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BF and my car
I have a '05 mustang GT and I wont let anyone drive it. I don't even let my best friend who I've known since we were 3 drive it. But, apparently, my bf thinks he should be an acceptation.
We were supposed to go to a concert last night. Well, he called me up and told me that we can't take his car because he didn't have any gas and we were running late. I told him that I didn't want to take my car because the concert was in a different city and I didn't know how to get there. He gets very irritated when he has to tell someone where to go when they are driving. So, me driving was not an option.
He then suggested that he drives my car. I said no. He asked why not and I told him what I always tell him, no one drives my car.
I said that I'd even pay for the gas and that I didn't care if we were a few min. late.
He didn't pay attention to that and got all upset because I wouldn't let him drive. We ended up in an argument and didn't go to the concert.
I have my reasons for not letting my friends drive my car. Most of which is because most of them are not responsible drivers. So I don't see why my bf feels that he should be an acceptation. I'm not going to let him drive it and I'm not going to apologize. Should I just wait until he comes around?
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I can see why you don't want anyone driving your car, I would probably be the same way. It's okay to be protective, but there comes a point when you can go a little overboard. In the situation you described I would say that you did the right thing. It really sucks that you didn't get to go to the concert, it doesn't take that long to put gas in a car. Your boyfriend overreacted. He knows how you are about your car and should have respected that.
However, what would you have done if his car had been completely broken down? There comes a point when you do need to make a few sacrifices. I'm not saying you should have let him drive your car, but you could have driven it and put up with him being irritating. If you are going to make him put up with not driving your car (which is perfectly okay) you're going to have to put up with him being irritating. It's just not going to work if you have BOTH of those standards. The reason why he overreacted is because he's frustrated with all the restrictions you are putting on him. He's mad that he can't drive your car and he's ALSO mad that you can't drive with him as a passenger. If he were mad about not driving the car and you were mad about him being irritating about giving directions then it would be balanced. You can't always have it completely your way. Relationships are supposed to be give and take with a lot of compromise.
One last thing. Your boyfriend isn't just any old friend. My guess is that he's not a bad driver and if you let him drive your car once or twice it would make him feel REALLY special. My boyfriend is EXACTLY the same way as you are about his car even though it's a piece of junk, but he's let me drive it a few times and it was one of the best gifts he ever gave me.
So, what I'm trying to say is, just be careful as to how many restrictions you're putting out there and try to compromise as much as you can. You should give up some of your power in this situation, it's driving your boyfriend crazy and you don't want this to be the reason why you two break up, that would be pretty silly, but I've seen worse. Still stick to not letting others drive your car, but realize that you need to let other stuff go because of this harsh restriction. I hope that everything works out and good luck!
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That is totally understandable. Confront him and make him understand where you're coming from. Tell him that you trust him and everything but you're car is just something you dont want to take a chance with. I hope all goes well and good luck! =)
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Well if you feel that you are the only one gonna drive it then there should be no eceptions. bc its not fair. bf or not you said no. Yes say sorry for grtting in an argument but calmly explain why you said no. Its a new car! so enjoy it. And if he doesnt come around then hes being really immature. I hope I helped
Bianca
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I know i dont want people driving my car. You are right and he should be an exception. What would you have done if he had gotten in a wreck. I know they say they will be careful but you dont know. You definitely shouldnt hae to apologize b/c it isnt your fault and you had good reason for not letting him drive the car. Just not say anything and if he gets mad b/c you didnt aopolgize then he is not even worth going out. A good guy respects women and respects when they so no and never asks again.
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You are totally in the right and its your perogative. He will come around. In fact, I'm surprised you aren't more upset with him trying to pressure you to drive. He'll get over it. He's just jealous of your car.
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okay if you really insist that noone drives your car then thats what you should stick with .. dont let anyone drive your car bcus i do understand you should be worried about your safety and if anything happens whyle someone else is driving thats not you its your car and it'll be you who's in trouble if anything bad happens .. your bf is acting stubborn .. he miqht not come around you can either give him time or tell him straight out i dont want anyone but me driving and thats it !
qood-luck
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Ignore his little temper tantrums. It is your car and your choice. He can either suck it up and give you directions from the passenger seat or stay home.
He will probably try to make a big issue of this. (I can just hear it now "You should trust me!") Please don't let him, don't make an exception just because he throws a fit.
Some guys just can't stand having the women drive. Sesh.
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Hey!
I am 13 and dont think "oh lets pass this up" .But I can see why you wont let anyone drive it. Its YOUR Car and your friends and your boyfriend cant make you do anything. I would wait till he apologized! :)
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He may not come around. I would stick to your guns on the issue though. Your safety is important and getting in a car with an inexperienced driver can put you in danger. I just lost a friend last week because he got in the car with someone who wasn't experienced driving.
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