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Hello!
As the headline says, im trying to be a better man, and being able to do some self defense is never bad idea. I heared that some martial arts are tied with some sort of philosophy and through it teaching other things for life then just "beating people" (because beating people is NOT my desire in the first place). I will be most grateful if you give me any suggestions i could follow.
Thank you! (link)
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Hi there,
I must admit I don't know much about Martial Arts or which might be what you're looking for. I would agree self-defense classes could definitely be beneficial to anyone. The physical exercise and new skill you gain could benefit you in many emotional ways. My suggestion would be to do some research online about different types of classes to see which would be a good fit for you. Sorry I didn't have much of an answer for you. I wish you the best of luck and if you have any more questions feel free to ask me.
-Ali
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I want to do something for my camp talent show and these are my options: limbo, piano, or beat boxing. Wich one should i pick? (link)
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It all comes down to what makes you feel the best you're performing them. Which one gives you that rush of energy or makes you feel best when you do it? That's the one you should pick. Good luck at the talent show!
-Ali
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How do you crate train a puppy? (link)
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I've worked in a pet store before and have been asked this question a lot. What I like to tell people is how I crate trained my dog when he was a puppy. First you have to understand that a younger puppy can only hold it's bladder for about one hour for every month old it is. Therefore if you have a younger puppy, depending on it's age, you will either need to set something up to where someone can let it out when it needs it or you can put a potty pad in there with it. I prefer the first method because you want to try and avoid teaching your puppy to pee and poo in his crate. However, sometimes people with careers during the day must use the potty pad method. That's okay to do until they get old enough to hold their bladder. Okay so I like to set up a puppy crate like this... You don't want it too big. You want it just big enough so that they can stand up and turn around. This will make it less likely that they will potty or bark. They usually just lay down and rest. I like to use an old blanket for puppies as opposed to the nice inserts for them to lay on because if there is an accident (you'll definitely have a few with a pup) you can just simply throw it into the wash machine. Also, and probably the most important, make sure they have PLENTY to chew on. This doesn't mean fit 20 toys into a tiny crate but put in good heavy duty toys and stimulating toys that will keep them entertained throughout the day. Typically dogs don't mind being in a crate as much if you do this. If possible I would suggest gradually introducing them to the crate. For the first day just do it for an hour and then increase to the full time you would need them in there. The last thing to remember is NEVER put them in their crate as punishment. This is a huge mistake. It will make your dog associate being in trouble with being in their crate. This will make them dislike their crate. You want them to feel like their crate is a good place, where they can feel comfortable while you are away, not a place of punishment. I think that's all I have! If you have anymore questions feel free to put them in my inbox! Best of luck with your new addition!
-Ali
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My brother is currently in jail. He left us with his dog. A 7 yr. old jack russell terrier. Recently, he bit someone and was taken in by animal control for days. My mom was given a fine, which she already paid for, and ordered to appear in court. Since then we have been tying him to the porch, but day he suck out while people were coming in and out of the house. I didn’t know the dog was outside until he came back to the house, starching at the door. Someone called animal control and they came. The man gave me a citation and order to appear in court. Does anyone know what might happen to me and my mother? Are we only going to fine or something else and do you know how much it might be? By the way we live in Georgia. I tried looking up dog laws and they are vague. I have spoken to the dog catcher but he won’t tell us anything either. (link)
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I'm not exactly sure what will happen in court. I don't think anything too serious has occurred to bring about a major penalty. I will say this though. I would get that dog enrolled in some dog training classes ASAP. A number of things could have happened to him throughout his life to cause his behavior. Perhaps he was neglected, not trained properly or even trained to be aggressive. In any case you need to get him help from a professional if the problem is that bad so he doesn't endanger himself or anyone around him. All dogs can be trained to be well-behaved dogs, even a dog as old as 7. They just require a little love and training and a LOT of patience. Every animal deserves that chance and now that he is in a new home hopefully he will get that chance. Best of luck!
-Ali
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so, this is mainly for AliO22 so if anybody here can contact him/her, that would be great :). So... I already tried some stuff you suggested, she crummples up my notes, she got switched out of my classes that i had with her, and shes been pisssed now for about 4 months. Any other suggestions? Oh btw. Is anerexsia really that bad that she needs medical attention?? :( this is that oregon kid with the lady problems (link)
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Hi there. I am so incredibly sorry that I am just now seeing this and I have no idea where the problem now stands. I simply stopped going on the site for about a year and I sincerely apologize I wasn't there to offer you further help. However, I plan to get back into the swing of things so if you need anymore advice that you think I would be able to give you just put it in my inbox and I will be happy to get back to you!
-Ali
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im athiest and my parents are very strong christians (practicly everyone in my community is white and christian) and i dont want my christian friends to hate my guts. I am firm on my anti-diety beliefs and im not going to change to please anybody. I honestly dont care. I want to know how to tell my friends and family (i need to) without them throwing a bitch-fit at me. Please help! Thanks :) (link)
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Just don't be obnoxious about it. Honestly a lot of Christian people don't mind Atheists as long as you don't say anything mean about what they believe. Just say you don't believe in Christianity and that you are an Atheist to them and leave it at that. But anyone who believes anything, including Atheists (and Christians) can get arrogant and preachy and plain rude. They believe something different from you and that's okay. Chances are if you don't preach to them about your beliefs and bash theirs they will leave you alone too. I would just avoid talking about religion in general after you tell them. Hope this helps! Good luck :)
-Ali
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I am in my freshman year of college. I live in the suburbs and commute to my school, which is about 20 minutes from my home. During my first semester I had a lot of trouble making new friends. I have a few friends but it's hard to hang out with them since I am not really around much, and since I'm not there on the weekends. I feel so alone and every time I think about going back to school (I'm on break right now) I just feel a sense of dread.
I really want to be able to meet new people and start over this semester but I don't know how and I'm so anxious that it will always be this way and that I will always have no friends.
I was thinking about rushing a sorority this semester but I'm so scared that I won't fit in and that I won't connect with anyone since I don't live there.
I feel so hopeless and I need a way out. Sometimes I even want to kill myself beacuse I can't take it anymore.
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Take this from someone who is socially awkward!! I used to suck a making friends so much but I have gotten much better. I know going into a situation where you don't know anyone is one if the hardest things. If rushing a sorority is what you want to do then do it because you will most likely make friends that way especially if you research and see which one fits you best. Other ways I suggest are joining clubs that interest you. Doing this assures that you already have something in common with these people and you will likely make a lot of friends right there on campus. Another way is to go out and find some student night life and hang out spots. If you see someone you recognize from classes or someone else alone that you feel comfortable going up to then do it and make some small talk. If you don't feel comfortable talking to anyone, just hang out and maybe do your homework there or read your favorite books. Someone might approach you and if they do talk to them! You have to meet people before you can make friends. You won't become friends every time but its still fun to meet someone new. Don't let your commute be an excuse for not getting out there to these places. Go after class or something and make it fit! Hope this helps! Good luck :)
-Ali
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Hey everyone! Im an eight grade boy who goes to school in oregon. So i had a really good friend ( a girl ) who i liked. Ok, well not liked, loved i guess. All i thought about was her. I dreamed about her. I thought about having a future with her. I loved this girl. Everything about her. Her smile, her love for animals, she was pretty smoking hot too. So anyways, she got a boyfriend (which crushed me) and i noticed they moved rather fast. He was touching her butt after one week. So since she had started to date this guy, our friendship became foggier and foggier. I asked her why she had not been talking to me, and somehow she ended up tellimg me that she had been doing stuff she wasnt proud of. Things like cutting herself and being anerexic. Once she had told me this, my heart just completely flopped. I told her that she was perfect and beautiful just the way she was and i told her i loved her (i was not lying)and she told me not to tell anyone. Now, a little sidenote, her boyfriend and i were bros, and i couldnt handle all of the pressure inside of me, i ended up telling her boyfriend, and he cared as well. She stopped talking to me and removed me on facebook, and blocked my phone. I love this girl and i cant just sit here and watch her deteriorate, as well as completely rip me out of her life. Since then, i have been extremely suicidal (attempted suicide 7 times) and i still love her. Somehow i need closure with her. She wont acknowlage my existance at school, and she told me that if i got hit by a train, it would be the happiest day of her life. I love this girl beyond measure and i dont know what to do. (link)
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This is a tricky situation. I think you did something very good by telling someone you thought could help her instead of doing nothing even when you were probably jealous of the person you told. I think a better way would have been to talk to her about maybe getting her some help but its too late for that now. What you need to do is find a way to contact her in person or write her a note or something explaining that you only did what you did because you care about her and thought it would help her. Explain that you are so very sorry you hurt her in the process and that it kills you that she's not talking to you. Tell her when she cools down and is ready to talk to you that you will be there and say you would do anything for a second chance. If she is truly anorexic though she needs professional attention! If she is not receiving any talk to the school counselor or her parents. She will probably get really pissed off about this but if you care for her you will do it anyway because it's in her best interest. Hope this helps! Good luck :)
-Ali
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Gosh. She's such a bitch. I'm a 16 year old college student. They say "forgive those who wrong you and be nice to them.". Well yes, that's what I did. End result? Loads of insults and mockery. I try to be nice to her and she doesn't appreciate. I wasn't in the wrong in the first place, but it was her who thought everything she did was right and that everyone has to do things her way. She's getting on my nerves and I don't know what to do. She keeps judging me and stealing my friends away.>:( Oh dear. Help. Thanksss. (link)
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I would say that you should try not to have this girl too involved in your life. Sit far away from her in class, don't hang out with the same people and as the last person said avoid her. College campuses are big places I'm sure it won't be too difficult. But when she does start talking to you and being abusive even after this, just tell her to leave you alone. You don't have to be mean or stoop down to her level at all. Just say, "I don't appreciate the way you are treating me right now because it's rude so please just don't talk to me." And then walk away if you can or just ignore her. Chances are she could either be embarrassed at how mature you handled the situation and how she came off or she will continue her attacks. If she chooses the latter just simply move to a different seat. If your proffessor says anything just say you were moving to a seat where you wouldn't be distracted from their lesson. Hope this helps! Good luck :)
-Ali
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My mom and I dont get along. For example, i listen to music revolving around Harry Potter (wizard rock) she says Im doing it to purposefully annoy her since she doesn't like it.
I explained that i was not doing it to annoy her and I really did like to listen to it.
She said that if i listened to it in private (headphones, when shes not in the room.
So, today i was dancing to one of them, with my headphones in and when she wasn't there, like she said. I was having a good time. She came down and blew up at me because i was listening to it. I reminded her of what she said and she shouted she never said that. (note: her memory is fine) then she said
"maybe i should call your teachers and tell all them how disrespectful you are, and how they think you're a perfect angel. But really a brat!"
I did what she told me to!
Please give me some advice, i really dont want to lose my music!
Ps: there is nothing bad in my music.
Thank you! (link)
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First off I must say I took your question because I actually listen to Wrock (Wizard Rock) and am a huge Potterhead!! Anyway as to why your mother got mad after you challenged her and showed her the lyrics and pointed out she said you could listen to it alone, she felt defeated in the argument and parents don't generally enjoy letting their kids win, so some make up excuses that don't even make sense just to maintain "control" over the situation. I must ask are your parents very big into religion and sheltering you? Because that is the only type of parent that I have ever seen have a problem with their children being involved with the Potter World because it involves *gasp* witchcraft. If that is so then there is the answer to why your family is seemingly for no reason against your love for Wizard Rock. Another reason may just be what I first said. She wants to maintain control and has taken this so over the top that she forgot that the only reason she ever disliked it was because she found it annoying or uninteresting and nothing more and the rest of the family is backing up mom because that's usually how it goes or (with how your mom sounds, no offense) because they are scared not to. What I suggest you do about this is listen to it anyway. With headphones so they don't know you are listening to it or when you are home alone or away from home. Normally I would not suggest defying your parents wishes but this is quite frankly rather silly. Wizard rock makes you happy and you are not hurting yourself or others through listening to it so, listen to it! Fandom things like Wrock are some of the great things that's makes being a Potterhead fun! And the Harry Potter fan base is an amazing community of awesome people that I encourage you to stick with and further explore!! I hope this helps. Good luck:)
Your fellow Wizard Rock Fan,
Ali
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My brother and I don't always get along, but when we do, we're good friends. As siblings will do, we pick on each other all the time. I usually laugh his comments off, they don't bother me, but if I say anything to him, he flies into a rage, and starts attacking me. And occasionally he may have no reason to attack me, but he does anyway. When we were younger it was okay, because even though I'm a girl, I was always taller than him, but now he's put up weight and is at least twice as strong as I am. I have often received injuries from him; a cut all along my hairline when he banged my head against a door frame, a bruise on my upper-abdomen when he kicked me in the stomach, a bruise on my ear, bite marks on my legs, he knocked one of my baby teeth out when we were kids, amongst many other things.
I have told my parents about it, but my brother has always been the golden boy. They say that I probably provoked him. If I call the cops, I will be the one to get in trouble, so I don't think I can do that... To be honest, I'm not worried about myself, I'll be going to college next year and I'll see a lot less of him. However, I am worried that he will treat other women the way he has treated me all my life. How do I make him see how dangerous his behaviour is? (Please note that I've broached this topic with him before, but it only made the abuse worse.) (link)
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I am a little sister of 3 older brothers. My relationship with my middle brother is kind of like this but it never gets too physical. He can tease me anyway he wants but if I do the slightest thing to him he flys off the handle. I can't say anything without him going into a rage. I don't personally have parents that pick favorites but I have seen many who have. I know even if a brother with anger issues is in a great mood if you bring up anything wrong with him when he is in denial of he can still be very dangerous!! I think it sounds to me like your brother has serious psychological issues with his anger and needs to see a therapist. Chances are your brother won't accept the fact he needs help easily. Go to someone your brother listens to and will take advice from. I know that the sister is often not taken seriously by them in this situation. Whether it be a best friend an aunt etc. make sure you are also comfortable with them, sit down and tell then everything you said here. Add in specific examples and make your concern as clear as possible. Ask them to talk to your brother. This needs to be a person your brother would/could never hurt physically and they need to not mention you were involved in this for your safety. Once your brother knows that they are concerned, he can perhaps accept that there is something wrong with his anger and he needs help. And if he doesn't, try more and more people like that until he does. Maybe round up an intervention type set up of all the people he loves that his anger has affected negatively. The best thing for your brother is to work through his problems but that won't happen until he realizes that he has them and decides he wants to change. You can't force change. This is a very hard thing to deal with that should be approached very delicately. Feel free to message me. I hope this helps. Good luck:)
-Ali
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I'm in 10th grade and I've like the same guy since 6th grade. He dated this girl 2 years ago and he claimed to be in love with her. Even though we weren't technically dating, we acted like we were and everything was fine. He poured his heart out to me and told me he loved me and he has only done that with one girl before (his ex that he loved) he's not a people person and doesn't like to deal with problems, but he always deals with mine. One day he told his brother that he was finally going to make us official but he didn't. One day he stopped talking to me out of no where. Why did he stop talking to me? Did I get played? Should I get over him? (link)
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I decided to answer your question because I myself have been on the receiving end of this type of treatment. The first suggestion I have for you is to go up to him directly in person and ask him why he has stopped talking to you (it would be best if you could catch him alone or pull him to the side). Tell him how it made you feel when he stopped talking to you and remind him that he expressed those feelings for you right before he started to break off communication with you. In this plan of attack the point of it being in person is key because when you directly talk to him he can't just not respond and he can actually see the look of how hurt you are by what he has been doing. Again make sure you are alone or to the side because it's really not right to publicly air out your dirty laundry.
Another suggestion to do before that if outright asking him is too scary at first is to ask his close friends if you know them. If you are friends with one of his best friends ask them. If they know and say they can't tell you don't force it though. It's pressure enough to be trusted with private information and keeping it. If/when they tell you though the most it will do is prepare you for the unavoidable act of confronting this guy. Don't even mention asking the friend about it to the guy or hinting you know anything or it becomes a what he/she said spat. After you have confronted this fellow and find out the situation I would be more than happy to further help you if you need it so shoot me a message if you want. I hope this helped. Good luck :)
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Ok. I'm Male/17. And today my friends were being D-bags. And because of this I ended up setting up a movie date this Friday. I don't even know this girl much, I met her today. She's kinda cute etc. So how can I make sure it goes well? I don't want any weird/awkward feeling. Plus I've never really been on a date before. (link)
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Since it is a movie date, there won't be much talking involved during the middle of the date. So the key will be with conversation before and after. To keep a conversation going, find topics you have in common and it should flow well. If you freeze up, ask her about herself. A great thing to know is whether they admit it or not girls LOVE talking about themselves and they love a guy who wants to know about them and listen to them even more. Act interested in everything she is saying, like she is the most interesting thing you've ever seen (but don't be creepy haha). If you enjoy your date, make sure you mention that you did and tell her you would love to do it again sometime. Flash her a smile after you say it too! Try not to get too nervous and just have a good time! Hope this helps. Good luck :)
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What types of medicine or prescriptions can I take for my moods or emotions? Being around my family and being oppressed is toxic for me. Im in highschool and im a freshmen so of course the first year is very stressful. If I miss one friday afternoon to myself to just dance,listen to music, and relax, before the next huge week thats full of things, then Im messed up. That Newtown shooting fucked my afternoon up and I couldnt have time to myself because my sister wanted to use the tv downstairs which is my territory. I have finals next week and yesterday was the ONLY afternoon I was going to have
a time of meditation and release. And now I can't...
IM TIRED OF FEELING LIKE THIS. I GET ANGRY FAST
AND THERE IS NOTHING THAT WORKS, I'VE TRIED EVERYTHING. GETTING ANGRY AND CRYING IS REALLY STRESSFUL AND THAT GOD AWFUL GUT FEELING IS THE WORST. I want some medicine so my moods will be balanced....what do I do? (link)
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I have experience with mood problems and have been taking different medications for them. If you want natural solution I suggest meditation and maybe finding an outlet or your bad feelings first like painting or something. If you try this and you want further help with a prescription drug you need to see a psychologist. DO NOT just take anyone's advice when it comes to taking pills or borrowing pills from someone else! What I would suggest is telling your parents how you are feeling and making it clear to them that you think you have a problem and need help. Tell them that if you don't receive help that it could lead to serious problems. If/when they take you into a psychologist they will probably give you a diagnosis (depression, bipolar, anxiety, or something like that). Then, they will prescribe you medication. Ask as many questions as yo can about your diagnosis and the medication they give you. Know the side effects and warnings of the meds and WHY they are giving them to you. Also, understand what the diagnosis is, what it means, the symptoms, and why they thought you displayed this diagnoses. Then reach out to other people with your disorder. I can provide you with websites that you can talk to people about it if you would like. Learn as much as you can. I wish I would have earlier. Hope this helped. Good luck :)
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heyy there ! well im a freshman in high school ...over the summer i was trying to get over a guy i liked because he had a gf ..the first day of school i saw this guy named ismael and thought he was cute & sexy ! and found out the gurl and my old crush broke up ... but now the gurl likes ismael too and they actually talk and me and him just make cute /weird eye contact cuz he kknows ilike him ...i want to talk to him but idont want to fall for the same guy as the girl again
confused please ,
thank you for reading L0vees (link)
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Well now that your old crush is unattatched why not go for him? If you got together you might even make Ismael jealous since you are usually busy liking him. Hope that helped. Good luck :)
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Every time I'm not revising for my exams I just feel so much guilt and uneasiness. I am always studying,though,but even when I'm having a break for whatever reason.For resting,going out or whatever,I just feel terrible. Any tips to help me deal with this?Thanks! (link)
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I completely understand how you can feel this guilt. Even though you have worked hard, there is always more that can be done. When you do sit down for a break try not to think of anything work related at all. Think of the relaxation you are experiencing and tell yourself you deserve it. Also,instead of thinking of all you could be doing, think of everything you just accomplished and how much further you are than when you started. This will make you feel proud instead of guilty. If this doesn't work I suggest meditation. If you are open to the idea, meditation can be used to completely relax and clear your body and mind. I hope I helped you. Good luck :)
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Okay im 15 going on 16 i am 6 weeks pregnant , i understand that i am very young but it was a mistake I'm against abortions some how my guardian has found out and i am being forced to get a abortion i understand being a mother is very huge responsibility but i will just have to deal with it i rufuse to kill my child i feel as though its wrong that some one else can't have a chance at life . My grand mother said if i don't get the abortion she's gonna put me in foster care , what do i do
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I agree. Sit down and tell them how you feel. If this still doesn't work though you need to go to the school counselor or an adult you understand who is on your side. Tell them the situation and if worst comes to worst they may be able to help you find different living arrangements with someone who supports your choices in the matter. Also if you have any other family you could stay with that will let you keep the child I would look into that too. Good luck hon and I hope everything gets settled down.
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I Like This Boy Named George But I Don't Know What To Do. He Plays With Me And Acts Like He Likes Me And Flirts. But Sometimes He Doesn't Want To Talk To Me. Don't Get Me Wrong Were Best Friends. But I Got Expelled From School. He Offers To Carry Me, Hold Me, And Other Stuff. :) I Kiss Him On The Cheek He Kiss Me On The Cheek.. But I'm Not Sure Because Some Days He Acts Different. Plus He Always Tries To Flirt While I'm Around.His Little Sister Is Begging Me To Go Out With Him.. I Really Like Him. What Should I Do? Should I Tell Him? Should I Not Tell Him? Should I Ask Him Out? Please Reply To Makala. (link)
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Hmmm. This definitely sounds like he's interested. I would say to ask him if he does like you. The worst he can say is no. And if he does say no then just remain friends. Hope this helped :)
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how can i die fast, easy, and painless? (link)
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Hon if you aren't a troll (ahem) I know that many of us have felt what you are feeling right now. But things get better. Having dealt with suicidal feelings myself and still being here I hope you choose to talk to me about what you are feeling right now.
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