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Why arent i happy?
I dont feel happy anymore, i feel lonley.
Ever since my boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago, everything has gone wrong. A girl who i thought was my best friend, lets call her "B", got jealous of me and my ex because she introduced us, and was original friends with my ex, so she told him that i cheated on him, which i didnt and he knowes that but he dosent want to be mine agian, saying he wants to be " friends with benifits" because he dosent want to completly lose me... i look at B's facebook satus it says " in a realtionship", "loving life".... this makes me break down into tears, i have lots of friends but i still feel lonley, and if i am happy then i feel that i might die, and that today maybe my last. i just want too be happy.
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I think the breakup has really taken its toll on you. One thing I think you should do that will help a lot is to break lose any strings that are still attached to you and your ex. Being friends with benefits is not making you feel better. It's just causing heartache on your end. You shouldn't have to be the girl who is always available for him to do things with while he is running around. Either he is with you, or he isn't. once you cut those strings, you will be able to move on much faster. Another thing that might be helpful is keeping busy. Work, do your favorite hobbies on a daily basis, start up a new hobby, go out with your friend and look Hott. To to parties. Just try to do as many things that you can to keep you distracted. You will meet a new guy who will want you for you with no strings attatched :).
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Don't sit around feeling miserable, B is clearly a horrible person, and this ex of yours obviously doesn't deserve you.
Don't wallow (not implying you do but simply saying don't!) around thinking you've lost everything when really you've saved yourself the trouble of further heartache and pain.
Don't sit around and be upset. Take some action. If I was in your shoes, I wouldn't be "friends with benefits" with my ex. There are still feelings attached there, it just makes things complicated. It could get to a point where he may stop that all together and then you're cut off after being so dependent on him.
He says he doesn't want to lose you, so he fucks you? Wow he's clever. Honestly you deserve so much more. A real gentlemen would of said I don't want to lose you so can we be friends, real friends. He didn't suggest such a thing to you.
Ask him why you can't get back together if you don't know. If you have a suspicion he is going out with B, ask him. Ask all the questions to get all the answers you need and move on.
It really sucks, trust me I know but once you've found out what you need to know, only then you can be happy. Situate yourself around good friends. Look how unexpectantly he came into your life? It won't be long until you find a real gentlemen who deserves you.
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You can be happy. Just enjoy your life. Stop worrying or thinking about that stupid friend of yours, and maybe you should stop being "friends with benefits" with your ex cause it just seems like he's just using you cause he knows that you love him. Try and hang out with your other friends and try to meet new guys who'd respect you and maybe fall for you. Be happy and live life to the fullest! :)
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I think you don't need these two people in your life anymore. Friends with benefits is just silly because it causes nothing but trouble. Talk to your other friends or make some new ones. And if her facebook makes you cry, don't look at it. You are making your life miserable by reading about hers. The best way to be happy again is to just clean yourself up and continue with your life without those two. Do something you like to do. Go to the movies or take a pottery class. Do something to take your mind of the past. Look for a new boyfriend that will love you wholeheartedly. Letting these two people cause drama and confusion in your life will not make you happy.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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