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My aunt passed 8 months ago. Her and I just so happen to wear the same size clothing. About 4 weeks ago, my uncle brought over some of my aunt's clothes for me to go through and pick out what I would like to keep. He gave the clothes to us, so I'm not pressed for time to decide because we don't have to return them or anything like that, but my Mom has been rushing me to look through them so she can clear them out of the basement. Thing is, I don't want the clothes. It's not that they're unappealing to me. It's that it would just be too emotionally upsetting to have them. I really don't want them, and I'm firm in my decision. My mom views it as, "perfectly good clothes", and since they're free, she might be a tad bit mad if I didn't accept them. Don't get me wrong, I've very thankful for the offer. But I just don't want to look like a total jerkface to my unlce's family. *Do you think it would be rude of me to refuse the clothing?
OMG totally not. You know you loved your aunt and your mom knows that. Even if you did not accept them you wouldn't be a totral jerkface. Its what you decide to pick but i have given to choices and whatever you pick is a good choice~
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yeah okay. so i went out with this guy and he dumped me and he was but anyway i was really upset about it. and now he likes me again and i like him soo much and i loved what we had but like my best friend hates him and thinks that he a complete @$$! and like she's always like oh please dont go back out with him please dont. i mean what do i do? do i go out with him? oh and another thing lol um its like i really wanna be with him again, but then again i dont wanna go back to my past, but theres no one else out there and i really like him. lol sorry if its confusing and long but i really need the help
OMG totally go out with this guy. So what if your friend hates him. So what if its your past. He might not do that same thing again! So i think you should totally go out witrh him. I hope my adivce helped and visit my advice column...thx
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Ok well lest year I had the perfet boyfriend! We loved each other so much, and during the summer we just stopped talking! Now we talk but it just doesnt seem to feel right! I really really liek him still, and i want to ask him if he would ever go out w/ me again i just get scared! please tell me how to ask him please!
You could say heyy wanna go to the movies with me? And then while your there you'll have so much fun that you will forget your scarce and then just ask him. I hope my advice helped!
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Okay...I've realized a couple days ago that I really, really like this boy I know (I'll call him Bill)...and the same day I came to that conclusion, I was told by a very good friend of mine that Bill has something for her...and that she likes Bill too. (She didn't know that I liked him, of course)...Today, I found that they have officially paired up...and I didn't really do a good job of hiding my disapointment, because "Bill" asked me if somebody made me upset...I said "Not intentionally"...he then asked if it was him that had done anything to make me upset...(Did he suspect or know that I like him??)...Now, I'm not sure if I should tell him that I really like him or not, because I do NOT want to cause any discomfort between me and the two of them, because I care deeply for both of them...but I don't want him to feel like he's doing anything wrong, either. I think if I told them (Or just him) "Hey, I'm disapointed, but I still support you guys", that it would (maybe) make things better...
I really need answers fast on this one, guys...
S.
Dear S.
Well sumtimes guys see your feelings. Well you could tell him that you like him but you feel happy for them 2 and hang out with them (that will get you closer) and he might feel a different way about you.. I hope my advice helped...Rate pleese
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i was absent one day at school for a lab, and i'm going to bring in a doctor's note for documentation. i was just wondering if school officials actually call up the doctor to verify that i came in? my doctor actually just left town two days ago. i heard there is a confidentiality rule with a job, but i don't know if it goes through with higher education...i just don't want my professor to think that i'm bs-ing it.
So your saying that you lied about being absent? Yes they do call up the doctor and ask if they really were in...it happened to me but i really was sick and they called the doctor and asked him if i was in and he said i was...so if you played hookie then you might geg ina lot of trouble. I hope this advice helped!!
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Hey Columnists,
OK, here's the deal. I am 13, and I am in 7th grade. My best friend,(9th grade) has been my best friend sence we were like 2 years old. When I was in about 2nd grade, my friend(4th grade), her brother(5th grade), played "Truth or Dare." What we did was dare each other to get naked, and then he would touch us. Well I have had a HUGE crush on him sence I was in 1st grade. This guy is in 10th grade, and on the computer he asked me if I wanted to play truth or dare with him again, but this time just me and him and i can't tell my friend. I said I don't know and signed off. I know that was him on his screename becuase he asked me in person, I pretened I did'nt here. I want to do it, but I can't let my friend know and thats very hard for me...becuase she is my BEST FREiND! Should I do it? or not? THANKS!
Well in my opinion dont do it. But if you guys really want to do it then do it. Tell your friend the truth if she understands then she is a good friend but if she doesn't and gets mad at you then she is not a true friend. I mean your only in 7th grade this can wait until your older (the gettting naked thing or your dare that sumone asks u) I hope this advice helped!
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My best friend (A) might or at least I think is flirting with my Ex who I am still in love with. She knows I like him and she has a boyfriend that she likes to. But what got me mad was when I saw them play fighting. So I got mad and left and I 'sorta' got over it today until I saw her around him again play fighting and acting stupid. It broke my heart and I almost cried cause I he might like her!! What can I say to her. Thanks All 5's SWEAR!
Well you could ask her why are you playing weith him? I dont have a problem but i wanted to know if i could like hang out with you guys. Thats what you say and Im sure that will work! Hope this advice helped!
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Hey!
I usually don't ask these types of qusetions but this has really worried me. Me and my ex broke up about a month ago. I really like him. Me and him talk ALL THE TIME! Like last night when I went to the basketball game (he plays basketball yay!) he was sitting were I am always at with my friends. (my friends boyfriend is his friend). And anyway. One of my 'so' called friends said "Yeah we know who she likes. She likes Kody!" and he looks back at me and started smiling. My face turned blood red. Theres like some days we dont talk that much and some days we talk alot. He always jokes with me and my friend. I asked him today if he was mad at me and he said no. Soo whats going on? Rate all 5's!
Hi,
Well some boys lie a lot because they do like you back. That hapened to me in 7th grade. I asked this guy if he was mad at me and he said no and then i found out that he liked me...A LOT! So, ask him are you sure you're mad at me? And then wait a bit and if he's right for you and likes you a lot he'll come out and tell you. I hope this advice helped.
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hi. if your emily like you said, this is becca. during flute classes, i feel like a know it all. i raise my hand for every question. i always volenteer as well. should i try to raise my hand less or just keep doing it?
Hey becca,
Yes you should keep doing it because that tells the teacher that you know a lot about the flute and understand. Its ok to be a know it all I am. I raise my hand for everything in math and my teacher calls on me and I get to be a helper. So iif you raise your hand more you might be able to learn more unique things then other that dont raise there hand as much. I hope this advice helped. Rate Please...and visit me soon again.
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ok so the holidays are coming up and i need an idea on what to get my very best friend in the whole wide world ! help? by the way you probably know me i go to your school
I think you should get him/her an Ipod..cuz they're really good for gifts. They come in all different sizes and colors. It depends if they like bog or small.. if they like big then you should get the Ipod shuffle or Mimi and If they like bg then you should get 'em a regular Ipod.
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I know you're going to hear this question come up a lot very soon, but I decided to ask mine earlier.
Christmas is soon and I need some helpful hints on what to get my boyfriend. He's really into druming, like drumline and D.C.I stuff. He's into death cab for cutie, polyphonic spree, ben kweller.
I had an idea to do something with buttons like these http://www.cinderblock.com/wc.dll?WebStore~RViewItem~DFC~DCB-BUT1~SID=05111516115258312562 but I'm not sure what to do with them. If I get a bunch of them from his favorite bands, what is a CREATIVE thing I can make him along with another present? [I don't want an answer saying make a collage.]
Well if he likes drums then you can go to a craft store and get materials and make fake drums...they're actually pretty kool...i did it..and make him a drumstick!
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15/f Try n make this quick:
Last year this guy Rich and I were friends and he likes me but i had a boyfriend. And he openly said how mad he was and that he liked me (jokingly he wasn't like ARRRG mad) and well i saw him once over the summer n it was awesome. but he switched school so i never saw/talked to him. now he's back and im single. problem is he wears eyeliner im kewl with that but a lot of my friends will bitch about that but w/e. but he also smokes pot n cigs. like i dont care n i will never its just it makes me unhappy he does that. but like now i make sure i see him and like he is always like Give me a hug! like old times. and i really think i like him. but my mom said i couldnt date him. should i just like "date" him at school and ease my mom into it, or stay friends with this guy? how can i see if he likes me too w/o saying yo dude ya like me still? ... sorry that wasn't very quick :( thanks so much to people who answer it though!
Dear Boy Trouble,
Well you could see him at school and be friends because if its sumone that smokes and stuff like that hes not good newz.... but you can still be friends if you want...u can ask him if he likes you by just asking him...I did that before and it worked..tri it!! I hope this advice helped... Please Rate..
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15/f Try n make this quick:
Last year this guy Rich and I were friends and he likes me but i had a boyfriend. And he openly said how mad he was and that he liked me (jokingly he wasn't like ARRRG mad) and well i saw him once over the summer n it was awesome. but he switched school so i never saw/talked to him. now he's back and im single. problem is he wears eyeliner im kewl with that but a lot of my friends will bitch about that but w/e. but he also smokes pot n cigs. like i dont care n i will never its just it makes me unhappy he does that. but like now i make sure i see him and like he is always like Give me a hug! like old times. and i really think i like him. but my mom said i couldnt date him. should i just like "date" him at school and ease my mom into it, or stay friends with this guy? how can i see if he likes me too w/o saying yo dude ya like me still? ... sorry that wasn't very quick :( thanks so much to people who answer it though!
Dear Boy Trouble,
Well you could see him at school and be friends because if its sumone that smokes and stuff like that hes not good newz.... but you can still be friends if you want...u can ask him if he likes you by just asking him...I did that before and it worked..tri it!! I hope this advice helped... Please Rate..
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Some background:
My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year and a half. We've been together since I was in 8th grade and I am now a sophmore in highschool. Unfortunately we don't go to the same school, so I see him once a week or twice a week if I'm lucky.
I have been friends with this boy for a few years, we dated when I was in 7th grade so it was hardly a relationship. But me and this boy have always remained very close friends even before my boyfriend and I met. He as well does not got to my school.
Friday night (The 11th) I was hanging out with him and a friend of mine at my friend's house. For some reason I ended up kissing this boy. To be honest I still can't figure out why I did it. I felt guilty about it after it happened and the guilt was eating me up inside. I saw my boyfriend the day after and I didn't tell him because I was too scared of what he would think, do or say.
The next day (Sunday) I told him what happened. He got really upset which I already knew would happen. I apologized a million times over and I promised him it would never happen again. I screwed up, I know that, believe me I know I screwed up.
We didn't talk up until late yesterday night and he told me that he'd give me another chance. However he said he's not sure if it's going to work because he doesn't know if he'll be able to trust me again. I know I don't deserve this second chance, but I am so greatful for it.
So my question is, what specific things can I do to regain his trust? Again, I know I screwed up really bad and I feel awful about the whole thing and I wish I could just take it back. I want to regain his trust and try to make things as close to "right" as it can be. But I don't know how I'm going to go about that.
He said to me that he's not sure if he'd be able to kiss me without being able to think about what I did.
I told him that if he wanted me to that I wouldn't talk to this kid ever again. What should I do? I don't want to end our year and a half relationship...
By the way, this is the FIRST AND LAST time I have and will EVER do something like that again. Please help me..
You can tell him that you are a person not a slave and i really appreciate trust..i will nver ever do this again and if i do...ill punish myself for how ever many years (?) I hope my advice helped you..thx! You dont have to break up with your best friend...just tell ur boyfriend the things I wrote and Im sure this advice will help...
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okay well i broke up with this guy a month ago, we were goin out for about 4 months, and i left him for another guy because all he did was create drama and i was completly miserable! now he wont stop bothering me and he keeps sneding my song lyrics about how much he loves me and its really bothering me... are there any song lyrics about how youre over a person and want them to move on? and also what are some ways i could tell him im over him and i dont want him bcak? please help!! i really need him to stop bothering me! thanks! will rate high!!
Well you could tell him that you want him to get away (politely) You could tell him maybe we should start seeing other people and tell him that his song lyrics sending is gettinh on your nerves and tell him that you ant him to stop.
or you oculd fix it and you won't have to talk to me again
well,lets c.where do i start?my b.f. gets all mushy with another girl and its really starting 2 bug me!!!wat do i do?i tried talking 2 him,but he just denies it!!!i want 2 break up,but then,i dont!!!wat do i do??????????
Well you can tell him that when he gets all mushy that it bothers you and you dont want him to do tha anymore. Well if you want to and you dont want to break up with him...follow your instincts!