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My name is Kristen, and I'm seventeen years old.

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... i love my boyfriend and never want to leave him .... its just sometimes ... i dont and i want to kill myself because he never seems happy with me ... he get irritated and even slaps me sometimes. But i dont want to break up! Please help ... I dont know what else to do

~ Hurtin' on the outside

You may not want to leave him, but you deserve so much better. A real boyfriend who cares about you will not hit you, or abuse you in any way. He's slapping you now..how do you know it won't escalate into something much more serious. Honestly, you need to get out of this relationship. Find someone who treats you right.

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i cant stop bitting my nails and my mom wont let me get acurlic is there anthing that will make them grow ffaster or make me stop bitting thx bunches!

There's a kind of polish that tastes really bad whenever you go to bite them. Just look around the cosmetics and nail polishes, and I'm sure you'll find it. To make your nails grow faster, there's another clear "nail polish" called Nutra Nail that will make your nails grow in 5-7 days.

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I'm new this year at my private school, and it's really strict! I mean, REALLY strict. Anyway, every year they have a picnic at the park, with water balloons and good food. (Finally! A time to dress casual at school!) but I just found out that girls have to wear skirts...at a picnic?! I don't know what to wear when I go, and how I can stay comfortable and look good too. It also has to be something I can get dirty because we're gonna have water guns and stuff. If you have a sollution on where to shop, thanks!
~Alexa~

Kohls has some really cute skirts, and you can always wear a skort to feel more comfortable and like you can move around a little more. Then for a shirt, just get a simple cotton shirt that you won't mind if it gets ruined. I'd also bring a change of clothes with you just in case. Have fun! ♥ Kristen

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I have alot of friends at school/church/cheer. But no one invites me to do stuff with them on the weekends! I spend my time on the computer cus no one invites me over, what should I do?

You should start asking them over. Just casually bring up how you guys need to all hang out sometime, and start making plans.

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Hi, well my names Jen and im 15 and a freshman. In gym class i noticed this boy Matt and he went to my middle school but we never actually talked. But today in gym he said "Hey Jen!" and i dont know i was kind of happy about it. I saw him alot that day and i tried to say hi and smile alot but i know he is extremely shy and everything but he kind of smiled but looked down saying hi. Hes sort of geeky, but i dont think i really care about that but im not sure what to do? Thank you so muchhhh

If you like him, nothing like his "geekiness" should matter. Get to know him a little better, and keep flirting and show him you're interested. If he a guy who genuinely cares about you, then I think he's worth your time.

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Okay.. welp the other day i dyed my hair dark and now it looks like it is black. I HATE having 'black' hair. My mom won't let me dye it again so is there anyway i can get it back to brown? I put that sun-in stuff in my hair but will that have any effect since my hair is BLACK!?

Hm.. if you wash with a clarifying shampoo and dishwashing soap (they have high pH levels) they color will soften a little bit. I wouldn't really suggest something like Sun-In so soon, you don't know what will happen the color. If it's someting you want to try though, put a little bit on the underside of your hair to test it. This way, if you don't like it, you'll only have to deal with a little bit, not your whole head.

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I found this awesome xanga that i just go crazy over! It has this song that i love! I have no clue what it is called! The person does not have a music play list! Does anyone know how to get the name of the song?? Please help! i rate high!

You could just comment on their xanga, and ask what the song is. Also, if you know some of the lyrics, you could search them on google then find the song in a music code on xanga.

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I got my first period in January. I haven't gotten it since then! I know I'm not pregnat.

What's wrong with me?

There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. For a while after you first get it, your period is going to be irregular. Just always be prepared for whenever you get it next. Hope I helped. Send me something if you need more help. ♥ Kristen

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OMG, I am so frustrated right now, because I just went shopping and must have tried on over 20 pairs of jeans, and every single one of them was big in the butt. I went shopping last week, too, and still nothing. I have the smallest butt in history. I feel like I'm gonna have to walk around naked the rest of my life! What am I gonna do? Does anyone know of any stores or brands that sell their pants with smaller butt sizes? Please don't suggest Hollister, but I'm totally poor! We tried that today and they were like, $80! I've tried Vanilla Star, L.E.I., Mudd, Arizona, Paris Blues, Union Bay, and other regular brands, and I've also tried Aeropostale. Does anyone else have this problem? Where do you shop at? Thank you so much.
x3 Erin

Have you tried Levis? They have Levis in a variety of styles, like Low and Super Low. They are around $25-$30. One of my friends used to have this problem, and that brand usually worked for her. You could also try GLO jeans. Hope I helped. Send me something if you anything else. ♥ Kristen

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My four month old has the flu/cold and so does my two year old nephew. Any idea on what I can give them to make them feel any better.

I would suggest taking them to the doctor. They'll be able to help you the most.

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I believe in sex after marriage, but my boyfriend is persisiting i have sex with him. He aggrivates me ALL the time and I can see myself giving in. I know I will regret it as soon as I've done "the deed". I'm confused as to what I should do; should I choose the easy option and give in? or go by my wishes and wait?

You can't let him pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. You believe in something, and you should stick to it if you feel strongly about it. Don't give into something you don't feel 100% comfortable in doing. If he keeps persisting, re-evaluate the relationship. A good boyfriend who cares about you won't make you do something you don't want to do. Hope I helped. ♥ Kristen

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I am a 13 year old girl and in 7th grade. I would describe my clothes style as preppy. However, the music I normally listen to is (in my opinion, I really don't know) far from preppy. I listen to bands like Green Day, The Killers, Linkin Park, and Evanesence (I don't think I spelled that right). I was just wondering if anyone thought this was weird. I can listen to some "preppy" music (a.k.a- stuff you would find on TRL) but most of it really bugs me, because it doesn't soud like they are the people singing. Again, does anyone think that this is odd? Sorry for the length, but I was just wondering! Thanks in advance to all that reply!

No, that's no weird at all. Just because you dress one way, doesn't mean you have to listen to a certain genre of music.

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how do i change my password on AIM

Go to My AIM on the top of your buddy list, then down to Edit Options. Then select Change Password. Hope I helped.

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theres this boy we arent dating or anything but we used too. well lately ive been hearing that he wants to date me again and he has been flirting with me. and also he has been asking me to have sex with him im a virgin and im not really ready for sex or anything wat should i do.

Then don't have sex with him. It's your choice, and you can't let a guy talk you into something that you don't want to do. If he really cares and respects you, then he won't pressure you. If he won't leave you alone about it, then don't bother with him. You deserve much better.

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ok im 13 female and i cut myself but not as much as i ust to i mean i havent in a week or 2 but my best friend betray me and my ex. bf still likes me and i dont no wat to do cuz his best friend makes me feel bad and i just tell myself not to cut becuz i dont want to but sometimes i have to like its the only thing i can count on to help me but i realli dont want to tell anyone so i dont no wat do can you help me?

Cutting isn't going to solve anything. It makes you feel worse. You have to hide and lie to people you love, and that doesn't do anything for you. There are so many more productive ways to let out how your feeling. Cutting isn't the only thing there for you. Try writing in a journal, exercising, ripping up paper, or talking to someone. Try talking to a guidance counselor at school, a trusted friend, or a therapist. It's good that you've realized something's wrong. If you need anyone to talk to, feel free to IM me or send me a message. ♥ Kristen

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Is there anyway that I can see who has me under favortie columnists?

Yes. If you go to the left sidebar under "Welcome, (your screen name)," five spots down it says "Favorite Columnists." Click on it, and it'll say people you've added as favorites, and then people who have added you. Hope I helped. ♥ Kristen

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hey i hate the mintiness burn of toothpaste and i heard baking soda works, but how do i use it as a toothpaste?? thanks for anyone who helps!

Hmm.. Have you ever thought of trying a different flavored toothpaste though? Crest has a variety of different flavors, like vanilla mint, cinnamon, and citrus. The vanilla mint probably won't be as strong as normal mint toothpastes. Maybe try different flavors, and if it doesn't work, maybe you can talk to your dentist.
I'm not quite sure if baking soda works or not; I've never tried it. But try looking at this site -- http://ask.yahoo.com/ask/20020102.html

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i just turned 14 and in janurary or feburary i got my first period. now its april and i havent had it since, i know irreguar periods are normal but for this long?!?!

That's perfectly normal. You just started, and it's going to be irregular for a little while. If you're feeling uneasy, talk to your mom or your doctor.

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I'm going on a school trip Wed-Fri. and I've got my period the heaviest it's ever been. It's like I have to change my pad every hour. I've never gotten cramps and now I have them really bad. During the trip we are going to make a couple rest stops off the bus. I can't put a pad in my pocket because it will be obvious..This is going to ruin my whole trip! I won't feel well and all my friends are going to have fun. I can't bring medicine either...it isn't allowed. I might have to wear a couple pads at once and like two pairs of underwear until I can quitely try to change it. Please help me get through this because I don't know what to do! I will remember this trip forever too. =/

Could you take a purse or something with you? This way, you won't have to carry the pad in your pocket. If you don't want anyone to find it, maybe put it in wrapping paper of some sort, and pretend it's something else. Maybe you could tell a teacher that you're having your period, and you might need to stop a little more often. If it's possible, have your mom write a note explaining your situation. Good luck! Send me something if you need more help. ♥ Kristen

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Okay, so one of my friends is having a B-Day party on Friday. She's inviting a bunch of people. She claims that she is my BFF, and she loves me as a friend so much. The problem is that whenever i go to her parties, she ignores me and hangs around with her other friends, and NEVER talks to me. Should i go ?

You should still go. Just make more of an effort to talk to her. Get involved with other groups of people that she might hang out with. Maybe you could even talk to her beforehand. Tell her you tend to feel a bit left out at her parties. That way, you two can have an honest talk about what's going to happen. Good luck! ♥ Kristen

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