helpachick's advice column

askhelpachick

advice column ask question view feedback favorite columnist advicenators

Q: I want to get my nose pierced during the summer (nothing too big, just a small piercing on the side) but I want to make sure I'll be able to take it out at school.

How long do you have to wait after getting something pierced before you can take it out?

hey! well i know in the ears anyways, you usually have to wait six weeks. so somewhere around there most likely! xoxo helpachick

Q: When I saw both jessica simpson and kelly clarkson had proactive testimonals I was thinking about gettin proactive:S. I know it's expensive but that's not a problem.

My face doesn't break out badly...only my forehead gets 4-6 pimples and my cheek might get one or two. It's not a big problem and I never broke out really bad...

I was wondering if I shuld buy proactive? or should I get a next 3 step program (can u give me a name of it 2).

PS- I've tried loreal pure zone and yeah it works but I don't like the cleanser (wid micr beads) because the beads are tiny! So i switched it with neutrogena invigorating scrub...so please help me! I was thinking 4 2mrw evening?

hey! well i use provactive and even the little pimples you have, it definitley clears those up. also it makes you skin just look really clean its pretty awesome! so i'd go with that. xoxo helapchick

Q: hey.. i was wondering, what are some cheats for the sims 2 ... i already know the motherlode one.. but are there any others?.. thanks

press ctrl. shift. c and then type in the box moveobjects on and then press enter. then you can click on any object that normaly you wouldnt be able to move, and move it.
xoxohelpachick

Q: Well, I love horseback riding and I loove my horses to death. Well, the thing is they aren't really "my" horses but I lease both of them. (I ride/used to lease/love others but its mostly these two who I love the most). My trainer is having me show her mare this summer and I've been leasing her mare since September. We have a wicked strong bond and have come so far. However, the reason I started leasing her was because the pony I was supposed to lease was lame for almost the entire time I was leasing my mare up to the present time. We are pretty sure he's going to be better by the summer, and this summer I was supposed to go to our shows with him. He's so cute and funny and I love him so much. I know I can probably still ride both but how do I decide which one I want to concentrate on?

hey! well i show livestock/am going to show horses maybe too. its hard when you get multiple animals, and you want to do good on all of them. what you need to do, although its hard somtimes to make the time, but you need to focus on both of them just the same. this way, you'll do good with both of them. if you can't spend a whole bunch of time with both of them everyday, make a schedule for the week so that both horses get the same amount of time to work. xoxo helpachick

Q:
My best friend spends WAY too much time with her bf and whenever I try to tell her she gets mad and calls me selfish. She does EVERYTHING with him now and I think she likes him more than me. What can I do?

hey! well i'm sure she loves you too, but in a different way of course. she's your best friend, right??! so just call her up some time and ask her to like come over that friday/saturday and totally have a girls night or weekend or something. make sure its just you two or you and your other girl friends but no guys allowed this time. after you do this, she'll remember that even though she has fun with her boyfriend, she also has a blast with her friends, with you. just plan some times where things are like way back when--no boys allowed:P
xoxo helpachick

Q: What is the best place to get your own domain for free
ex. of what i don't want "www.freeweblayouts.com/username"

ex. of what i want
"www.title.com.uku" or something like that

hey! well i couple places i know to go for free websites are
www.freewebspace.com
www.angelfire.com

xoxo helpachick

Q: when i sit near this guy.. i get this little fuzzy feeling in my stomach.. i really dont know what this feeling means.. thats why i need help.. i kind of like this guy too... the only problem is i have a boyfriend:(:( but i havent seen him in about four weeks and its driving me crazy..
please help me:(

the reason your having the "fuzzy feelings" is B/C you like him. you like him a lot, is what this means. if you can become sure that he likes you too, then maybe try hooking up w/ him for a while since you don't see you b/f that much..maybe if you like this guy it would be ok to move on for a while. xoxo helpachick

Q: I've gone to a public school my whole life. Now 7th grade is ending and im going on to 8th grade. My brother goes to a private school and i want to go there. But I'm afraid of leaving behind my friends. I have a much better chance of getting accepted because my brother goes, but my brother doesn't talk to his old friends much. One of my friends who switches school a lot told me that I should do whats best for me, not for my friends. But I'm not sure whats best for me. I want to go to private school to help me with college, but I dont want to stop being able to see my other friends cause i love them so much.

I'll rate high if you try to help me with my decison

i think that it sounds like you WANT to go to the private school. and i take it that this school is in the same town as your public school, so since you live there and so do your public school friends, you could still hang out after school days, on weekends, and all that. no one but you can make this decision, but as long as you kept in good touch with your other friends, you wouldnt lose them. believe me i have experience in this....
xoxo helpachick

Q: well i just seem to feel more comfortable and easier to be friends with guys then girls. (by the way im a girl) i just feel like so shy when i try to be friends with girls and make friends with new girls and i dont know what to say. but it's so weird because most of my best friends are boys. like when i was little their was like 4 guys on my street and like one girl my age and i always wanted to play with the boys cause it seemed easieer. its just hard to be myself around girls. i'm definitely not a tomboy. i'm a typical teenage girl. i'm not talking about my sister or cousins, i mean just girls at school and stuff. what's my problem?

hey! no there is definitley nothing wrong with this! i find myself in the past year getting along a lot better with guys too. it's just because girls like to gossip and can gossip about you sometimes maybe and like others have said they are less trustworthy sometimes and yes, they are pretty bitchy sometimes. Some of my best friends are guys, and this is okay. Because guys make great friends for us cause they are so easy to get along with and fun to be around and easy to talk to. it's ok to have really good guy friends that you can talk to about anything, but also be sure to try and have a few girl friends because there are certain things that would be better to have them for, too. xoxo helpachick

Q: Hey Im almost 14 and I still havent gotten my period yet. Is this normal?

yeah it's ok some of my friends haven't started there's yet and we're 14. i know and have heard of people who didnt start theirs till high school.
xoxo helpachick

Q: Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my boyfriend asked me to have sex and I love him and i know iam ready but the thing is what should I tell my mom?

i wouldn't tell your mom anything on this subject. she doesn't tell you about her sex life, so you sort of have the right to keep your private too. just be safe and there will be no reason why she has to know. xoxo helpachick

Q: if a guy older than you who you like is pressuring you to have sex or oral sex and you are not going out and are only friends is he only in it for sex? btw im 13 hes 16

yeah, he's probably in it for the sex. so i wouldnt do it no matter what he says to try to get you too. and even if he's not just in it for the sex, which i doubt this, but it could be that he's just ready for a lot more than you since he's older. either way, i wouldn't do it if i were you dont let him talk you into something that you are definitley not ready for.
xoxo helpachick

Q: what do you do if you realllllllly realllly like someone but then you kissed them and they were horrible !!

well, since you reallly reallly like them, it doesn't matter if maybe they aren't the best kisser. perhaps you caught them off gaurd, or if not then they will get better as you move forward in the relationship. i wouldn't worry about it! xoxo helpachick

Q: i'm looking for a bathing suit..but i want one that is cute but not sluty..but sexy still...
please help...

hey! well here's some stores i've seen lately that have some cute swimsuits!
Old Navy
Kohls
Target
PacSun
JCPenney
Hollister
Aeropostale
Dillards
DEB

xoxo helpachick

Q: Hey, I know you hate love questions but this is extremely important to me so if you could help.. it would just be highly appreciated =] =]

So, I'm planning a get together with a few of my friends this Thursday. One of my girl friends and one of my guy friends. I also wanted to invite my crush, Calvin, who I've liked since September. We've went out one before(January), and I've liked him since September.He lives up the street from me and I want to invite him, but I'm very shy and I dont know if I should call him or just walk to his house on Thursday. Help please?

Thanks

hey! well since your a little shy i would call him to ask him to come, it would be easier for you. just be casual about it and dont be nervous. if he's gone out with you before, then he's interested so will most likely say yes to coming over! xoxo helpachick

Q: Me and my boyfriend have been going out for like, a while. The problem is that we're afraid to touch each other .. we can't hold hands, we don't bump each other when we walk, we don't hug, we don't hang on each other, ect. I want to get closer to him.But I don't know how, I can't just like one day, decide to hug him.. help?

hey! well your thinking on the right track: you need to start out touching slowly since you guys are sort of shy about it. start out by just like when you guys are sittin there and he says something funny or somethin like that just sort of nudge him a little bit playfully. soon enough he might start doing this to you too, and after this goes on a while you two will get more comfortable and it will be easier to start hugging and stuff! hope it helps:D
xoxo helpachick

Q: I just recently broke out with it all over my face .___. It is dark red and I don't know what makeup to use to cover/lighten it. People said not to use concealer and others said to use it. I don't know. Any help? I'm supposed to see someone tomorrow...I don't want them to stare and try to connect the dots, ya know?

hey yeah you should use concealer to cover this up. but at night like when you get ready for bed and stuff wash your face really good and get it all off and then put some kind of acne sort of treatment or face cream of some sort on your face to help make the blemishes go away a little bit. xoxo helpachick

Q: I need some ideas of love songs. like really romantic soppy stuff. Im making a video for my bf. ive got a few so far..

boys 2 men - i swear
celine dion - i want you to need me

but i need a few more ideas can any one help please? nothing rocky thanks :)

I RATE!

hey! well as some others have said i dont know what kind of music you like, so here are some ideas.
Bless the Broken Road--Rascal Flatts
You and Me---Lifehouse
Real Fine Place to Start--Sara Evans
Stickwitchu--Pussycatdolls
These Words--Natasha Bedingfield
All I ask of you--From Phantom of the Opera
Seasons of Love---from RENT
Why Can't I--Liz Phair

xoxo helpachick

Q: ok for my 8th grade graduation i need a dress...i want one thats not too dressy yet not too casual and isnt longer than my graduation gown so a little past knee length...can anyone give me suggestions of where to ifnd some for preferably under $100? some links would be helpful...tyvm

hey! some places i would go would be
forever 21
dillards
vanity
DEB
jc penneys
maurices
xoxo good luck! helpachick

Q: 13/f almost 14
I think i'm getting my period. >:|
Lately, I've had white stuff in my underwear and REALLY bad cramps [i got sent home from school for them today; along with the fact they made me puke.] Also; My boobs got bigger in the last month. What do you think? Do you think I'll get it soon? What should I do if I get it in school?
Thank you.

Yeah your definitley getting it. its alright though, not much to stress about. what you need to do is just always have pads with you somewhere at school. this way you'll have them if you need them. since your cramps are getting bad, you should try taking a motrin or something every morning before school and that should keep them under control for a while. maybe after lunch if you feel them coming really strong again, then go to the nurse and ask for one. good luck and it's really not bad once you get the hang of things!
xoxo helpachick

bio

hey im helpachick & i want to help you if i can. more than most of the questions i answer i have experienced something close to that myself. so feel free to ask&leave stuff in my inbox or whatever, and i'll try to get back soonish.

what about me?
I'm in college majoring in Fashion Textiles and Merchandising. I love fashion, boys, my friends, music, and love being active and outdoors. theres a lot more i could put about me but this is advicenators not myspace!!
ask away^.^