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I'm too late to tell him...or am I?
Okay...I've realized a couple days ago that I really, really like this boy I know (I'll call him Bill)...and the same day I came to that conclusion, I was told by a very good friend of mine that Bill has something for her...and that she likes Bill too. (She didn't know that I liked him, of course)...Today, I found that they have officially paired up...and I didn't really do a good job of hiding my disapointment, because "Bill" asked me if somebody made me upset...I said "Not intentionally"...he then asked if it was him that had done anything to make me upset...(Did he suspect or know that I like him??)...Now, I'm not sure if I should tell him that I really like him or not, because I do NOT want to cause any discomfort between me and the two of them, because I care deeply for both of them...but I don't want him to feel like he's doing anything wrong, either. I think if I told them (Or just him) "Hey, I'm disapointed, but I still support you guys", that it would (maybe) make things better...
I really need answers fast on this one, guys...
S.
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just be like bill ok i know my friend is gonna hate me forever for this but then kiss him. no just be like bill ok you and my friend make a cute couple but u know how yesterday you asked that question? well guess what it's you. and i do like you but i know you could never be with me because you are with her. .
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Dear S.,
The truth will set you freeeeeeeeeeee!
Tell your friend that you like "Bill" too but never said anything because you love her and do not want to do anything to get between them. Tell her that you still want to hang out with them, but feel a tag a long friend will be annoying for them. Let her know that because she is with him, he is OFF LIMITS!! But add in a joking manner that if she breaks up with him and he shows interest in you, that you would consider dating him. Wish her the best with him. Give her your support.
Tell "Bill" that you are not mad at him at all. Tell him that you were just taken back suddenly by hearing that your good friend began dating the guy you liked. Tell him that you are happy for them and wish them the best. Then ask him if he has any friends that may want to double date sometime, because you feel awkward being the third wheel.
The fact is that if they stay together and become close, eventually they will end up doing things without you. If you want to do things with them and not feel awkward, you will need a "Bill" of your own. You just discovered a couple of days ago that you liked him. This means that you have not liked him in "that way" for very long. It is possible to find someone else to like just as much. As I read another Advicenator say "God" has plan for you. Maybe his plan was for you to meet one of "Bill's" friends.
The point is that you must be honest with everyone at all times. Never keep your feelings bottles up either. Never ever do anything to hurt your friends (like stealing her boyfriend). That is immoral and wrong. Just be their friends and find your own man. IF "Bill" happens to fall for you in the process it is not your fault, but he must be the one to leave your good friend on his own, without your influence. Do not betray your friend. As long as they are going out, he is OFF LIMITS!!
I hope that you find what you are looking for.
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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I know this probably sounds like some bad advice, but if you don't want anything to happen with you and your friend, then you are better off not telling them this.
You just have to know that the chances are small that they'll end up together for a long time. And that you can't go on for a long time thinking that this guy was the only one you wanted, because it's not true. There will be so many other guys that you'll want to be with, remember that when you feel down about your friend and this guy. As I said, likely, your friend and him won't last too long. I think you'll be a lot better off not telling them because it would save a lot of tension between you and your friend, guys can really come between girlfriends, and when they let it happen, their friendships crash and that guy will be gone even though it's not repaired yet. This guy will be gone soon, don't worry.
-TheTeenGirl
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Tell him if you'd like, but it may make things weird. I'm pretty sure your feelings for him will fade, and wont be a problem for long, so just tough it out.
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Dear Too Late,
I know exactly how you feel and i really do, that happened to me once.It was with one of my good friends and i liked this guy named josh who was a total hottie and sweet guy and when he sat with us at lunch one day they totally had a spark between them too and the next week he asked her out and she said yes. But the silly thing is that i was the one to hook them up. I know it sounds crazy but here's my answer. Just go up to your friend and tell her exactly how you feel and don't leave anything out tell the flat out truth and tell her that you were hurt but it's not her fault because she didn't know about how you felt. Then just wish them a good relationship just know that God has a plan for your life and that it was just never meant to be. Believe me once you get the truth out instead of it being all bottled up inside of you you'll feel much better. Just know that another guy just as cute and just as nice will come along again your young don't worry.
lots of love,
bubblesamin
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I do not think that you should tell "Bill" how you feel about him. It will only make things a little awkward since he has a girlfriend. Also, his girlfriend (who happens to be your friend) might be a little bit mad. Just tell Bill that it wasnt him... for now. If the two of them break up and you decide to go for it, go right ahead. Nothing will be in the way then and if he then asks you again if it was him you could probably tell him that yes, it was but you only lied so that your friend would not be upset and things between you and Bill would not be awkward. That way he wont think that you are a frequent liar and that he cannot trust you. Hope I helped. ;)
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Dear S.
Well sumtimes guys see your feelings. Well you could tell him that you like him but you feel happy for them 2 and hang out with them (that will get you closer) and he might feel a different way about you.. I hope my advice helped...Rate pleese
xoxo
XSmartieX
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Wow. This seems like my life =]
When this happened to me, I ended up talking it out with my "Bill", we came to a conclusion, we're fine now, and I've moved on.
I suggest that (eventually), you tell your friend how you feel, but don't get too caught up about it.
If you need any more help, feel free to PM me. I went through this as well :)
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