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lots of confusions
ok well I have this boyfriend and we've been together for a long time and i truly love him and all but lately i've been thikning and i've gotten really confused because i care so much for him but i keep thinking that i can't make him as happy as i could be making him and that there's so much that i'm doing wrong. also i've been having alot of doubts i mean i keep thinking of dumping him not for the sake of me but for him. it upsets me because i'm confused about my feelings for him. it upsets me that i'm even getting thoughts like this. he is the most important thing in my life and i don't want to lose him and i love him but i just don't "feel" it anymore. i'm just not as interested in him but typing this makes me cry and it's really complicating things for me and i know it shows, and that's why my boyfriend has been asking if i'm happy with this relationship lately. i love him i do but i don't know if i'm in love with him anymore like it's not interesting or if i'm moving on though i don't want to.
P.S if it helps any i have to take meds for depression.
please help i don't want to make a mistake..
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Hi hunny,
I'mm sure you make him the happiest person in the world. You seem like a really sweet person. If you're not feeling the same way about him, I think you should bring it up to him. Maybe he feels the sameway. Maybe he don't. Maybe he loves you just as much as you love him. Find out how he really feels. Maybe you just need to hear it from him. If you end up really feeling like he's not the one for you, it might be time for a break so you could think about everything and what you really want. I say find out how he really feels, tell him that you guys need a little break, because you're confused right now, and then after that break if you still want to be with him and he wants to be with you to, he should be waiting for you.
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It's really brave of you to come out and admit to yourself that you feel this way about your boyfriend. I know it's hard to think about, but before you make any decisions, talk to him. Hes obviously noticing that something is wrong with you. Hes asking you if you are happy anymore, so I think you need to tell him everything you've typed to him. You said that you think you aren't making him as happy as you could be, why? You don't really know? Hes complaining? You did something wrong and now you feel like you can't make up for it? You have to think about it. If hes complaining, then I think likely he might be the problem. If you truly feel like you are doing the best you can and are a great girlfriend, then hes the problem. If there was something you had done wrong, then you have to explain to him that it hurt you just as much as it hurt him. You just have to talk to him, tell him what's on your mind so that he can help you feel better about this. So that he can tell you that you are doing a great job at making him happy if so. About your mixed feelings, sometimes there are times where you feel like you just don't know, so maybe you should try to give that sometime until you can decide.
-TheTeenGirl
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Just ask him if he could cut back on the romance and just be friends for a while. And about the doubts, if you couldn't make you happy, why would he be with you in the first place? Most men care about the girl and dont realy care about the bad things. You are going through a syndrom where you love him so much you are making exuses to dump him. what your really afraid of is him dumping you. If things are good dont invent things to screw it up relationships are hard enough. Take life as it is and enjoy. you seem to be causing some of this depression. Being a girl, depression is a cycle we have right before our menstral cycles mark when yours hit on a calender for a couple of months. It passes.
and things are good again for a while. Learn to reconize it so the next time you can deal with it untill it passes. You have to push yourself to deal with it. Stay busy clean your room, drawers, go for a walk or run make sure you eat healthy this does make a huge difference. Salads, fruit, high fiber breads, and healthy protiens, yogarts. No coke or diet coke, hamburgers that are fast food or fries.
I wish you the best of luck:D.
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First off if you love the guy truly you shouldnt break up with him. If he actually thought that he didnt need you or didnt think you were good enough eh would have told you so. You are just afraid of actually being happy. Alot of women are afraid that when happiness comes along that they expect someting to go wrong. You are the perfect person for him and you shouldnt doubt yourself b/c i know you are a great person who cares alot about this guy and it seems like he cares for you to.
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Well, you have to get over not wanting to make a mistake. That is how we learn is from our mistakes. It is how you take your mistakes that is important. You need to take them in stride. Don't worry so much about this and think about what it is that you want. Your boyfriend is sensing something is off and that is why he is asking questions. It sounds to me like you do love your boyfriend but you are not in love with him. You hurt so much over it because you still love him and you feel you will be betraying him and he will be so hurt. Here is an idea for you. Why don’t you do a trial separation? Tell him you don’t want to break up with him, but you need some alone time. Tell him it will be good for both of you to take a brake from each other for a little while. Time it for however long you think it will take you to figure things out for yourself. Once you’ve taken a break from him it will be easier for you to collect your thoughts and feelings.
Good Luck!
LULABELLE
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