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should i do it?
well one of my friends was raped the other day and it was horrible. well i want her second time to be more enjoyable and be with someone who really loves her and i do. well i dont know wut hit me, but i said i would give my virginity to make sure her second time was enjoyable and with some1 she loves and who loves her back. well now im having second thoughts. well she is really excited about it and i sorta am too, but i dont know. by the way i am 14 and she is 16. i just want to make her happy, and i only want to lose my virginity to either her or my g/f. well she lives in oklahoma and i live in illinois and she might come up here durring the summer so i need help. please help me and thanx in advance. should i do it with my friends or wait?
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O.K.....before I start I want you to know that I realize that you think you have your friends best interest at heart, and I commend you for that.
I also know what it's like to be raped at her age. The LAST thing that she or you should be thinking about is her next time.
She needs to get into councelling to talk about
what happened to her. Being raped is a complete violation of one's body and mind. You don't get over something like that by having sex with your friend that you trust. It may be years before she can willingly have sex and enjoy it.
The best thing you can do for her is to be there for her to talk to, to let her cry on your shoulder, just be a friend. The last time I checked, being a great friend did not include having sex with them.
When the time comes that she's ready...who knows...maybe you two could hook up then (if you're both available).
You mentioned that you are having second thoughts and I think that tells you exactly what you need to know. But that also means that it could lead to a VERY awkward experience for both of you...something that she especially nor you need!
Please rethink this and decide against it. I honestly think it would do more harm than good. You have a girlfriend, and no matter what others say she does not have to "understand" that you want to have sex with someone else...regardless of the circumstances.
You need to wait and have sex with the right person, for the right reasons, and only when you both are ready. I know the last thing you would want is to hurt your friend or your girlfriend.
Keep sex out of it!!
Take care,
Brenda
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im sorry about your friend being raped. Which one do you love more, your friend or your girlfriend. Whichever you choose sit down and talk to them and tell them why you are doing this. If your gf isn't happy about well, she isn't a good gf and doesn't understand. Like I said maybe just sit down and talk to them.
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I'm sorry about your friend being raped, and that's a really tragic thing to happen to a girl because then she'll never trust anyone again. If she dates someone, she's gonna think they're gonna do the same thing, or when they try to have sex with each other, she's going to cry or have horrible flash backs, and she won't be able to go through with it.
Anyways, I would wait. I realize you wanna help your friend, but why lose your virginity at such a young age? I know you love her, but is it more than friend love, or just sister love. Because, if you don't love her in the way a man should, then you shouldn't lose your virginity to her. Wait til you're older, and lose it someone you know you'll spend the rest of your life with.
♥TiNA
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