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I am a 23 year old female. My boyfriend of over 4 years broke up with me over a week ago. I am beside myself upset.. I would to cook, clean, do laundry, take out his dog, feed his dog, got him a job, made him lunch everyday, even paid for our dinner or drinks sometimes.. the whole 9 yards..

He broke up with me because he said that it was unfair to me that I did everything, and he wasn't fully in on our relationship anymore. This came out of no where for me which is why I think I am so upset..

He has been involved with drugs, and really bad crowds as well so I think it's probably a good thing this happened, because I was able to get out while I still could.. but the pain is severe.

What I really need is someone who doesn't know me, my boyfriend or anything else about our situation.. to try and help me with advice, through this time..

All I want is for him to give a damn about me, and to be upset over this, I mean 4 years is a long time.. and I feel like I'm the only one upset..

Please, somebody give me advice or tell me what I should do.. I know if I ask if it's worth it to try for it again, it's probably gonna be a bad thing.. and I know I'm young, but it doesn't help how I feel..



You stated he is involved with drugs



You cannot help someone who will not help themselves. It could be a possibility that the drugs have taken over his emotional ability to think and act on how HE really feels. Besides the fact sweetheart, You must move on for you not him. You see, It is a bit hard to say as I don't know you or him but if he told you that his heart isn't really into the relationship anymore then you need to put your feelings aside and be strong.

Sometimes in order to move on from a relationship we need to focus on the hurt and turn it into anger in order to move on. Meaning, He has chosen drugs over you and your relationship. Therefore, You need to lift your head up and move on. Realize that you deserve better and do what you must to get yourself out there again. If you must clean, Then do so but do it for YOU, Not him.

Whether the relationship is worth it would really depend on several factors dear.

1, How long you were together
2, How much and deeply he is into drugs
3, Whether or whether not he wants to help
4, If this is an ongoing routine of his

Talk to him, Find out how committed he is into possibly seeking help for his problem. Write him a letter, Try to him when he is sober etc. Do what you must in order to get him to possibly listen to you but do not accuse or nag. If he refuses then unfortunately your relationship may have hit the sinkhole long ago.

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Before our breakup, things were great. We would talk everyday, when I had a problem, he was right there for me and vice versa. We said "I love you" everyday, it was just perfect.
One day I got really depressed, and I do stupid things....really stupid...
So, I broke up with him for what I thought was good reasons, but now they are nothing. He didn't get over us for like 2 months or so.

Now, I made my move to get him back, I played our song and asked him. He was "happy" when we got back together. We said "I love you" the first day...but...well things aren't the same.

Now, we don't talk everyday, hes not really there for me. When I text him, he takes FOREVER to respond, or doesn't even respond at all. It's really killing me, what should I do? I have strong feelings for him, and I told him I didn't wanna lose him, and he agreed but, what should I do?

Please help!



You hurt him


Once you go your separate ways or even take a break in a relationship it's pretty much over and done with it. Being separated can really cause some serious damage in a relationship if you were to get back together with someone.

You said it took him 2 months to get over you, Which indicates that you both were separated for a little while. My wild guess is that over a period of time he has learned that he does not need to be in a relationship to survive and therefore he has mentally moved on from you. This guy may even started to talking to someone else in the meantime or perhaps what would make perfect sense considering he isn't quick to respond, He may just clearly be moving on and is passing on the revenge. Unfortunately, This would be a very childish thing as two wrongs don't make a right but maybe he realized after he took you back that he doesn't really want to be in a relationship with you.

You broke up with him, You ended it for whatever reasons it may have been, He is over you. Sometimes when someone hurts somebody it just changes everything. At this point, There isn't much you can do. You cannot bribe him or talk your way into getting him back because his heart just isn't into it anymore.

You need to just let him go

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is it bad to have sex with ur broher..



This is considered an incestuous relationship which means that it is legally wrong to have any sort of sexual contact with a family relative.

Almost anywhere incest is a crime and it is morally wrong to have sex with family.


So yes in short term, It is very wrong.

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I just told them about him today, and I've been dating him for several months. He's quite a bit older than me, but that's not the problem. He also lives very far away (he's come to visit me multiple times). My parents say it's the combination of the two, and they don't like what he does for a living - he doesn't make enough.

I'm 18 years old and just started college. I wanted to visit him over winter break, but my parents said that if I go, they're not paying for my tuition next quarter.

I'm not breaking up with him. What should I do? Do I have other options? Thanks



You are legally an adult and your parents can no longer make decisions for you when it comes to relationships. You are entitled to date and see who ever you wish whether your parents approve or not. They cannot MAKE you do anything, A relationship is yours and yours to make on your own, You are an adult now. A relationship and love isn't about someone's money, It's about happiness. If I was based about money, I most certainly wouldn't be happily married right now. Life live for YOU and do what makes YOU happy, Not everyone else around you.

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Ok, so I have been dating this girl that I love and such. But my freinds, literally, all of them, hate, her. And I have been freinds with them for my whole life, so I thought about just dumping her, then I noticed that she had been getting a little clingy lately, and finally, we got In bed, if you know what I mean. Then I had to stay with her, but I just don't know what to do! What should I do, stick with my freinds, or stay with my girl?




A relationship isn't about what your friends want, It's about what you want. No matter who you date, There is always going to be qualities in a person that someone doesn't like. If she makes you happy and you make her happy then that is all that should matter. A relationship isn't about you, that person and other people and never should be. It is about you and your partner.

Don't ever let your friends pick out who you should and shouldn't date or you will never be truly happy. If you want to leave the relationship then leave for your own reasons not because your friends want you too. If they are trying to ruin your happiness, Then you may want to find some new friends.

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So could u loose your virginity by using a dildo, and sticking it up your vagina?



No


Loosing virginity means having sexual intercourse.

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I put petroleum jelly on a tamping a couple times and I and really really really scared it will cause an infection but only on the applicator.




Never use petroleum jelly on a tampon, It can cause a clog and an infection. It is one to use it on a rash but not on or for vaginal use.


Stop

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I've been talking to a guy I like a lot from another state. He's in Florida and I'm in Connecticut. We've been talking for 2 months now and a couple days ago he stops replying/won't answer any of the new texts I send. He only has an instagram, I have him added on there. He's liked and uploaded pictures since the 2 days have passed. Our ages are 19 and 26. I know that seems a little old for me but we have a lot in common and he's amazing! He does like me too and i know he isn't catfishing me. Don't worry. And we aren't together. Am I being too clingy or what?
I feel like I'm being a little clingy. I just thought he was different and perfect for me. We totally click when we're talking and it's amazing. He never said anything bad about me like i am too clingy/anything like that. And That night we weren't fighting at all. Any advice?
I am a female and the 19 year old to be clear.



Lets think on the more realistic side of the story.

This man is about 17 hours away from you in an entirely different state. I know he seems to be amazing to you, but do you even know if he has someone down south? I agree with the user below me, Sounds like he was just looking for a little enthusiasm on the internet. You cannot be into someone you never met and while you know very well there is little to no chance on it working out due to long distance.


I don't think you are being too clingy but I definitely think you are over thinking on something that it is not. If you want to find a real relationship then I would suggest looking somewhere else and not over the internet. It's fantasy vs reality. The internet isn't real my friend

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What do you do if the boy you've talked to for more than a year suddenly stops talking to you and ignores you completely like your not even there, when at one time he made it seem like you were everything to him?



He is a jerk who lost interest in the relationship. You move on

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i meet this guy in August he's 31 im 23..i've grown a lot of feelings for him..he says he has feelings for me too and can see us together in the future but just wants to take things day by day and isn't ready to commit right now...but he's constantly saying he.thinks im beautiful and too good for him.he always concerned about me talking to my ex...we had sex for the first time Saturday and he said he didn't have condom and i told him i didn't have birth control. he said he'd be careful. ...he came inside of me and didn't even try to pull out..and said hopefully i didn't get u pregnant. .then he says im not ready for kids but if i was to have a baby i would want it buy you..then he starts talking being a family and so on...does he love me, or is this an accident or is he trying to trap me bc he doesn't want t comit but doesn't want me with anotherguy..




Go for the hills...fast


The guy is manipulative and has a lot of insecurities. If you carefully reread what you posted hopefully it will dawn on you that he is not only manipulative but he is a bit controlling.

Don't ever fall for someone who says he loves you, Then goes off on a rant about how he thinks you are too good for him and worries about you talking to exes and other guys. Obviously, This right here is someone who is controlling. This has real bad news written all over it.

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I am a 24 year old woman and last night I was in my bedroom watching movies and I thought I was home by myself but apparently I wasn't because I paused my movie to go into the kitchen to get some doughnuts and a sheriff beat on the window and I opened the door to see what that wanted and they asked me if my 20 year old cousin was hear because they had a warrant for his arrest and I said I don't know because I was in my room watching movies and then I turned around to look for my aunt because the officer asked to speak with my aunt so I went in to the computer room to go find her and I realized that my cousin that the officer asked for was in the computer room and i am like oh crap what do I do now because i have never been in this situation before until now and my cousin said shh.. don't tell them i am here so I went to the door to tell the officer that he was there and the officer asked me who I was talking to and I started shaking all over with fear and they said I thought you didn't know weather your cousin was here or not I said yes officer that true he said then who were you just talking to and to you not to tell us they were there and I started stuttering and they said it's your cousin isn't i just nodded and I asked if I was in trouble and the officer said he didn't know that he would have to investigate further so am i under investigation by the police will I wind up going to jail with my cousin or would they have arrested me then when they arrested my cousin am I going to jail ? If I do go to jail what would the charges be any answers to these questions would be greatly appreciated . Thanks. I am just really scared right now because I have a clean permanent record and I don't want that to change. I have never been in trouble with the law before and I don't want to start now .




This would depend on the laws of your state, You could be charged with enabling a criminal and lying to a police officer and depending whether there is an on going investigation against your cousin, You could also be charged with interfering with an investigation. My advice to you would be to tell the officer the truth or turn your cousin into the police.

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HI i am from Ethiopia and i have a bad odor coming from my buttock 2 years age and from day to day it is getting worthy. Now even when i walk and when i sit the odor comes out. Am embarrassed to sit and walk with friends and the people near to me.I thought it was only my imagination but anyone who is near can feel it. I used to take shower once a week and now i am taking shower once a day but no change at all.I don't know what to do.



Once a week is not enough, Most people shower daily.

If you are noticing an odor problem, Try using some sort of body powder or body deodorant.

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my partner has gone to his family in another country for several months. at first we texted occasionally and called around once a week. for the last 4 weeks i have heard nothing. last time we spoke all was fine. i thought i would give him some space for a couple of weeks so as not to pressure him as he is around family. then i called and texted and called again. phone was off and no reply. what should i do. i want him to come back but dont want to pressure him.



4 weeks is an entire month, If he hasn't attempted to contact you or even get back to you then obviously he has lost interest in the relationship.

There is a huge difference between giving someone space and having someone be completely inconsiderate in a relationship. He isn't even trying to contact you or let you know what is going on. It doesn't take much of anyone's time to give a call or a text message. To be honest with you, Even a text a week seems to be a bit of a cut off.

So I would likely consider the relationship to be over at this point, He has made no effort in letting you know he is okay or even to keep touch with you while he is away. Obviously he isn't too committed to making a relationship work. Yes, He blew you off and just moved on.

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I've recently started seeing a guy, for about 3 weeks. He has been out of town and won't be back until a week and a half. Last night I was kissed by another guy, who I barely know, and definitely have no feelings for. I don't know whether I should tell my boyfriend? There is a huge sense of guilt and anger at myself, and I feel incredibly stupid for what I did. The recent week has been an intensely emotional week, dealing with all sorts of other personal issues and while I know it isn't an excuse, it has most likely contributed. I don't intend on seeing this man again, even as friends.

He kissed me, I kissed back. He touched me, I told him to stop. He continued, I told him to stop. He kissed me again and I didn't kiss back. Then I left. I couldn't take it anymore.

What should I do?

I am a female, aged 24.




Don't see the man again, You stated you told him to stop and he from the sound of it, He didn't really listen to you.

On the other hand, Why did you kiss him back?

It is entirely up to you on whether you tell your boyfriend about the situation or not, Just know ahead of time it may cause him to have some hurtful feelings and anger towards you. Perhaps considering the only thing that happened was that you kissed him back, Take it as a lesson learned and move on from the situation. Maybe this man isn't the best person to be hanging around with anyhow. Time to find friends who respect you for who you are and that you are with someone. Cut him loose

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I have PCOS and I'm trying to take care of it, but in themeantime I have to shave my face, neck, and upper part of my chest. I'm a girl. They're little hairs, not like men's. But I still have to shave, every day..maybe even twice. I'm tired of it but I don't have any money to pay for electrolysis or get it waxed every week. I'm hoping someone can tell me ways I can control it, or at least tell me how I can irritate my skin less so it won't be red. I feel unattractive and gross.



I also suffered PCOS

I am fortunate enough to have a family member who is an Electrologist though but here some advice I was given.

Don't ever shave anything besides your armpits and legs, Although hair is very bothersome it will only make the problem worse.

Another factor given to me from the doctors is many of us with PCOS need to be careful when it comes toc certain foods. Many fatty, greasy foods will only cause our skin to be more prone to hair growth and acne. Try to avoid the fatty, greasy stuff.

Exercise, It will help with our hormones and bring PCOS syntomes to be less severe.

There are many other options but shaving is definitely not one that is recommended. It can cause the hair to grow in faster and thicker.

Now for a solution, Try using no no hair remover. I heard that it was safe and effective. Just avoid using the razor. If it becomes a serious problem, Try visiting a Gynecologist who can possibly prescribe some hormone pills to help lessen the severity of the problem.

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Ever since I started Highschool I've been kept on being bullied, sweared at, almost raped, and when I tell me teachers, they say "Say no!" This boy in year 11 keeps on raping me and saying "Let's have sex in the bathroom" and I scream and run. In primary school, there was a bunch of lez who kept trying to kiss me, and then the teachers in primary school was saying "they just trying to be your friend, playing around" but they once tried to pull my trouses down and I've been so nervous everyday that my attendance is like 10% please someone help me! D; I wanna learn, and have a good time, P.S I am a girl 14 years old



The first people you should tell is your parents, Not a school teacher. If the teachers don't listen, Tell a counselor or a school principal your situation.

Nobody should ever fear for their safety and especially at a place where you are there for an education. Tell someone who will do something to help you.

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Any man want to have s fun with me?



This is not a dating site, Take it somewhere else.

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2 weeks ago me 18 years old and my gf 15 years old were having sex. By mistake we didnt use a condom but i split my sperms outside her vagina im her tummy . My question what are the chances of her getting pregnant even after i split my sperms outside. And what should i do next?
plz i need urgent answers




Chances are always possible but may be low in this case.

I fail to see how you accidentally didn't use a condom, It's either you did or you didn't.

You seem to be at a state of panic while asking this question, So here is mine to you, Why aren't you using protection if you aren't ready to handle the possibility of pregnancy?

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Is it wrong for a 16 year old and a nearly 24 year old to like eachother more than just friends?


Yes

In the eyes of the law you are a minor and this person is legally adult. If this person where to have any sort of relationship with you he/she could be charged with indecency of a minor, Statutory rape, Corruption of a minor, Sexual assault and a whole load buttload of other charges.

Now to point out the obvious

You said is it okay to like "each other" meaning that this 24 year old person is showing interest in someone who is 16 years old.

Now stop and think, Do you not see anything wrong with this? A 16 year old is considered a minor and is not legally an adult no matter how mature they think they are.

So, Here is your answer, Yes it is highly inappropriate. Unless someone wants a record of being a child phedophile it must stop immediately.

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I wasn't really sure what category to put this in, but I guess it's kind of a pet question...
So, I've decided to write a story about a homeless black cat (I have a black cat, so she inspired me), but I don't know what to name her. The name is probably going to be the title, so I need something that really stands out. In other words, I need a name for a female black cat (And please, nothing like 'cutie' or 'brownie' or anything like that) that sounds kind of sweet and simple. Thank you!



Magic

Jade

Moonlight

Star

Shadow

Vivian

Lilly

Cocoa

Winter

( I like Magic :) )

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