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Hey, just wondering from the name, are you a Christian? Or some sort of religious person that would study the Old Testament? Because of your name (Solomons_understudy) I thought of Solomon from the Bible.. (link)
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Yes, I am a Christian.
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I have a friend (lets call her gina) and she'll be my friend for one minute and egt mad at me for nothing the next. and im really getting tired of it. its getting old and she's kinda popular and hangs out with a lot of my friends but if i get mad at her, she gets other people involved in hating me and if shes mad at me, so are they. what should i do. P.S, I rate 5's
-Brittany (link)
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Ditch Gina until she grows up.
REAL friends don't play one friend off another.
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hey,
I have this problem with a guy named Matthew. We have been best friends for over 4 years. Recently we both fell in love with each other. I least I love him. He always wants to mess around and he says it means something. To me it really does. He claims he wants to loose his virginity to me and claims that that would bring us together. Would that actually bring u apart? Help! (link)
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My advice is , if you want to be friends, then shut him down all the way, RIGHT NOW.
You can never regain lost innocence, and don't kid yourself: you will never NEVER be able to go back to being the friends you once were - it's impossible to do.
Sex is both the best and worst thing on earth. Best in marriage, worst in any other relationship.
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It all started when I met Jeremy, Louis, Paul, & Simon. Paul & Simon are brothers, and all four of the guys are all friends. My best friend, Ewelina, knows the four guys. I met these guys about two weeks ago, I mean, I knew them before but until then we never really talked. Some background information: Paul & Jeremy are best friends. Paul liked Ewelina for about 5 years, I mean, that guy is like so obsessed with her. Jeremy, liked Ewelina. And vice-versa, but they never got together because of Paul. They both say they don't have feelings/like each other so... So yeah... now Jeremy was talking to Ewelina and he said he liked me alot. Jeremy, he's like perfect, well to me, anyway. He sings, plays guitar, doesn't smoke, but he drinks. Thats the bad part ... =(. He says drinking makes things better for him, makes things more fun and lets him open up. He's also very sensitive & emotional, =]. Ok last week, we were all by Ewelina's and they all came by and we just all sat around. Then they went to drink up at some party. Later on Jeremy calls Ewelina, and I picked up the phone. I asked who it was, and he said "your boyfriend". I was like, oh the one who ignored me today?, he explained to me that he's shy around girls he likes and that he's very nervous. I was soo happy! =] Then after I left, Jeremy stopped by Ewelina's after the party, and they were being very annoying to her. Acting like such asses... so Ewelina was like, watch what I tell Angie (me), she won't give you a chance. He got all pissed at her, and then came by my house. I was in the shower, so I didn't talk to him of course. Then him & Ewelina talked later on that night, for over an hour, and she said they talked all about me. That he liked me a lot and all, and stuff like that. Oh man, was I happy ... Then we hung out a few times after that and he told Ewelina and Paul, he was begining to lose interest in me and that I was boring. Meanwhile, Paul & I have been talking a lot. I was trying to help him out with Ewelina, but Ewelina doesn't want to go out with him, so that was hard. Finally, Ewelina told Paul how she felt, that she hated him and everything. So things became rocky. We didn't hang out anymore, till last week, Ewelina and I talked, and she decided she'd give Paul a chance, hoping that maybe that would make it better for me, meaning maybe Jeremy & I would maybe hook-up, ya know? Well Ok so Ewelina is going out with Paul so that me and Jeremy could maybe hook-up, nobody knows that. And Paul is sooooo frikkin happy that they're together, FINALLY, so it sucks that he doesn't know the truth. Ok so they come by on Friday, nothing! Nothing happened, we barely talked. Jeremy wanted to go drink so he was pissed cause no one cold get the drinks for them. Then on Saturday, I wasn't home and they came by like 3 times, and they told my sister someone was gonna ask me out. Oh boy, was I happy =] Then we all went to the park, and talk. It was Louis, Simon, Jeremy, and Paul. Ewelina had band practice at her house.
Yeah so anyway, we all just hung around and talked. They drink some earlier that day, around 1 so yeah... Jeremy was all over me, and flirting, =]. Then Louis and Paul left and so me and jeremey and simon all went to my backyard and just talked. They wouldn't leave me alone about the whole Ewelina and Paul situation, they were onto it. They were very suspisious. So then I was sitting inbetween them on the swing and I just broke out. I like started crying, and I told them the truth. THE WHOLE FREAKING TRUTH. I felt so stupid, I mean telling Jeremy that I like him, and the only reason Ewelina is going out with Paul is so that I could go out with him. So I told him how I felt, and him and simon started whispering something. All I heard was simon saying YOU NEED TO TELL HER and the jeremy was like, look, i know you like me. i know, and i like you too, but not that way. he doesn't see us togther, and he's like explaining how he's neer been in a serious relationship, so its hard for him. But he says we can do stuff, i'm like save it. I got s pissed, and oh my GOD i felt horrible about the whole paul and ewelina situation, and they're like dont be so hard on yourself, its not your fault, and stuff. I felt horrible, and then I told them the rest of the story about how ewelina is going out with this other guy, too and they were like skank and stuff and now they hate her. they wanted to do something where i walk on her and jeremy, jeremy would make a move on her, and i would walk in on it. it was supposed to show me what kind of a friend she is. i personally seriously dont think she would have done it, but jeremy and simon were like yeah she would and stuff. then they left around 10. Our plan was to not saying anything at all. Ok then on sunday, they came by, all of them except Louis, they brought another friend along, some Andy guy, and oh my, he was hitting on me. he was wasted/stoned and saying the stupidest stuff, lol, it was crazy! they came by because jeremy wanted 10 bucks cause some guy ripped them off, jeremy gave the guy 20 bucks and the guy was supposed to go to dominick's and get them some liquor. he left and never came back, lol so jeremy wanted 10 bucks, i only had 3. then they left, and nothing really happened. then today [monday] simon calls me at 9 in the morning, i was like what the hell ... he wanted me to come by and drink with them, it was simon, paul, and that andy guy. i got there like 4 hours after they called me, i had stuff to do. they were all ready wasted and paul was starting shit with simon, it was horrible... they almost fought. yikes ... then that andy guy was hitting on me, he was soo drunk, i was laughing my ass off. it was hilarious! then simon became kind sober? i guess? lol and we talked about what to do about THE TRUTH, lol. He said to keep it between the three of us {jeremy, me, simon} and not to tell ewelina and paul. so yeah then we talked about random stuff. then i went to my grandparents, they left to poland today. =( Yeah, then Jeremy, Louis, and Simon all come by and we talk. They said I have to tell Ewelina and Paul the truth. I was like what?!?!?!?!?!?!
They wanted to do it with me, so I was like fuck it and I went home. Then I called Ewelina over and we talked, I told her everything, she was kinda pissed and she called Paul and told him the whole story, I couldn't do it. I felt horrible cause they guys were telling me how he would go kill himself or something, then he wanted to talk to me. He was like, I trusted you, you were the person I actually thought I could trust, why did ou do this to me? Oh my GOD, it was horrible. Then Ewelina told me about how like last week jeremy asked her to make-ouy with him and stuff. Then later on Jeremy & Simon come by, and they're bitching at me cause Ewelina was pissed at them and acting like a bitch. They're like you told her, right? I was like yeah =/ ... They said they were just kidding about before, that they wouldn't have told paul or ewelina, and i shouldn't have. That they were just kidding and yeah. I was like oh well... then jeremy told me how the other day, the day after ewelina and paul started going out, she was like to jeremy: but we could still make-out and jeremy was like: what about paul? and she supposedly said who cares... now i wasn't supposed to say anything, but i can't keep my mouth shut and i asked jeremy about what she said, about making-out and he said that never happened, and i asked her about what he said and she didn't admit to it. so yeah... then jeremy and simon were saying how i'm the only nice girl they know who's not a bitch or a slut/skank/whore. i felt so special, =] hehehe. so yeah but now, i don't know what to do. jeremy was saying how he's gonna stop drinking, [yeah for like the 6th time] and i think maybe he's doing it for me, just maybe? ahh i don't know what to do anymore ... he's such a player. and i don't WANT to like him, after everything but I can't help it, ohh man what do i do? when we first met, he was like in love with me, like seriously he'd call up ewelina and talk to her about me for about an hour, now he doesn't like me anymore, but why??? =( they said i gotta be more fun, but how???
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Follow altazuma's advice - it's good advice.
Anyone who needs drugs or alcohol to have a good time with their friends is simply sick and needs professional help.
Find some friends that are REAL friends and drop all these losers.
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Theres this guy online that wont leave me alone. He's so perverted and i have no idea who he is. hes not from my town but he always tells me that he sees me and he tells me what im wearing. hes always saying stuff like how much he wants to fuck me and he just says really nasty things. hes really violent too, like if i dont answer him RIGHT away he'll flip out and call me names, so im scared to block him or anything since he knows what i look like and he "sees me all the time" what should i dooo? (link)
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Block him online, tell your parents you are being stalked online and get them to contact the cops.
Don't mess around with this kind of stuff, because people can get screwed up or killed too easily ignoring threats of this kind.
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All you girls out there...
I am kind of shy, but am trying to be more outgoing, which I am finding easier and easier. Usually when I like a guy, they have no clue, but I would like to change that. What are the best ways to flirt? If you could tell me some of your favorite flirting moves I would appreciate it. Any little flirty gesture or something that always works for you?
And for you guys out there, what kind of things do you love when a girl does? What is the best ways for a girl to flirt in you opinion? How do you like a girl letting you know she is interested in you?
Please keep in mind that I am kind of reserved, so please don't tell me to go up and grab his butt or something, thats not really my style. Thank you so much in advance for your advice! (link)
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So you are reserved -- I think that's great!
The best way to get a "good" guy's attention is to make sure he always sees you smiling at him. Kinda like you have a secret that no one knows about. Keep it up, and he'll eventually be so curious that he'll approach you.
Also, never NEVER chase after him - always keep your self-respect - if you don't, he'll never respect you - he'll just use you, conquer you, and then throw you away and move on to the next challenge.
The harder a guy has to work for your attention and affection, the longer he'll stay around trying to win it. If he is just looking for a booty call, he'll get impatient and move on -- in that case, let him go, he isn't worth your time and attention anyway.
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I am 14 years old, and i like a guy that goes to my school. He is going out with the biggist slut ever.. & I like him alot! Everyone thinks they are wrong for each other. I need a way to win him over. I donno what to do cuz me and the girl hate each other. He won't listen to any of his friends and i know he wont listen to me. We would be the best couple ever! So if you have any advice please feel free to give it!! (link)
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You probably won't like this advice, but hey, you asked....
1. You don't want such a guy to begin with.
2. You shouldn't be worried too much about guys at your age, because you and the guys are just simply not ready to deal with all of the emotional/physical realities that occur between the sexes.
3. Worry about the person YOU WANT TO BECOME, rather than the person you need to become in order to attract the attention of some punk who just wants to get into a girl's (any girl's) pants.
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hi i'm a 18/f and i'd like to address this question to guys and guys only.
what type of makeup do you like on a girl? how little and how much? what are makeup turn-ons and turn-offs?
the reason why i'd like to conduct this simple survey is because i'm starting to see younger girls wear A TON of makeup on when it's unnecessary. i'd like to know what kind of makeup looks you guys are attracted to so it'll give all us girls a hint on how to do our makeup! thanks! (link)
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Girls are supposed to be basically pink or red and very soft. So stay away from the glitter and neon - also anything goth is usually pretty scary and does not usually attract anyone but perverts.
Too much makeup, no matter the color, is just plain gross - lots of girls look like they are ready for being viewed in a coffin at some funeral home somewhere.
Super-long eyelashes or nails look plain trashy, too.
The best makeup is the kind that makes girls look pink and healthy, and that draws attention to their lips and eyes -- but never wear too much makeup, or else you'll look dead.
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Okay this is all very confusing, I'm sorry and I hope it doesn't make ya'lls head spin but here is my problem.
I made out with a guy totally unaware that he had a girlfriend.
Well recently, I got in contact with his brother, and she was over there. I mentioned something to his brother about us making out, in jest. She got on and immediatly asked me if whatI say is true.
I said, yes. It was. I wasn't gonna lie.
She told me that they'd been dating for three years straight, and she thought she might be prengnat. HE told me nothing of the sort, that she was just a friend.
After much hassle, she called me and told me she'd confront him about it. She did, and he denied it, and she told me "I don't believe you, I trust him."
Things are blowing up, random friends of hers are IMing me like crazy, and his brother is sort of half and half beleving me, yet feeling dedication towards his brother.
Of course the whole attention thing is on them..its oh "Krista* made a big deal about it.." "OH krista is trying to ruin a relationship" when that totally wasn't my view or anything.
How can I help what she saw? I think its been hurting me more then it has them. What do I do?
I want a logical way to get back at them, or to show them that I don't give two dead rats.
I want the girlfriend to know that it IS true no matter how much he denies it, though it doesnt matter much to me if we messed around or not.
HELP!
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Just move on, and let the blind go on leading the blind -- you know the truth, and eventually so will everyone else. He's a player, and she'll figure this out eventually.
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my friend, let's call her "emily," is very opinionated. most of the time it's rude and she's not afraid to voice her opinion, especially to me. now at first i didn't mind this, but now it's getting really annoying. see, last night was the sports awards banquet at my school and she kept making rude comments to me about people she didn't like but were my friends. if she didn't like them, she would be like, they don't deserve this award because of blah blah blah and i just wanted to scream at her because they deserve it so much and she just says that because she's jealous (she used to be good, but not anymore). how can i get her to stop being so rude and obnoxious? i really don't want to hear this constant complaining anymore. i'm not very confronational so i don't think talking to her in private would be my best option. thanks so much! (link)
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You are correct, you need to talk to her in private. Emily is obviously suffering from low self-esteem, and the last thing she needs is you telling her that she is acting like a selfish little brat (even though it's true). The best thing you can do is to try to build her up by praising her and bragging about her good qualities. Also, be careful not to reinforce her gossip/dissing of ther people by joining in whenever she's doing it. If you treat her kindly, you will influence her by your example, and she will see (eventually) that tearing other people down will never make her feel better about herself or about anyone else.
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Pfff.. I just realised how BORING my life is!!! I wake up at six, go to school, come back at 4, do homework, go on the computer, sleep. What a nice life eh??? NOT!! its just soooo boring! i have nothing better to do. Any ideas? (link)
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Anyone's life can become tedious and boring at times, especially when you are going to school. But someday, you'll be going to a job and you'll get bored with it at times, too. Even if you end up with a "good" marriage, it can be boring also. The best defense against boredom is to look outside of yourself, outside of your little boring world, and reach out to help or encourage someone else. Look for things that you can do to help someone else, whether it be tutoring a young person or reading to an old person. The less you focus on your life and your feelings, the more enriching and exciting your life will become.
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