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He is living in denial
Okay this is all very confusing, I'm sorry and I hope it doesn't make ya'lls head spin but here is my problem.
I made out with a guy totally unaware that he had a girlfriend.
Well recently, I got in contact with his brother, and she was over there. I mentioned something to his brother about us making out, in jest. She got on and immediatly asked me if whatI say is true.
I said, yes. It was. I wasn't gonna lie.
She told me that they'd been dating for three years straight, and she thought she might be prengnat. HE told me nothing of the sort, that she was just a friend.
After much hassle, she called me and told me she'd confront him about it. She did, and he denied it, and she told me "I don't believe you, I trust him."
Things are blowing up, random friends of hers are IMing me like crazy, and his brother is sort of half and half beleving me, yet feeling dedication towards his brother.
Of course the whole attention thing is on them..its oh "Krista* made a big deal about it.." "OH krista is trying to ruin a relationship" when that totally wasn't my view or anything.
How can I help what she saw? I think its been hurting me more then it has them. What do I do?
I want a logical way to get back at them, or to show them that I don't give two dead rats.
I want the girlfriend to know that it IS true no matter how much he denies it, though it doesnt matter much to me if we messed around or not.
HELP!
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just forget about what u did with him. its his fualt and when she finds out hes been screwing around with other people then she will apoligize. just forget about it thats what i would do. ignore what people are saying. it will blow over.
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well maybe u should not talk to the girlfriend or him for a while and maybe he will finnaly confess that he DID make out wit you and that when she asked him he lied
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OK if your really determined.. i got something for you.
(Choice 1) Get a tape recorder..or a video camera (preferabley something small) Invite the guy over and purposely lead him on while the videocamera or tape recorder is taping.If you want you could even say to him while your stroking his hair,etc. "remember that night you kissed me? it was like heaven" <something like that> and after you put on a good show and get him to admit everything..and he goes home..there you go..you have evidence!
(Choice 2) Invite her to your house to witness him firsthand. Have her hide in a closet or somewhere. When he comes over..do the same thing you would do if you did the video camera idea and there you have it..once again you've proven yourself.
(Choice 3) Maybe have an IM conversation or email convo online..and print out the convo with him talking about how you guys kissed.
-hope it works out-
-meliss-
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I get the idea that this has happened before and she just doesn't want to believe it. You've done all you can and, when they break up (as they probably will), you can just say, "I told you so." Until then, ignore them, block them on IM, and hang out with some other people who are unaware of the situation (and don't tell them about it).
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Just move on, and let the blind go on leading the blind -- you know the truth, and eventually so will everyone else. He's a player, and she'll figure this out eventually.
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as long as you know know the truth about what really happened between the two of you, that is all that matters. I was in the exact same situation a few years ago. Except the guy had everyone believing him and hating me for "lying". I told everyone the same thing, " believe what you want, I was there, I know what happened, and the truth will eventually come out" sure enough, the truth finally surfaced and he admitted that he lied, and all those people who didn't belive me came begging for my forgiveness..and never spoke to him again. My advice is simple....dont worry about it. As long as you aren't still messing with him, it isn't your problem to deal with. If his brother and girlfriend choose to believe him, then that is for them to deal with because they are the ones he is making fools of, not you! Keep going on with your life and dont give him, or them, any more thought....they are just a waste of your time!
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offer him sex.. invite her to his place. and make sure she walks into his room just as you two are about to fuck.. lol.. that'd be so funny.. XD.. make sure you dont get naked or nothing.. just as you are getting your clothes off.. haha
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They aren't worth your time. Just move on. You don't need him, the horrible liar. And yeah of course they think you are trying to break them up. If she won't listen to you, then she won't. She will get hers really soon. You won't have to do anything.
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its not nice, but you could black-mail that one guy you made out with, if you know anything that bad, and if your that mean, but i doubt you are. you might also ask that bitch why you would tell her you made out with him. if you didnt wat would be the point of saying it. that might get her to think again. you also might go to the brother and he might beable to help you finish this stupid fight. i hope i helped finish this stupid fight yur stuck in.
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get a camera. get him drunk, then make out with him and get someone to take a picture of it. then she will see.
ps. shes a fuckfag.
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