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What do I do? How do I handle this?
Ok so there is this guy named, let's say, Tom.. I like him a lot but I'm sure if he likes me. We have this one class together and we flirtin that class all the time. Like this past Thrusday we were sitting there and he was like "The only reason I like this class is becuase it's the only class I have with certain peopole." He asked me if I drove and i said yeah why and he was like I was just wondering. Then eh was like how old are you and I said 16 and he was like me too. We were watching a video this day and we talked throughout the whole video. My hands were like ice and I told him and he took my hands and held them between his and was warming my hands up and he kept touching my face and he kept touching my knee to see if I was ticklish. He kept being really flirting. Well then Friday I said something to hurt his feelings but he was just joking and he was like You hurt my feelings. You have to kiss them and make them better. I was thinking to myself, "How do you kiss someone's feelings." Then he had my pencil in his mouth and I was trying to pull it out and I couldn't get it out with my hands and he was like well you'll have to get it out another way. And we were sharing a paper and we kept getting really really close. Like he waws like an inch away from my face. Then he kept saying my hands were wet and he would hold his hand out like you would do if you were going to hold someone's hand and he was liek let me feel your hands and he said it like 4 or 5 times and I said no remember they're wet and he was like fine. Then I waited like 5 minutes and was like here. He said No remember they're wet. And lastly he out his arm around my chair like he was acting like he wanted to put it around me but was scared. HERE'S THE KICKER!!! Friday we had 30 minutes of free time at the end of class and he completely ditched me and went and hung out with this other girl and completely ignored me.He never tells me bye at the end of class and he never waits on me.And today we were sitting in the commens area for class and we didn't do anything and he COMPLETELY ingored me until like the last minute of class. He was hangin out with the same girl that he ditched me for on Friday. I think that's all. I'm so confused....I have no idea what to do. Do I pursue it or not? We're both 16 but I'm a junior and he's a freshman.
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Ok first off, he's a douche. You said you are both 16 right and he's still a freshman? Come on girl you can do better than that. Next, he's just playing with you. You shouldn't lower your dignity and chase after him. He probably thinks he's got it all figured out. There's probably more than just that girl and you. If you want a meaningful relationship then find someone who is worthy of you and not ditching you for some other girl, but don't find some guy that is too nice either. Uhhhh. I hate how immature kids are man. LOL. People always flirt. So if you want a booty call then stay with this dude. I'm sure he thinks he's a pimp or something, but trust me, being 16 and still a freshman and having no respect for other people. Ummm yeah. When I turned 17 I went to the marines. This guy is a chump. You are just another one of his suckers. For real.
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Firstly I have to ask, when you say he goes and hangs out with another girl, do you mean he hangs out with her like a friend, or he also flirts with her? When I was in high school my best friend was a guy, and people always mistook us for boyfriend and girlfriend.
But more importantly: You said that he ignores you, ditches you and doesn't even say bye to you? He sounds like a jerk, and jerks are not worth your time.
There are many stupid people in high school who act one way when you're alone and then completely change around their friends. They're nice in class because they have no one else to sit with, but then act like a stranger outside of that class. And it means there is something wrong with THEM not you. They're fake and more worried about looking cool than actually making proper friends and having fun.
This guy, Tom, sounds like a flirt. Flirts are never good to date because they continue to flirt with other girls in the relationship. He might make you feel good in class, but think about how crappy he makes you feel outside of class. Is he really worth your attention?
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If I were you, I would not get involved with this guy. Him flirting with another girl after he's been flirting with you for a while isn't a good sign.
But keep in mind that all the flirting has to count toward something. You can't just flirt with eachother forever. You have to decide, "Do I like this guy?". Because if you keep flirting and your relationship isn't changing, then the guy is going to get bored of the idea of "flirting for no reason". If you really like him, then go get him. But me being a 16 year old guy myself, I wouldn't go after this guy cause he sounds like a player. But who knows? Maybe he's a nice guy. But that is your decision.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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