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Need answers: I texted my ex and never got a response.
I texted my ex and never got a response. He's never not responded to a text from me. I told him I wanted to check in and wish him luck on his job hunt and that I hoped he was doing well. He read it but never responded. We reconnected a few months ago. It's always been me reaching out first but I always had a reasonable time frame in between. I never bombarded him with texts and our conversations were mutually receptive we still have feelings for each other. He mentioned that I can call him anytime I want but he has also mentioned needing time because of factors in his life, he's also in a relationship. Why has he not responded? Is he done?
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I always say an ex is an ex for a reason. If you are still friends with your ex it means 1 you were never in love with him or 2 you are still in love with him. Cutting off all ties is the best answer that was nice of you to wish him luck...Until i read "hes also in a relationship" Thats it girl...He is being respectful to his girlfriend. Im sure his girlfriend is jealous expressed her feelings to him about it. Thats like if you have a boyfriend and hes texting his ex to "catch up" Im sure you would feel jealous or not so happy with that situation. Is he done? Yes your relationship is over has been over and hes moved on. Mentioning you needing him in the future is just a nice gesture that you really shouldnt act upon unless its something urgent. I say let it go move on. What are you trying to get at by texting him anyway?
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While it is nice to stay on friendly terms with exs, it just may not be as practical for one or the other depending on if they are in a new relationship. New significant others, don't take too kindly to their mate receiving texts or calls from exs. I am sure he knows you wish him well.
Lets turn the tables and say you have a new bf and the ex keeps texting and calling you periodically. Even one text may be enough to make you bf feel jealous, especially in a new relationship and it's even more of an issue if trust hasn't been built yet and that takes lots of time.
You may want to clarify with him under what conditions it is okay to call anytime. He may have had something else in mind than just friendly keeping in touch. Guys like to solve problems for females and rescue them if need be. So if you are in a crisis, like a tire went flat and none of your other friends are available, he may have meant it was ok to call anytime so he can help.
If the need you have is merely to have someone you can talk to as you haven't found anyone else yet who meets the emotional friendship needs, you need to stop relying on him for that. This may not be what you are doing but I just wanted to share a caution in case. Ask yourself tho why you feel the need to stay in touch, even tho you believe its reasonable. I don't know what you mean by "is he done' unless you mean is he done with being your bf or so or husband. I would think that the title of "Ex" means that both persons of a couple have decided to move on. When there are children between ex's, you tend to see them more often and even for holidays or birthdays as is the case for me. But if there are no children, then both of you are free to take your own new paths, ones that more likely lead you away from them. If this was a mutual decision to split up, then its time to move on. If he dumped you, then perhaps its not over for you and you keep wishing he was still your partner. I don't know your exact situation, so I am guessing here. Hope this helps you. Blessings!
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