|
I like somebody but I don't like him
Okay, I'm 20, I've never had a boyfriend, and I've had this nagging (We'll call it "Women's intuition) feeling that a friend of mine really likes me. I'm pretty sure he likes me because of the way he treats me. I could go on and on about the signs, but there's way too many of them...see, I don't feel the same way about him...I'm terrified that any day he's gonna' say, "by the way, I really like you and wanna' be your boyfriend" in the middle of a conversation...I've politely declined several boys before, but this one is especially hard, because I consider this boy to be one of my best friends...like a brother. And breaking his heart is the last thing I wanna do. Even though it's unavoidable if in fact he does like me, I would like to know the least painful way to respectfully say "no thanks"...
Thank you!!
S
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
If your definetly 100% not interested, then just let him know if he confronts you..
To maybe test him, pretend that you met a guy somewhere and see what his reaction is like..
If he gets angry/jeleous then theres your answer
Dont lead him on, and make it quite clear that you only see him as a brother..
Guys come and go , Friendships lasts forever.
]
Personally, I think that you should say yes. You may be passing up a great relationship with a great guy if you don't. Even if it doesn't work out there's no reason why you can't still be friends. A friend is a great person to be in a first relationship with especially when you're a little older. If you still want to decline though, the best thing for you to say is that you like how things are now and you don't want to risk losing what you have with him because he means more to you as a friend than any relationship could ever mean. I hope everything turns out the way you want it and good luck!
]
hmm what you can do is let him know that since he's your good friend, you don't want a bf/gf relationship to ruin that friendship. let him know that he means a lot to you & if anything would happen with your friendship, you'd really want that back. explain how you feel & i don't think he'd be upset about it. he'll probably understand where you're coming from & will appreciate that you're being honest.
-hope that helped!♥
]
More Questions: |