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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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Here is my Recommended Columnist of the Decade for the 2020s:
Laura!




--Jack

advice

to prevent those sweating and get rid of it

Try getting a stronger deodorant, one with antiperspirant, too.

If you're a girl, carry around your deodorant in your purse and continue to apply it throughout the day. If you're a guy, obviously you can't do that.

If that doesn't work, ask your doctor about possibly getting a prescription for it. =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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you see, my mom, she just had another child like august of last year. now, she thinks she might be pregnant again, but she took a pregnancy test, and it came out positive. she also went to a doctor, but they said she wasnt pregnant. but she swears she felt something move inside of her, and her stomach really seems to be getting bigger. is she really pregnant? if not, what else could it be? if it helps, shes 49 years old right now .

I guess you should trust the doctor, but usually pregnancy isn't noticed right away. Try going to another doctor in a week or two, and if that one says she isn't, then she most likely isn't. Doctors know what they are talking about, and pregnancy tests aren't 100% accurate.

Sometimes there are "false pregnancies", but if she has her period, she is not pregnant.

--Jack
(16/m)

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Hi.
I'm will be going into 10th grade in the fall, and I was wondering when was a good time to start talking to my guidance counselor about colleges?
I want to apply for as many scholarships as possible because my parents will only pay for a school "within driving distance" of home.
Should I wait until junior year?

No. I would go as soon as you can. It's never too early to start preparing for college. In fact, most guidance counselors recommend you start in sophomore year.

--Jack
(16/m)

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Can you give me step byy step instructins on how to drive a stick shift?

I'm not really that good at it, neither am I good at explaining it. But here's a few links/videos that will help:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rqtctkznYjk

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_gmGoQ1dI2E

http://www.whtc.com/shared/auto/tutorials/learnstick.html


I hope those help ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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Hey , I have a question. I have this like lump sort of thing inside of my breast. I'm not sure what it is. I don't think that it is breast cancer.. but I really don't know what else it could be. Help please! I'm freaked out.

P.S. I'm 13.

Ask your mom to call the doctor and set up an appointment immediately.

Even if it isn't serious, it could be. So you need to get to a doctor soon- like in the next few days. The longer you wait and convince yourself it's nothing big, the harder it will get to treat whatever it is.

--Jack
(16/m)

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Why are people so shallow? some people in this world like a person more they can ever imagine. But when they find out its like they nevr want to talk to you again. no1 likes each other for who they are. they only like them cuz they are attracting. why cant people except others and try getting into a relationship?

For the first example of why people are shallow [when they find out someone likes them and they don't talk to them again]- that's because they are scared of the awkwardness that may come along with continued friendship. It's cowardice, really.

People are superficial because they see their friends and family be that way. So they tend to only like people for their looks, not for who they are. You can pretty much blame TV for that one, I'm serious.

People aren't willing to accept others because they think that if you don't fit the norm of popular, skinny, attractive, etc., you can't possibly be worth dating. Either that, or they are scared to accept different people and their backgrounds.

I don't judge on looks, unless the person is just really ugly and disgusting [as in not taking showers or whatever]. Mostly, I don't care about looks. I look for personality, because I think that's most important. So just know you're not alone in your frustration.

--Jack
(16/m)

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i am always so bored that i want to die, it makes me so angry and frustrated and sad. all i do is work and then i don't know what to do with myself. i try to go with some of my hobbies like painting or photography or watch tv or read books but i just don't feel like doing anything at all ever...i want to fucking kill myself. and my boyfriend feels like the same way. i just want to die. so does he. what the hell is wrong. help.

Here's a question I answered before that may help you:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=507084

From there:

Hello.

http://www.discoverfun.com/freeinfo/500fun/when_severly_bored.html


Those are a lot of fun.

Here are my favorites:
# Blow on a blade of grass
# Crank up some music
# Cut out photos and paste them on Popsicle sticks and have a puppet show
# Eat
# Eat 6 spoon full of sugar, a soda, and another think that makes you hyper and then you won't be bored anymore, you will end up finding something to do... trust us
# Experiment with makeup
# Get a bubble blower and then blow some
# Get a tootsie pop and see how many licks it takes to get to the center of the tootsie pop
# Laugh out loud
# Learn how to fake an accent
# Make a humorous crank phone call
# Make an entertaining phone answering-machine message
# Make up poems or songs about your boredom
# Break into a friend's house and clean it
Call a wrong number and talk to whoever answers.
# Catch a fly, then put in a jar and stick in the fridge (this cools their metabolism down), then tie the fly to the end of a thread 15in. and hold the other end of the thread while you watch it fly around (We have tested this and it works - a lot of patience is involved)
# Chase your best friend round the sofa
# Dance around your living room naked
# Doodle or cartoon
# Dress in something silly and laugh at yourself
# Fiddle around with a Ouija board
# Figure out how to get yourself on TV
# Find an address to your favorite famous person and write them a letter. See if they write you back
# Flip a coin 500 times to see who wins
# Get on the radio
# Give names to your body parts
# Go shop for a really cool book
# Go through the English dictionary looking up really long words like discombobulated.
# Have a carpet picnic
# Have a staring contest with yourself in the mirror.
# Kiss your elbow, if you can.
# Lay a long straight line of masking tape on the floor. Now spin around really fast then try walking on the masking tape.

Enjoy not being bored anymore. That should occupy you for a few hours =D

--Jack
(16/m)

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i have friends and they all do pot.. i have told them that i dont want to do ti and most of them respect my decision, but theres this one girl that keeps on offering.. and sometimes i get tempted to know what its like so what should i do?
FRiend of potheads

You have made it clear to your friends that you do not want to do this, and that is AWESOME!

You need to tell the girl to stop asking you, because she'll end up forcing you to, and then you'll be upset about it afterward.

Maybe just stop talking to her, heck, stop being friends with these people because they expose you to the temptation. The best way to rid of temptation is to eliminate everything from your life that makes you feel tempted, and although most of them don't tempt you, they might end up doing so.

And please don't try pot. Nothing about it good for you and it just ruins your life.

--Jack
(16/m)

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i have inny nipples like an inny belly button is it bad?

I'm not sure about inny nipples. If it's like an inny belly-button, it shouldn't be bad. If you're worried, ask your doctor about it, they will know better than us ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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I just found out my grandfather will be passing away soon. I cant think of any songs to listen to about losing someone special like he is. any ideas?



thanks

Here:

"I Need You" -Relient K
"Nothing Without You" -Relient K
"Curl Up and Die" -Relient K
"Save" -The Rocket Summer
"Run To You" -The Rocket Summer
"Won't Go Home Without You" -Maroon 5


I'm very sorry about your grandfather =/

--Jack
(16/m)

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I haven't had a boyfriend in years. I'm not conceited, but I know I'm not ugly. Plus, in the place I live, it's not very hard to get attention. The thing is, why do I still not have a boyfriend? Sure I'm shy, but I see way uglier, shyer girls out there with boyfriends, and I can't figure out why I'm still alone. I'm not the kind of person to respond to some rude holler, or to go after some boy when I'm called. I may be picky, but I don't want to just settle for some horn dog. Am I being unreasonable or something? I'm Hispanic, but I'm tired of the guys I'm always around. I know it sounds weird, but I've never dated a white person. They seem much less rude and obnoxious, but getting people to try something new isn't easy. Since they're much less outgoing, how can I tell if they're even interested? How do I know they're not disgusted or something? Anyway, thanks for reading, and thnx in advance.

This might only answer parts of your question, but here's a question I answered before:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=505520

From there:
First- I'm going to tell you that relationships aren't all they are cracked up to be. Sure- they are fun having someone to share things with and be with. But they involve a huge commitment and if you end up with someone who is clingy- they'll want to be with you every minute of every day- and you might not have time for friends or anything else you want to do. I say this because one of my ex-girlfriends was sort of like that- and got mad if I was busy with other plans.. and it was just really retarded.

Anyway- the best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks.

I myself like any type of girl. I honestly don't judge looks as much as I do personality. If a girl is absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's a bitch- why would I like her? What would our relationship be? What would we talk about? Her latest hair extensions? Yeah- that would be REALLY nice *Sarcasm: Party of one!*...
If a girl has a really nice personality- and she's really outgoing and sweet and nice and smart- and she's not necessarily the best looking girl- but she's not super unattractive- then I'll most likely want to date her over the beautiful bitch.

Do you get what I'm saying? If you let guys see your personality more than your looks- you'll end up with someone great. Trust me- most guys prefer personality over looks- they just don't know it yet =].



Now to attempt to answer your other questions:
A guy is interested when:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.

2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.

3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...

4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.

5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".

6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.

If you like this guy- and he does all or most of those things- my best bet is that he does like you. That means one and only one thing: Ask him to make sure, and then try the relationship out. Who knows- it could be great!


Some other useful links:
http://teenies674.tripod.com/id18.html

http://www.wikihow.com/Know-if-a-Guy-Likes-You

--Jack
(16/m)

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I see that some columnists have an extra gold star next to their name. What is it? How do I get one?

The gold star is for paid accounts. You can purchase a paid account for only $10 a year. A lot of people have said that it is way worth it simply because you no longer see those crazy ads all over the site. You get a bunch of extra features, as in being able to see the questioner's gender, age, feedback score (how many people they have actually feedback-ed), average feedback (what they usually rate people), and all of their previous questions. You can also see if they have any unread answers, so you have a better idea if the person has read your answer yet or not. The only thing you can't really see is their username, but being able to see their past questions is a huge help in giving good advice!

You can get a paid account here:

http://www.advicenators.com/paidaccounts.php


You also get a "Supporter Discussion" to talk with other paid account users ;]

I don't have one, but I plan to. =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=243jm12&s=3

is this a fat or slim psp?

i cant tell.

hahahaha i feel stupid asking this.
thank you!

Be warned, I know nothing about PSPs, but it looks to me like it's fat. I'm assuming thin would be much less thick.

--Jack
(16/m)

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female age 16, USA...

i've always had pretty bad skin, not like SEVERE acne, but acne nonetheless. i've had a bad breakout on my forehead since 5th grade (5 years), like even before i hit puberty. now it's still on my forehead, my nose, my upper lip, and my chin. again, it's not HORRIBLE but it's... it's definitely there and it's pretty obvious. nothing i do seems to do anything; i HAVE tried proactive, noxema, clearasil, neutrogena three step, and a HOST of other products. though it sometimes fades a bit, it ALWAYS comes back and never goes away enough for me to think that any of those products helped enough.

my mother theorized that i might have a hormone problem?

any ideas/advice/stories from anyone who can relate? what should i do/look out for?

thank you so much...

Have you tried going to a dermatologist? They would know better than any of us.

But here's one of my answers from awhile ago:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=507367


From there:
I know this sounds weird, odd, strange, etc., but what I'm about to say to you ACTUALLY works:

Get some lemon juice. You got the lemon juice? Alright- now take the lemon juice- and take a Q-tip and dab some lemon juice onto your zit with the lemon juice. Just a thin layer- not the whole bottle, silly! =D

Alright- so doing this at night is the best thing to do- it will really reduce the size and shape of the zit- and you won't know it was there in a few days.

Make sure not to touch it with your fingers after you put on the lemon juice- the oils from your fingers will stop the effect.

Relax- everyone gets zits- so you're only normal =D.



And here's a forum discussion from one of my friends on here that talks a lot about acne:

http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutmetopic.php?t=368&userboard_id=35415

From there:

Acne pretty much sucks ass and we all hate them.
I'll pretty much share what I know and my experiences.

So, I used to have really bad acne for like 2 freaking years. It sucked and I hated it. But now I'm better and here are my views on stuff:

Dermatologists are hard to get an appointment with and very pricey. They don't do much except look at you once, then they have their assistants take care of you after the dermatologist her/himself prescribes you acne medicine. It's usually Differin [sp?] and Benzaclin [sp?].

OTC Medicine:
Not all medication work effectively on all people. I've learn that it doesn't work for me or for anyone with sensitive skin. It may work for some people but as soon as they stop the use, acne comes back. Whether it's a cream, gel, or oral medication, they all suck! They dry out your skin, irritate it, increase sunburns/tans, and enlarge your pores. Not your dream skin, huh? And ironically, they sometimes make it worse. And you know what the 'best' part is? They're freakishly expensive! And once you stop the medication, acne comes back and parties like there's not tomorrow. Oral medication also makes your insides bad =/

Acne Products:
Acne face wash, gel, cream, whatever. Proactive seems to be a big one, too. Anywhos, as I've mentioned above, some work for some people while it makes everything worse for other people. It all depends. But most of the time, all those products dry your skin out, irritate it, and/or makes your acne worse. And it enlarges your pores too. Again, not very dreamy. And if they do work, as soon as you stop using them, they come back. Same line second verse.

So what the hell are you suppose to do?
Go the natural, cheap way.

Washing your face:
Wash your face gently only twice a day. Once is okay, I guess. But washing your face when you get up and before you go to bed is a good idea. More than twice a day could irritate your skin. Also, do not scrub your face, wash it gently as if you were washing a baby. Use face friendly products, too. I recommend a brand called Cetaphile. It's gentle on your skin and softens it. PAT your face dry with a clean towel.

Towels and pillow cases:
Try and change them as much as you can. Every day would be PERFECT but hard to do sometimes.

Squeezing:
Not only does that sound disgusting, it is. And it leaves nasty scars. Don't touch your face at all unless you have a slight itch. Don't rest your chin/cheeks in your hands or your arm. Just leave it alone as if it was a $10,000,000 mask that if you touch, you'll get arrested for. Oh, and try to keep your hair out of your face.

Sleeping:
Sleeping plays a big, huge role. Your body starts to renew its skin starting around 10PM and ending around 2AM. So be sure to be sleeping somewhere in between or the entire time. Sleeping early helps, and getting adequate sleep improves your skin and its tone.

Eating:
Milk makes acne worse. It's scientifically proven. Junk foods, sweet, sugars. ALL BAD FOR YOU PERIOD. Avoid/limit them along with sodas even if they're diet. Sports drink contain loads of sugar. Juices, too. Instead, eat healthy foods like veggies and fruits! I've noticed that my skin improve immensely when I turned vegetarian. So maybe give a shot to eating lots of veggies and fruits and other healthy stuff and cut down on meat? Also try and drink green tea [tea bag with no added sugar] or green tea with aloe [again, tea bag with no added sugar].

Masks:
Home made masks are probably the best. Here are few that work and softens your skin:

1. Red ginseng syrupy liquid thing mixed with warm water and a bit of all purpose flour. Make a mask thing with that.

2. Green tea [tea bag] cooled down to room temperature. Splash it on your face for 5min or so. I know it sounds weird but it helps. Or mix it with a little bit of all purpose flour and make a mask.

3. Mix warm milk, honey, and all purpose flour. Make a mask with that.

Only do the mask right after you washed your face. Make sure you don't put on any lotion and what not. Do not leave it on for more than 10-15min because bacteria will become attracted to the mask. Do not laugh, squint, whatever. Just keep your face neutral or you'll get wrinklies. Do not peel the mask off. Slowly wash it off GENTLY with LUKEWARM water. Keyword: GENTLY.

Lotions and make ups and what not:
Lotions/Sunblocks have products that won't clog pores, are fragrance and oil free. I suggest you buy from either Neutrogena or...some other renown company. I use Neutrogena's Oil Free Moisturizing Face Lotion and Neutrogena's Oil Free 55 SPF Sunblock. And Aveeno's 50 SPF Sunblcok [oil free] sometimes.

Make up should be limited to only eye and lip make up. No foundation, no concealer, not blush, no powder. Get my drift? Good. If you MUST wear make up, limit it down to special occasions [School does NOT count] and take it off as soon as you can. Whatever you do, do NOT go to bed with make up on!



--Jack
(16/m)

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i don't really like my friends and i want to meet more people and get out more, i hate staying inside.

any suggestions/tips/ideas?

thanks!

Join a new club/sport or something. That's usually the best way to meet a new group of friends.

Also, when school gets back in, sit at a new lunch table and just get to know new people. You can really end up meeting some really awesome people.

Here are some clubs you could join, and if you're entering high school, there gets to be more of them:

Drama
Basketball
Softball/Baseball
Tennis
Key Club
National Honors Society
Students Against Drunk Driving
Model United Nations
Yearbook
Newspaper


--Jack
(16/m)

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some people on myspace i don't know very well. what are some things to say when adding them? and what are good conversation starters?
thanks in advance :)

I'm not going to tell you that you shouldn't add people you don't know very well, because one, you've already been told ;], and two, that isn't your question.

You could always start off with the cliché conversation of:

Hey
Hey
What's up?
Nothing much, you?
Oh nothing. I'm just listening to music or whatever.


You can always talk about your favorite bands, colors, books, etc. Talk about stuff like that until you find something you both enjoy, and then keep talking about that.

Talk about what you're doing this weekend, what you did this weekend, or something of that nature.

Just go with the flow, really. We can't map out your conversations for you ;]

Good luck =]


**EDIT**
I didn't tell you not to. Go back and read what I said up in the first sentence. I said that I wasn't going to tell you not to. That's none of my business. And I what I said was just as useful as the other columnists. It's not my job to say this, but don't rate a one unless what is said is illegal or harmful. I didn't say anything illegal or harmful.

--Jack
(16/m)

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where can i buy a jabbawockkee mask?

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080328003520AAqcdDc

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080306214644AAxkIak

There you go ;]


--Jack
(16/m)

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are there any games like madness interactive?

only search advicenators.com


Desperate Space:
http://www.freeworldgroup.com/desperate.htm



That's really all I could find.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I'm 18. Should I go out with a 26 year old guy?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=511553

From there:
Age is just a number. Think about it. What are your parents ages? Chances are that they are about 2 or 3 years different. My mom is 45 and my dad is 46- they're close- but let's pretend my dad is a 9th grader- well my mom would be an 8th grader. Is it weird that they're married? No. So does the situation change because they're younger or older? No. And if someone or anyone thinks that- they are just a bubbling idiot and they deserve to be smacked across the face. Only kidding. =D. But seriously, it isn't weird. If both of you are fine with it- then who CARES what the heck other people think? I certainly don't care that you're dating a 7th grader- age is just a number, again, and its only odd if you're a 9th grader dating a 45 year old man. =D.

--Jack
(16/m)

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when i run ...i get such bad cramps? WHY IS THAT?
i mean, i love running and everything but i need those cramps to go away ...fast!
any suggestions?

Hmm.. cramps are caused by a few things.

Are you eating/drinking too much before you run? That's one of the big reasons.

Are you a girl and on your period? I think that causes cramps, too [don't take my word for it, though].

This website has a lot to say about causes and how to help with them.

http://www.wrongdiagnosis.com/sym/stomach_cramps.htm

--Jack
(16/m)

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