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i need a BF to stop bullying
ok,i am 13 in my class loads of people are in a relationship. im what you could say a black sheep,i dont hang out in a huge group i move about. I get called a lezbian cus i am a tomboy and i dont have a boyfriend,kinda unfair. I'm not classed as ugly i got offered places at child modeling studios and what not but i just can't get a boyfriend the boys i did have crushes on all said no when i gathered the courage to ask them out. please hel, any advice on what to do??
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The previous two advisors pretty much took care of the boyfriend situation. I'll address the bullying problem.
There is no reason you need to put up with being bullied or being called names in school or out. Right now bullying is very high on school administrators agenda. Bullying is a zero tolerance problem. What you need to do is tell a teacher or your school principal you are being teased and bullied and by who. They are required to put a stop to it.
There are many different ways the school can handle this. IF the teasing and bulling doesn't stop then you can ask you parents to step in and have a talk with school officials, or you can just go to your parents first and let them handle it.
As for being a Tomboy; that's no big deal at your age or older really. You may as you get older become more feminine in the way you act and dress or you may not. This is what makes us a unique animal our differences. As the saying goes different strokes for different folks. Just as long as you know who you are and are comfortable with who you are is what counts.
Just so you know there is a difference between being a tomboy and being a lesbian. Being a tomboy does not mean your a lesbian. Some of the kids your age may not know this. You can be a tomboy and still be straight. You can be a tomboy and be a lesbian there is nothing wrong with this either.
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Boys at the age of 13 are really immature. Honestly, you don't want to even be dating at that age because of how immature they can be. Even at 14 and 15 they are pretty immature. Ignore the people who are calling you names. Nothing is wrong with being a tomboy.
Anyways, you don't even need a boyfriend right now. It's way better to be hanging out with friends than trying to impress some boy who you probably won't be with in a few years. Wait till you're a little older to start dating, you'll end up being smarter about it than the girls who are dating right now.
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Keep in mind that 13 year old boys tend to be a bit immature. You are going to have to be patient. Stop worrying about getting a boyfriend and just try to make friends with them. If you are a tomboy it should be pretty easy. You probably have a lot in common with most of them.
Is it the boys or the jealous girls who are doing the name calling? I am gonna just guess it is the girls. Ignore them. They are jealous because they know the guys they like could be attracted to you one day soon.
So, just try to be friends. Once you stop worrying about it, it will happen before you know it!
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