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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.

I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.

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I want to break up with my girlfriend but she is still very much in love with me. We have had a conversation and are currently on a no contact break for a few days. She thinks i'll regret it and don't fully appreciate what we have (She's my first girlfriend but she's had a couple before). I do really care about her and hate hurting her. When she tells me how much she loves me, and how she doesn't want to lose me, I really struggle as it makes me love her (how many people are we going to have love us in such a way in our lives?!) and so I really doubt whether I am doing the right thing.

Our relationship isn't helped by me being away at university and when we're together, it is great. However, I really struggle when we keep going for weeks without seeing each other. I find I forget why I love her and find it frustrating.

I'm pretty sure I want to break up due to the way I have these doubts and how when we're apart, I start to become distant from her and not that interested. I just really don't want to hurt her or regret what i'm doing. Advice would be hugely appreciated.

Relationships don't always work out, You being away at College and being in a long distant relationship is going to put more stress on you. From the sound of what you've written you are on the last straw with your relationship. Sometimes we can love somebody but in the end you need to do what is best for you. Relationships sometimes suck and don't always go the way we thought they would. If you don't feel you can balance out a long distance relationship on top of school then end the relationship. There are more fish out in the sea and you may end up finding someone who is more convenient to you and your location. Don't stay in a relationship if you feel it is a burden because that's exactly how you burn yourself out.

I'm Male/16, I've had bronchitis for almost 2 weeks. I would usually cough like a demon until I threw up. The vomit looked and felt normal. BUT today, I got up, had as short coughing spell until I gagged and gagged, dry empty gagging, until what seemed to be foamy saliva came out. It had no taste and no burn. During the process I teared and felt a head squeezing headache. It felt like a tiny relief, but I'm still not better. What was that foamy saliva? Is it bad? I usually get a 3-5 day cold once a year, but this is just hell, nobody should go through it.

Most likely the body cleansing itself of bad bacteria, (Mucus) Bronchitis can take more than a week too clear up depending on how bad it is it could take 2 weeks or longer. If you aren't feeling better within another 2 weeks or so I would visit the doctor.

My boyfriend is very controlling. He is upset that i dated a lot of men in the past. He calls me all kinds of bad names, yells at me, says my children should know what kind of person i really am. I told him i do not like it at all. he's been doing this for 5 months. I am fed up, told him to get out. Now he's changed he's really nice. i keep telling him he'll go back to his old ways he says no. He has no place to go, i tell him we are over however i feel really bad if he ends up sleeping in his turck. Every time i go to kick him out he says i'm going to sleep in a park or in my truck. I feel so bad and take him back, i just can't get over all the bad names he's called me. I don't go anywere because if i do he'll ask me a 10000 questions as to what i did or where did i go.

You need to let him go, If you have children living with you having this man around is going to set a bad example. You as a parent need to protect your children and give them and yourself a healthy and safe living environment. Your boyfriend is mentally abusive, People who have behavior problems cannot change on their own they need to seek professional help. Five months in my mind is too long to put up with that crap I understand that you would feel bad as you are human. You need to understand that he put himself in this situation. You and your children come before him and taking him back is not going to solve anything nor make anything better. Any situation in life is conquerable but we need to choose what is best for us not what's best for other people. If he sleeps in his truck, It's up to him to find a way out of his situation not you. This man is manipulating you and abusing you, You need to tell him to pack his stuff and get the hell out. When you do, Do yourself and your children a favor by cutting all contact with him and please don't let him manipulate his way back into your home. Focus on you and your children.

I am a young woman ( 15 years ) of age i need a job and i need it bad i am trying to find a job but there is one problem i don't know where to look and or what place would hire me since im so young could you help me?

Most businesses do not hire under the age of 16, You can find a job but you would by law need working papers saying you are able to work.

You could try fast food places:

Wendy's

McDonalds

Burger King

Is it ok for a 4yr old who is allergic to all cillins to have her tonsils taken out?

This is something that should be discussed with a doctor, They will tell you whether it would be safe for your child or not.

I started my period 3 days late I started and it's my third day but my period is brown? Help

Sometimes when women experience their period they also get vaginal discharge. (Your body cleaning itself out) This is normal

Also, It could be old blood from the last period you had this could also be possible as well.

If I buy a vibrator from Amazon that ships from Amazon, what will come up on my debit card statement? Will it say I bought a vibrator?

No,

Generally when a purchase is bought from Amazon they give you a product tracking number, Anything of that subject ordered from the site will be mailed to you in a box. There is no way to tell what is in it etc.

As far as the debit card goes likely on a statement it will just say "Credit card purchase (Amount spent) It will not say you bought a vibrator.

I had oral sex twice, and before you say anything hear me out. I was 16 years old and very naive. During that time I was going through an emotional and mental roller coaster from abuse to suicide. I'll admit at the point in my life I wasn't 100% there. Even when I did oral sex it wasn't sexual for me, i panic and reacted to the situation. I was always panic when I'm around guys because i was abuse sexually. Anyway, I feel in my heart that I am a virgin because what I did honestly wasn't sexual at all. Am I still a virgin?

Until you actually have intercourse, You will be a virgin.

So.. my problem is , I took over 20 morning after pills. How much will that affect me?

That was not a smart move, Call the doctor.

well what if a guy has the balls to go flirt with another girl and hold her hand while you were dating him and trys to ignore you , is he trying to get me to dump him! >:(

A guy that can't respect you enough to tell you to your face that the relationship is over doesn't have balls. Sounds to me that this guy is trying to give you the hint that the relationship is over.

He moved on......

Hi I am single. I have been for 7 months HELP PLEAS

Seven months isn't long

You should be happy just being you

Someone once told me "You can never truly be happy with someone if you cannot be happy being with yourself"

Enjoy time with family and friends and sooner or later someone will come around. If your friends know someone you can all set up a date to hang out and they can bring him/her along but don't be desperate to date someone.

19/f

I'm a first year in college and I really need a hobby to do outside of school. I was thinking about taking singing lessons or dancing lessons. I've always wanted to and I feel like now is the time. I looked into a few places nearby that offer lessons. I found a great singing lesson place that offers private lessons.. and apparently the instructor is great. I tried to find dancing lessons but I'm not educated on what kind of dancing i want to try.. i was thinking jazz or hip hop? But the thing is, I'm inexperienced in dance and i feel like if I were to show up for a lesson, i'd be embarrassed because theres other people there too..

I guess what i'm asking is.. what do you think I should do? take singing lessons? or dancing lessons? maybe both if I can find a way to schedule it right and make it affordable?? opinions?

FYI- I am dealing with some stress and issues, so this is also a way for me to get stress off. thanks!

You should do whatever is best for you, I think both are great opportunities. It's not about what we like, It's about what you like.

Here are some other cool ideas too:
(Encase you ever just wanted a cheap hobby idea)

Knitting

Beaded Jewelry

Photography

Sewing

Poetry, Journalism

Scrap Booking

I am normally an A student, all the time. But I'm really worried because I don't know whether my eighth grade grades count for college or not. Here they are:

Science (Life Science): 106 (Extra Credit)
Math: 97
French (Pre-French I) 99
History: 90
English: 85
Art: 100
Music: 93, but I'm doing extra credit.
Health: 100
Gym: 100
Math Lab: 98-ish (not really sure)
Technology: honestly no clue but probably like in the lower 90's

Do my grades count for anything? Eighth graders at my school are not eligible for high school classes...but I really hate my History, English, and Technology grades. Report cards are coming soon and I don't want my English grade keeping me off the high honor roll...
Thanks!

No, Your credits don't mean anything until you hit High School.

my name is Rachel and iam 22 years old and there is a guy that's 53 years old and he keeps asking me out and I keep telling him that he's to old me and that iam not interested and he still keeps making comments about wanting me to go out with him. I've told the deane at the school and he's talked to him and he still won't leave me alone. How do I get the message across that iam not interested without hurting his feelings?

You need to be stern, Tell him like it is. "I am not interested in dating you and if you continue to harass me I will have no choice but to file harassment charges against you"

You already pulled the nice route by asking him to leave you alone and it didn't work. Sometimes in order to get a point across we need to be upfront and blunt about it. This guy has no respect for you to leave you alone. That is indeed creepy, It's even creepier when you have someone that continues to harass you seriously tell the guy to back off or you will do something about it.

I have alot of friends, who did talk behind my back a little, but always would confess and say sorry, but since this other girl came, she has stolen all my friends, now they all hate me! I don't want her her! I have NO friends and she tells them to never talk to me or they'll do something and never talk to them! It makes me mad!

If your friends are gullible enough to believe what someone else says about you, Then your friends never really knew you that well to begin with. People who turn others against someone is not a true friend nor someone that others would really want to stick around and be friends with. Yes, Right now your friends are gullible but how much longer do you really think your friends are going to stick around with this person?...

Sure it pisses you off but you can't put all the blame on the new girl, Your friends should of known better than to believe everything someone says. In the meantime maybe you could try talking to one of your friends when you have a moment, If they have a facebook try sending them a message on how you feel. If they choose not to listen too you then they aren't real friends and it's never too late to make new ones.

How did you bleach your hair with clorox without
riuning Your hair?

Clorox?!?!

Clorox and Bleach have chemicals in them, Not only can inhaling these fumes possibly be deadly but if it comes into or near contact with skin or your eyes it will burn like hell. Seriously, If you want to bleach your hair then do it the right way by buying a hair bleaching kit at Sally's or Walmart. Cleaning products will ruin your hair and not just that but likely give you a run to the hospital due to breathing difficulties that could lead to claps lung. If it's not meant to use on your hair, There is a good reason for it.

A bleach kit is just 8 bucks at Walmart

I m a virgin. I had sex wit my b.f many times but he dont entered his penis inside my virgina but he rubbed out..we have non virginal sex. .do does it lead to pregnancy.?bt i missed my periods and we do it all without any protection..is there any chances of being pregnent?

Anytime you have sex without a condom, There is definitely a chance. The pull out method is one of the least effective methods out there. If you want to protect yourself, Use a condom at all times and be smart!!

I dated a girl for 2 weeks(im bi). she decided we should be friends then in the future maybe something else. She will say things like so you cant handle bein friends huh or i dont want a relationship if we cant be friends then we shouldnt talk. but the other night i went out and she was like oh you went out? so the night after i got off work early she was shocked i went home she was like oh figured you would go out or something. if she just wants to be friends why she being like that?

She doesn't know what she wants, Sounds to me like she is just playing a mind game. If she wants to be friends with you then that's fine but I would also sit down and talk to her that if she wants a friendship with you then she needs to know that's all it is. The user below me is right, Sometimes people act out on things to more then what it is. Maybe this girl makes a better friend then a girlfriend, She is the one that wanted a friendship then she should respect that's what it is. I would sit down and talk to her but I would do it in a way that if she wants to be friends then fine but respect your privacy by not asking constantly of where you've been and who you've been with.

i just found out that i am preganet my last menstrual cycle was aug 31st to sept 5. i cant remember if i slept with the other guy the week of my period or the week before my period. and i splet with my boyfriend they week i should have been ovulation confussed is there any chance the other guy can be the father i am about 8 weeks preganant

We cannot tell you who the father of your baby is, If you really want to know then you would need to wait for the baby to be born where you can request a parental test. If you had sex with two different men in such a short period of time then it would be almost impossible to tell who the father is by trying to pinpoint when you had sex with who.
You will need a parental test

i just found out that i am preganet my last menstrual cycle was aug 31st to sept 5. i cant remember if i slept with the other guy the week of my period or the week before my period. and i splet with my boyfriend they week i should have been ovulation confussed is there any chance the other guy can be the father i am about 8 weeks preganant

We cannot tell you who the father of your baby is, If you really want to know then you would need to wait for the baby to be born where you can request a parental test. If you had sex with two different men in such a short period of time then it would be almost impossible to tell who the father is by trying to pinpoint when you had sex with who.
You will need a parental test

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