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Lost in lust and love
I just turned 25, i am single and have a 2 year old daughter. Alot of people find me attractive, but I am completly insecure of myself. I am addicted to attention from males. I fall for a guy very fast and are always too nice. I just cant ever tell if the guy really likes me or is just playng around so I dont stop looking for the right man. I am seeing someone right now and like hom very much but he can be so distant and hard to read. He's very nice and we see eachother often, but why doesnt he show more interst in being with me. He tells me iam hot and we have been intamate but I cant tell how he feels about me, does he want to be exclusive or doesnt he can i ask without freaking him out? either way i would still see him I just dont know what to do.
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Intimacy should have given you the go ahead to ask about exclusivity. You have a responsibility to your daughter and to yourself. Worry less about receiving compliments or affirmations of your physical attractiveness from guys, and find a guy that is less focused on what you look like, and more concerned with your financial security and emotional well being. If this guy that you are seeing is only telling you that you are hot, and not how much he cares about you and wants to take care of you and be a part of your life and your daughter's, than you are wasting your time. All of us girls are guilty of falling too fast and being too trusting of guys, but you need to figure out how to make it on your own independently first. Then when a guy comes along that is truly deserving of your time, let HIM be the one to wonder what he needs to do to keep your interest.
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Talk to him about how you are feeling and see how he is feeling about all this and maybe he feels if u 2 get 2 close then he might have to take the stepdad role and maybe he thinks you dont want that figure for your daughter or something wierd like that so just talk to him
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I wouldn't know anything about having a child and still trying to date, I can imagine how difficult that must be. Your addiction to attention from males is something you should probably work on, if its getting in the way of caring for your daughter, but from what I can tell, that's not even an issue. About this guy, I would talk to him about it. I personally don't like being the situation of not knowing where the relationship is going. I actually went through this last weekend (unfortunatley now, I know this routine too well). I have been dating a guy on and off now for about a month, we've been intimate and he tells me how crazy he is about me and talks about things in the future with us, which is always a good thing for him to do. Still I wasn't sure what we were, if I should still be dating other guys. SO, I have problems talking face to face and am much better at expressing myself in writing. I emailed him all the issues and outlined everything that was going on in my mind. We talked about it this week and by being honest and upfront with him he gave me an honest and upfront response. We're working on things and what happens happens. If you get the feeling that he's really not into you like he should be, or if your relationship is strictly just intimate and there's not much of anything else then maybe he's just not into you. I wouldn't buy into all that crap, like that new book He's Just Not Into you, or whatever it's called, all guys are different...but there are some out there who are just looking for an easy piece of ass and you have to make sure that that's not what you are to him. I hope I was of some help. Good luck with everything. And if all else fails, take your daughter out somewhere fun and cheer yourself up.
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you are a mom...how about concentrating on that..and if a guy comes along fine..but if not..well ok.
You have to be a good role model for your child. If he is being distant...let me tell you..he is just not that into to you. That is a great book to help you weed out the creeps
if he wanted to ask you out he would
but..to a guy..taking on a ready made family is hard...if you meet a guy who is inot you and your child..he is a REALLY great person.
so..lose this guy..look for a good guy to let inot your chils' heart and yours.
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