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what age did you lose your virginity and how should I be. Don't worry I am not an judge mental person.I am a female and 12 about to be 13 on may 21. (link)
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I was 17, you should definitely be waiting till you are older.
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I'm a 13 year old girl. I'm in a long distance relationship with a 16 year old guy. I love him, but i really don't feel like talking to him, and i don't really have any emotions at the time. I'm not happy, sad, mad, or anything. I just feel nothing right now. I want to cry right now, but i can't, and like i said i'm not sad. I don't know what to do. Am i depressed? (link)
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I wouldn't say you're depressed. Although, don't self diagnose yourself. A lot of people do that and they're usually wrong and there might be something totally different going on.
First, if you think it might be the relationship, fix that whole thing. You might feel trapped, you might be bored with the relationship and want something else. Who knows, I don't know your relationship with this guy.
If it's not that, check other areas in your life.
If you're still feeling this way after all that, go see a doctor.
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ok,i am 13 in my class loads of people are in a relationship. im what you could say a black sheep,i dont hang out in a huge group i move about. I get called a lezbian cus i am a tomboy and i dont have a boyfriend,kinda unfair. I'm not classed as ugly i got offered places at child modeling studios and what not but i just can't get a boyfriend the boys i did have crushes on all said no when i gathered the courage to ask them out. please hel, any advice on what to do?? (link)
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Boys at the age of 13 are really immature. Honestly, you don't want to even be dating at that age because of how immature they can be. Even at 14 and 15 they are pretty immature. Ignore the people who are calling you names. Nothing is wrong with being a tomboy.
Anyways, you don't even need a boyfriend right now. It's way better to be hanging out with friends than trying to impress some boy who you probably won't be with in a few years. Wait till you're a little older to start dating, you'll end up being smarter about it than the girls who are dating right now.
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well i need some help trying to get over a guy ive liked for about 2 years ....i really want to get over him bkuz he hurts me and doesnt cherish what i do for him ...and says hes just not looking for a relationship ...please help i feel stupid and obssesed bekuz i like him alot (link)
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I know exactly how you feel. It will definitely take time to get over him but if you put the effort into it, you will be over him eventually.
You have realized he's no good for you and just thinking about him hurts you, so it's good that you know that and you do want to get over him. A lot of girls try to fight it.
What I think you should do is, try to find other things to do to keep your mind off him. If you have a lot of free time, that is when your mind wanders and you think about him.
Go make yourself busy doing absolutely anything. Go out with friends, make things for your friends and family, find a hobby, anything really.
You'll eventually find someone else you'll be interested in and they'll keep your mind off him. Make sure the next guy you like is a good guy though, you don't want a guy who is a jerk. There are so many guys out there and there is one who is perfect for you.
You'll be over him eventually, just keep yourself busy.
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Although I am sure I'll get a lot of controversy for this, I am a senior in high school and my boyfriend graduated last year. We've been dating for a year. Our relationship has always had ups and downs like any relationship. We have really bad fights, fake break ups, and then make up. Everything is okay in the end.
Lately I've been feeling indifferent about the whole relationship. While he's usually sitting at home and playing videogames all day, I'm at school trying hard to get into college. No matter how hard I try to motivate him, he never seems to want to get a future. I tell him I can't have a future with him if he doesn't try. He says, "I'm trying." He's been saying that for maybe 6+ months now. I don't want to be selfish or inconsiderate, because I know how hard it is to find a job, but I remind him how relatively easy it is to get into college. He never tried his senior year because "it's expensive". I'm dirt poor and so is my family, yet with the right research, I am already applied for college.
Another thing that is getting to me is that he doesn't seem to try in our relationship anymore, either. We go on dates every month or so. He doesn't really go out of his way for me anymore. He drives far to come visit, but he doesn't really ever give me gifts or flowers or anything like he used to. He used to surprise me just because.
I told him he changed, but he says, "No. You have." We fight about it constantly because it makes me feel unloved, and he always puts it back on me, saying I never do anything for him. Okay, I get mad and I am a bit selfish sometimes, but I do a lot for him. I've called several people to get him into college and get him a job. I get him really nice things when I usually don't even have the money for it. I do my best to show him how much he means to me everyday. He doesn't even cuddle with me or kiss me anymore. I barely ever hear "I love you". I only hear it when we fight.
Please help. I just really don't know what to do anymore. This relationship is just dying out so fast... (link)
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I think you should give him time. Stop nagging on him for awhile and see if anything changes. I don't blame you for being that way. If my boyfriend was just sitting around and not going to school, I'd bother him all the time. But nothing really happens when people nag them, it just makes them more upset and push people away.
Give him space and maybe do something nice for him every once in awhile.
I'm assuming you want to make this work with him so that's what I think you should do. If he still isn't working or applied to college, or even treating you better, then maybe it's time for a break.
If anything ever bothers you, don't fight. Fighting ruins people and it's definitely unnecessary. Talk it out. There are a few married couples I know who don't fight at all. They have their disagreements but they take a few minutes away from each other and then talk it out. Your relationship will be stronger without fighting.
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So I have this guy friend and he has asked me if I could sleep over his house, we are best friends but my mom always says " Absolutely not!". Why is she not letting me. I really want to sleep over his house but my mom is like WAY OVER PROTECTIVE. Any way I can convince her to let me stay the night. ANYTHING WILL DO! Please like HELP ME! (link)
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Honestly, I don't think she's being overprotective. I think she's just being protective. I wouldn't be allowed to stay over at a guys house when I was living in my parents home and a guy wouldn't be able to stay over at my house.
I don't know how old you are but if you are living in your parents home, there isn't really anything you can do to change her mind. Even if you tell her you guys are just best friends and nothing like sex will happen, I doubt she will change her mind.
I wasn't even allowed to have the door closed if a guy was in my bedroom.
Everything she is doing is to protect you. Whether everything is innocent or not, she doesn't trust this world we live in.
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Hi, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months and we're in the 8th grade. We've been having trouble with coming up with open-ended questions and good conversation starters. The other day, we were walking outside after school and I said guess what and he said what and I said u now have a free ticket to ask me anything and he said I think I'll hold my ticket.. ? What did he mean by that? Does he not have feelings for me anymore? Should I dump him? (link)
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That doesn't mean he doesn't have feelings for you. It just probably means he wants to hold onto the ticket so that he can think up a good question that he really wants to know.
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Im 12 years old my boyfriend proposed to me hes 17 we are inlove can I get engaged at my age ? (link)
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Well it's illegal in most places to even be dating. So no, there is no way you both can get married. You shouldn't even be dating someone who is 5 years older than you. He can get into a lot of trouble.
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hi 13/f ive cut scince i was 11 its an everyday thing for a full year now. i can go a day or two without it and then i cut and it feels so much better and its like i like it and i need it not to be so wonderfly soothing to see blood gushing from my scarred wrists arms and legs and belly. and even to see the scars slowly changing their colors as they fade is enjoyable to me in a sick way.so ya, how do i stop that feeling i get when i am calm for the ine moment when my razor is gliding over my skin and chemicals release and i geuss i like those and all the drugs death and assholes around me are gone. how do i not want to do it so much? i know theres no quick fix but i need something and someone who isnt a phyciatrist my mom or some teen who wont listen.my mom knows and im on antidepressants they make me kinda suicidal and cut even more so yea help me if you can i nedd someone to talk to now (link)
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Sad to say, there are tons of people who go through this. You need to talk to someone like a counselor. If your anti depressants aren't helping, you need to tell your doctor and tell them what's been going on so they can get the right help for you. If your mom doesn't understand, you need to talk to your doctor or someone you can trust that isn't one of your friends, tell an adult. You should get this help before this carries on any longer.
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Hi,I'm Jazz 14/f.I'm very confused as of right now.
There's this guy named Andrew.He's two years older than me,and also my brother's best friend's.Every since I first met him last year,I've had a crush on him.I would try to go where I knew he would be.
But now,it's different since we all go to the same school.
But my two bestfriend's know I had a crush on him.
But I noticed that he was always finding reasons to talk to me,or help me.But i didn't think anythimng of it,I just thought he was being nice since I was his bestfriend's little sister.
So two months ago,the crush I had on him went away.I just viewed him as a friend.
But this month,he told my bestfriend's he likes me,so they told me,and the crush came back that i had on him.
He asked me out,and i told him i would give him an answer later,and he agreed with that.
He writes me letters every other day now,telling me how beautiful and sweet i am.
He even told me he was always trying to talk to me or help me because he liked me since we first met.
He gets nervous when he's around me,and when I hug him,he get's red and blushes.
He says he gets butterflies when I'm around,and my friends keep telling me to go out with him.
But I feel bad,because he's writing me these nice letters telling me how beautiful and perfect I am,but when I write back all I can honestly say is he's sweet and nice,because I don't love him like he loves me.I don't love him at all.
He told me to do what makes me happy.I told him that dating him isn't gonna make me happy,and neither is not dating him.So i just told him now.
But the next two days i thought it over,and decided to date him.but when we went to school monday,he didn't talk to me,he avoided me,and the next day also.I felt bad.He finally told me he started dating his bff monday,because i was taking to long.he apologized and asked if i was ok.i lied and said yes,and he hugged me,and i had to leave so i wouldnt cry.im trying to foget about him but its not working.I put the letters in his locker,but he left them there refusing to take them back.
Any help right about now would do me good. (link)
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Honestly, he didn't truly like you if he found a new girlfriend that fast. If he really wanted you, he would have waited for you.
He might be a good guy but he seems like he doesn't really know what he wants or he's just a guy who will take any girl who seems interested.
There are plenty of guys out there who will be interested in you, just wait for the right one. So that doesn't mean you have to lose him as a friend but if you still like him, wait for the feelings to go away before you decide to be his friend again. It doesn't mean you have to be mean or rude to him, you can say hi and be nice but wait till you get over him.
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*Ok,Iam going out with thiz 15 years old guy and I'am 13...He's a good guy ,he respects me and with him I have 10monthz going out with him...But the thing is that my dad doesn't trust him a lot...Jst because he doesn't know him a lot .Should I stay with him?Should I allowed my bf to demostrate my dad tht he respects me or should I brake up with him?* (link)
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He probably is a really good guy, but obviously your dad doesn't trust him because he doesn't really know him. Plus, the age difference is big for being your age. I think the two year age difference isn't as weird until it's like 16 and 18 or 17 and 19.
Anyways, if your boyfriend is actually a really good guy who isn't using you or trying to get more than he should then just let your boyfriend talk with your dad and make sure you both respect your dads rules.
13 is really young to be dating but if your dad is ok with it, then go ahead but if he doesn't want you to date or doesn't like the guy you are dating, break it off. There will be more time for dating later anyways.
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heyy well im 14 and i was thinking about getting my belly button pierced ...does it hurt alot ? how does it feel ? i heard that its very easy to infect? & how do i know my body will not reject it ?
thank youu
-KittyGang (link)
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You'll probably be ok if you're not allergic to iodine. They usually ask that before they pierce you. It doesn't hurt too bad. I don't know how to describe the feeling, but it's not really painful. It's definitely tolerable though. It takes usually 6 months or longer to heal. As long as you keep it clean with the directions they give you, you should be ok.
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I got asked out in school on Wendsday and he's my first boyfriend and I don't know what to do! I'm really shy. I really like him but since I don't know what to do I'm scared he'll break up with me.. HELP! (link)
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If he asked you out, he obviously likes you for the way you are. Just relax and act normal. If he likes you for you then he won't break up with you. Eventually you'll become more comfortable around him. Don't stress or worry about it. Just talk to him like a normal person but in a way to make sure he's more than just a normal person to you.
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So i jusr got out of a relationship about 2 months ago with (guy number 1). We broke up because he was way to controlling and i couldn't take it anymore. I also had feelings for a guy in the past i dated before him (guy number 2). I have been seeing the guy from the past (guy number 2) and i felt like i had feelings for him at first but now idk for sure if i do/if it is right. Guy number 1 changed completely and is trying to get me back with me and he wont give up. I feel like feelings are coming back for guy number 1. So now i'm super confused because i like both guys. Help :( what should i do and btw sorry this is so long and confusing to follow i didn't know how else to put it. :p (link)
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Well what you need to do right now, is don't get with either of them.
Because if you choose one, you want it to be the right one.
Now if you are positive guy number 1 changed, then things could work out but you have to make sure he has changed and isn't just faking it to get you back.
Whatever reason you and guy number 2 didn't work out in the past, make sure you think about that and make sure that it won't hurt the two of you if you end up dating again.
And then again, maybe neither of these guys are the one for you. You never know, but you know them better than I do and if you believe it can work out and they are good guys, then take your time to figure out who you really have feelings for
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Ok, so I used to go out with this guy who totally and absolutely used me, so i dont need anyone to tell me that. Whatever we did was physical stuff and fingering and i never really felt comfortable with the kind of physical intimacy that we had. After we broke up, he immediately went out with this other girl, so its been very awkward between the two of us. After this girl left(she was in town only for a month or so) he openly admitted that he wanted me only for physical stuff and asked for a friendship with benefits. Now, I know that he's a jerk and that all of my sensibility has deserted me, but i love this guy. I can see myself having fun if I did take up this friendship with benefits. But I also know that a friendship with benefits is entirely and wholesomely and in every way the wrongest thing that I could do. I am in desperate need of advice on this. Oh and by the way, I am fourteen. (link)
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I've been in your situation. I became intimate with a guy who I was crazy about. He had feelings somewhere for me, but it was mostly all physical to him. I still went along with it. Of course it hurt me, I loved the guy and he didn't see me like that. It'll be fun but trust me, it's not worth it. You're always going to be wanting more from him but he's not going to give that to you. I learned the hard way.
Trust me, you'll find someone better who will actually feel the same for you. I still think about that guy a lot but I'm so much happier now.
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so I am 4,9 147cm last time I see my height but I think I grew taller to 149 cm or 150 cm.I am 16 and my sister 170cm always laught on me because I am short and call me drawf usually.So I ask my mother,father,another sis and my brother to pray for me.To grow taller because they are religous.but when I told my brother .He said: why you want to grow taller your sexy just the way you are.So I am confuseing.I am short and my personality is like little girl .So would a man love short girls (link)
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Well each guy has different preferences. Some guys like tall girls, some guys like short guys, some guys like girl who are in between and average height.
So I don't think this is something to worry about. You'll find a guy who loves you the way you are wouldn't want it any other way.
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I'm 13 years ols and I have fingered myself and I have used a dildo but I need sex I need to have sex with someone because I am horny all of the time .....
I don't no what to do ! (link)
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These are your hormones. You don't "need" sex. No 13 year old needs sex. You're so young and you shouldn't even bother yourself with things like that. Wait until you're older. There are so many bad things that come with having sex. Obviously things can go wrong even if you are on birth control and using protection. You could end up pregnant or with STDs.
People will definitely find out you had sex. Young boys are going through insane hormones as well and would love to use some girl for sex and tell everyone about it.
It also hits you emotionally. You'll regret it, believe me.
Trust me, you don't want sex right now.
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I really like this boy and I can not stop thinking about him.
But the thing is, he hates me and he teased me in primary school.
I don't really see him anymore, but I can't get him out of my head and when I do see him, my stomach flutters.
What do I do?
Should I just get over him? (link)
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Well when you're young, kids tease each other all the time. I really don't understand why you like him though. If he was mean, you couldn't have liked his personality. In my opinion, you should get over him. This thing you have for him is something small and it will go away once you get someone else on your mind. I'm sure there are plenty of good looking guys who are really sweet. Just give it time and you'll be over him.
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Okay so this boy (Ty) and I dated and broke up. We are on the verge of getting back together (no comments on that please). But we need to talk before we get back together and I said to him that he needs to find a day to do that and then he told me that I am in charge of that. He was the one who broke up with me and he is the one pushing to get back together (I mean I want to get back together but I wouldn't have tried to unless he told me he wanted to(if that makes sense)). I think he need to make the plans and talk but he thinks I should. I just want to know if an right that he should be the one to make the plans because he was the cause of the break up. But then I started thinking, it's not just the guys job to do all that. It has to be equal. Right? (link)
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Honestly, I don't think it's that big of a deal who makes the plans to talk. If he wants you to do it, and you're willing to make the plans, then go ahead. It's all good as long as he goes along with those plans. If he gets picky with the plans then he should make them himself.
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I'm 16. I used to like this guy last school year and I ended up telling him and he told me he liked me back and we kissed. He is 16 also. After that I thought we were going to be together or start hanging out with eachother more, but we didn't. Over the summer I got over him, but now that school started again all my feelings have rushed back. I don't want to like him again because I don't want to put myself in the same situation where I was hurt. Now he is flirting with me and I can't help but like it. I want to know why he would kiss me and that's it. I don't know if I should give me and him another try or not. (link)
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I've been in a similar situation. He probably isn't looking for a relationship. If he did want a relationship with you, he would've asked you out and put effort into hanging out with you right?
If you don't want to put yourself in that situation again, don't start talking to him again. I mean, you need to completely get over him by talking to other guys and doing something else with your time rather than thinking about him and flirting with him.
If you still want to consider him, then you should talk to him. Tell him that you're not looking for some fling and you want something real. If he's willing to do that, then ok. But if not, then you know what's on his mind and you can move on.
I was involved with a guy and we told each other we liked each other. We never dated, only kissed and all that. We did it multiple times. I liked him sooo much that I would put myself in those stupid positions. I got hurt so often because I wanted more and he didn't.
So trust me, don't let yourself fall even harder for him than you already are. It's not worth it if he doesn't want the same things.
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