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My best friend Anna and I both like the same guy, Dan. We are both really good friends with him and he flirts with us and other girls a lot. The problem is that he told me that he didn't like Anna, and only wanted to be friends with her. Then he told me that he always is really good friends with girls and then they end up liking him.
I told Anna this and she is really upset and I'm not sure how I should do. I still really like Dan, but it sounds like he doesn't like me because of what he said about his friends falling for him. I was about to ask him out, but now I'm not sure if I should.
why do guys flirt with girls and expect that the girl will never like them? Shouldn't they know that the girl will end up liking him?
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Guys so suck like that. I think they like the attention or something, but I've been in the same position and it's VERY annoying!
I can understand why you like him, but he sounds like a bit of a player to me. If I were you, I'd wait for another few days or so before you decide if you're going to ask him out.
He might still like you and using what he said to cover it up. So don't give up hope yet.
Good luck!
Sophie xxx
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when dealing with guys you have assume they dont know anything. He probably has a flirty personality so all the flirting is just who he is. The fact that he confided in you and told you that he didnt like how all his female friends started liking him is a good reason to try to move on and just be friends with him.
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He is obviously an obsessive flirt..
And if I were you.. I wouldn't go out with him.. it can ruin your friendship with Anna.. If you like someone.. and a friend you know likes them too.. you should ALWAYS step aside.. ALWAYS! (relationships normally always end bad... etc)
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Alright hunny, I have LOTS of experience in this area. My story is similar to yours and I know its hard to deal with. Not all guys flirt with girls to lead them on. In this case maybe Dan is just unsure of what he wants or what kind of girl he is looking for. Of course, it isnt right for him to flirt constantly with a randon number of girls, but maybe he just needs to know how much you actually like him. Tell him how you truly feel, and if you are really serious about him and a relationship with him, TELL HIM! Now for Anna. You two need to sit down together and discuss the way you feel. Tell her how much you like him and figure out if the way she feels about Dan is serious or just a fling. If it is just a fling tell her your plans to talk to him and try to make it so she knows that you are putting your friendship first. If she is serious about wanting to get with him, you need to decide whether you want to take a chance with Dan and lose your friendship possibly or maybe ask Anna if there is a way for you to get Dan but straighten things out so you two can stay friends. It is going to be hard and confusing but hopefully Anna is mature enough to understand that there is a possible chance that you and Dan could turn itno something serious. Good Luck! Hopefully things work out for the best!
Kelsey Loves You
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lol your exactly right. guyys are really hard to understand. if he doesnt care that girls like him then dont even bother. you can still have a crush and all but just dont get involved i liking him a lot with all of those other girls. im guessing hes a ladies man so thats why everyone likes him and maybe he doesnt want to admit that all those girls like him. i no it sounds wierd but thats probobly why.
~nat~
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