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ok so i like this kid chris.. and i just found out my friend ashley likes him too. Me and ashley arn't like BEST friends, but we've been getting kind of close. So I told her that i liked him too and she was okay with it, but i'm afraid that like if i ever went out with him she'll hate me and like make my life miserable cause that's the type of person she is, if your on her bad side, your screwed, if your on her good side..your okay, but there's no inbetween. And she has every single class with him, i only have 2 with him..and the 2 classes I have with him, she has with him too. One of them is lunch, except i sit with him at lunch and she dosen't.. but idk, i just really don't know what to do in this type of situation. Help me pleasee ♥ (link)
Hey, to be honest with you there isn't much you can do.
You can't change your feelings you have for Chris and neither can your friend.
If he wants to go out with you and if she was a real friend she would understand and vice-versa.
Friends should never let guys come in between them, in the end it is just one big whole mess and I speak from experience.
Just flirt around with him and hopefully he will ask you out. If he does and your friend Ashley tries to make your life miserable, just remember you have one thing she doesn't and that's Chris. Also that she is really jealous and not a true friend.
Hope everything works out.



Alright, I'm 13. I've been getting my period for about 6-7 months and it was pretty regular. Well, the time's passed for me. I was supposed to get it about a week ago, but I never had sex (and don't plan to for awhile) so I don't know what's going on.

Since I'm still kinda new to the whole period thing, I'm a little freaked out. Help me? (link)
Hey, don't worry about it sweety.
This is completly normal.
Since you just got your period a while ago it is irregular meaning it may sometimes come a few days or even a week earlier then expected or a few days or a week later then expected.



There is this guy i like and almost everytime he talks to me, he makes sarcastic remarks and jokes around with me telling me im doing things wrong. (He usually smiles when telling me this). What does this mean? (link)
Most likely he is flirting with you and probably likes you.



wat are some good kind of sad songs..that you can listen to while you broke up with some1 (link)
3CE - I Know You xXx Marry Me
Acceptance - Bleeding Heart
Ben Moody ft. Anastacia - Everything Burns
Blue - U Make Me Wanna
Celine Dion - All By Myself
Chris Cagle - Miss Me Baby
Deestylistic - I Still Love You
DHT - I Miss You
Eamon - I Dont Want You Back
Gavin Degraw - We Belong Together
Hawthorne Heights - Saying Sorry
Hope Partlow - Sick Inside
Jack's mannequin - The Mixed Tape
Jay Sean - Stolen
Jeannie Ortega - So Done
Jennifer Lopez - He'll Be Back
Kaci Brown - Just An Old Boyfriend
Kelly Clarkson - Anytime
Kim Sozzi - Alone
Lil Corey - The First Time
Lisa Loeb - Stay
Madonna - Take A Bow
Mary J. Blige - Be Without You
Ne-Yo - So Sick
Nick Lachey - What's Left of Me
Nivea - Complicated
No Doubt - Running
No Doubt - Ex-Girlfriend
Rascal Flatts - What Hurts the Most
Rockell - What You Did To Me
Ryan Huston - All Alone
Sheridan- Psycho
Something Corporate - Konstantine
Usher - You Got It Bad
Waking Ashland - I Am For You
Whyte Shadow - What Will I Do





Okay, so I have this friend. She has like 5 guys who like her, but yet she doesn't like any one of them back. All of her guy friends seem to like her more than a friend. I mean, she's a good friend and has a great personality, but she can also be really agressive and gets upset when she doesn't get her way. Well, here's my problem. None of the guys I'm friends with ever like me more than a friend; actually, they always seem to go for my friend. I don't understand why I can't get a boyfriend. Alot of people think I'm really nice and pretty, and I have alot of friends but I'm like the least agressive person ever. So, I'm wondering, how can I get guys to like me more than a friend ? Should I act way more agressive and be less nice and ?.. because that's why guys seem to go for .. the girls who crave for attention and are extremely loud .. So yeah I really need advice on this one haha. Thanks ! (link)
Hey hun, never change yourself for a guy. Believe me, it's not worth it.
Most guys do not like girls who crave for attention and who are loud. Guys like the chase.
Act like you are not interested in the guy and flirt alot! Be a tease, play hard to get. It attracts guys. Don't compare yourself to your friend all the time because that's not going to get you any where. The most important thing is to just be yourself.



Can anyone tell me the price range of a hamster?

Hehe, thanks. =] (link)
It depends on the store but it usually is $10 and under.



Does anyone know where you can get free downloads of music without paying a subscription fee? I
ts so annoying i can't find a single site, I've googled it but they were all paying ones.
thanks in advance (i live in the UK by the way) (link)
Limewire.

http://www.limewire.com/english/content/home.shtml



I am looking for a fast paced techno song preferably with no words. Any suggestion will be greatly appreciated! (link)
Anything by:
Benny Benassi
DJ Tiesto
DJ Evolution
DJ Alligator
Paul Van Dyk (More on the trance side but fast paced).



thanks you really helped me!!!!!! i was really upset and i kinda still am and i wanted to call him again tomorrow and tell him i hate him and i know thats stupid uhm the thing is i cant talk to him in school cause hes in 8th grade and im in 7th grade and he has like so many buddys and im really scared that hes gonna tell everybody i called him! i dont want that!!!!
sooo should i call him again tomorrow and what should i say than? i just dont know what to do anymore that sucks!! (link)
Hey, aww I'm so glad that helped you out.
Why would he tell people that you called him?
I doubt he will since he will just make an idiot out of himself considering he didn't say much, you know?
You can still talk to him in school. If you are really shy then just corner him when he's alone.
Also you can talk to him on the bus.
If you call him then just ask him how his day was, find out some things about him, ask him how school is going. I wouldn't call him tomorrow though. I would wait a few days.
If you need anything else just drop one in my inbox.



How do you get eyeliner to go on your top eyelid? I've tried a million times and it always messes up. (link)
It is very simple. All you have to do is draw a thin line right where your eyelashes start; make sense? Then just trace over the line until you get it how you want it, like the thickness.

http://www.ehow.com/how_157_apply-eyeliner.html
^This site might help you out.



well i like or liked (i totally dont know what to think anymore? ) this guy named peter! and well i think he liked me back and he always smiled at me and smiled at me but i'm kind of shy so i never smiled back. so once in my bus he sat next to me and talked to me but i was in a bad mood and very mean to him! well not THAT mean but kinda mean lol so then he never talked to me again but sometimes he still looked at me. so i felt bad and i called him today i was like
me: hi my name is cornelia can i please talk to peter
peter: yeah i'm peter
me: oh well hi its me you know that mean girl? uhm yeah so i just wanted to appologize for being so mean!
peter:uhu
silence..
me: so is everythink ok again?
peter: uhh yeah
silence
me: ok than
silence
peter: bye
me: bye

and well that was it and i started grying cause it totally went wrong! i thought he would say like ok i except it or whatever but he said nothing at all? does he hate me now? i am really upset! i think he's gonn atell everybody now that i called him and then there all gonna laugh at me! but i dont get it! he even told me he loved me once (i was kinda mean then 2) but i tried to be nice now! he act like he didnt care! i need advice i'm really upset!!!!

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Hey hun, first off calm down!
Everybody gets their bad days where nothing goes right and they just take it out on the first person they talk to.
I'm sure he gets those days too.
Seems to me like you are jumping to comclusions and taking everything out of proportion.
I think that you still do have feelings for the guy or else you wouldn't care so much about this.
I think that either he might not like you anymore or he was just so surprised that you called him after being mean to him and he didn't know how to talk to you.
He also might be shy to talk to you because he may like you.
He just may be confused right now.
What i would do is try talking to him in school.
Let this whole thing pass and let it go.
If you need anything else, drop one in my inbox.



can someone give me a program to burn cds? (link)
Windows Media Player.
I use it all the time to burn my CD's.



i was just wondering how many times a day should you use proactiv? im not sure if its one or two. and please dont tell me that i should stop using proactiv cause i want to. (link)
You are supposed to use it 2 times a day.
In the morning when you wake up, and at night before you go to bed.



ok so i have kind of frizzy wavy hair. and it drives me NUTS.
ive tried using straitening gels and things like that but it never helps that much. I straighten my hair like everyday so it gets fried and gross.

i would wear it curly but i think it looks dumb becuase its too short and i have really short layers so it poofs out on the top and looks retarted.

so is there anything i can put in my hair to help with the frizz and or spilt/dead ends?

xo thanks. (link)
You just totally described my hair. I know how you feel it drives me crazy. It really depends on what straightner you use to straighten your hair.
I use Conair Ceremic Technology Hair Straightner. It works really well.
What else I use is biosilk Therapy. It helps your hair not be all dry and frizzy. I put that in before I straighten my hair.
To wear your hair curly/wavy I suggest you use Pantene Pro-V Frizz Control Treatment. It gets your curls not be all dry and frizzy.
What else I use that doesn't make my hair frizzy is Garnier fructis Shampoo for dry hair.
Also I suggest you try Garnier Fructis Smoothing Milk. It makes your hair curly and not frizzy. With that I also spray in Thermasilk Detangler Leave-in Conditioner.
I hope one of these things help you out & if you need anything else, drop one in my inbox.




I am so stressed out that i am having trouble sleeping and concentrating. Any advice on ways to releve stress? (link)
I get stressed out alot! What I do is either take a walk and just relax. Lye down and listen to music.
One song I suggest is "Everything Burns" by Ben Moody ft. Anastacia. Close your eyes and just picture a scene for that song.
It helps me alot.
Also you can try to take a bubble bath, you can never go wrong with that.
Go out with friends. Have some time for yourself. Do some things you enjoy doing that are relaxing.




Me & my mom made a deal that I can get an Ipod if I raise up my grades.

Well I did, but I just don`t know if I should get a Nano or just one of those regular Ipods.

Which one should I get??

I'm just confused & I don't want to end up with the sucky one. Thank you. (link)
I have the nano.
The regular one is bigger then the nano.
The reason I chose the nano was because it can easily fit into my jeans pocket.
The regular one is pretty old and the nano is the new version of it.
I think you should go with the nano but the decision is totally up to you.



ok well i have like soo many pimples and i have cream but does toothpaste really help them go away? please ii need help. this guy said he likes but i have too many pimples&ihate them too so please help. ill rate high. (link)
Toothpaste only dries up the pimples. I wouldn't suggest using it because they won't make pimples go away.
Unfortunantly there is no cure for acne but it is treatable.
I would highly suggest Proactiv.
Also you ahould try going to a dermetoligist.
I know you may think it might not work but it is actually one of the few things that DO work on pimples.




well right now my hair is short and blonde heres the pic: http://i9.photobucket.com/albums/a92/Linds1819/121212.jpg but it has more blodn highlites in it now

would it look bad this color? :http://photobucket.com/albums/a92/Linds1819/?action=view¤t=yuvthishaircolor.jpg

with maybe bleach blonde highlites over it or underneath? orrr dark brown underneath? thankss (link)
I think that you would look nice in that hair color with blonde highlights. But you should get the highlights not bleach blonde like golden blonde. Also when you go get your hair dyed, what you should do before you get the highlights is ask the person who is doing you hair what color highlights would look best.



I wanted you to know I love the way you laugh
I wanna hold you high and steal your pain away
I keep your photograph; I know it serves me well
I wanna hold you high and steal your pain..what song is this and who is it by? (link)
Seether Ft. Amy Lee - Broken



Does proactiv really work and get rid of all or most of your acne? A girl told me it was great for her and her friend, but other people say its junk. I just wanted to know cause I always have acne and i want to know if this stuff really works. (link)
I have it and it does help.
But the thing with Proactiv is that you have to keep using it non stop.
If you forget to use it for like a week or even a few days you will get even more acne.





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