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hey i have a question for all guys: are guys turned off by big feet? i wear a size 8 1/2, and so i was just wondering. thx for all answers, i'll give all NICE answers 5s! ♥

I believe that size 8 1/2 is actually the average size for women's feet. Mine are 8 1/2 and I don't think they're big at all, they're just right, in fact. To me, it's the really tiny feet that are unattractive. Some people may think they're cute because they are so small, but it depends on the person not whether they're a guy or a girl. Deformities may be more obvious in larger feet, but that can happen at any size. Feet aren't a "turn on" to guys unless they have a foot fetish. Guys won't judge you by your feet just like you wouldn't judge a guy by his feet. Don't worry, your feet are very normal!

You know how when you wake up in the middle of the noght and your arm is asleep and it is really numb? then when the blood starts to come back it can kinda hurt? well my question this. if that happens quite alot (atleast once a night) can that cause any permanent damage? my pinky and some of my ring finger along with that half of my hand are all tingly. its not painful just annoying. oh and my elbo is really sensative know. it has been this way for about 2 days know. any help?

When you sleep on your arm you're cutting off circulation to it. This means no oxygen is getting to the cells in your arm so they have to go through something called anaerobic respiration to stay alive. Other than making the energy your cells need to survive, anearobic respiration gives off lactic acid which is a poison to your body. When people get their legs trapped under heavy objects as a result of an earthquake or something for a very long time their legs have to be amputated on the spot so that the poison can't spread to the rest of their body and kill them. Sleeping on your arm, though the same thing happens, isn't lethal because it's only for a few hours not days. This will have the same effect on most people so it's nothing to worry about. You may, however, have bad circulation. This is something you want to talk to your doctor about. It's not a life or death situation and I'm not sure there's anything that can be done about it, it's just something you should mention the next time you visit. If your circulation is bad enough your doctor may be able to help you with it. I'm not sure what kind of treatments are involved, I'm guessing maybe exercise, change in diet, or possibly medication. I hope my explanation made sense to you even though it was kind of unnecessary. I think it's important to understand what's going on in your body. So again, no worries, just try not to fall asleep on your arm because of how annoying it is. Good luck!

how do i make a bar graph on microsofot word

ps i have a macintosh

please help

You need to use Microsoft Excel. Type the numbers into the first two columns and highlight them. Go to insert then click on chart. If you need more help inbox me!

Okay I really want to pierce my own cartlage but I don't know exactly how. I want to do it the right way so I won't get it infected or whatever. Could anyone give me precise instuctions? Thanks in advance!

Unless you are piercing your belly button or something similar to that pierced, getting it done professionally is no better in terms of infection or precision. People that do piercings are not exactly professionals. There's still the same chance of it getting infected and the so called professionals can mess it up sometimes too. They do sell kits that have all the supplies and instructions you need to do piercings yourself. If you do it yourself without one of these kits, it may hurt a lot more. Make sure that you sterilize the needle you're using. The best way to do this is to buy something that is used to sterilize earrings, prevent piercing infections, and/or treat piercing infections. You'll probably want it later on anyways. When you perform the piercing, get a washable marker and make a dot where you want the needle (or special "piercing earring") to go. Have ice ready for right after you do it. Make sure the earring is all the way in before you use the ice though. It may bleed a lot so be prepared for that too. If you're doing this without your parents knowing you should tell them about it, they're going to find out anyways and you could save yourself a lot of greif. Good luck!

i have a friend who ive known for 2 years, we've dated on and off through out those two years, i love him too, but there wont be anymore relationship because he's moving to another state.. his sweet 16 is on the 19th.. which is why i need to get something special for him, does anyone have any cool ideas, cuz i cant think of anything, i can spend up to like $50 maybe a little more, but not a lot

**Thank you to anyone who gives me ideas**

*it needs to be really special too*

Get him tickets to a concert in his area, that would be really great. A video game is another idea, or a new shirt. If you have a lot of pictures of him with his friends a scrapbook, slide show, or collage would be really great too. Any gift from you will have the same romantic effect for him. Try to stay away from purposely romantic stuff because he may get upset about it. You're not in a relationship currently and he may be as upset as you are about being separated from you. Good luck and make sure you stay in touch with him!

I was looking through a few questions on religion (Not a darn clue why, I just was) and I was reading a question about a girl who wanted to become Buddist.

An answer she recieved made me a little upset. This person that answered kept saying how she was choosing the wrong religion and that being Buddist is wrong.

I've noticed things like this before, strong Christians (yes, it is mostly Christians) criticizing other religions. They will rant on and on about how it's the wrong religion.

What is so wrong with believing in Buddah? Why do you have to criticize people who do not believe in God? We have the right to choose our religion and the right to choose no religion at all.

Why do you believe that your religion is the only "right" religion? This has been bothering me for a while.

I really don't want any Christians on this site to feel that I am directing this ONLY at you. But what I've seen on this site about 90% of the people criticizing people for their religion are strong Christians. So, I'm just basing my question on the majority.

I'm sorry if this question has offended anyone.

What you believe is what you think is right no matter what religion you are. You may not have any problems with other religions, but you stick to your own and even though you feel other religions are wrong, people are free to believe what they want. Part of being a Christan is helping people understand Christianity in the hopes that they become Christians. Christians feel that they are helping people by letting them know about God and their religion. They're not doing it to force other people to believe what they believe. Christians want other people to accept Jesus as their Lord and Savior because they want them to be saved and able to go to heaven...accepting Jesus is the only way to get to heaven. Sometimes young, inexperienced, or fanatical Christians will go about this in a seemingly foreful way. Usually they're not being forceful about it, they just don't know exactly how to say things as to not appear to be forceful. It's likely they don't understand Christianity well enough to be able to explain it well enough, but they know it's their duty to try to bring others to God. They have good intentions, they just don't have enough knowlege on the subject or just have a really hard time putting their knowledge into words that non-Christians can understand. If I knew someone that was overweight I may tell them something like "being heavy like you are isn't healthy for you, you should try losing some weight". A doctor may tell this same person exactly why it's unhealthy and exactly what they should do in a more professional way. The person would feel awful about themselves from what I had said and would be more likely to believe and follow what the doctor told them because the information was presented to them in a better way.

I am a Christian, but I don't try to convert people that don't want to be converted. When the subject comes up I will always explain my beliefs, and when I feel the subject should be brought up I explain my beliefs then too. I explain them as being right because I believe they are. I'm not foreful about it. I feel that people looking at me and seeing my life, my happiness, my strong beliefs, and my devotion to Christianity may become interested in it and make an effort to learn more themselves. My job is only to introduce, advertize, and encourage. It's always the other person's choice. It's just like giving advice. I can say all I want, but it's your choice in the end no matter what. Christans are obligated by their religion to advise other people to become a part of it.

I know a lot of times it really comes out the wrong way, but just try to understand it from a Christian's point of view. If you moved to a new school and the first week you were there you had to show a new student around, you'd have a very hard time. I hope that some of what I said made sense and I hope that it's correct, because I will admit that even though I've been a Christian all my life (almost 20 years), I am still rather inexperienced.

ok my parents were not home so i took there car out to practice my driving.then i took the car to go out to the mall and go shopping.when i came back from shopping there was a huge scratch on the hood of it!please help!!!

You can't get a scratch on the hood of a car by just driving it to the mall and to go shopping and stuff. Unless you know what caused it there's no way your parents can trace it back to you. It may have been there before you left the house and you didn't notice it. Don't tell your parents that you took the car when the scratch was already there! What you should do if you have no idea what caused the scratch is pretend that nothing happened. If you do know what caused the scratch you should tell your parents about it. It's better for them to know before they find the scratch themselves. Taking a car without permission is a serious no no. The chances of getting caught are high, there's so many things that can happen. It's just not a good idea at all to take your parents' car unless you need it. I've done it before and it's not worth it. Just get permission next time. Good luck!

ok well im 14/f. and muh period skips months a lot of times. i mihgt have muh period only 3-5 times a year. the last time i had muh period was in july. IM NOT PREGNANT bcuz im still a vigin. so is it normal for my age that my period doesnt come on time? is there somethin i can do ?

Definitely. I used to be just like that. You're really lucky...periods suck. There's lots of reasons why this may happen, when you're young it's usually not very regular and sometimes if you're very active you can skip your period too. There's not much you can do about it. Going on birth control pills will sometimes regulate your period, but you're not having a serious problem with it so there's not much of a point in that. It's perfectly normal don't worry!

I feel numb. I can get out of bed, go to work, joke with people, do things I love, and still feel this way. I just can't seem to shake it off. I feel hollow inside, and I don't really know WHY.

Sometimes I only sleep 2-3 hours a night. Other nights I sleep 12-13 hours. I also do not eat properly anymore, even on my good days. Some days I'll just eat an apple for breakfast/lunch and about 1/3 of my dinner. I just don't feel hungry. But even when I am starving, I fix up a big meal and try to put the food in my mouth, but I have to stop because it makes me feel like vomiting. Believe me, I fix meals every day and try to eat snacks but most of it ends up in the trash or back in the fridge. I don't think I am fat, in fact, I think I am too skinny and wouldn't mind some curves on my body. I think maybe my mind is in such anguish that it wants the body to suffer too.

Please don't be like... just eat something!!! Just be happy!!! Believe me, I TRY. It's not as easy as some people think. I have been down the road of counselling (no help) and meds(made me act ADD) for depression before, but this feeling seems different to me. Just numbness, not really saddness/pain/hopelessness like the depression I felt in the past (about 3 years ago).

Depression medication isn't happy pills. It's not drug induced happiness. You have a hormonal imbalance and you need something to fix it. It's just like putting a band aid over a cut. You are in mental pain. Don't you take pain relievers when you have a lot of physical pain? It's the exact same thing. When you have a bad headache you just aren't yourself. My cousin has really bad depression and without medication he can't be himself. He's really mean and he can't think clearly. With the medication he's able to go to school, have a job, and be around other people. Even though your depression may not be as severe as this you are suffering from the same thing. Pain. Depression meds are pain pills not happy pills. Please talk to your doctor and try the medicine again. This isn't going to just go away and there's no way for you to just fix it. Depression is serious and can cause lots of problems for you if it goes untreated.

I think that you should try a different kind of medication. There are tons of different types of meds for depression just like there are tons of different types of birth control pills. You and your doctor just have to find the one that's right for you. I know what you mean by feeling numb...I've felt that way before, probably not to the extent that you are feeling it, but I really understand what you're going through. I couldn't eat much and had the same sleeping problems as you did. I decided that what was wrong was that I had insomnia. I was going through a lot of stress and change in my life and I couldn't take anymore so I just went completely "numb" I don't believe that it was depression. I would wake up after 2 hours of sleep and neither feel tired or awake. I'd just go through the motions. Maybe you should talk to your doctor about insomnia. I dunno, just a can do is try another type of medication. I hope thought. Really though, the best thing that you that you feel better soon and I'm sorry I couldn't help you more. Good luck with everything.

im 13 female

Im turning Vegetarian for 3 reasons.

1. i really dont like eating meat

2. i am against experimentation on animals, so why eat them when im against what people do to them

3. no one thinks i can do it..

do you know anything that is meat less ( food ) that is good that i can make

thanks
i rate 5's

One of my best friends decided to become a vegetarian awhile ago and she had a very hard time with it for many reasons. I want to make sure you know what you're getting into so you don't have the same problems as she did. If you are going to be a vegetarian you have to be very committed to it. It's hard. When you go to a restaurant there's usually not that many vegetarian entrees and you may not like any of them. You may eat something with meat in it and not realize it until after. Our society just doesn't facilitate vegitarianism. Another thing you need to look out for is keeping a balanced diet. When you don't eat any meat, you're not getting very much protein, which can be really bad for you. You have to eat other things with protein in them. One more thing is that you need to decide what type of vegetarian you want to be. Some vegitarians will eat seafood, others will eat chicken, others will eat no meat at all and then there's vegan vegetarians who eat no products that come from animals whatsoever (like milk, eggs etc.). It's a really good thing what you're doing and I respect you a lot for it. Being a vegetarian is a very good thing to do.

I think that the best thing you can do to make sure that you get a balanced diet, not just a diet without meat, is to purchase a book about vegetarianism. There are lots of them out there and they will help you get the right amount of protein and give you really great recipes. Sure I can sit here and tell you, well grilled cheese doesn't have any meat in it, salad doesn't have any meat....but there's more to being a vegetarian than that. You could figure that stuff out on your own anyways. Another suggestion is to see a dietician. I think that this is the best thing that you can do. A dietician specializes in this kind of thing and will be able to help you a LOT. Being a vegetarian my be difficult, but if you see a dietician and buy recipe books and everything it will be so much easier. One last thing, vegetarianism isn't for everybody. Don't make trying to impress your friends the only reason to stick to it. I hope that everything works out for you and good luck!

Ok well see I am a 13/f and my dad like hits me all the time with like eather a wooden stick or his hands or whatever he has in reach and it usually leaves bruises.....and like he always tells me when he does it that I could never call the police and get him in trouble because he will just say that it's his way of "punishing me". And like I always ask him why doesnt he just ground me or something else and he always says that he thinks this will work better.....but I really don't think it does. What should I doo?? Is this considered abuse or not??

thanxxx

ABSOLUTELY! If he tells the police that he hits you to punish you they will arrest him on the spot. That's a really bad excuse, there isn't any excuse to hit someone like that. Abuse is a really horrible thing to go through and it's tough to get out of. You have to do something as soon as possible though because the abuse needs to stop. You have a few options here. You can either tell someone at school like a guidance counselor, call the police, or call social services. This is a really horrible thing you're going through and it can be over with very soon if you get help. Good luck!

I have a '05 mustang GT and I wont let anyone drive it. I don't even let my best friend who I've known since we were 3 drive it. But, apparently, my bf thinks he should be an acceptation.

We were supposed to go to a concert last night. Well, he called me up and told me that we can't take his car because he didn't have any gas and we were running late. I told him that I didn't want to take my car because the concert was in a different city and I didn't know how to get there. He gets very irritated when he has to tell someone where to go when they are driving. So, me driving was not an option.

He then suggested that he drives my car. I said no. He asked why not and I told him what I always tell him, no one drives my car.

I said that I'd even pay for the gas and that I didn't care if we were a few min. late.

He didn't pay attention to that and got all upset because I wouldn't let him drive. We ended up in an argument and didn't go to the concert.

I have my reasons for not letting my friends drive my car. Most of which is because most of them are not responsible drivers. So I don't see why my bf feels that he should be an acceptation. I'm not going to let him drive it and I'm not going to apologize. Should I just wait until he comes around?

I can see why you don't want anyone driving your car, I would probably be the same way. It's okay to be protective, but there comes a point when you can go a little overboard. In the situation you described I would say that you did the right thing. It really sucks that you didn't get to go to the concert, it doesn't take that long to put gas in a car. Your boyfriend overreacted. He knows how you are about your car and should have respected that.

However, what would you have done if his car had been completely broken down? There comes a point when you do need to make a few sacrifices. I'm not saying you should have let him drive your car, but you could have driven it and put up with him being irritating. If you are going to make him put up with not driving your car (which is perfectly okay) you're going to have to put up with him being irritating. It's just not going to work if you have BOTH of those standards. The reason why he overreacted is because he's frustrated with all the restrictions you are putting on him. He's mad that he can't drive your car and he's ALSO mad that you can't drive with him as a passenger. If he were mad about not driving the car and you were mad about him being irritating about giving directions then it would be balanced. You can't always have it completely your way. Relationships are supposed to be give and take with a lot of compromise.

One last thing. Your boyfriend isn't just any old friend. My guess is that he's not a bad driver and if you let him drive your car once or twice it would make him feel REALLY special. My boyfriend is EXACTLY the same way as you are about his car even though it's a piece of junk, but he's let me drive it a few times and it was one of the best gifts he ever gave me.

So, what I'm trying to say is, just be careful as to how many restrictions you're putting out there and try to compromise as much as you can. You should give up some of your power in this situation, it's driving your boyfriend crazy and you don't want this to be the reason why you two break up, that would be pretty silly, but I've seen worse. Still stick to not letting others drive your car, but realize that you need to let other stuff go because of this harsh restriction. I hope that everything works out and good luck!

hey ya'll.... ok im a 13 year old girl and i live with my dad and my twin brother... i have to share a room with my brother and as you might know i have no privacy whatsoever... okay like 1 day ago i started my period for the first time...but i odnt know how to tell my dad because i need to go buy some more supplies... and i dont want to tell my brother but im sure hell find out and i kno it will be akward.... so heres my question.. how do i tell my dad(hes a manly man) and i want to tell my brother so it wont be as akward if he finds out on his own.......how do i tell them?!?!!??!?!?o ya and how do i tell my brother to keep his mouth shut cause at the moment i dont want anyone to know!?!?!?!? thanks!

Your dad will completely understand. He's dealt with it before in his life. You're about the age when girls start their periods and I'm sure he's thought about it already. Your dad does need to know though. Don't try avoiding talking to him about it and trying to get supplies in another way. After awhile your Dad will figure it out and probably be upset that you didn't tell him. Don't be nervous either, just go up to him and say something that's a little indirect like "Dad, can we go to the store and get some feminine products?" Your shouldn't tell your brother. If he finds out he won't tell anybody. Telling him will just gross him out especially if you share a room with him. Thirteen year old guys are pretty immature about stuff like that. If he finds out he'll pretend that he didn't so no worries there. Good luck with everything!

where can i have mi b day pleaze help fast ? !!

Here's a few ideas

Skating rink
bowling alley
indoor swimming pool (like the YMCA or something)
movie
sleepover

Good luck!

I Have No Idea what this means. Ok you kno the song 'Mr. Brightside' well in t he song it talks about a drag. Whats that mean?? All 5s Thanks

I believe that in the song it means "to take a puff of a cigarette or cigar". The guy is smoking and she takes a puff from his cigarette. Hope I helped!

okay so basicaly i have the worst time ever talking to guys. just get all nervous haha. and well i suck at flirting. and there is this guy that i really really like and he is always like stairing at me. but he doesnt seem to really notice im there.. and i was just wondering what the hell i should do to get this guys attention..? :) any help/ advice you can give is greatly appreciatied.

I know that this can be really hard, but you need to try not to be shy around him. I'm sure you can flirt up a storm with him and that's the best way to start. You need to make yourself noticed to him. There's no way he can know that you like him unless you either tell him or show him. When I was in high school a very similar thing happened to me, but I never expressed my feelings to the guy in any way. If you keep being shy around him you may regret it. Sometimes you have to do things that are really hard to get what you want in the end. I hope everything works out for you. Good luck! P.S. It's not bad to be shy, don't change yourself, just let this guy know how you feel about him in any way you want

evertime i become friends with guys i wind up either falling for them and getting hurt or something else. but it ALWAYS ends up BAD.
i cant handle it anymore so ive givin up talking to boys, looking at boys, talking ABOUT boys, being with boys, having a boyfriend, you got the point.

over-reacting? is this typical? any other advice..?

You're fine. My guess is that you're young. I did this to a degree myself. It seems like you're just not ready for guys to be a part of your life. Don't worry about it, when you are ready there will be lots of opportunites for you and you will be able to see a lot clearer and understand guys a lot better. Sometimes it's good for you to sit back for awhile and keep guys out of the picture. At this time in your life hormones are raging and a lot of times it's best to do what you're doing to keep yourself from making a bad decision and getting hurt. Don't completely throw guys out of your life though. Good luck!

Ok,for Halloween my friend Lisa suggested I dress up as a French Maid.And I did,I went the whole nine yards shaved legs,high heels,makeup everything.Now all my friends think I'm gay.The worst part of all this is that I really enjoyed being all dressed up.I had a long talk with Lisa about this and she said the reason why she suggested the costume was because she always thought I was a bit girly she said if I wanted to she will help me shop for clothes and stuff.The problem is if I do this everyone will def think I'm gay.I'm so confused I just don't know what to do.Thanks for Listening.

Alright...I'm assuming you're a guy...knowing your age would have helped A LOT...next time make sure you specify both because it makes it a whole lot easier for us. So, using my assumptions I need to tell you that having fun in a halloween costume, having a "girly" personality, crossdressing, being a metrosexual being a homosexual, and wanting to be the opposite sex are all completely different things. They are all completely unrelated. You need to decide for yourself which is/are true for you. There are lots of stereotypes floating around and your friend Lisa should not be able to convince you that you're homosexual just because you liked a halloween costume. Listen to her and respect what she says, but you also need to understand that she is using a stereotype to determine your sexuality. You should still talk to her about it because she obviously cares about you a lot as a friend should. Just be careful. She could be right, and she is being a very good friend to you, but this is something that you need to decide for yourself. I hope that you figure everything out soon. Good luck!

Okay, I'm 20, I've never had a boyfriend, and I've had this nagging (We'll call it "Women's intuition) feeling that a friend of mine really likes me. I'm pretty sure he likes me because of the way he treats me. I could go on and on about the signs, but there's way too many of them...see, I don't feel the same way about him...I'm terrified that any day he's gonna' say, "by the way, I really like you and wanna' be your boyfriend" in the middle of a conversation...I've politely declined several boys before, but this one is especially hard, because I consider this boy to be one of my best friends...like a brother. And breaking his heart is the last thing I wanna do. Even though it's unavoidable if in fact he does like me, I would like to know the least painful way to respectfully say "no thanks"...

Thank you!!

S

Personally, I think that you should say yes. You may be passing up a great relationship with a great guy if you don't. Even if it doesn't work out there's no reason why you can't still be friends. A friend is a great person to be in a first relationship with especially when you're a little older. If you still want to decline though, the best thing for you to say is that you like how things are now and you don't want to risk losing what you have with him because he means more to you as a friend than any relationship could ever mean. I hope everything turns out the way you want it and good luck!

Hey! I need some fund raising ideas. I need to raise 300 dollars for dance team costume. What would be some good ideas. Remember its cold so no car washes xoxo

Price Chopper and maybe other grocery stores can help you out big time with supplies for a spaghetti dinner. You can make a lot of money if you advertize around school and stuff. People love spaghetti dinners. Good luck!

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