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my friend
my friend, let's call her "emily," is very opinionated. most of the time it's rude and she's not afraid to voice her opinion, especially to me. now at first i didn't mind this, but now it's getting really annoying. see, last night was the sports awards banquet at my school and she kept making rude comments to me about people she didn't like but were my friends. if she didn't like them, she would be like, they don't deserve this award because of blah blah blah and i just wanted to scream at her because they deserve it so much and she just says that because she's jealous (she used to be good, but not anymore). how can i get her to stop being so rude and obnoxious? i really don't want to hear this constant complaining anymore. i'm not very confronational so i don't think talking to her in private would be my best option. thanks so much!
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You really need to say something.Don't let people walk all over you or they will.I don't think you'll get her to change because obnoxious people rarely do! Just tell her that while she may not like these other people they are your friends and you would like her to keep her comments about them to herself.If she doesn't then move away from her. Maybe you can embarrass her into behaving. I know you're not confrontational but if you don't say anything she will assume you like her behaviour.Sorry.
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when she tels you something like that say like, "she's my friend!" or shrugg it off. sometimes u have to say u know she is nice and bla bla bla
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Well, I just suggest that you should just sit her down and talk to her about how you feel. Maybe you could find someone that feels the same way that you do and you both sit down and talk to her and then tell her how you both feel. Dont accuse her of anything, dont yell/scream, just calmly talk to her. If you want, have an adult in there so that things dont get out of hand, but you dont have to. But also, you could encourage her to do the things that shes good at and just be there for her when she has a problem or something. Just be a good friend to her and maybe shell turn around and see the light, see the way that you do.Just be prepared for things to boil up when you talk to her if she is that kind of way. Well, get back to me if you can and tell me how everything goes.
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You are correct, you need to talk to her in private. Emily is obviously suffering from low self-esteem, and the last thing she needs is you telling her that she is acting like a selfish little brat (even though it's true). The best thing you can do is to try to build her up by praising her and bragging about her good qualities. Also, be careful not to reinforce her gossip/dissing of ther people by joining in whenever she's doing it. If you treat her kindly, you will influence her by your example, and she will see (eventually) that tearing other people down will never make her feel better about herself or about anyone else.
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give her a taste of her own medicine, give her your opinion, and dont hold back. Go for it, Bust loose on her with everything you have ever wanted to tell her. If she cant take it, then she doesn't need to be giving it!
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You can do the same thing to her as she does to you, and see how it makes her feel, or write her note saying that your sick of her doing this and that its not very respectful and she needs to stop. I hope I helped ((Kaitlyn))
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tell her to chill out. if shes likes to "speak her opinion" then she must not have a problem telling those people shes talking about. your friend is so rude. those peopled worked their asses off to get those awards and she shouldnt put them down. tell her to get a life. shes obviously jelious like you said. tell her that she should try doing what they are doing and see how much work it is. if shes so worried about what your friends do and dont deserve then she should confront them and tell them what she thinks. tell her to stop talking about it to you and tell those people. maybe she'll figure out that its pissing you off. or maybe you should strait out tell her. Why are you friends with her if she IS making fun of you friends?? that doesnt sound right to me. sit her down and tell her that its pissing you off. if she doesnt cut it out but she nos shes hurting your feelings then just ditch her. plain and simple!
~nat~
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