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Still In Love With My Wife
I am still in love with my wife but she is with another man while we are still married what should I do I dont want to divorce her but I dont know what to do
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Well i really think you should have a divorce. It will obviously hurt but at least you'll have a chance to meet someone new. Try to move on and be happy for them. And find a way to make yourself happy. Try dating again, give yourself a chance to find someone better.
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I know I'm a bit young but here's what I would do:
I would sit down and talk with my wife and let her know how I am feeling. I would also listen to how she feels about our marriage. If she was sorry for doing what she did, then I would be willing to work things out to save our marriage. But if she was truly happy with another guy, then I would let her go. I would move on with my life because I know when one door closes another one opens. if she wants to leave, let her leave. If she wants to stay, let her stay. But that's only if you want her to stay.
I hope you find your answer.
~Andrew~
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I really can't answer that question for you though I believe you already know the answer but want validation. Your already seperated and she went off for the weekend with him. I would say that pretty much sums up her feelings. You have to come to terms with yours and move on frome there.
Good luck and I'm sorry things haven't worked out. get some counseling for yourself to help you throught this.
I would say what you do has a lot to do with what your wife says and does.
First and foremost though you need to be teested for HIV and STD's. You may or may not know who the guy is she is having an affair with is and if they are truly practicing safe sex. Even if they are condoms do not protect against all STDs. So get tested so you can protect yourself first.
Next if you have not already done so you need to confront your wife with the fact that you are aware she is having an affair. Based on how she reacts is how you decide to move foreward.
If she wants to try to save your marriage then ending the affair comes first followed by marriage counseling. After that it is pretty much play by ear. Can you feel that you will ever trust her again? That is the biggest question to answer. Without trust a marriage will fail. While to a degree it matters what she is willing to do to earn your trust and respect again the hinge point is are you capable of forgiving her and trusting her again. Those questions are what you need to work on in marriage counseling along with what caused her to seek intamacy outside your marriage.
If the two of you can honestly work at and answer these questions then you may be able to save your marriage. If the answer to any question is no. Then avoid the pain and suffering of falsely trying and end the marriage now.
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well if your thinking of getting a divorce that is the best thing to do in your situation. I think its unfair for you and the man shes with.Maybe talking to her about how you feel about getting a divorce. Always be honest and tell her you have feelings for her but its not going work anymore sense shes with someone else.good luck!
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