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OK I wrote here already about my period lasting for 21days and more with clots etc. Yesterday I went to another doctor and she gave me metaforming, a tea and feraglobin plus.... The thing is metaformin is for diabetics and well thick persons who need to weight for overall health... I don't want to loose weight what can I do while taking these tablets. And how long before I am better. I am still bleeding (day 2)

You are correct in stating metformin is for diabetics. I know several people who take it for that.HOwever I've never heard of it prescribed for stopping bleeding. So if you are not diabetic as well, then you'd need to address your question to your doctor as to why they prescribed the stuff and then let them know you are still bleeding.

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Sir my friend has fingered his girlfriend and after her girlfriend is suffering in fever with high pain what they should do ?

It might only be coincidence that she got ill at the same time and may not be related to fingering. Fever can be indication of influenza or some kind of infection in the body. Perhaps she has a bladder infection. And until it is known what is causing her fever, theres' no way anyone can even suggest home cures if there are any. She should go see her doctor.

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Well, I like this guy and he likes me. He likes me back but he is not allowed to date. We act like we are dating when there is no one else around but any time that there is any one around he just gets really weird. HELP!

Dont worry, he's normal. Guys begin to like girls in middle school but too many are afraid of teasing from their friends if they let it be seen that they like someone. And teasing or being singled out at your age is something we all do not like. The fact that he is willing to hang with you when others are not around shows he's got more courage than his buddies if they aren't going after girls. As he grows older he'll likely be less shy.

Now if your question was more about the age difference, I know it looks bad but theres nothing really wrong with it. I am a yr and one month older than my husband.

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So I am 16 and have recently discovered that I have a septate hymen. I've read about many options on how to get rid of it, but I don't know which is the best option. I don't want to tell my mom about it, but I want to go to my gyno. Can I still see my gyno without my mom finding out?

As adviceman said, this is a biological issue and is not caused by using tampons or sex toys or having sex. You were born this way and it is an easy fix from what I've heard. I wouldn't know about lots of methods as the issue is a strip of tough skin going down the center of the vaginal opening causing it to become two much smaller ones.
And the only thing I've heard is that it entails a day visit to dr. who would numb the area and snip the strip of skin away. In reports I've read, girls say it wasn't uncomfortable and they didn't felt any pain after. It is often discovered because there is a painful difficulty getting a tampon in and back out. So it is nothing to feel embarasssed by and talking over with mom. But you can have the privacy by law if you wish to go that way.

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Well I am 25years girl and its been 9years that am suffering from PCOS.My cycle is very irregular.Sometimes it does not come for like 5-6months.So I was under 21days OCP medication.It completed 6months and I got my last period in last week.After 2days of completion of my period I had intercourse and took an emergency contraceptive pill withing 24hours.Yesterday I started bleeding again and having abdominal cramps.Is it normal or is there anything to worry about?Please tell me if this pill is going to make impact on my PCOS treatment?

All I can say for certain is that the morning after pill is very harsh on womens systems whiles its preventing pregnancy. The amount of hormones in it far exceeds what you would get taking a daily pill. So its not surprising to have side effects.
However whether it could have some impact on your PCOS, can't say. I am not a doctor and that question should go to your doctors office. Call and ask them. They'll look at your chart and history and decide if it is some they need to see you about.

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not to ask him out for coffee, I feel if he likes me as much as he acts, he'll grow a pair and come get me/ask me out...he has been flirting with me for a while....how shy can one person be..ill just give a card that says Always, Sasha. and nothing else and put a candy cane on the front of it. ill see him tomorrow

Just keep in mind that some of the very best guys may come across as shy even if they are not and they are actually trying to give the lady the choice of making the first move so she doesnt feel a guy is moving too fast or his intentions not welcome. My own 2nd husband showed interest in me but never made a move to kiss me first. I had to do so. He's not shy. I don't know your guy and he may well be shy and like you. If you know yourself well enough and a shy man is not for you, then you've made the right choice, waiting to see if he overcomes shyness. If however he's just waiting for you to make the first step the christmas could be that step or it might be too subtle for him. He might be waiting for an invite to go out for coffee with you.

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well I seen the bus driver I have a crush on, who is always shy but nice towards me and talks very low and mild mannered....so as I am getting on the bus today, he just cheeses and grins with all 32 teeth and proceeded to ask me was that package I had for him, I said no this is mine all giddy and he laughed and I said my boss gave this 2 me as a gift...all the folks on the bus just lol and smiled at the two of us and mr. cutey said congrats and I said thanks and as i was about 2 get off the bus he just kept staring at me and smiling and said loudly/confidently for the first time ever have a great day while still smiling, i proceeded to say thanks and i asked will you be driving again next week, he said yes smiling, i said ill bring you a Christmas card he said okay, okay extra happy smiling with all 32 teeth showing...i was wondering what could i write in the card (i was thinking/gonna attach a candy bar on it as a gift) ill see him next week sometime) i want to grasp his attention and let him know i wouldn't mind getting to know him outside of the bus route.....thanks for any ideas

You didn't mention your age. Crushing is fine. If you are 18, then its okay to try to get his attention to start a friendship. If younger, then he most likely will not act upon anything you say or do. So I am answering, assuming you are an adult.

A candy bar is okay, even a little grouping of handmade Christmas cookies and treats in one of those holiday cellophane bags, or simply a candy cane. You didnt mention that you know each others names. So you could say, Merry Christmas to my favorite bus driver. Why are you my favorite? I really like how you smile. (You did mention his teeth alot. If there's something else you'd like to compliment him on, then do so.)
Then sign it, by the way, my name is ....... and write your name. Or end it any way that is more your style.
Nothing may come of it dear because at Christmas time, when my hubby and I as a young couple did an adult paper route, we used to get cards and cookies from many customers. When we thanked them, they mentioned they give a little something to those people in service of some sort who normally would wouldn't get thought of, like the postman, your Fed ex guy if you receive lots of packages,etc and bus driver would fall into the catagory. He may think that this is all there is to your card and gift, just being kind and thoughtful. You may need to find chances to sit closer up front to try to chat a little bit when possible if he doesn't get brave enough to ask you. Or he may not be interested in exactly the same way as you are. I've have many times when people were extra friendly to me and I found after that this is how they usually are with all, or they were thinking friend only but there were no romantic attractions toward me. Its worth a try but don't be too disappointed if it doesn't pan out as you hope.

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16/f/south Africa
I really want to play the cello and today i found out my best friends music teacher at school borrowed her cello to my friend for free for the holidays. My school isnt big and we dont have instruments, only a piano. Does anyone know/have ideas on where i can get a cello to borrow for a while so i can learn? Cellos are crazy expensive and we cant afford one.

I do not know the expense in your country for renting one, so if you haven't checked with the stores that sell new ones, check see if they also rent out their older models because thats what we did for our daughter when she needed an instrument.

The only other things I can think of but not how to go about it, is to find a way to track down other music students who have finished High school and are no longer interested much in playing.

If there are music teachers not associated with the school, you might ask them if they teach cello and if they know of past students who might loan theirs out or rent for inexpensive.

Lastly, I do not know if there are inexpensive classified ads type papers to search under Music to see who might be renting or selling for low ocst or if there is some on the internet ad place for your local area to find if anyone has an ad about cello or you might be able to post an ad that says you are looking for a cello to rent and name the price you know the parents can afford. Someone reading the ads may have one sitting around and not being used and like the idea of making a small amount of extra money.

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So basically I heard through friends and I checked online, that the average penis size is 5inches erect. I'm 14 and mines 6.5inches erect. Is this normal, or is it some kind of problem?

Thats normal too. As a female, I've rarely seen guys at longer. Lots of who you end up being physically is determined in the genes. So even if your Dad never was that size, perhaps a grandfather on either side of family?

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I had to tell you i did the same thing hahahaha by going back on my questions like i totally answered this lol
- yourbreathlessxo

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im girl 17,i told my classmate(boy) who is also my crush in the concrete i gave him a note, saying i like him. he said he doesnt have time for relationship bc he has activities besides school (he plays guitar, he dances)and also he told me he firstly wants to develop more spiritually, he rejected me :/...then i deleted him from my friends on fb during summer holidays bc i was always checking if he is online. now is new school year and he found out i removed him from my friends on fb, he sent me friend request on fb but i re-added him after two months...but i now i ignore him bc it hurts me so much seeing him everyday at school, he doesnt talk to me,but he talks to other girls in my class..why ?? especially he talks to one girl, i think he likes her :/, i thought he cared for me, but i guess i was wrong,i never should have told him about my feelings for him, it hurts me so much i dont want to go to school, when im in school i avoid eye contact with him and ignore him.. what should i do ? should i ignore him or not ? if not what should i do?


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Isn't it funny out of all the questions we answer that we still remember answering certain ones in the past even months ago? LOL I appreciate you sharing, so know I don't feel so strange being so overly dedicated or maybe it was more of curiosity to see if I remembered right. Teehee.

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Need input.

My husband & I are in our 80’s.

We hired a more than qualified neighbor & friend to update our 35 year old master bedroom & bath. New tile, cabinets, faucets, flooring, etc. at a cost of several thousand dollars.

His children & our grandchildren grew up together.

He is charging me a reduced hourly rate compared to what he usually charges professionally.

I purchased all supplies from a list he provided but he met me at the appropriate warehouses & assisted in making decisions.

I may use him again down the road for other home maintenance projects as our plan is to stay in our home.

I want to maintain our current good neighbor, friend relationship.

He is a proud, analytical neighbor & friend I don’t want to lose BUT I also believe the quality & commitment of his work is beyond average so want to show my appreciation without making him feel uncomfortable?

How can I do this without offending him or changing our happy relationship?????

Tipping, gratuity, type, how much, do people give gratuities for owner contractor type work helpers?????


TY

And just in case the person is not a drinker, ie ex alcoholic, though alcohol of an expensive brand is a wonderful gift, you may want to give a gift certificate for a restaurant so he and wife or family can enjoy.

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So long story short I'm a sophomore in college and I'm currently a Healthcare Administration major. Before I transferred to my current college I was a Political Science major at my old college and also took some medical courses because I enjoyed both. With my current major I planned to be an administrator in a hospital or a clinic major, but I've always had a secret passion for wanting to be a lawyer. I never really followed it before because I know how hard it's going to be when it's such a competitive field, but I think getting into healthcare law will be easier as it's a growing field and I'll already have a background in it between the classes I've taken as well as my job (also in medical). I also didn't know if I wanted to go to grad school before, but now I'm fairly certain I do because I don't believe a bachelors in anything will get me anywhere I really want to be so I might as well go and try to get my JD.

When I made this decision my advisors suggested that I turn HCA into a minor and then pick up pre-law as a minor (only available as a minor), and Political Communication as a major. So I'd be majoring in Political Communication with a minor in Healthcare Administration and a second minor in Pre-Law. They think that this will set me up for the perfect pathway to Healthcare Law because Law schools prefer political based degrees and I'll have the HCA to show them what my interest is.

I'm really worried about this change though because what if I can't get my JD for whatever reason and I'm stuck with a Political Communications major?? That seems pretty worthless if you ask me. I don't know what I'd possibly use it for and I think my parents would be pretty pissed at me if I took out a bunch of loans for a degree I wound up not being able to use. Right now they're happy with me because they think Healthcare Administration will be a great degree with great job possibilities and I think if I told them I changed it to PoliCom they'd lose all hope.

Please help? I also don't want to get a degree in HCA and be stuck in that field when I really want to be a lawyer.

You need to follow your heart. Where the heart is there will be a passion for the work you do and likely you will enjoy your job more. College advisors are doing the same thing we do here except that they are trained to focus on advice in the field of schooling. We give advice here too, but try not to tell you what to do. In the end, advise is only more information given to help you make a decision on your own, the very best and informed decision you could make. Unless your parents are paying for your college, there should be no reason for them to be upset. You are an adult and need to find that career that will support you well and that you also enjoy and are good at. No one is forcing you to go a certain way by giving their opinion or advice. It is still your decision dear.

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Ok so i am 18 and my períodos are weird... Recently it was long like a month... Now while on birth control it is Just like a few blood for four days now but i don't know if it will countinue or not... I havd bien on the pill for a week

Depending on the type of pill you are taking, some still allow time with placebo's, the pills that are not hormone based, to have a period. Then there are ones that are supposed to pretty much prevent even having a regular cycle.

If you didn't ask for one to stop your period as well as protect against pregnancy, then its likely you have the regular one.
But it is best to call your Dr. who prescribed. You shouldn't need an appt to simply ask a few questions.
The Dr. can tell you how much time is needed for your body to adjust to taking the pill. Then if you still have spotting or its called break thru bleeding, which should not happen during the time you take active pills, the Dr. may have to put you on something else. The Dr.s aide should be able to answer your questions. If it is something they want to see you again for, then you can make an appt.

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I live in NJ and I am under age of 18 and I had sex would I Be aloud to get a pregncey test?

Pregnancy tests are even available at dollar stores. Though I would purchase two differing brands to see if you get same answers. If it's too close to time you had sex, it may not show yet on a pregnancy test and you may have to wait a week to retake it.

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im girl 17,i told my classmate(boy) who is also my crush in the concrete i gave him a note, saying i like him. he said he doesnt have time for relationship bc he has activities besides school (he plays guitar, he dances)and also he told me he firstly wants to develop more spiritually, he rejected me :/...then i deleted him from my friends on fb during summer holidays bc i was always checking if he is online. now is new school year and he found out i removed him from my friends on fb, he sent me friend request on fb but i re-added him after two months...but i now i ignore him bc it hurts me so much seeing him everyday at school, he doesnt talk to me,but he talks to other girls in my class..why ?? especially he talks to one girl, i think he likes her :/, i thought he cared for me, but i guess i was wrong,i never should have told him about my feelings for him, it hurts me so much i dont want to go to school, when im in school i avoid eye contact with him and ignore him.. what should i do ? should i ignore him or not ? if not what should i do?









I had to go back 7 0r 8 pages of my past replies to find what I had sent to you. Perhaps you never saw it? I think this was around two months ago. Here's what I said then, the same stands now:

What you might want to focus on is "What am I willing to do." See, you're in the same boat as humans all over the globe who have feelings for someone who when they confess, find the other doesn't have the same feelings in return. This happens to people of all ages and has nothing to do with you being a teen or in Catholic school.

Answering with science: The plain simple truth may be that the two of you do not have that chemistry/pheremone attraction required for two people to get together in a romantic way. This is something that no one in the world can change but wish they could.

As far as emotions, you did mention having a crush too. A person experiencing a crush will feel real feelings for someone. However, as most people having crushes tend to do, most their thought life regarding that person has nothing to do with reality. Everything has to be imagined and is always played out only in the positive tracks, not leaving room for the possibility that the other person may not have the same feelings. So when we crush and imagine what his face looks like when we confess, how it feels to hold his hand, what is feels like to be held and kissed by him, our emotions get very wrapped up in that story line, same as when we watch a movie. We respond with our emotions, depending on the type of movie, in sadness and tears, anger, fear or laughter and happiness if comedy or romance. But we know the story in the movie isn't for real, those are actors and a made up story line but its real to us for the time we focus on it. Theres nothing wrong with crying at a sad movie, etc... but when we apply the same principle to love in our own life, we are going to be disappointed more often than not when taking our dreams into the real world. And that is where you find yourself.

Males tend to prioritize their lives, unlike what females may think. Some can even multi task. But the prioritizing is important to a male and will change throughout his life to some degree depending on life circumstances, their choices in life, and the wishes and dreams they want to pursue at any point. Think of it like a totem pole with something like school having the top place or if out of school, then finding a good job, or working his job. Then below that come other priorities and some males want to make a female one of their top 3. They take seriously every obligation. SO if he mentioned guitar, dancing (for many its sports teams) and wanting to focus more on his spirituality, then he is genuinely normal for a male.

I don't find it odd that he wants to focus on being more spiritual. Heres why: If you found a mouse in the cookie jar, would you mistake it for a cookie just because of where you found it? I don't think so. And with humans, just because they attend a church/ church school, live in a rich neighborhood, have a high position in some company, etc, does not mean that they necessarily are a spiritual person, don't have to watch every penny, or know enough to really do the job in a company. So, you may have thought there was nothing that he could possibly do to become more spiritual when there actually is.
He wanted to remain just friends. Some friends like besties, we see more often, other friends we don't see as often and so we shouldn't read anything into the fact that he wasn't online much if at all. I have lots of people on facebook that I don't talk to regularly, or we don't live close enough to get together and have our lives to live so priorities go to a mate, kids, job, home chores and any thing we might be working on in ourselves, plus what we tend to do for down time. You may have differing things you like to do with your free time. He may just not be as into technology as most people of your generation.

So do you usually keep your FB friends list pretty well maintained, periodically going in to unfriend people? If you do, then deleting him may have been normal if the only people on there are the ones who take the time to chat with you. I have friends who only read what I have posted to know whats going on with me but don't take time to say HI. Thats normal also for FB and other media. I don't delete anyone unless its a guy who seems to be stalking me or something like that. You need to ask yourself why your deleted him.

This brings us to my first question for you...as to what you are willing to do. you feel more like in love with him, he feels only like friends and has made a choice to not date or make a girl one of his top 3 priority in life. And if she isn't one of a guys top 3 priorities, according to a male dating expert who wrote this for women, then the fact is he just isn't in love with him. He may truly like you as a friend but nothing more.

He offered friendship. You deleted him on FB. If you both are truly friends, then he has a right to ask why. That is why he hasn't a clue, cus he's going at this logically thinking this unintentionally he did something wrong.
I understand at the moment you felt cutting him out of you life totally was the best way to handle your disappointment. But I don't think he has a clue yet as to why you really did that. I don't know if you ever explained anything to him at all about all the thoughts in your head and all of what you feel (in detail) or enough so he can put two and two together and realize you deleted him because your feelings for him were so strong that it hurt that he didnt feel the same way. Lets put this situation in reverse.
Lets say your school asked you to befriend someone who doesn't have any friends and you decide to do that with some people, one being a boy you aren't attracted to romantically but you are willing to be a friend. Later he confesses that he is in love with you. What do you say to him if you don't feel that way at all for him? This is a situation that sometimes even has older adults stumped cus they don't want the other person to hurt from rejection by stating the truth that you don't feel for him that way, meaning romantically. What many do to soften the blow is ask if you can still be just friends. Its easy for the one with no love feelings to say but hard for the victim of unrequitted love to deal with. You can't change how he feels. So there are only a few things you can do. One is to do nothing. Explain nothing, don't reinstate him on facebook, and don't go through the motions of a being a friend when you want more.
Of course if you take this action, many may beliece you've become a very snooty person and someone not worth having for a friend and you may risk losing others, and of course, you will continue to feel badly .

YOu could just come clean and tell him parts of the truth. You had a bad day, were upset he wasn't on the internet enough to interact with you so you did something rash and deleted him and then overlooked it. You promise to and do add him back on and staRt talking again and being friendly toward each other at school so it doesn't feel so awkward. This way you won't have to dread running into him at school. You may have no purpose for him in your life, now that you know he isn't interested the same way you are in him, but that is a very one sided situation, one which outsiders looking in might mistake for being selfish...as in "I want what I want anad if I can't have exactly what I want, then you're no good to me, even as a friend or just a fellow classmate."

Is there anything else you can do? I suppose so but wouldn't recommend it. Some people when faced with something in life that hurts or scares them or that they don't like will run away at the first opportunity rather than face and go thru the emotionally difficult times. Hurt and pain always lessens with time until finally in the end, though you may remember being hurt, you no longer feel the pain of it. I have situations like that in my past, even as an adult so I know what I am talking about.
So you could always drop out of school at this point, a yr from graduating or you could ask the parents to enroll you elsewhere for your last yr or homeschool you, all of which they may not have the time for and if public school is the only other choice, they may not want you at such places to begin with. Time to make some decisions. Blessing to you and I hope the pain of rejection will fade for you sooner than it does for most.

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I texted my ex and never got a response. He's never not responded to a text from me. I told him I wanted to check in and wish him luck on his job hunt and that I hoped he was doing well. He read it but never responded. We reconnected a few months ago. It's always been me reaching out first but I always had a reasonable time frame in between. I never bombarded him with texts and our conversations were mutually receptive we still have feelings for each other. He mentioned that I can call him anytime I want but he has also mentioned needing time because of factors in his life, he's also in a relationship. Why has he not responded? Is he done?

While it is nice to stay on friendly terms with exs, it just may not be as practical for one or the other depending on if they are in a new relationship. New significant others, don't take too kindly to their mate receiving texts or calls from exs. I am sure he knows you wish him well.
Lets turn the tables and say you have a new bf and the ex keeps texting and calling you periodically. Even one text may be enough to make you bf feel jealous, especially in a new relationship and it's even more of an issue if trust hasn't been built yet and that takes lots of time.

You may want to clarify with him under what conditions it is okay to call anytime. He may have had something else in mind than just friendly keeping in touch. Guys like to solve problems for females and rescue them if need be. So if you are in a crisis, like a tire went flat and none of your other friends are available, he may have meant it was ok to call anytime so he can help.
If the need you have is merely to have someone you can talk to as you haven't found anyone else yet who meets the emotional friendship needs, you need to stop relying on him for that. This may not be what you are doing but I just wanted to share a caution in case. Ask yourself tho why you feel the need to stay in touch, even tho you believe its reasonable. I don't know what you mean by "is he done' unless you mean is he done with being your bf or so or husband. I would think that the title of "Ex" means that both persons of a couple have decided to move on. When there are children between ex's, you tend to see them more often and even for holidays or birthdays as is the case for me. But if there are no children, then both of you are free to take your own new paths, ones that more likely lead you away from them. If this was a mutual decision to split up, then its time to move on. If he dumped you, then perhaps its not over for you and you keep wishing he was still your partner. I don't know your exact situation, so I am guessing here. Hope this helps you. Blessings!

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Today i got myself Gillette Satin care shaving gel. Once i press the nozzle the gel comes out. But it doesn't stop coming out even when i stop pressing the nozzle. Are there any solutions to this problem? Its a new can.

Sounds defective to me. These cans are pressure-ized
so there may be too much pressure and less product?
There isn't a way to fix it. Take it back where you got it and ask for a replacement. If they give you any trouble, simply press the nozzle and show them what the problem is.

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Im dying my hair tomorrow rose gold and at the moment im brunett ( natural hair color) and i have freckles. Im also quite pale. Im scared it doesnt suit me and i look bad?

Its all about what your normal coloring is for hair, and skin.

Think cool colors and warm colors.
Once upon a time, I did color draping to help people determine their best color palette.

It was labeled for seasons. Right now, I can say that it may not be the best choice.
You want to have hair and clothing in colors that make a person notice all of you, in entirety, the whole person. You may gets lots of friends saying they love the hair color. But are they fixated on just your hair or does it make you appear on the whole more eye catching?

So just for a guide line:

Winter colors: Generally Brunettes, darker browns to black, with or without freckles. They can wear the bolder cool colors. Royal purple, fushia, royal blue, forest green, grass green, no warm colors so a blueish red vs orangy red is best. No yellows. When I wear yellow, I look jaundiced and ill due to my skin coloring.

Summer colors: Lighter browns, straw colored to blonde haired. These are the pastel versions of cool colors toned down from winters bold. So instead of fushia, a pink, sea foam green, baby blue, you get the idea.

The warm shades are for Autumn and Spring color palettes
These people have pale skin, creamy or peachy skin. I've only seen pale skin on Winter people but they don't look good in warm colors.

Autumn: Darker Auburn hair. Russet and orange colors. Think any color with brownish to yellow tints to them. So olive green, teal for blue color, browns, off white to cream colors,

And a Spring like a Summer has the muted down versions of an Autumn person. Sallmon, lime green, a yellowish turquiose, etc.

Its up to you if you really want to change to that hair color or not. I dont feel it can look bad exactly, just that you as a whole may end up less noticeable once the newness of your new hair color is something that friends got used to.

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theres this guy in three of my classes in university. So i didnt notice him at first but i noticed that he watched me everytime i would walk past him to my seat, then the next week he kept glancing in my direction mind you he sits in the upper far left while i sit in upper middle if that makes sense. Then the week after one time he looked back to listen to my convo and then smiled turning around. Which made me loose my train of thought cause i noticed he was actually kind of cute and then my friend made a joke saying "your boyfriend is looking at you again" because she noticed from that first day of walking past him that he was looking at me, so now in the second class hes in he used to sit in the back and i know this because i sat near the front so obviously to get to my seat id have to see him but ever sincr that day in the first class he now sits in the front near me, and then this week i was having a bad hair week so i would wear my hood from my jacket everyday and then i saw him wearing his hood (i know its prob a coincidence). Then my third class he usually exits from a different door and not the door i go from but all of a sudden he starts using the door i go through.So i was thinking maybe he did like me until, yesterday i saw him printing from a computer outside the library and he was looking at me and my friends and then when he was in the print line which was super long my friend was in front of me so she walked past him and his head TURNED following her movement, idk if he was still watching when i past him but all i know is when she walked past him his head turned and he was just watching, so now im confused because maybe the whole time i thought he was looking at me he was actually looking at my friend. The thing is though when hes looking at me we give eye contact and my friend is in the first class i have with him (the class he was glancing while i was talking) so idk if he was watching her because he was watching her butt, or because the print line was too long so he was wondering where she was going (doesnt explain why he was looking for so long) or this whole time it was her he was looking at in my first class and in my second and third classes he prob only sat near me in hopes to be my friend to get to her. This whole thing is kind of bothering me because i have low self-esteem so its a miracle to me if a guy took interest in me because its always my friends they go after, so if he does end up liking her its no surprise to be honest. What do you think? Do you think he likes her or me? Or do you think he was just watching her to see where she was going or just looking at her butt, we are all 18 by the way and thank you if you have read this far and actually answer this

I can't answer whether he was checking out you or your friend. Guys don't tend to approach girls who have their friends with them. It's awkward for one, knowing that all the others may be mad at him for not singling them out.

You are a very observant person with all the details you gave of his moves. Eye contact is a positive thing but you will need to learn some body language and what the subtlers signs of flirting may be in order to know if he's interested in you.

Ever have a person walk up to you and stand so close it made you uncomfortable? We have our personal space around us and if someone we are not interested in comes closer than arms length, we subconsciously will step back away to recreate that space. We actually move closer and if seated tend to lean towards the person if interested. Then theres something called mirroring. Any movement or action you take, they do the same or pretty close. Example: You go to move a lock of hair behind your ear and he touches his head in some way immediately. Your cross your legs and he may do a version of the same. There are plenty you tube videos of this demonstrated, plus the angling of ones body.
I will add in some links and you can search for more to learn more about this all.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cNxRzsMBZKs

http://mandecoder.com/24-signs-a-guy-likes-you-decoding-his-body-language

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xgbrz_aRX30

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At the end of last school year my family moved 8 hours away from our old home into a bigger city. Me and my husband have 5 kids 15 13 12 10 and 4. We needed better jobs and a bigger house. Now I'm having some regrets though. My middle/high schoolers hate their school (the middle and high school are combined) and my 10 year old is being bullied. The jobs that looked so much better are demanding and we are never home all together anymore. We cannot afford daycare so I work nights and my husband works days. My older kids also babysit. Everyone is miserable and we can't afford to move back what do I do.my

Wow, that is tough. You and hubby being two ships passing in the night and not having time together can put stress on the marriage. People can drift apart and that would be bad for the kids. I don't know what type of jobs you have and if theres a possibility for changing work shifts so you both have at least the late night together. My husband works during day and I work part time evenings so I am done by 11pm so we can at least be able to feel that closeness of sleeping next to each other and the talk we do before we drift off.

As for the kids, without either of you really available to keep tabs on them, its too easy for them to go off on a wrong path or problems like the one being bullied.
I don't know if the big brother/big sister program is in your area but it sure sounds like something that is needed right now for the kids. Or at least the ones most open to it.

I don't know the finance issues, but if there is a way you can work part of the time from home for a company and part of the time in the office, you'd be around more for the family.
Best would be to find work that can be done from home. YOu'd have to keep working your job while looking for something to replace it that could come close and you'd be there with your 4 yr old, a day job. You'd have to train the kids to leave you alone to work once they get home from school. It can be done. my ex had a fledgling business just started and the addition which would be his office not started yet. Some the desk in the living room was his office and the kids even at younger than 4 and a year or so older, never answered the phone or touched anything on or in the desk.
Teens could start prep work on dinner for later to make it faster for hubby or you and then you'd be available for family check in talk with a little time cut out for this. I always checked in with each child separately on a daily basis to see what issues they had. When the kids realize you are open minded, no topic off discussion and you are available to talk to about issues, then they won't clam up forever but start sharing. I get kids the ages of yours except for the youngest, all writing in here with their issues which may seem minor to us and we know it will all work out but its a big deal to them and was for us at that age as the bullying is.
The kids may not want to talk to you daily but they will feel better knowing that there is a time when they can. Also family bonding time in a game night is something families do. It doesnt have to be nights at first, just a time on the weekend.
Money being tight will be the big issue besides time for each other. You'd have to get creative to find other smaller sources of income.

For example, hubby and I are currently living out of our van and we have enough room to pick up grocery carts to return to a store we shop at where their carts are always missing. The homeless take them sometimes but its mostly people without cars who will wheel their bags to the bus stop or the apartments they live at and leave them all over. The cars are way to costly to keep replacing and cut into store profits so they offered to pay us a fraction of what it would cost to replace them if we would collect and deliver them. It only takes a little time daily and the gas is covered by what we make with profit besdies and the stores doesnt have to pay for brand new ones every month or every other month. So look for a need and give a sales pitch. Its not an advertised job but its extra money.
Thats all I can come up with right now.

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