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Would I Be A Total Jerkface? =/
My aunt passed 8 months ago. Her and I just so happen to wear the same size clothing. About 4 weeks ago, my uncle brought over some of my aunt's clothes for me to go through and pick out what I would like to keep. He gave the clothes to us, so I'm not pressed for time to decide because we don't have to return them or anything like that, but my Mom has been rushing me to look through them so she can clear them out of the basement. Thing is, I don't want the clothes. It's not that they're unappealing to me. It's that it would just be too emotionally upsetting to have them. I really don't want them, and I'm firm in my decision. My mom views it as, "perfectly good clothes", and since they're free, she might be a tad bit mad if I didn't accept them. Don't get me wrong, I've very thankful for the offer. But I just don't want to look like a total jerkface to my unlce's family. *Do you think it would be rude of me to refuse the clothing?
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i know how that feels! well what i do is i wear then around thew house and when i go out i change and just say i spilt somethig on it or it has a hole in it! try it!!
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♥ no you wouldnt be a jerk at all..just explain to your parents about your emotions and how it would bring sad thoughts about your aunt passing away..I'm sure theyll understand
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just tell your mom that i don't want the clothes because of my aunt dieing and it's kinda weird wearing a dead person clothes. no doudt about them they are cute i just don't wanna go throw it right now.. ask me a question please and rate me a 5!!
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i think your aunt would behappy if you had the clothing,even if you dont wear it put them in your room in the closet and hol donto them until your ready to give them away--or if you only want some things keep them and give the rest to hurrican katrina victims its going to good use and you wont feel as bad--good luck
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No, I don't think it's rude. It's perfectly understandable. Just explain it to your mom, and I'm sure she'll understand as well.
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I can understand your feelings and it is SO good of you to put your family's feelings first. Pick two or three items that you like, or you liked seeing your aunt in. Then just stash them away... maybe someday you'll want a remembrance of her and you'll still have that favorite sweater.
4/3/06 - glad to know you're feeling better and made a choice that suits you and honors the memory you have of your aunt.
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OMG totally not. You know you loved your aunt and your mom knows that. Even if you did not accept them you wouldn't be a totral jerkface. Its what you decide to pick but i have given to choices and whatever you pick is a good choice~
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just explain that you loved your aunt and it would be upsetting to you to wear them. they'll understand.
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I honestly don't think it would be rude of you to deny the clothing so long as you thorougly explained your reasoning. Tell your mother that it is not about the appeal of the clothing, rather the emotions that it will evoke. Say your getting ready for school, and all the sudden you pull on that sweater your aunt wore this past christmas...it might take a lot out of you and make you upset. Describe it in this way and remind your mom that those physical things are not what your aunt should be remembered as...explain all the real memories are in your heart where they should be.
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Hun i can completely understand this my Aunt Rindi recently passed in April and my uncle as well as yours wants us to go through her clothes and Me,My mom and my other Aunt haven`t done it yet.. i don`t want her clothing either and the day we was pose to do it the car broke down and i was so happy.. i know it was going to be upsettin and i have cried enough so i told them i wanted to wait a while and they excepted it.. Just tell them how you feel about going through these clothes of your Aunt`s.. Ask i you can just put em in your closet or something to get em out of the basement and tell them you`ll go through them soon as your ready.. ♥ Dez
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Well I really dont think it should matter. I mean we all have styles and emotions. If that clothes would bring out your emotions then I dont see why you should have to take them. Sometimes my mom would buy me clothes and some I didnt like but I still said thank you and all and then just never wore them unless I was home all day. Do what you have to but respect your parents at the same time. Maybe talk to her and tell her why you don't want them. Im sure a mother would understand if you tell her your emotions will come out if you wore the clothes. Hope I helped you a little there. Good luck.
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not at all. Just explain to them that everytiem you would wear the clothing you would be upset at her passing. That it is entirely to emotional for you to take them. Tell them just how grateful you are...but maybe say they could give them to salvatin army or goodwill or something. Some place where people who NEED them can get them. I am sure that would make your Aunt proud of you!
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