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Q: I am 13/f
I have a friend. We'll call her "N". Well N is very moody sometimes. And, yes, I do know about PMS but its everyday. It seems like shes nice to me on and off or when she wants to be. I don't know if she is using me or anything but she just sometimes have this attitude when I talk to her. She doesn't listen or look like she is. And thats one of my BIGGEST pet peeves. But then she talks to me about her day and everything. And I listen and set the example. I think my friend is personally full of herself in ways cuz she thinks she can have any guy she wants and can be conceeded at times. And then calls herself the ugliest thing or not that pretty. (and she is absolutly soooo pretty) It bothers me cause she brings me down. I can never talk to her about my problems. But I have to listen to her?
Please help me
What should I say or do? Because she is very nice but the thing I just typed above..I want to stay her friend.
xo0x :)
simple.. talk to her about it.. i mean dont put very mean but just to get the point across and just let her know that this is how you feel and your getting the idea that she doesnt like u very much

Q: 13/f

Hi,
I am doing a play with a kiss scene. And the person that I happen to be kissing is my guy friend. So its really akward. I really try to make it non-akward after but somehow it just is. And I was going to do the "theatre illusion" of kissing someone but the drama teach says it looks to obvious (putting your thumbs over the person's mouth and kissing your thumbs). Is there any other way to make it illusion? so its not all akward. We already kissed for once and for real. Boy, I was mad. All my friends are like aw, you should go out with him. I mean for heaven's sake! It was a staged kiss!
Any adice?
Por Favor :)
xo0x Pucker Upp
Well maybe one of you could turn your heads a lil bit more and put it in front of you so a little bit of you head well the back of your head is facing the audience.. if u get wat im sayin.. im trying but i cant explain it very well.. or maybe you could just tuck your lips in.. or talk to the guy to see how he feels bout this and make sure it means nothing cuz u guys r friends and it might make things less awkward

Q: in my earth system science class, were studying volcanoes, and well i need some info about volcanoes that erupted in California, if anybody can please help me, id appreceate it if you can give me a really good website or something...im mainly looking for a timeline right now, but anything will do!...I WILL RATE!!...thanx!!
go to www.ask.com and type in like a timeline of volacanoes in california

Q: I'm an only child. Through my childhood, I spend a lot of time at home. I didn't have THAT many friends at school, and I didn't have any friends in the neighborhood, so I was at home a lot, and I spent a lot of time being with my parents. When dad was at work and mom had to go somewhere, I would go. When I was a little girl, I spend SO much time with my mom. And my dad. My friends and other family members would say that I went everywhere my mom went. By 7th grade, I started to get a little...crazy. I got very moody around them, and every little thing they did would bug me. I felt like I needed to get out of the house and get away from them. I got to the point where I would go to my room and cry because they bugged me so much. They weren't abusive, they weren't mean, and they gave me everything I needed and more. But just having them around and nagging bugged me. I disliked them so much. But I didn't tell them, because I had no reason to. They just thought I had developed an attitude. Now, I'm in the middle of high school, and my mom has threatened to leave before because I treat her mean and I get mad at her all the time. And I really shouldn't, I know that. She's a great mom. But now, its like she's always nagging at every little thing and calls me like every 5 minutes (not to 'check up' but she has to have me do something for her, or she has to tell me something that I already know). She doesn't understand anything. And she's nosey. God, I just don't know what to do. I do have an attitude towards my parents, they've given me everything I needed, etc. I just spend way too much time around them. I even told that to my mom one time, and she was crying and yelling at me, saying "Well then from now on, I don't even want to talk to you! You're always so mean to me! From now on, you find your own rides and I just won't have nothing to do with you!" When she told me that I started crying too. I don't totally want her out of my life...I'm so confused. What am I supposed to do?
its being a teenager, and i suppose all you can really do is talk to her about it but be calm and let her know this is a serious conversation and its gunna take guts but next time u try freakin out on them just think b4 it its hard to do but u got to try that

Q: i need some advice please!! on thursday there isnt any school, so me and my boyfriend are planning to go out for a movie, and then over 2 his place. its just going to be us to, and of course we will be doing something! we both are ready to loose it, its just that:

1. im scared i COULD get pregnant
2. im just a lil nervous cause i dont know what to do
3. im sorta of on my period, im bleeding just a tiny, and what if i smell bad?!
well maybe you should just hold this off and let him know that... well its your time its gross but hey i dont think he wants to find out for himself and ues a condom if ya do

Q: hey.. my parents r super protective like they wont let me "date" 1 on 1 till im 16 and they have to meet him and all that crap..althou im dating now and its really hard to go out w. him kas i need to have my friends go w. me so my parents dont explode.. what can i do so i can go out w. him but not get in trouble.?
Well just plan to meet him somewhere or maybe introduce him to your parents cuz you need to start finding out who you like and what not

Q: Last night,I was at a hockey game with my dad and my girl (ex girlfriend now) called me and started cursing me out. She said somebody called her house and cursed her mom out,and her mom said it sounded like me,when it wasn't me who really did it. So she broke up with me and Heidi (my ex) is punished for a very long time. Her mom took away her cell phone,and a bunch of other crap,and Heidi simply refuses to speak a word to me. I don't know what to do. Should I:

1) Give her a couple of days and hope she'll listen to me when I try to explain to her it wasn't me that called her house (I have my dad as proof.)
OR
2) Just move on with my life

This girl means everything to me,and I would do anything to get her back,no matter what extremes I would have to take. I love this girl with all my heart and I really want her back. Please help me out. Thanks
I would go with 1. I know this is late {sorry} but go with one you should have the right to say what you want and tell her the truth weher she pays alot of attention or not

Q: Since it is pretty much the start of winter where I live, it is quite cold. When it gets cold outside, my hands get dry and start to crack and occasionally peel. My question is, is there any hand lotion that would be good for me to use so that it will help prevent from the cracking and peeling? I've used St Ives Whipped Silk and it made my hands start to burn. So if you have any suggestions on a hand lotion to use, it would be greatly appreciated if you'd "share the love". Thank you in advance.
go to walgreens and get this lotion for hands n knuckles i think its a white tubed kind of bottle and its neutrugena

Q: I know there are always all sorts of questions about this kind of thing on here, but I figured I may as well ask and see what you think.
Our one-year anniversary is this sunday. I want to get my guy something interesting...something special. I'd get him jewelry or something, but he never wears jewelry, except one necklace he like...never takes off. I thought about getting him a Kama Sutra book (lol don't ask...my friend thought that up as a joke), but I dunno if I should. What can I get him or make him by sunday? Money's not much of a problem (for once, YES!! I HAVE a job!) so...I just need gift ideas. I appreciate any ideas. Thanks!
Well do a limo and dinner its sweet but its kind of a thing a guy should do for the girl but its still pretty sweet and you'll have fun and it'll be memorable

Q: there is this boy in school and i have a crush on him. i've known him since 1'st grade.he is cute,funny,and really nice.he is never mean to anyone.he gets good grades and everything.he knows me and i know him but he's kinda popular.
i'm not sure if he likes me too.my best friend hates him! i can't tell her i'm afraid she wouldn't understand.what do i do? please help!
Well if it is your best friend then she should have to understand because you 2 are going to have to except the people each of you like and just give it a try just let her know that you and him probably wont last but you just want to give it a shot and its important for her to like him as a friend and to give him one more shot

Q: Ok there is this guy Eddie Im like madly in love with him, but people in my family just wont except him because he is punk and wears eyeliner and black nail polish. they all of a sudden think he is all santanic. I dont know what to do...

Also he lives like a 30 mins away from me would this be a long distance realationship and would it work
It would work only if you put your heart and mind to it you gotta make it work and who cares what other people think they are only judging him and if they got to no him they'd have a new aspect on him i am sure anways. Thats just like judging a book by its cover.. you shouldnt do it.

Q:
Ok I think that I am fat, and I feel like I can't do anything about it. I have tried eating right and exercise and all of that but it doesn't work. I can't stop eating stuff, I work at Dairy Queen and I get a 50% discount on stuff and I always give in and eat there. I have stretch marks and I am going to have to shop at a "fat kid store" soon if this does not change. What should I do? What would motivate me to change this and how can I acquire the will power to change?
Well just excersize but you should try to except yourself on how you are but just excersize and if u want you can diet

Q: I just turned 25, i am single and have a 2 year old daughter. Alot of people find me attractive, but I am completly insecure of myself. I am addicted to attention from males. I fall for a guy very fast and are always too nice. I just cant ever tell if the guy really likes me or is just playng around so I dont stop looking for the right man. I am seeing someone right now and like hom very much but he can be so distant and hard to read. He's very nice and we see eachother often, but why doesnt he show more interst in being with me. He tells me iam hot and we have been intamate but I cant tell how he feels about me, does he want to be exclusive or doesnt he can i ask without freaking him out? either way i would still see him I just dont know what to do.
Talk to him about how you are feeling and see how he is feeling about all this and maybe he feels if u 2 get 2 close then he might have to take the stepdad role and maybe he thinks you dont want that figure for your daughter or something wierd like that so just talk to him

Q: ok, so all my friends are fuck!ng crazy! they have way to much drama and its really getting on my nerves. they have all pretty much dated with one another or hooked up with them. but now, they all hate who the others are going out with. its funny to be me sitting back and watching them fuck up their lives, but how do i get them to realize that its best to just grow out of that shit and enter the real world?
Well just let them know that how they are acting is being childish and to act their age and not their shoe size and to grow up. Let them know that its immature and that if u can stay out of fights then they can to

Q: my parents are always giving me compliments on how beautiful i am, blah blah blah. i hate it!! it annoys me so much, and i don't know how i'm supposed to respond. it doesn't bug me when my friends compliment me and stuff, but i absolutely hate it when my parents do it. i cant even fix my hair in the mirror without my parents looking at me and saying to eachother "look at my daughter, shes so pretty". i used to wear my hair up all the time and i used to wear glasses. my parents got me contacts, and i liked wearing them, but when i didn't they would get mad, especially my dad. they would be like "wheres your contacts, you're so pretty. and wear your hair down!" omg, so i stopped doing it because i hate getting compliments from them. i wear my hair down and contacts now because they stopped complimenting me about that, but still they compliment me. i cant even put on makeup in front of them because my mom would just stop and watch me. i hate it! what am i supposed to do? i feel like i cant even groom myself and try to make myself pretty now because of them saying something. i don't like it when they do it. what do i do?
just tell her to knock the compliments off but they are nice every so often and if they are told all the time they arent as nice if u get them all the time and its something u want to know is ment and not just said.. weather she means it all the time but just tell her to lay low on them every so often

Q: why does my cat barf a lot
eww laura try not to feed her the wrong food

Q: hi ive had this horrible sore throat for like 6 days. ive tried everything and nothing seems to work. ive stayed home 4 days from school and am really far behind. what is there to do ive watched like every movie and slept but i get so tired, how do i cure this and what can i do while im sick
well have you gone tot he dr.? cuz i am sure they can give you a medicine or something so if that is what you did then you are just gunna have to hang around go on the internet or if yuou are stayin home tomorrow then tape shows that you want to watch tonight and watch thm tomorrow and talk on the internet to your friends instead of that so you are not completely bored

Q: alright well theres this boy named ted..I've been going out with him sence august 6th and like in october he broke up with me and I brok eup with him altogether around 3 or 4 times and all those times we'ver gotten back together..but wednesday he broke up with me because he liked two other people..alina and tara..well alina has a boyfriend and her boyfriend is teds best friend..so he wouldn't get her.. tara is one of my best friends so she wont go out with him because she thinks hes a horrible boyfriend from what he did to me..and becasue she doesn't like him like that and also because hes the kind of boy that likes to be really close with there girlfriends and like make-out and stuff like that and she doesn't like that..so neither alina or tara like him..my friend britney was talking to him today and last night we had a schol dance and he was like staring at me and stuff..and she asked him if he still liked me and he said i dunno and stuff like that and then he asked me to call this girl taylor for him and I think it was so he could ask her out but I'm not sure..it might be that or it might be because she brok eup with her boyfriend yesterday and ted adn her ex are good friends so it might be for him..but I'm just not ready to let go..I'm scared that would be our last time going out..I like him soo much..like I would do anything for him..I know I sound pathitic but its true..I'm scared that if I dont get him back I might do something to myself because he was like my life..so my question is how to get him back..I dont wanna hurt myself because I've done it before but not for that reason...and I really need him back but I dunno how to .. please help..I'll rate high

Well sorry hunny but seriously its time to let go and move on im sorry to put it like that but i dont want to have u hurt again

Q: I have these dark circles under my eyes. They're huge though, and I can't cover it with makeup! They go from my nose (by my eyes), and go down in a round motion (which lines up with the end of my nose). They fade as they go down. How do I get rid of it??
Well there is something at wal-greens some lady thru on the ground and i picked it up to look at it and it was something about bags. i also saw a commercial for that stuff..

Q: my friend name is Brittany she has a b.o. problem and ervery1 hates it. i dont kno wat to say ta her wit out hurtn' her feelns' but can somebody pleaze help me out thanks.

i rate very high.

signed confused friend.
have her sleepover and u take a shower and be like why dont u hop in the shower lol haha yeah it works for me.. i mean i never had a problem with that but all my friends end up jumpin in the shower anyways

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My name is Trix, I am 17. I love pink, and degrassi.

I just recently got out of a relationship of 21 months. I love him still but I'm moving on.

I've been there done that im sure

ex. (with the number of expierences)

-Long term relationships (2)
-Bad expierence with BF's family (1)
-Broken bones (11)
-Stitches (2)
-Seen someone killed (1)
-Loss of family (1)
-Cancer in the family (2)
-Family in Iraq (1)
-Mom had brain surgery (2)
-Loss of pet (4)
-Moved from state to state (5)
-New highschool (2)
-Car accident (3)

Like I said "been there done that"

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