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19F 21M
So I have been dating this guy for nearly a year. It has always been the way it is. I have just always tried harder. Our first date I offered to pay because he was out of work at the time. Over the summer I worked a lot more at my job and was getting bigger checks. He would take me out to a movie once a month maybe twice after he started working. But I would loan him money like 50-100 because he would go without food for a day or two sometimes and needed money to hold him over. Well he is on his feet now and I am proud that we stuck through that together. He has a place and his own car and has gotten 2 promotions at work. I always feel a bit taken advantage of though. I usually make him dinner since when he gets home he is exhausted. I watch his little boy when he has to run out. I don't mind it because I love him. I took him out to a really expensive dinner to this fancy sea food place and spent quite a bit of money. If I want to go out I end up having to be the one to suggest it and pay for it or it won't happen. The last time he paid for a date was back in September. I just feel like put in more effort. Lately He has been low on cash and I have been buying him lunch. He won't talk to me all day until he wants food. I give him the cash and then he stops talking to me again. I try so hard to keep it interesting and happy but he never does anything back for me. He didn't do anything for Christmas for me and keeps telling me he will take me out and doesn't. But he always buys himself toys and video games and goes out to the bar. How can I bring it up to him that I feel like he doesn't try? How can I make him want to? I really need help I feel like giving up but we have been through a lot I love his son and family so much and I genuinely love him as well. Advice or anything is appreciated. (link)
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Seriously peeps, if you are going to answer advice stop the BS and tell it like it is. You are not being taking advantage of a little, but more like ALOT. Come one. Think about it. You are paying for everything, sacrificing your time, your energy, etc for him. He has a kid that you are taking care of and he has time to go buy video games. No wonder why you feel unappreciated. I agree with the first answer. You are what we call an enabler. That means you continue to let this happen, by continuously contributing to it. You should stop giving him money. Yes there are ways you guys can work on things together like starting a savings jar. But really, you need to focus on school and your career if that's what you want, because the way things are going you are not happy. So it's either drastic changes need to happen or you need to move on for yourself. Or you can also just let things stay the way they are and just become another idiot who lost to the game of life.
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Well i kind of like this boy and i try to impress him but i don't know if he notice me (link)
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So are you trying to get him to notice you or are you trying to get him to like you because those are two different things? If you want him to notice you dress up differently than you normally would, do something different than your hair, find something he has an interest in and take a part in it, or become friends with his friends. But if you are trying to get him to like you shouldn't. He will like you if he likes you. You can't make someone like you. You can't force someone to change.
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okay soo . idated this guy for a year and a month. i broke up with him because we would fight all the time , and he changed dramasticly . he gets very very jealous . even though we broke up he would still call me and say he loves me and i would say it back . but one day he called and i finally told him that we cant do this anymore . i told him we cant tell each other that we love each other , or we will get back togather . and we cant be anything more then friends. then he told me he would always love me no matter what and he had gotten me a birthday present .. and it was this braclet that had my name engraved and had our date on it ..
sooo after he told me all that. we havent talked in while. then i find out he went to the movies with some girl and they kissed .
wooooow . im so heart broken. and i cant stop thinking about him . and i dont want to call himm or text him . but its werid he still has all our picturs on facebook and instgram. i dont know what to do . if he calls i dnt know what to say ? (link)
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Hahaha Sillyrob...Dude you crack me up. Ok so here goes another one. Honestly, I agree with sillyrob. You guys are obviously both young. It's that old saying, you really don't realize what you have until you've lost it. This guy seems like he is starting to have his cake and his ice cream too. Girl, don't put yourself in that position where he creates you as his safety net. Like if something goes wrong with the other girl he always has you on the side. First off, you always argued. This is not a healthy relationship. That's not something you should be in. If he calls don't answer. He obviously doesn't have problems going on dates with other girls and kissing them huh. Now if he really loved you would he do that. Come on. Think about it. You should make yourself happy. Who cares what he thinks. Trust me. In 5 to 7 years he is just going to be one of your past exes. LOL.
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I owe $11,246.34 on a 2010 Chevrolet HHR LT with 47500 miles on it. I'm looking to get rid of it and get something cheaper, so I posted an ad on Craigslist. A man contacted me saying that he'd like to set something up where he takes over the payments. He specifically said that he didn't want to do it through the dealership because he didn't want ownership to be transferred right away. Said something about how he just financed a new Corvette. He did mention documents and getting things notarized and everything, but I'm still a little suspicious of why he would go through all that. Where should I go from here? (link)
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Ok o the only 2 things I think are good answers that people have said are don't do it and sell it privately. You are stuck with the payments right? The only way you can get out of it is via bankruptcy which I never would recommend. You could sell it privately and that would be probably the best bet. If I were you and I bet you are like this I would save some money and buy a little beater car for the time being. Then I would save some more money and offer it for lower because in this economy, many people are not buying cars. So you probably owe more than it is worth and will have to come up with the difference to get it sold off quicker. The key is to get out of debt and stay out of it. From now on don't finance cars. If he wanted to take over payments the only legal way is for him to either get approved via another loan through another bank or signing over the lien to him with your bank after they approve him via his credit. If you are forced to keep it, I would go and refinance the vehicle one time through a credit union as their rates are usually lower and you can save money. The secret to getting it paid off early and saving the money would be to still make the same payments you were on your original loan and add as much more to it as you can even if it is only $20. So I would not and in no way do anything this guy wants. Good luck to you.
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okay i'm currently 16 I turn 17 in july
I really love my bf and he telling alot of people thagt he believes
i'm the perfect girl he is too 16 almost 17.he tells me that he is ready to settle down and that he wants to get married and have a kid.I really love him alot and yes he does smoke weed and cigarette and yes my parents know he does.he is a really good guy but something is holding me back he is a bit controlling like he gets mad if I talk about other guys and if I go a full two days J seeing him he threatens to take his own life and then he says that we need to runaway and get married idk I love him and always will it's just thode two things that's hurting me (link)
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Hahaha. Kids man. Ok so here it goes. Braiden is right. This dude is a chump. Seriously using that I want to kill myself if you talk to other guys routine. Yeah he's ready to settle downa nd make babies. First off, babies cost a lot of money, most of which he will spend on buying munchies for all the 420 he's smoking. You guys are really immature and he's an idiot to treat you like that. Just wait, in a few years, I'm sure you will be dating someone else and tired of his crap. Don't do anything because he wants to. Girl this is your life. You have to be in control. Seriously think about it. He's manipulating you. He's using you. If you ask me, all those traits and the fact that he's jealous, he isn't worth it. Move on and find someone better and worthy of you. Save your time and energy. This is going to be an ongoing battle that leads nowhere. If I was you I would have been gone like yesterday, nope I mean the day before, oops I mean like last week. Hahaha.
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Okay, so I'd asked this question earlier as well but I guess I wasnt clear in it.
Basically there is this guy I really like. The problem is that I am too short for him. I am 4'11 (151 cm) and that guy is 5'11-ish. And I feel REALLY consious about that. He lives in a another city so its not like we can meet everyday and eventually get used to eachother's difference.
So my questions are, where does a 4'11 person reach a 5'11 or 6 feet guy?
What do guys think of girls as short as 4'10-4 11
Those in relationships, coulld you please temme your height difference
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Really!!! You have problems with height? Come on. Relationships look beyond those things. If you really like each other or even love each other those things don't matter. I'm 5'11 and have dated someone that was 5' even. We used to always make jokes about how I was her personal jungle gym and she climb on me. LOL. Dang. You seriously need to get over these self-esteem issues. You are going to ruin relationships that way and push people who really care about you away.
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22f. I recently had my first physical experience with a guy. All we did was make out and sleep in bed together but it was still a big deal to me.
He's handsome but skinny and has a really boyish face and voice. Also some of his outfits are very middle school boy-esque, like his mom went to the store and bought all his clothes. None of these immature things about his appearance dawned on me until we got physical. That one night also made me recognize how TRULY insecure and immature he is as a person. We only hung out like 3 times but I wasn't into him from the start. I have had feelings for guys before and nothing about this even remotely reached that emotional level.
I thought, ok not so much into him but first hookup chance maybe?
When we made out, he initiated it verbally instead of just doing it (he was really awkward about initiating anything but was too antsy to just sit there). His lips were very tight and tense over mine (is this normal?) and when I tried to use my tongue he didn't loosen up his lips to let my tongue in his mouth.
Afterwards, we continued to cuddle and he kept rubbing my legs up and down in creepy back and forth motions with his fingers. Is THIS normal?
Finally we went to bed and he stripped down to his boxers and immediately turned off the light so I wouldn't see him (his lack of self-esteem has been one of the main turn-offs in this whole experience). I only have a small bed so naturally, it was uncomfortable. I kept waking up throughout the night and EVERY time I moved, he did too. At one point I inched away from him to get a bit of air and he moved closer and full out spooned me. He also had his hand on my ass the ENTIRE night and I can't say why but this seemed very boyish/childish. Part of me also feels like he didn't have the right to. I don't know, it just creeps me out. At one point in bed he started fiddling with his crotch for like 15 seconds.
He also had a boner from 9pm, when we started hanging out all the way up to the morning. I know guys get boners but doesn't getting one just from standing a foot apart talking to me seem a little 14-year old? Maybe I'm wrong, I don't know.
In the morning, I wanted to puke (partially from being hungover) and I was absolutely certain I was not into him. I didn't want him to be there anymore but of course didn't kick him out or anything. Everything clicked and I suddenly realized how clingy, immature, and insecure he is as a person. I washed my blankets because they had his scent on them.
I'm so attracted to the idea of having a confident attractive MAN to totally lead the way and dominate me. with GAME. I need to be told what to do in physical situations. I want to feel like a young girl, not a mother or a babysitter! Now I know why teenage girls date guys who are older so often. Are my expectations too high?
He's a very nice person and I don't think he did anything wrong. I can definitely emphasize with self-esteem issues but I'm not looking to add his to mine. and I was very kind and respectful throughout the whole thing. Can you just tell me that there's someone out there who won't make me feel like I'm cuddling with one of my younger brother friends? Ewwww. I just feel like there's something wrong with me because of my urgent desire to be physical with guys all the time and now it's finally happened and it was utterly unenjoyable.
Please tell me there's somethng better out there. This is starting to make me think I'm gay even though I'm soooooo attracted to men and have never felt sexually attracted to women before. and I'm very honest with myself. The lack of personal connection played a large factor but most girls can hook up with guys they don't even know and love it! What's wrong with me? I'm worried I'll turn into a dried-up hag! (link)
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Ohhh great. Its just another young girl growing bored and can't figure things out and wants to find something bigger and better. Seriously, girls around your age start seeking for more in a relationship. There is nothing wrong with what you are saying. He just either needs to mature and grow up or you need someone a little older than you. That's just the way it is. Once you do start dating an older guy you will like certain things about it, but then you will miss being with those around your age and doing those things. Trust me. Make sure then that the next guy is not too much older. Women are naturally attracted to a man who is successful. Someone who has their stuff together and has experience in life. It's that persona. That macho, passionate attitude that makes you chase them. Hahaha. Whether it's sexually or just everyday life. That's the way it is. You need to find out what it is you want. Go an explore and find yourself. You need to be content with yourself and who cares what others think. As long as you can wake up in the mirror and be happy with who you are that's all that matters. Now I'm not saying go around and have sex with everyone either, but it's ok to do it if you like the guy, but would be better if you are exclusively dating and love him. Sorry for this comment, but I have to say it. Women are too much drama. You make something so small into something so big. You are at a stage in your life where you are trying to find yourself and your path. It's totally ok to be this way and feel like this. You are attracted to this other guy because he holds some of the other traits and qualities you are searching for. Dang, honestly, it's all just mind games sometimes. Hahaha. I bet you that if I could get the guy you are bored with right now and teach him a few things, he would have you wrapped around his finger LOL. Sorry, I may sound prude, even cocky, but I've been in enough relationships, studied enough, and etc. that I do know what I am talking about. Dating and romance is all a science. Really it is.
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I can't stop thinking. I'm going on 22 years old and I've never had any experiences with love or sex. The past few months have been a roller coaster of emotions, many extremely positive ones. New changes, particularly significant weight loss have given me confidence I've never experienced before. Having been insecure and somewhat shy, experiencing major confidence for the first time is a remarkable feeling.
In very basic terms, I'm often desperate for male intimacy. I've gone on a couple dates, mildly physical with with one guy, but long story short, we didn't click. I never act on my emotions when things are risky. A lot of my friends engage in sexual behavior with people they don't know but I don't do this. Some of my friends are in amazing relationships so I guess those girls were lucky enough to have feelings for someone in the right place at the right time.
I am absolutely out of this world crazy about a close friend of mine. I can't have him because he's taken. I know we have a connection. I don't make any bold moves, just let anything that is meant to happen happen. And so, the status quo remains. We stay close friends and nothing more than that, because he has a girlfriend of course and I wouldn't have it in me to sabotage a relationship even if I tried to.
I feel a sense of positive sexual/emotional tension when we are in a room together but in the end these thoughts are merely product of speculation. He could be crazy about me, or have no interest at all. I know he really likes me as his good friend and quite possibly more, but there's no way to know for sure.
Around him, I remain calm and collected but only on the outside. Inside, I'm the total opposite. I honestly barely have words to describe how I feel when I'm with him. Pure elation and excitement. I block out what's going on around us. Afterwards I'll have a soaring "high" for hours. It's the sweetest feeling ever, one of them at least. I can't tell if it's obvious how I feel. I have trouble, and often feel uncomfortable with showcasing my emotions externally so I know I haven't been blatantly obvious about it. But still, I give him more attention than most girls do and smile a lot and stuff when I'm with him.
But then I get back to reality and the sadness kicks in of what the situation actually is. As long as there's another girl, I will not have a chance. Even so, I can only speculate that he'd have feelings for me. I have tried SO hard to let go of this and I can't. I feel like it's a burden I'm carrying around against my will. Intelligent, sensible people (including my mom) keep telling me that one day the right person will come along.
You know what? The right person HAS come along but I can't reap the benefits of these amazing feelings because of boundaries. So I guess I will spend my life drooling over one guy at a time who I may or may not be able to be with. I have friends who are absolutely loving the casual dating/sex lifestyle and friends who are loving their relationships.
I'm very open-minded. I try to mingle with guys all the time. I smile and have fun and while I don't have a flirty or seductive personality, I do little subtle things to try and "seduce" them. For one, I don't do enough for it to actually work and two, I'm realizing that this instant sexual gratification type of relationship that so many guys seek does not align with the person I am.
I don't feel comfortable being romantic/physical with a guy I don't have a connection with in a friendship sense. I'm the type of person who takes a while to open up/get close with people. Do I try to change this or accept that this is part of who I am? I tried that route with the one guy I went on a couple of dates with and felt uncomfortable with our mild physical encounters, simply because I didn't know him very well.
So the casual thing is not my thing. Or maybe it is, who knows. I guess the relationship route is my thing but maybe I get too passionate and involved... No answers exist and that's why this is so damn frustrating. A million thoughts are running through my head. I don't know what I want or what to do. The status quo remains and everyone else has excitement with guys while I watch. I do know that I want SOMETHING. and something positive. Right now I feel like I have nothing. I want both love and sex desperately. I want my friend desperately. I cannot stop thinking about him. I want it to stop. I'd rather not want these things as they are affecting me negatively. I just want to be with him!! and if not that, have the feelings I have for him for someone else. I just feel like I'm not going to really start this stuff until I'm 35-40 (almost 22 now) which is depressing.
I'd like to focus completely on my education but this is intruding me. WHY do other girls get their chances but not me? I don't want to get married I just want a connection with a guy. I feel like I'm walking in the dark with this...any advice would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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Hahaha Silly rob was actually nice on this one LOL. Honestly, sillyrob hit the head on the nail. You need to focus on your education. He's is a relationship and he's happy. Weigh the consequences, do you want to pursue and more than likely lose a good friend? what if he doesn't feel about you the same way and you pursue. See then you just made the friendship awkward and it will never be the same again. At 22 you should be living life while focusing on your goals. Try dating other guys and be fair to those guys and yourself as well. Give them a chance. No one is telling you to go have sex with every single guy you date, Honestly, we call those type of people sexual addicts, or in street terms, whores, sluts, etc. Hahaha. You write as if you are educated. You described everything with such detail. Well then use those brains of yours and realize that emotions change. Your mom is right. When I was your age I acted the same way. I never slept around. I was in a committed abusive relationship and she was cheating behind my back. You should walk with pride that you are not like every other person spreading the fabulous STDs everywhere. Seriously, you have never given yourself a chance to find someone. You never gave your chance to find the right one. I bet what you are feeling is lust and not real love. If you really stopped and took a closer look at that guy, I'm sure he has many faults that you do not know that in the end may even deter you from wanting to date him. So don't even think of messing up another person's relationship and be honest with yourself and try to date others. Focus on you education and start your career. You do not know where you will be in 10 years from now.
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Me and my boyfriend has sex he had a condom on while it was on before we started my nail rubbed against the condom could this tear it ? (link)
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Yes it can break it. If you are so worried then have her take Plan B. There is responsibility with sex. Damn kids need to grow up.
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im 20/f, my bf is 21. We have been together for 2 years and when we didn't live together we had sex a lot. We moved in together a few months ago and it seems since then i never want to. He will try getting intimate and i just push him away. I don't know why i don't want to. I love him very much and i am still attracted to him. I tried taking pills to up my sex drive but it didn't seem to work. Its starting to effect our relationship. what do i do? (link)
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Ok so braiden is right that medication can affect your libido sometimes. Libido is your sex drive. But honestly, you guys need to do more than just spice it up. First off, why do you at that age have to take medication to enhance your sex drive? Are you kidding me. Or are you on some other drugs like 420 or a downer that decrease it and you are trying to take these drugs to up to enhancement? Hahaha. Obviously you guys are doing something wrong. He obviously isn't doing what he needs to and you are probably just growing bored. I suggest trying something new also and lay off the medication, it's not good for you to be taking at your age. Damn its like him taking viagra at his age. WTF? I also suggest you guys learn more about sex. See people just move in with each other, grow bored, blah blah blah, then they cheat, then they blame each other, same old story.
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Ok so there is this guy named, let's say, Tom.. I like him a lot but I'm sure if he likes me. We have this one class together and we flirtin that class all the time. Like this past Thrusday we were sitting there and he was like "The only reason I like this class is becuase it's the only class I have with certain peopole." He asked me if I drove and i said yeah why and he was like I was just wondering. Then eh was like how old are you and I said 16 and he was like me too. We were watching a video this day and we talked throughout the whole video. My hands were like ice and I told him and he took my hands and held them between his and was warming my hands up and he kept touching my face and he kept touching my knee to see if I was ticklish. He kept being really flirting. Well then Friday I said something to hurt his feelings but he was just joking and he was like You hurt my feelings. You have to kiss them and make them better. I was thinking to myself, "How do you kiss someone's feelings." Then he had my pencil in his mouth and I was trying to pull it out and I couldn't get it out with my hands and he was like well you'll have to get it out another way. And we were sharing a paper and we kept getting really really close. Like he waws like an inch away from my face. Then he kept saying my hands were wet and he would hold his hand out like you would do if you were going to hold someone's hand and he was liek let me feel your hands and he said it like 4 or 5 times and I said no remember they're wet and he was like fine. Then I waited like 5 minutes and was like here. He said No remember they're wet. And lastly he out his arm around my chair like he was acting like he wanted to put it around me but was scared. HERE'S THE KICKER!!! Friday we had 30 minutes of free time at the end of class and he completely ditched me and went and hung out with this other girl and completely ignored me.He never tells me bye at the end of class and he never waits on me.And today we were sitting in the commens area for class and we didn't do anything and he COMPLETELY ingored me until like the last minute of class. He was hangin out with the same girl that he ditched me for on Friday. I think that's all. I'm so confused....I have no idea what to do. Do I pursue it or not? We're both 16 but I'm a junior and he's a freshman. (link)
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Ok first off, he's a douche. You said you are both 16 right and he's still a freshman? Come on girl you can do better than that. Next, he's just playing with you. You shouldn't lower your dignity and chase after him. He probably thinks he's got it all figured out. There's probably more than just that girl and you. If you want a meaningful relationship then find someone who is worthy of you and not ditching you for some other girl, but don't find some guy that is too nice either. Uhhhh. I hate how immature kids are man. LOL. People always flirt. So if you want a booty call then stay with this dude. I'm sure he thinks he's a pimp or something, but trust me, being 16 and still a freshman and having no respect for other people. Ummm yeah. When I turned 17 I went to the marines. This guy is a chump. You are just another one of his suckers. For real.
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My husband and I have been married for 3 years. He cheated on me with his ex our entire 3 year engagement, through my pregnancy, and I didn't find out until right before we got married. I still married him because I love him, and I figured it would be a fresh start for us.
Now the tables have turned.
About a year into our marriage, I guess I finally decided that I can't trust him and he wasn't changing his ways, so I ended it. We were apart for a week or so, when I decided to sleep with someone else. I'd never been with another man; I was curious. It was a terrible experience, and I regretted it instantly. My husband and I ended up getting back together, and he has yet to forgive me for what I did. From my perspective, I ended things before I slept with someone else. From his perspective, we were married-I cheated.
I decided at that point after seeing how miserable my "leaving" made him, that I loved him and wanted to stay. Now, I have serious issues.
Since that night, I've slept with 7 different men, and kissed two more. I've found myself in a viscous cycle that I can't seem to get out of. I don't know if I just seek validation, if I don't really want to be with my husband, if I'm resentful, if I can't trust him, if I've completely lost myself, if I even care about anything anymore.
I'm lost. I'm confused. I'm sickened by my behavior. I'm a coward. I need help. (link)
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Honestly, you are acting liking a spoiled little brat. Does any one care about the sanctity of marriage anymore? Anytime a problem happens people always run away, or go and sleep with other people and try to validate their reasons. First off, you should never have married him. There is obviously something missing in this relationship if he was cheating on you and now you are on him. I mean grow up. There is no excuse for cheating, period. If you are trying to figure yourself out, then get a divorce and act like an adult. Go have your fun. Get this crap out of your system and find out what really makes you happy. Maybe you will find the man of your dreams or maybe you will realize he is the one. For guys like him, we usually don't realize what we have until it's gone. Same with women too. Don't play these stupid mind games and grow up. By the way, you mentioned you were pregnant right? So how about you both stop being so damn selfish and think about your kid. Go find what it is you are missing.
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Im 13 and theres this guy, he transferred to my school last semester and is really smart but has a past with criminal stuff and he wants to put that behind him now. He's on house arrest too. But he's really sweet and chill. Anyways we just started talking and he knows I like him and yesterday at school my friend who's best friends with him talked to him and he said I was pretty and that he liked me (we did get to know each other too) but my fiend said he's nervous to ask me out and I'm nervous SOOOO nervous too. I've never asked out a guy and me and this guy sorta live in different worlds. No classes. But I really like him. How do I know if he likes me? I want to make sure. Cause if I am I might and if I don't how do I make him ask me out? (link)
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Do whatever you want. These days it really doesn't matter if you ask him out or he asks you out. The problem is what the answer can be. Guys like their pride. I wouldn't ask him out in front of his friends. If you want to keep your pride then let him ask you out. These little games are really stupid. If he is telling your friend, then he needs to act like a guy and come ask you out. It's so annoying when they do those things.
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there is this girl i have a huge crush and i cant stop thinking about her even if i try i think im in love with her. im 13 and shes 14. my issue is my parents wont allow me to date and i think she has a boy friend what do i do (link)
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Dude, just go up to her and be friendly. Be yourself, don't try to hard and just tell her that dang she is the most beautiful girl you have ever seen. Don't come off as creepy, but stand up for yourself. If she likes you the she likes you, but if she doesn't then she doesn't. Be playful and don't lose your dignity. If anything you can still keep her as a friend, but don't let her take advantage of you. Girls love to do that. You always hear that girls like the bad guys and nice guys finish last. That's a total lie. You can't be a little whimp though. I'm not saying go and start fights, but there are many ways to get the girl. The object is to make her notice you and think of you. You have to stand out and in a good way. You want her to start chasing after you, not you after her. This is the rules of the game buddy. We even do this as adults. LOL. If you can get her to laugh you are doing good. Watch how she acts around you. Body language speaks louder than words sometimes. You have to be careful though. Sometimes it is not always correct. Just make everything seem casual and normal. What I mean by that is don't talk and then have a long period of silence then talk again. You don't always have to talk too. Just be normal. Pretty girls are just as easy to talk to as others.
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Okay so, im an 18 year old girl, I've been with my boyfriend (19) for a year and a half, we are really really comfortable with eachother. But he's never made me orgasm, then again neither have I.
I try to masturbate but perhaps I'm too impatient, nothing seems to work. The first few times I touched myself, and the first few times he did- I was really sensitive. But after that I dot feel much down there, mentally I've got a really high sex drive cos i think about it/want it all the time. But I dont seem to get physically aroused and because of that nothing builds up to an orgasm:(
I don't know what to do! (link)
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Haha nice advice imperfectionist. So some of what that person said is true, but welcome back to reality. So if you really want to hit an orgasm there are many different ways. Yes, I am a guy, and I know someone is going to say something, but trust me I do have enough experience. So first off you guys are really young. A big sexual appetite is normal. Women orgasm on different levels. What imperfectionist is stating is trying to match a woman on an emotional level. Anatomically, the clitoris is a perfect for one area of sexual stimuli that can arouse a small orgasm. Your bf needs to read some books and understand that girls love foreplay. They do want to feel that emotional attachment, but sometimes they do want to just have dirty sex. Different positions can help you find what arouses you more. He can also try sticking fingers inside and gently massaging. The g-spot. now thats another great stimulation. Many girls are not aware of that your age. If stimulated correctly at first it will feel as though you have to go pee because the g-spot is that inner spongy lining inside your vagina just below your bladder. I suggest you go pee before you have sex and after if you can. One it prevents embarrassment if the g-spot is aroused and you do have to go pee and the other it helps prevent UTIs. Many girls feel that stimulation and stop before they hit orgasm and run to the bathroom. That is why some can not hit that exploding orgasm. You guys need to stop putting so much pressure behind it and just enjoy having sex. He needs to last a little bit longer, but not crazy long because you don't want to dry up. Yes lubrication helps, but try different things. Have you ever masturbated with a dildo. You should and preferably a vibrating one. My wife loves it and I play with her sometimes with it. She is actually more of a freak in the sheet than me. She has taught me. You should read some books and learn about your body. Yes pornos may arouse the mood, candles may set the environment, but what you must do is become comfortable with your body. Women's bodies are the most delicate beautiful things. It's not like a man's. You have so many nerve endings that send stimuli to your brain that releases the serotonin and endorphins that makes things feel good. Honestly, I find nothing sexier than a girl who knows what she wants and when she has those bedroom eyes you know it. Women can fake it easily, but us guys we can't. Therefore his aim should be to please you and you please him, but to do so, you both need practice and to learn your own body first of what makes you feel good. You can also try to experiment and he may do something that arouses you more. I suggest he learns about sex and you do as well.
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I'm a 19 year old girl. I've been talking to this guy for almost a year now, but it didn't really start to become serious "talking" until about July. I really care a lot about him, and he cares a lot for me. The problem is, though, that he had a horrible girlfriend before we started talking. I don't know all the details of their relationship, but she treated him terribly. Unfortunately, her actions have made him feel inadequate. He feels that he's not good enough for me. I try to show him that he's more than good enough for me, but I don't want to push it too far and push him away. Lately, he's been opening up to me more, but he's still afraid to commit again because he's afraid he'll get hurt again. How can I show him how much he means to me without flat out telling him I love him and that I want to be with him. I would never hurt him. He knows that, but is still gun shy for lack of a better term. (link)
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Been there, done that. I had a relationship like this before and once I grew up and grew some balls I learned from my past. Mine was probably worse than his and I bounced back. Try some abuse not only verbally but physically, a little cheating, and etc. Sorry to be so direct and forward about this, but seriously. If it only happened a short time ago, then it's obvious that it's still fresh and he needs time, but if it was a long time ago, this guy needs to stop being such a pushover. If it's fresh, don't become the rebound. Don't lower your self esteem too. You have to make yourself happy and if he continues to act like this, then he will lose more than just relationships. He needs to realize that bundling crap inside is only going to make matters worse. He is the only one that can fix himself. All I suggest is be there for him. Let him know he is worthy, but don't bend over backwards for him and lose your self dignity. Eventually you will get tired of his crap. This guy needs to find something that makes him feel like a man again. Dude needs to grow up and realize, that yeah it was a relationship and yeah bad things can happen, but there are plenty of other girls out there that are worthy of him. If he can't see that with you, then I would tell you to say good bye to him and you find someone worthy of you. He could also go get some counseling if that helps him.
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