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ok well I have this boyfriend and we've been together for a long time and i truly love him and all but lately i've been thikning and i've gotten really confused because i care so much for him but i keep thinking that i can't make him as happy as i could be making him and that there's so much that i'm doing wrong. also i've been having alot of doubts i mean i keep thinking of dumping him not for the sake of me but for him. it upsets me because i'm confused about my feelings for him. it upsets me that i'm even getting thoughts like this. he is the most important thing in my life and i don't want to lose him and i love him but i just don't "feel" it anymore. i'm just not as interested in him but typing this makes me cry and it's really complicating things for me and i know it shows, and that's why my boyfriend has been asking if i'm happy with this relationship lately. i love him i do but i don't know if i'm in love with him anymore like it's not interesting or if i'm moving on though i don't want to.
P.S if it helps any i have to take meds for depression.

please help i don't want to make a mistake..

Just ask him if he could cut back on the romance and just be friends for a while. And about the doubts, if you couldn't make you happy, why would he be with you in the first place? Most men care about the girl and dont realy care about the bad things. You are going through a syndrom where you love him so much you are making exuses to dump him. what your really afraid of is him dumping you. If things are good dont invent things to screw it up relationships are hard enough. Take life as it is and enjoy. you seem to be causing some of this depression. Being a girl, depression is a cycle we have right before our menstral cycles mark when yours hit on a calender for a couple of months. It passes.
and things are good again for a while. Learn to reconize it so the next time you can deal with it untill it passes. You have to push yourself to deal with it. Stay busy clean your room, drawers, go for a walk or run make sure you eat healthy this does make a huge difference. Salads, fruit, high fiber breads, and healthy protiens, yogarts. No coke or diet coke, hamburgers that are fast food or fries.
I wish you the best of luck:D.

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