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Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my boyfriend asked me to have sex and I love him and i know iam ready but the thing is what should I tell my mom?
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TELL HER! You need proper protection, ++ if you hold a stong bond with your mom with telling her about sex and such then she will trust you later when it realy matters. goodluck hun,..
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What a mature question...I'm glad that you feel that you have such a strong bond with your mom that it's not a question to you of whether you will or won't tell her...but HOW to tell her. I applaud you for that.
You're 17. By this point, our parents have instilled as much as they can for us on how to be responsible adults. I don't think that you need to seek her approval, because your sexual activites are your choice. However, perhaps asking her advice on safer sex methods, or having a frank discussion about where you are at in your relationship would be good places to start.
Be prepared for her not to be thrilled. She may surprise you, either way...but know that the ultimate decision lies in you. If you feel that this is the one that you want to remember forever, this is the person who deserves this honor, then you will do it regardless of what your mother's opinion is. However, I hope that she will respect that her opinion matters to you...too often nowadays, someone your age won't even approach that conversation. It says a lot about both you and your mom, and I really do admire it.
I hope that your mom is supportive, and I truly hope that your first time is something that you will look back on and treasure for the rest of your life. You deserve it.
Take care -
Marissa
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Well this is kind of something you dont want to talk about with your mom,at least in my opinion anyway.Id say if you and your mom are super close and can tell her anything without regreting it later on thats great,then i would tell her what you and your boyfriend are doing and hopefully she'll understand and tell you to be safe and protect yourselves.If your moms the type where shes not understanding,will get upset,yell,or is very strict with you i wouldnt tell her anything just say that you and him are hanging out tonight and youll be home later your mom dosent need to know about your sex life,maybe your mom already suspects it that you and him are ready to do it.Just make sure you wear a condom or are on birth control so you dont get any STD's and are less likely too get pregnant.
♥ danielle
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Don't tell her. She doesn't need to know all the intimate details of your life. It's none of her business. If you feel obligated to tell your mommy about having sex, you probably shouldn't be doing it in the first place. There are many things to consider when you are deciding to have sex. Being "ready" doesn't just involve being mentally ready. It means being ready for any consequences that may come of it. If you get pregnant, are you ready to make a decision about keeping the baby or not? If you would keep the baby how would that affect your life? Are you okay with that? Is your boyfriend okay with it? Have you even talked about it with him? Okay, so you're planning on using birth control (I hope). It might not work. What then? Sex isn't about love. Sex is about reproduction and responsibility. So many people take sex much too lightly. Some of them get lucky and nothing happens. BUT some of them don't and are faced with extremely difficult situations that affect the rest of their lives. You said your boyfriend asked you. You didn't come up with the idea on your own. Having sex should be a mutual thought. Him asking you puts a lot of pressure on you. It may give you a false sense of feeling ready. Sex isn't a favor to give your boyfriend. He wasn't wrong to ask. Not at all. What's wrong is for you to so blindly say yes when you probably hadn't answered the question for yourself just yet. Love makes us blind. That's why you can't make your decision based on love. Make your decision based on potential consequences. So many thoughts are swimming through your head right now. What if I say no? Will he be disappointed? Will he break up with me? What's the chance that something bad will happen? It'll be great because we're in love right? These are not good thoughts and do not justify making the decision to have sex. Please reevaluate whether you are ready or not. Sex is a big thing, not just the next step in any old relationship. You can get the same physical feelings and pleasure in other ways. There is no need for sex. Don't get me wrong. I'm not lecturing you. I'm not saying don't have sex. If that's what you want to do, go right ahead. I just want to make sure that you understand what you're getting into. Nobody can stop you. Just make sure that you are truly ready and that you use as many birth control methods as possible and know everything about them. Take care and good luck.
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if you && your mother are close && you can discuss this with her.. Maybe bring up that you`d like to be on birth control to be on the safe side..But if you can`t then you can go to a planned parenthood && get on it yourself or at a local clinic..
Just always remember there are consequences to sex if you aren`t careful..
♥Dez
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i wouldn't tell your mom anything on this subject. she doesn't tell you about her sex life, so you sort of have the right to keep your private too. just be safe and there will be no reason why she has to know. xoxo helpachick
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Well that depends on if your mom will accept it or not. Having sex is completly youur decesion and there is nothing she can do to stop it. By telling her, its quite possible that she will feel more comfortable with you having sex simply because she won't feel like you were sneaky and went around her. But if you feel like, (or know) that she won't support you than i'd advise you not to tell her, because like i said before its your decision. And if she won't support you then she will probably do everything in her power to prevent it.
All in all your best bet would be to tell her afterwards... sit her down and calmy explain that you are mature enough for sex and that you love your boyfriend. (ect...)
*hope I helped*
-Pheobe-
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I don't know if our mom's are alike, but my mom always encouraged me to tell her when I started having sex.
I always thought it would be very awkward and that it wasn't something I felt comfortable sharing with her. However, when first I decided I was ready to have sex, she turned out to be the very first person I told. She was very supportive and just wanted to make sure I was prepared for such a big step.
I would suggest telling your mom before you actually have sex. She will be more understanding if you cautiously tell her that you are positive you're ready and that you will be careful and responsible.
Good Luck! =]
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If you really love him you should do it. But not if your ready. Don't get him to pressure you to do it though. Just sit down with your mom and tell her that you are thinking about doing it and tell her that you will be responsible.
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