my name is Nat .. ppl call me Noodalie =) um. and i can help you w. some problems your having =)havnt been through everything but i have experienced it through muah friends. im sure i can help in anything. most of my friends come to me anyways. =)
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kay well, my (old) best friend was a guy his name was ryan.. he liked me..but he loved his ex girlfriend victorea (they were going out for a year on and off) me and him were soo close.. i liked him too.. but he is going back out with victoera. me and her are not friends AT ALL, she told ryan he cant hang out with me,But he still does but he tells people he hates me,and when i ask him he said brb to me (online) and idk who to belivie my other friends or ryan. but anyway i really really wanna be his friend is there a way maybe i can say something to him that can make us friends again? or tell him i love him or some thing?? please help
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ask him wtf is going on. why would you want him as a friend if hes listening to his g/f. thats so rude and if he was was really your friend then he wouldnt ditch you and all. yea you can be loyal to your g/f but not to the extent where she is making you give up one of your good friends for her. they might not even go out for that much longer. my best suggestion is to talk to this "victoria" and ask her why she is being so rude. tell her you are just friends. shes obviously jelious so add that to the conversation. and there is no point in liking a guyyy who is going to totally cruch your heart by not talking to you. hope you kick victoria's ass!!
~nat~
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I am 14 years old, and i like a guy that goes to my school. He is going out with the biggist slut ever.. & I like him alot! Everyone thinks they are wrong for each other. I need a way to win him over. I donno what to do cuz me and the girl hate each other. He won't listen to any of his friends and i know he wont listen to me. We would be the best couple ever! So if you have any advice please feel free to give it!! (link)
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lol this is one one those moments where you and your friends have to think of a plan to totally piss her off. just charm him and do your thang
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i`m a freshman in high school. ever since i was about 4 or 5, i've had an excessive bladder problem i guess you could say. when somebody makes me laugh, i start to piss myself. it's been happening lately at school and volleyball practice, and i have nothing to cover it up with! is there any type of medicine i could take, or anything that could help prevent this or something.. ? please help
if you're going to laugh or make fun of me, you'll be rated a one, and i'm gonna report you. =) (link)
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o my cuz had the same thing. go to your doctor. they have a bunch of things they could perscribe for you
~nat~
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Hi,
I am ALWAYS craving sugar! This wouldn't be so bad, but I have braces now and have to stop eating it :S I tried eating small amounts but it is still messing up my teeth so I have to stop almost entirely. But I'm so weak, lol, and always eat food with a high sugar content! How can I stop, or at least lessen, the cravings and eat less sugar? I don't like fruit so please don't suggest that :) (link)
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try eating foods that are sugar free or that are that are used with a sugar based substance. there are a lot of choices out there. like sugar free jello is still as good as the regular. hope i helped
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I kinda need some help. I am thinking about breaking up a long-time friendship with someone, that I have (of 1 1/2 years), ..who used to be my girlfriend, actually. But she broke up with me- and I'd rather not say why.
Look, I know it will be quite difficult to confront her on this, though I have my reasons, but somehow it just doesn't seem right to just keep a "friend-to-friend" relationship going on between us, even after the break-up and because.... everything is really awkward now when we're together (we never even speak to each other as much). It even hurts me to be near her now, whenever I am.
Anyway, I don't even know what to say to her since I haven't said anything to her about this yet, and I was wondering if you could help me... please. I'm kind of desperate.
If I don't solve this matter, I fear that it might get to my head, ..eventually causing me to commit suicide.
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tough situation. well if you both feel the same then she should understand right? she should if she does. maybe this whole thing could be worked out if someone just spoke up. i think that should be you. tell her that things just arnt going to work out and that you guyys just cant be in the same room together. hope it works!!
~nat~
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so a few weeks ago i started a new diet. i'm just eating healthier; more fruit, vegetables and healthier alternatives to food i used to eat. but ever since i started i've been having to go to the bathroom alot more. is this normal? will my body eventually get used to this new food? (link)
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yes because you are eater heatheir foods. when you eat a lot of junk then it doesnt do the body good. when you do everything returns back to normal
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my friend, let's call her "emily," is very opinionated. most of the time it's rude and she's not afraid to voice her opinion, especially to me. now at first i didn't mind this, but now it's getting really annoying. see, last night was the sports awards banquet at my school and she kept making rude comments to me about people she didn't like but were my friends. if she didn't like them, she would be like, they don't deserve this award because of blah blah blah and i just wanted to scream at her because they deserve it so much and she just says that because she's jealous (she used to be good, but not anymore). how can i get her to stop being so rude and obnoxious? i really don't want to hear this constant complaining anymore. i'm not very confronational so i don't think talking to her in private would be my best option. thanks so much! (link)
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tell her to chill out. if shes likes to "speak her opinion" then she must not have a problem telling those people shes talking about. your friend is so rude. those peopled worked their asses off to get those awards and she shouldnt put them down. tell her to get a life. shes obviously jelious like you said. tell her that she should try doing what they are doing and see how much work it is. if shes so worried about what your friends do and dont deserve then she should confront them and tell them what she thinks. tell her to stop talking about it to you and tell those people. maybe she'll figure out that its pissing you off. or maybe you should strait out tell her. Why are you friends with her if she IS making fun of you friends?? that doesnt sound right to me. sit her down and tell her that its pissing you off. if she doesnt cut it out but she nos shes hurting your feelings then just ditch her. plain and simple!
~nat~
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Pfff.. I just realised how BORING my life is!!! I wake up at six, go to school, come back at 4, do homework, go on the computer, sleep. What a nice life eh??? NOT!! its just soooo boring! i have nothing better to do. Any ideas? (link)
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try somthing new. wont hurt to try. think of something that you have always wanted to do. lets say iceskating. try it and see how you like it. sports are the best things to go for
~nat~
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Sorry this is so long i'll rate 5's. Today during lunch me and my friends jenna and roquel were sitting around talking, and jenna said she hasn't gotten her period in a long time and is worried that she might be pregnant. Jenna thought that i knew about this already, so she was like roquel where did u go to get your abortion?and roquel was like not everyone knows about that jenna. roquel wouldnt tell me that because she was in my law class, and i debated against abortion so she knows how i feel about it. even thought im completely against abortion, i dont judge my friends so thats why i didnt even say anything to her.but now everytime i see her i get sick to my stomach thinking she would actually do something like that.i know its none of my buisiness so dont tell me that, but how do i get over feeling so ashamed of her?its to the point i wanna smack her for being so stupid!because i cant say anything about not having sex, because ive had sex myself but i used the pill AND a condom, so if ppl did that there would only be a 1 percent chance of getting pregnant, so i cant believe she was dumb enough to get herself if that situation where she could get pregnant, knowing her who has done lots of bad stuff, she probably gave in when the guy said he didnt wanna use a condom.i really need advice about what to do, because she is a good friend and i dont wanna lose her as a friend even though i feel so different towards her now. (link)
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well you said you arnt judging her but thats exactly what you are doing. abortion is a common problem and im sure she had no other choice. maybe she didnt want to go through the pain of birth and maybe she forgot to use a condom. its her choice that is now in the past. you cant do anything about it. if you like her as a friend you'll just get over it. if you dont then your going to have a lot of trouble with judging your friends. it might have been a mistake but i doesnt matter now. stop judging people by their choices
o yea this is wat u said... Sorry this is so long i'll rate 5's....yea well u freakin gave me a one u brat...sry i even bothered!!!!
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All of my freinds and even people that arent my freinds are convinced that I'm rich and spoiled. I am defeintly not rich but my family has money. Every time I go shopping, or get somthing new they call me spoiled or rich. Its really annoying and they say it in a mean way and they wont stop. How can i get them to stop saying that? (link)
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well they are obviously jelious. if they are your realy friends they would respect you and cut it out. sit them down and tell them how you feel. hope it works!!
~nat~
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Ok. I have a best friend JD who I have been hanging out with for almost a year and half.We met because at the time I was his best friends girl. Well, he fell for me and so after his best friend and I broke up, we tried dating. But it didnt work out because I felt that we grown to in the short time that we knew each other before we dated. Well, his brother, Vince, knows about me we met once and all the times that JD talked about me and always talking to me. JD has told me that he has called me all these different names because JD says that anybody who is friends with JD, Vince hates. The other day I found out that during this practice test that we had for CATS Tests, I talked to him and I started to like Vince. Before I told JD, he told me that Vince called me a dumbass and that I had disturbed him while he was sleeping, which I didnt because I was talking to my other friends that were around him, and some of my friends are his friends too. But I did finally tell JD. But thia isnt really about JD all that much except that he is the brother of the guy I like and I dont want him mad at me either. What should I do? How can I get to start liking me and maybe to go out with me? (link)
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i think you should sit him down and calmly tell him.. it will work and hopefully he will understand. no offense but umm its not a good thing to first like one guyy and then his brother. if they ever both liked you a lot they could get in a big fight. its not a good thing to get into. just flirt with this guyy and shown him that you are interested in him
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My boy is really nice to me only some days. Like one day he'll be all nice and smile at me and talk to me. Sometimes massages my shoulders for no reason, but it's cool. But then like the next day, he'll be all quiet, won't say nothin to me. I mean, I get that guys don't like to talk to you all the time, but this is my homeboy. What's up with him talking to me one day and then ignoring me the next. Cause I think I'm falling for him. (link)
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guyys are just wierd like that.. he could be tired or bummed about something. maybe YOU should try talking to him
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my boyrfiend and i have been together for two years we are both 17 and he is in the army well i oct. of this year he was suppose to be deployed to baghdad for a year and a half, which ruined our plans of going to college together so i planned on staying home and going to a schoo near by till he got back well turns out he actaully wont be going, but know he has this mindset of not going to college at all, which i think is pretty stupid. He said that when he turns 18 this fire department has some kind of job waiting for him. he said he would be making 40k a year and insists that he doesnt HAVE to go to college at all. He hasnt really made up his mind which I think is unfair to me b/c what he does effects me and i am again finding myself putting my life on hold for him...we grad. in May and im not committed to anything school wise which really scares me Im so lost and dont know what to do getting someone else point of view would be awesome thanks....
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i think you should put him on hold. its your life not his and if hes going to screw up your life then hes not worth it. sry if it sounds mean but im just giving you my opinion. i think you should go to skool and really set your mind on it. skool is important and you might not have that opportunity again if you loose this one. i dont no if your smart....im guessing you are...if you go to skool then you could get an awsome job that DOES pay more then 40k. and are you sure that your bf will be getting 40k? i mean after you take out all of the taxes and all it might not be that much. hope you make the right choice. hope i helped!!!!
good luck!!!
~nat~
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I like this guy and he likes me.. Well we have ALOT in common and I admit im pretty popular.. so anyway, He's not the hottest/most popular person ever. I like him and I swear im not conceited!! But its like I feel like if I go out with him then I will ruin my rep.. I dont really care but my friends are like "OMG HES SO HOT!! I LIKE HIM NOW." Im not like that.. I go for personality.. but what do I do?? Do I go out with him of save my reputation? (link)
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why are you worrying about your reputation? if you are that popular then everyone will just accept it. if you like a guyy that much then you shouldnt worry about it. have your friends get to no him and maybe they will see how kool of a guyy he is. dont ever hesitated to go out w. someone u like. if your friends are TRUE friends then they will accept him the way he is. life is not about being popular its about being yourselfwho nos maybe you'll make him popular too. just dont break his heart!!
keep my words in mind
~nat~
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my boy friend is here right now I am so in the mood roght now but I have a promice that I wont lose it ( virginity) till I get married but I want to so bad what do I do help me (link)
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its not right to have "it" before your married. keep that promise and youll be fine. you can do other stuff w. him just dont do "that"
~nat~
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How do you get a boy to like you if he hates you? (link)
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well if he doesnt like you then he doesnt like you. but there are some ways that can grab his attention....here are some tips
1. wear a simple fragrence so whenever he smells it hes thinking of you
2. always flash a cute smile....a guyy will always love to see that he brightened your day
3. Pink is a soothing color that will give you a very realaxed look...guyys like that too
4. never be the mean girl...always be as sweet as possible..they just get old...no one will ever get bored of a nice girl
5. always laugh and have funn when your aroud him cause i guyy loves to see a gril he might like have a good time.
6. try talking to him and just be kool when you talk to him... i no you might be nervious but just remember its just a guyy
hope i helped!!!!
~nat~
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ok me and this guy, jeremy have been hanging out. he's a year younger than me (school-wise) because he failed, and we met through my best friend.she and him are good friends, so yeah ;) well jeremy has a friend paul, that likes my friend ewelina... making sense? well the guys drink sometimes. everytime we hang out they are bored because they are sober and vodka gets them to express themselves?! haahaa... weird i know. well the i heard jeremy likes me so i startedmaking small moves o him, like laying on him and stuff and well yesterday he didn't do ANYTHING, AT ALL! then later on he called me while i was at my friends house, and i was hey who is this, he's like your're boyfriend. i was like oH the one that ignored me today? he saoid he didn't ignore me today and that he really likes me and he's nervous AROUND girls he likes. the only reason he said all this was because he drank a little. and then he calls ewelina, and they talked for 73 mins, exactly, haha. they talked about me. he likes me a lot, and he wants to change supposedly . he wants to get serious with me and his friends told me the same thing. today i heard they're going out to drink again and i called them and we talked then went to his friend paul's house. they were sober and we didn't talk at all, we just sat there (me,paul, jeremy, ewelina!) and then me and ewelina left and went to her house and then all of a sudden the doorbell rings. we answer it and its jeremy with 2 of his friends. then ewelina leaves and me and them go to the park to talk. they ask why we don't want them to drink, and i couldn't think of a good reason. then they were like to jeremy (his friends said) ok how about u dont drink on mon, tues, wed, thurs, and friday saturday sunday you can? how does that sound lisa(me)? and i was like i dont control him and he's like dude ill drink whenever i want. i really like the guy and i know him and my friend ewelina have had feelings for each other in the past and paul likes ewelina so thats why jeremy ANd ewelina never went out. one of jeremy's friends today metnioned that if paul was a good friend he's let jeremy go out with ewelina. she's my best friend and i loove her to DEATH but i don't know what to do anymre. she's not gonna go out with paul and i want to go out with jeremy and he knows that. so how do i get jeremy to stop drinkinking and how do i tell him and good reason to show that I CARE!!!!!!!????? and should I worry about jeremy and ewelina? thanks soo much!
=] thanks a zilxillion
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if he likes you so much im sure he'll give anything up for you. if he doesnt then calmly tell him and explain why you dont like him drinking.....i hope you and him arnt drinking underage!!!.....umm if your friend ewelina is really your friend she wont take your man from you. If it doesnt work out dont sweat it. there will always be someone out there for you that could be better then Jeremy. hope i helped and if this advice is not enough then ill be happy to answer another question!
~nat~
WOW this is like the longest question ive ever gotten...took me like ten minutes to read..lol
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okay well i bite my nails .. and friday night my friend is havin a birthday party & we are gonna get out nails done .. is there any way i can get my nailsz to grow? i mean there really short.. please help me !!
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if your getting a manecure then your nails will be filed down anyways just make file them so they are not jagged. dont worry about it
~nat~
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My best friend Anna and I both like the same guy, Dan. We are both really good friends with him and he flirts with us and other girls a lot. The problem is that he told me that he didn't like Anna, and only wanted to be friends with her. Then he told me that he always is really good friends with girls and then they end up liking him.
I told Anna this and she is really upset and I'm not sure how I should do. I still really like Dan, but it sounds like he doesn't like me because of what he said about his friends falling for him. I was about to ask him out, but now I'm not sure if I should.
why do guys flirt with girls and expect that the girl will never like them? Shouldn't they know that the girl will end up liking him? (link)
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lol your exactly right. guyys are really hard to understand. if he doesnt care that girls like him then dont even bother. you can still have a crush and all but just dont get involved i liking him a lot with all of those other girls. im guessing hes a ladies man so thats why everyone likes him and maybe he doesnt want to admit that all those girls like him. i no it sounds wierd but thats probobly why.
~nat~
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I dont know what to think or do. I had seen this guy at a local gas station, smiled and waved all the time. I guess he talked with a friend of mine that worked there, and showed up at my house to see what I was up to later that night. I had to work, so he said he would try to call me,but he just moved into this new place and didn't have a phone yet. He did call that night and we talked. Saturday night he called me to see if I wanted to hang out. I went over to his place with a friend. We talk and hung out for hours. He put some romantic music on and we danced down in his basement, with all his friends upstairs. We kissed and he did ask me if I wanted to sleep over,but didn't pressure me at all. He also was very understanding when I said I didn't want too. So he made plans with me to meet up the next day. We hung out all day Sunday,he even broke plans with his friends. I haven't really talk with him since, but our work schedule conflict. I just dont know if I should.
female, 18 yrs.
USA
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i think you should go for it cause hes obviously a romantic. just make sure you know a lot about him before you make that decision. you didnt mention if he went to your skool or not ???
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