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Does it hurt to get your ears double pierced?

Depends on your pain tolerance. For me, no. I just went through the normal process and was extra careful not to aggravate them by accidentally banging them etc. None of my ear piercings have hurt apart from the quick sting afterwards, but that son went away.
I say if you want it, go for it. Or get the first lot done first and once they've calmed down, get the second. It's your choice in the end.

(female)

okay so i have really dark, thick hair on my arms, compared to other girls. Is there any way to dye it so its less noticeabe?

You can bleach it.. or remove it totally (waxing/hair removing cream). Don't believe what you hear about the hair growing back thicker and darker - it really doesn't.

please tell me your first time sex stories..from what i have heard none of the first timers are pleasureable. i would really appreciate it if you shared yours and tell me how it went. thank youu soo much (:

I had no pain at all. It was alright. Can't really say pleasurable because it was for around.. 2 minutes at the most. but then did it more after that and it was fine.
Everyone's will be different, by the way.

Um I have a really personal love life question and id rather not post it on public internet, so I was wondering if a couple of people could volunteer to answer it? (ill send you a question to your inbox)

thanks

I'd be very glad to help. Get back to me if you wish.

me and my boyfriend just had sex yesterday and we dont think the condom broke or anything, but my stomache was really bothering me today like stomaches should i be worried?

Stomach aches? It can happen after sex and there are different reasons for it. If it continues and it's nothing to do with having vigorous sex and working out your stomach muscles (!), I'd recommend getting a proper diagnosis. It has nothing to do with being pregnant one day after intercourse, so don't start worrying about that. It would take weeks before abdominal pain started.
It could be anything from a slight infection, tilted uterus, your partner being "Big" etc etc.

theres this guy, he likes his girlfriend a lot, but she totally doesnt appriciate him. He wants to spend time with her, but she says hes too "clingy." I was talking to the girl the other night, and she was saying that she liked someone else. And, i have a goodddd feeling they're going to break up. i dont know this kid too well. I talk to him everyday, and he'll come up to me and talk to me whenever he sees me, But what can i do to make him like me even more? I dont want to go out with him right after be breaks up with this girl. I have the urge to interfere with their relationship, and make them breakup, but that would be so wrong, and id feel bad. But, what can i do to make me more? and maybe his girlfriend a little less? :]

If he likes his girlfriend alot, what makes you think he's going to start liking you. You need to seriously think about what you are doing here. It doesn't matter what his girlfriend says. It's actually none of your business (even if she did tell you) and you should definitely not interfere with their relationship. If you think they're going to break up soon, then let nature run it's course.
If they break up, only then should you start to try and get to know this boy more and start flirting etc.
It's not nice to try and compete with his girlfriend while he is with her. You wouldn't like it if someone was doing it to you.
Hold on for a while and see what happens.

if your irregualar on periods, are you less likley to get pregnant?

No. You can get pregnant any time.
It's more worry, too. Like if you think you're pregnant but your period is just late (irregular).

when you say put alcohol on a spot...what do u mean???
What like wine?? sorry if its dumb

Rubbing alcohol. There's a difference between rubbing alcohol to those you drink. It dries out the spot.
If you can't get hold of rubbing alcohol, lemon juice works just as good.

right i have thick hair
and everytime i grow it..
it just looks like a blob..
instead of skater/mophead..

:|

what do i dooo!?

If your hair is thick, go to a hairdressers and get it thinned out, possibly with layers to add texture etc. You will have to get it thinned out every 2 months or so, because it grows back quick.
Ask your hairdresser which styles would suit you. It's what they're there for. Or if you have pictures of styles you like, show them.

I have this guy and we have gone out 3 times. I broke up with him again because he has alot of friends that are girls and I feel that he treats me the same as them. Also some of them like him and he flirts with him. Well we broke up and he wanted to get back together with me. Everyone was like don't go out with him again!!!!! Well one day we were talking about "us" and I asked what would we do different going out than being friends because we don't do anything special. He said I can think of something but he wouldn't tell me. I got mad at him and we got in an arguement. We made up but I told him we should just be friends. We are friends but I askd him what he was going to say and he says it doesn't matter anymore and won't tell me. I do want to be with him but what can I say to tell him what I want. How do I get him to tell me. He knows I still like him and he still like me. Also sometimes he just flirts with his other girlfriends and acts like i'm not there. It makes me mad cause he just ignores me. at least 3 other girls like him.

Maybe he's embarrassed, because it's pretty obvious what he meant....
Plus, if you're just friends now, there's no reason for you to know anyway. You're just bringing up the past and he probably feels it's unnecessary - because it is.
If you want to get back with him, just tell him. If not, don't dwell on the past and annoy him with it.
P.S. He's probably ignoring you because
1. He wants to make you jealous.
2. He's not interested in you as girlfriend material anymore.
If it's seriously bothering you, and he wants to, have a good, deep conversation with him. You will be able to sort things out from there. You should be able to talk to him about anything, especially if you've dated him 3 times. Don't be embarrassed to say what you really feel. Let it all out. In person or online - it doesn't really matter.
Good luck anyway.

So this guy named nolan is a huge cheater when it comes to having a girlfriend. He cheated on my friend and they broke up. But while they were going out he told me he liked me. now he likes me again and i like him. everyone says that he will cheat on me but i dont want to believe them. he told me he never would do that to me and he kinda convinced me.

Thankyou for the question.

In the end, noone elses thoughts should influence your decision. It should all be down to you.
You know he is capable of cheating. You can either stick to "once a cheater always a cheater" or believe what he's saying to you. I can't imagine how hard that must be though.
Why did he cheat exactly? Wasn't he happy? Drunk?
Although there's never a good enough excuse for cheating, knowing why he did it may be a little break through. Also how many people he has cheated on would be helpful and what kind of relationship they were in (was it serious? how long were they together?) If it's once, I believe people can change. If it's more, then I personally feel they're not worth the time and effort. They obviously didn't learn their lesson the first time and are just taking everyone else for a fool.
You've pretty much answered your own question though. If he has convinced you, he's either really sorry for what he's done in the past, or he's a great liar.
People are only looking out for you when they say he will cheat on you. Who can blame them?
Anyway, to the point, if you do decide to give it a go, take things slow. Don't give everything up to him fast. and if you feel he's cheating, you really need to talk to him etc. If it turns out he does cheat on you, yes, you will be hurt, but you will dump his sorry good for nothing ass right there and then. NO more chances, okay?
Who knows, he may REALLY like you. If so, he would never cheat on you.
Make the right decision. and I hope things go great.

who sings the male voice on the keyshia cole song superstar???

Metro City.

ok, i have a bf. but he never tlks 2 me. then this other guy came... i guess i fell in luv with him. and i luv him more than my bf!! the new guy always tlks 2 me, flirts with me, and all of that junk, u kno. but my bf doesnt. i dont wanna break up with my bf cause i dont wanna go breaking anyones heart... WHO SHOULD I CHOOSE!?!?!?! pls help me!!

Forget about the other boy for a minute - If you aren't bonding with your boyfriend etc, you're going to have to break up with him anyway.
Use your common sense. It's not fair on you to be with someone for the sake of it.
Yes, he will be hurt, but that's life. The longer you leave it, the more hurt he will be.
I can't tell you what to do with the other boy.. it seems as though he has already won you over.
Follow your heart. Don't ask strangers who should be your boyfriend.
Best of luck.

Well, a bit over a month ago, me and my ex broke up. He was a total jerk about it. I was upset for a couple of days but got over the initial upset very quickly. Then the next week I met another guy who was really sweet and lovely. We've started "seeing" each other - we aren't really going out but we act exactly like boyfriend and girlfriend. He's asked me out a couple of times and I've been like no, I'm not ready for that yet, but if you want to stop seeing me I understand.
The thing is in the last couple of days I've really started missing my ex again. I don't know if it's really fair on my new guy to keep seeing me. The thing is, he REALLY likes me - and I like him! I wouldn't want to break up with him (or stop seeing him, or whatever) just because of these stupid feelings I've been having - I really like this guy, and I do want one day to have a relationship with him, even if I'm not ready for that just yet. And if I put a halt to things at the moment, I know it'll never get that far. He's also friends with loads of my friends and I know I'd fall out with a lot of people if I ended things now. What should I do, just keep seeing this guy and hope that these feelings about my ex go away as quick as they came? All help appreciated.

It's normal to miss an ex, but getting back with one normally spells disaster. You broke up for a reason.
Give it a week or 2 to see if anything changes. If it doesn't, you have no choice but to explain to the boy you're seeing you want to slow it down. Or better still, clear your head - and then get back to dating him if you still want to afterwards.
He will understand and so will your friends etc.
At the end of the day, you can't just be with someone because you don't want to hurt them and others. You need to think of yourself for a change - because it's not fair on you OR the person you are seeing, because you'll still have feelings for your ex. It's not good to be living a lie.

what is the sexiest thing to do to a guy w/ youre hands

Depends on the guy. Ask him what he likes.
Run them along his body - see where he prefers. Leave the most obvious place 'til last...

how do u make a pimple dissapear the next day...like what can you put on it.

Does proactiv really work??

Dab on one of the following:
*Rubbing alcohol
*Lemon juice
*Toothpaste
They will dry out your spot and help it shrink. It'll be gone before you know it.

(1st girl)
Ok ive liked this girl since the first time i saw her three months ago, and not once did i go to talk to her every now and then i saw her starring at me but we never talk,we knew who we each were but never talked, i finaly gave up and decided to move on, (if you could help me with any ideas i apreciated)

(2nd Girl)
well shortly after i invited somegirl to the movies i was going to ak her out but something happend on that day that stoped me,its i kinda like her and well most of the times i see her as a freind but she realy likes me,(also my freind also likes her so it also stops me from asking her out,) If you got any ideas with this one help me out.

(3rd girl)
She is the oneconvinced me not to go to ask the 2nd girl out, she i kinda think she likes me since i am very quiet in the class she is always coming to talk to me and yesterday ,me and her talked the longest, then she wanted me to walk her home i did for the most part but it kinda made me tink she likes me, or was that just me thinking that, IF you can help help me please!!!

(Also i liked the first girl the most the second two im kinda confuse about my feelings for them there)
I donw know what to do if you can help please help me.

"Also i liked the first girl the most the second two im kinda confuse about..."

You answered your own question.

Go for the first - you like her more.

Why don't you push yourself and make the effort to talk to her. It's not hard. Start off by smiling at her and saying hi when you see her. Give it a short amount of time and before you know it, the "hi's" will follow onto "how are you's" etc and you'll be having decent conversations before you know it.
Have you and the girl got any internet profiles? Start talking to her on there first if so. It will make it easier to approach her.
Don't worry if not.
and if it doesn't go to plan, at least you know you tried, then move on to plan B - one of the other girls if you're still interested. :)

should i just shave off all my hair and wear a wig? im sick of my silky, limp, volume-less asian hair!

Getting a wig should be your LAST option.
There's SO many volumising products on the market including shampoos/conditioner/creams etc. Go out and look at them - see which is best for your hair type. They aren't expensive.
Also, try blow dying your hair from the roots and use a barrel brush to make it look less limp. You can also back comb your hair at the roots. Not alot - just enough to give it oomph. Then fix it into place with hair spray.
It could be worth getting your hair cut specifically to give the illusion of bigger hair. Ask your stylist to do it and to add textures.

Have a little look here to see if there are other tips for you

how do i battle senioritis?

You will REALLY regret it if you don't try in school/college etc. I do.
Think about your future. It will be over before you know it anyway.
Get your ass into gear, turn up to regularly, complete the work and then look forward to seeing your friends and the weekends etc.
It's in your best interests really.
Check:
http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1191831-2,00.html
http://www.gatewayva.com/edu/ruready/sch/sch_senior.shtml

There's lots of sites to get you motivated.

You're not alone by the way. ;)
Best of luck!

Ok im 15/m and i have a bestfreind whos 15/f, well i am a very quiet guy and calm but she is the complete opposite and shes always dressing sluty, i dont like her.

Although sometimes she cool most of the times i hate her.

I only see her as a regular freind not as anything else, I dont know what to do,

weve been freinds for 3 years and ive not liked her for 2 years

anyone have any ideas on what to do, and dont tell bull**** like give her a chance cause i cant be freinds with someone i dont like

If you don't like her, break your friendship with her.
How you do it depends on you.
You can be an ass and just ignore her from now on, or be nice and find a way to tell her. Even an email/message is better than nothing and say why.
Noone should be friends with people they dislike. I know, I've been there.
Good luck.

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