you feel like it's something you have to do. But trust me you can help it, and it's not something you have to do. You're just overwhelmed with all this emotion, there's nothing wrong with that. You're attracted to him, there's nothing wrong with that. I really think, it would be a better idea to talk to him about it. I know you're gonna think 'No way!' but trust me you'd gain so much closure out of this and it would help you get everything out of your system and can even help you to move on. Seriously, just talk to him, you have so much more to gain that way, it'd be more beneficial for you and your life. The fact that you wanna get over him is such a good thing, it shows that even behind all these feelings that you can't control, you wanna do something about it. I say you talk to him flat out and I hope it goes well =)
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Sorta long but please read! 21/F
So my ex and I dated for about 5 years and broke up about 3 months ago because I'm graduating college in the spring and when I do I want to get a place of my own and start a life and I could tell that he wasn't ready for that so we broke up. Well I started dating this new guy and he is "paper" perfect, except he can be quite needy and insecure which I was patient with because I've been like that before after my fair share of horrible relationships.
Anyways, my ex and I decided that we should at least try to be friends which was fine until we had the "why did we break up talk". We didn't even mean to have it but we discussed it and it DIDN'T change anything, in the end we agreed that this is what's best. HOWEVER, ever since that night I've been feeling very distant from my current fling like everything he says and does has been getting on my nerves, it's to the point where I dread having to talk to him and we use to text and talk 24/7. I feel like he's been especially needy lately, maybe he can sense that I'm backing off? Because he'll say things like "do you hate me? are you trying to get rid of me? if you don't want to talk that's fine" and then when I don't reply he'll text me 5 minutes later saying "okay gotcha, adios" Do you think I'm acting this way because I'm talking to my ex again?? I'm beyond confused and I'm trying so hard to convince myself that i'm just being weird and I need to be nicer to him because really he's such a great guy but nothing is working. Is it just me or would that get on your nerves too?! (link)
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Hey!
Firstly, stop stressing about it! Just stay calm and make sure you're thinking about this clearly. The new guy does seem nice, he probably is a nice guy but I think that's it. And maybe that's all he is to you. Just a guy. And yes, I do think you've started backing off a little from this guy because you talked to your ex. Why? Because the situation with you and your ex is unfinished business. That's why it's playing on your mind too much, you jumped in to this new fling before getting reassurance and getting your mind clear. I mean the things you have to think about is, why is this talk with your ex bothering you so much? Did you get to say everything you wanted to say? Are you sure you made the right decision? That type of thing. It could also be that because you spoke to your ex, you wanna figure everything out in your head and because of that you need your own space. And you can't have your own space if you have a new guy in your life. You just need space to sort things out, and maybe because of this, you might be subconsciously finding reasons to be irritated by this guy.
I hope I helped, seriously it's just that you and your ex are unfinished business, that's why you distanced yourself from this guy because all you need is just space, so that you can think and realize what it is you really want.
Good luck, I hope everything goes well =)
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