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abuse?????????
Ok well see I am a 13/f and my dad like hits me all the time with like eather a wooden stick or his hands or whatever he has in reach and it usually leaves bruises.....and like he always tells me when he does it that I could never call the police and get him in trouble because he will just say that it's his way of "punishing me". And like I always ask him why doesnt he just ground me or something else and he always says that he thinks this will work better.....but I really don't think it does. What should I doo?? Is this considered abuse or not??
thanxxx
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im am sooooo srry about that my opinion in that is one,yes it is abuse most defenitly..two,i really think u should call the cops on him cuz that is abuse!!!hope everything works out,ashleyand amber:)
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well im only 1 year older than you so im not that smart.. but like i think its abuse in a way. you dad should NOT be hitting you in any way! thats just wrong.. maybe see your school consulor and talk to her or someone else who u can trust and count on ! but try to find something to stop your dad from doing this !! =)
and just know that even if you dont think your dad is a good person.. you have many other people out there who love you
hope everything works out !!
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yes, this is a type of abuse. i know you love your dad very much and you think it would be wrong to get him in trouble. have you talked to another adult about this topic? you should. you are way to old to be getting hit, grounding is much better. sit down and have a mature discussion, and if it results in harm, contact the police.
always,
helpingbuddy01
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Yes it is considered abuse. Call the police and see what they have to say about that one. Then they can have their ways of "punishing him"
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It's called abuse. Report it.
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YES IT IS ABUSE!!!!!!!!!!!
oh my god, call the police, what he's doing is illegal on MANY levels. it is illegal to hit people, even adults.
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this is definitely abuse and you should tell someone immediately!
you have a couple options. you can either call 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) this is a child abuse hotline. they are on call 24 hours everyday and are willing to talk to anyone. or you can call the police, or tell an adult, guidance counselor, school teacher, or anyone else who can help you out. i hope you get it worked out!
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you should tell a neighbor are your teacher.thats not right what your dad is doing to you.
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You should tell your mom and then you should tell the police. They won't believe him if you have bruises. Just call the police whenever you want to. YOU NEED TO!
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Yes that is definitly abuse..and you shouldnt let it continue...you might love your dad or hate your dad either way he needs help. You should talk to your school guidance counselor or call a teen abuse hotline. There is a chance your dad will go to jail but he also might be able to get help for his problem...and be a part of your like again later on. If you need someone to talk to im mme at angleyezxo21xo! Good luck! ♥ caitie
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Dear Abuse?????,
I agree with what toXic x baBii x3 said. Yes, what he is doing is abuse. If he needs to punish you, then he needs to find another way to do it. Hitting you anywhere but your bottom and with anything other than his hand is abuse. If he is leaving bruises then he is just leaving proof of abuse. Regardless of what anyone else here has said, it is against the law and you can press charges against him. Although this may cause him to rage against you even more. By law, anyone who brings you physical harm is committing assault with bodily harm, as is punishable with jail time. Anyone who threatens to bring you physical harm is guilty of attempted assault and and harassment. By law you can have a restraining order put against him.
The punishment should fit the crime. What things are you doing to need punishment?
This is my suggestion, because it is obvious he has you too scared to call the police: (I have given this advice to others as well)
Keep a diary of every time he hits you. Make sure you write down exactly what you did to set him off. DO NOT LIE, or exaggerate. This will make you look like the liar and no one will believe you. Keep the diary in a safe hidden spot that he can never find. Every time he leaves a bruise, take picture of it and what he used to hit you with, put the date and time on the photo and then hide it with your diary. This is gathering proof of the type of abuse you are enduring. Your diary and photos should go hand in hand. For every photo, there should be an entry in your diary that describes what you did to make him mad, and what punishment he gave you. See, your diary, if put together right can be evidence in a court of law. Now the next step to ensure you are believed is to have witnesses to the abuse. Immediately after being abused call someone and tell them about it. Also, little tape recorders are good witnesses too. You can pick one up at any radio shack. Keep this on you and record when ever you are around him. Keep these tapes with your diary as well.
It is not illegal for you to tape any thing he does that involves dealing with you. It is only when neither party is aware of the conversation that it is not allowed as evidence in court. Only one party has to know they are being taped for it to be admitted into evidence. You know that you are being taped and that is good enough.
You need to get proof and documentation of the abuse. When you have recorded like two or three months of this behavior, take all of your photos, tapes and diary to the nearest Child Protective Services. Tell them you are afraid what he is going to do to you when he finds out that you told someone. They will place in a safe environment, you can tell them of a relative you may feel safe with. CPS will always try to place children with family first.
Things may get rough, but I think you are strong and have been through a lot already. Just remember that things may get worse before they get better, but at least you will not be getting abused.
Try not to make him mad anymore, if he just gets mad for no reason then you need to stand up for yourself and start keeping the diary. I hope things work out for you, and good luck.
Remember to stay honest and keep you head up. I hoped I helped :)
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
P.S. If the abuse gets any worse, get out of there. Stay with a friend or a relative and definitely report it to the police.
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Hi hun.My name is cortney.. Im 14. and yes this is called abuse. No one deserves to be hit like that... even if you have done simething wronge.. Doesnt anyone see the bruises.. dont he see that he is hurting you.....? You need to tell someone... may be your mom... if you have one.. or any other family member... or a teacher... any one that can help......
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You need to talk to talk to other adult like a trusted teacher would be best. Tell them what is happening and why. Then the teacher will do what she needs to do. This is considerd child abuse. this is my advice:)
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yeah, that qualifies as abuse. call the cops, or talk to your school's guidance consellor
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Yes and no. It isn't against the law for a parent to spank, slap, hit, etc. their children. Just because you have bruises on you doesn't mean that the police will listen to you. They won't because sometimes kids will put bruises on themselves and say their parents did it. So, the cops aren't and can't do anything about it. THEY WILL NOT ARREST HIM OR PUT HIM IN JAIL! Who ever said that has no idea what they are talking about. You can't get him in trouble that way so he is right about that. What you should do is tell your mom is you can. I don't know what your situation with your parents is so I'm not sure if she can do anything about it or not. If they are together she should do something about it. If they are divorced, maybe you could move in with her.
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If he does this repeatedly, more than 4 times a week, then it's abuse. If he leaves alot of bruises, although corpal punishment isnt illegal if he is leaving many bruises and does this all the time call the cops. And don't be scared to, just because it's your dad or you're scared he'll hurt you. If you don't do something soon you could be critcally injuried!
*Paige
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OMG YEA!! Physical abuse!! Thats totally wrong, you should call the police now!!
♥ xO
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ABSOLUTELY! If he tells the police that he hits you to punish you they will arrest him on the spot. That's a really bad excuse, there isn't any excuse to hit someone like that. Abuse is a really horrible thing to go through and it's tough to get out of. You have to do something as soon as possible though because the abuse needs to stop. You have a few options here. You can either tell someone at school like a guidance counselor, call the police, or call social services. This is a really horrible thing you're going through and it can be over with very soon if you get help. Good luck! <3
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call 911 now.
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Yes. I would say that's physical abuse. definitely. You should tell your mom [if she doesnt know about it] or someone you trust, or even a school counselor. Things might get hectic from then, but it's for the best. Your dad says "it's his way of punishing you" but his way is wrong. There are better ways to punish people then by beating them. Beating people doesn't work better, it scars them and causes emotional damage. Tell someone and tell them soon.
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Yes, I'm sorry to say this is considered abuse. Try talking to your mom, guidance counseler, teacher, friend's parent, anyone and make them aware of the situation and ask them for advice. Make sure your dad doesn't know! Act fast! Don't let him keep doing this to you!
Good luck!
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Well his way of punishing you is abuse. It just is. I bet it would be much easier for you to describe exactly what he does to you, verbally. So if I were you, I would confront a TRUSTED adult, tell them exactly what he does, and then ask them if that is abuse. Good Luck with this and I truely hope all goes well =)
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