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I screwed up so bad and I want to make things right.
Some background:
My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year and a half. We've been together since I was in 8th grade and I am now a sophmore in highschool. Unfortunately we don't go to the same school, so I see him once a week or twice a week if I'm lucky.
I have been friends with this boy for a few years, we dated when I was in 7th grade so it was hardly a relationship. But me and this boy have always remained very close friends even before my boyfriend and I met. He as well does not got to my school.
Friday night (The 11th) I was hanging out with him and a friend of mine at my friend's house. For some reason I ended up kissing this boy. To be honest I still can't figure out why I did it. I felt guilty about it after it happened and the guilt was eating me up inside. I saw my boyfriend the day after and I didn't tell him because I was too scared of what he would think, do or say.
The next day (Sunday) I told him what happened. He got really upset which I already knew would happen. I apologized a million times over and I promised him it would never happen again. I screwed up, I know that, believe me I know I screwed up.
We didn't talk up until late yesterday night and he told me that he'd give me another chance. However he said he's not sure if it's going to work because he doesn't know if he'll be able to trust me again. I know I don't deserve this second chance, but I am so greatful for it.
So my question is, what specific things can I do to regain his trust? Again, I know I screwed up really bad and I feel awful about the whole thing and I wish I could just take it back. I want to regain his trust and try to make things as close to "right" as it can be. But I don't know how I'm going to go about that.
He said to me that he's not sure if he'd be able to kiss me without being able to think about what I did.
I told him that if he wanted me to that I wouldn't talk to this kid ever again. What should I do? I don't want to end our year and a half relationship...
By the way, this is the FIRST AND LAST time I have and will EVER do something like that again. Please help me..
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Truthfully, there isn't really a way to gain trust back fast. Gaining someone's trust back takes time. Just let him know, reassure him if you will, that you will never do it again (as you've stated).
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first know that people make mistakes and you admitting to your mistake is awesome! i cheated on my current boyfriend after dating only 3 months and i also felt just how you're feeling afterwards. my boyfriend also gave me a second chance and we've been together eight more months since then, so it can work!
you definitely have it going for you that you've been with him for so long. that gives you a good base because you two obviously have something special.
know that he will definitely not trust you for a while, and you have to be ok with that. he might ask you tons of things when you aren't together, but just answer them. it will help him if you always tell him when you're going to hang out with other people and exactly what you'll be doing.
as frustrating as it will be, it will mostly just take some time. don't be too pushy with him, but let him know that you truly do love him. i know it can work out.. i've been there
so best of luck with your boyfriend!!! i hope it all works out!
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You can tell him that you are a person not a slave and i really appreciate trust..i will nver ever do this again and if i do...ill punish myself for how ever many years (?) I hope my advice helped you..thx! You dont have to break up with your best friend...just tell ur boyfriend the things I wrote and Im sure this advice will help...
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