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Well, a bit over a month ago, me and my ex broke up. He was a total jerk about it. I was upset for a couple of days but got over the initial upset very quickly. Then the next week I met another guy who was really sweet and lovely. We've started "seeing" each other - we aren't really going out but we act exactly like boyfriend and girlfriend. He's asked me out a couple of times and I've been like no, I'm not ready for that yet, but if you want to stop seeing me I understand.
The thing is in the last couple of days I've really started missing my ex again. I don't know if it's really fair on my new guy to keep seeing me. The thing is, he REALLY likes me - and I like him! I wouldn't want to break up with him (or stop seeing him, or whatever) just because of these stupid feelings I've been having - I really like this guy, and I do want one day to have a relationship with him, even if I'm not ready for that just yet. And if I put a halt to things at the moment, I know it'll never get that far. He's also friends with loads of my friends and I know I'd fall out with a lot of people if I ended things now. What should I do, just keep seeing this guy and hope that these feelings about my ex go away as quick as they came? All help appreciated.
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Its completely normal to miss an ex, and you shouldn't let the pressure of friends and such force you to "date" someone if your not ready. Some people need to just take time off before they can go out with someone else. If this boy really likes you, he'll understand and he'll continue to be by your side and wait until your ready.
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It's normal to miss an ex, but getting back with one normally spells disaster. You broke up for a reason.
Give it a week or 2 to see if anything changes. If it doesn't, you have no choice but to explain to the boy you're seeing you want to slow it down. Or better still, clear your head - and then get back to dating him if you still want to afterwards.
He will understand and so will your friends etc.
At the end of the day, you can't just be with someone because you don't want to hurt them and others. You need to think of yourself for a change - because it's not fair on you OR the person you are seeing, because you'll still have feelings for your ex. It's not good to be living a lie.
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