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Long, but please help me.
I'm an only child. Through my childhood, I spend a lot of time at home. I didn't have THAT many friends at school, and I didn't have any friends in the neighborhood, so I was at home a lot, and I spent a lot of time being with my parents. When dad was at work and mom had to go somewhere, I would go. When I was a little girl, I spend SO much time with my mom. And my dad. My friends and other family members would say that I went everywhere my mom went. By 7th grade, I started to get a little...crazy. I got very moody around them, and every little thing they did would bug me. I felt like I needed to get out of the house and get away from them. I got to the point where I would go to my room and cry because they bugged me so much. They weren't abusive, they weren't mean, and they gave me everything I needed and more. But just having them around and nagging bugged me. I disliked them so much. But I didn't tell them, because I had no reason to. They just thought I had developed an attitude. Now, I'm in the middle of high school, and my mom has threatened to leave before because I treat her mean and I get mad at her all the time. And I really shouldn't, I know that. She's a great mom. But now, its like she's always nagging at every little thing and calls me like every 5 minutes (not to 'check up' but she has to have me do something for her, or she has to tell me something that I already know). She doesn't understand anything. And she's nosey. God, I just don't know what to do. I do have an attitude towards my parents, they've given me everything I needed, etc. I just spend way too much time around them. I even told that to my mom one time, and she was crying and yelling at me, saying "Well then from now on, I don't even want to talk to you! You're always so mean to me! From now on, you find your own rides and I just won't have nothing to do with you!" When she told me that I started crying too. I don't totally want her out of my life...I'm so confused. What am I supposed to do?
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same things happening with me... eh. all I can say is tell your mom you have to tell her something. Sit her down in your room when you know she has time to listen. Tell her you love her and she is the greatest mom ever and you love being with her BUT sometimes you are getting older, becoming more independent, and you need a little time to yourself and you need her to start treating you as an adult and stop nagging you so much. Tell her your not angry with her and you don't want her to be angry with you, but you just don't want to end up fighting with her. If that doesn't work, start crying, tell her you can't take that she won't listen to you and drag her over to the computer and make her read what you wrote. good luck!
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Okay..this is happening at home with me too. Tell your parents that now you're older, and things are changin. You love them very much, but they're used to spending alot of time with you. You're their child, and they dont want to let go. Have like a family meeting, and maybe schedule some time to spend with your parents instead of them bugging you all the time. Tell them that you're getting older, and like to have more privacy. And that you don't have an attitude, but your just developing in yous school life and your friends. Yes, i know that you love your parents and all, but you need your own space too. So, i hope i have been helpful, and i hope everything works out fine. I really do understand what you are going through.
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Well you should first have your mom sit down and have a lil discussion with her...Tell her that she bugs u but u don't kno why she does..Then tell her that you just want a while to urself...If that dosen't work..Then just talk to ur dad or sumfin
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go 2 a docter!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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u gave me advice so now im goin' ta give u advice,well tha thing is just sit down wit ure mom and tell her wat u feel like saying and try not ta hurt her feelings but tell her that u luv her but u need ta spend time wit some of ure friends
hope i helped
and if there is any more questions then u can always come ta me for some advice.
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omg i understand you so much my mom does the exact same thing and im in the exact same position,my mom wants to move away. And she keeps threating me to. I dunno if i should go with her or not n she nags all the time to and my dad jus doesnt understand anything. my parents are divorced. And now my dad is having a baby with my step mom and i dont want to stay with him if my mom moves. But i think it is just being a teenager that your growing and you want your own privacy. Your mom is gona get mad because she is looseing her little girl. You guys got really close. And she doesnt want you to grow up and just leave her. She doesnt understand everything your going through but you should try to understand how she feels. I hope this helped
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its being a teenager, and i suppose all you can really do is talk to her about it but be calm and let her know this is a serious conversation and its gunna take guts but next time u try freakin out on them just think b4 it its hard to do but u got to try that
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You are older now..and being a teenager..and an only child is very hard. I mean if you had a sibling..part of their attetnion would be on them..not all on you. It must be very suffocating.
See your parents still see you as a child.
Tell them you love them..but you need some space. you are older now and even though you love them..you do not need them involved in every second of your life.(and they should not be..ok!!)
It is so hard for a parent to let go..that is why the teenage years are so hard..you want to be free..and they still want you to be that six year old that dpended on them for everything.
Find a moment that is calm..and explain to them that you need to grow now as a person..tell them again that you love them..but now they must get a NEW hobby..one that does not include YOU!!
This is so hard..i feel for you...but the more calm.and adult you are..the more they will see as older..,,not younger.
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