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partner not contacted me for 4 weeks
my partner has gone to his family in another country for several months. at first we texted occasionally and called around once a week. for the last 4 weeks i have heard nothing. last time we spoke all was fine. i thought i would give him some space for a couple of weeks so as not to pressure him as he is around family. then i called and texted and called again. phone was off and no reply. what should i do. i want him to come back but dont want to pressure him.
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If you have tried everything then see if you can contact one of his family members. Just tell them that you were worried if you are afraid you will sound pushy. If you don't have contact with any of his family members and he still dose not pick up his phone then all you can do is wait. I'm sure he will return home safely so don't worry. Just look forward to him coming home.
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There is nothing you can do but wonder. And the possible scenerio's and explanations in this situation are so many. Try not to jump to conclusions as our minds are prone to do when we lack enough information. Eventually, he is coming back since you said he's only to be gone a few months. If he does not return at all, then you have your answer, you were not important enough to him. Or if he returns and does not contact you, you have a right to know if he feels differently for some reason so that instead of keeping yourself available for him, that you move on with your life and find another partner.
My opinion is that if two people were truly in love and perfect for each other, there would be that invisible drawing to each other, especially when apart that nothing could stop it. But "Absence making the heart grow fonder" only works if there really was a fondness to begin with.
While a phone can be broken, there's always the internet and email or whatever social network you keep in touch on. Perhaps a family tragedy has his attention captured for the moment but eventually, as a person processes thru that, there should eventually be that longing to be in touch with a sweetheart.
If it goes beyond the time that he said he would be away and you still haven't heard, I would email, or text him a message asking for the courtesy of a response so that you can know if something has changed on his end so that you don't keep sitting around staying available for him if it's all over. You'd want to be able to move on.
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4 weeks is a very long time to not talk to someone when you're in a relationship with them.
It seems like either something happened to his phone and possibly has like no other way to contact you..which might be unlikely..but possible or he just lost interest.
So you can try contacting him but that's about all you can do.
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4 weeks is an entire month, If he hasn't attempted to contact you or even get back to you then obviously he has lost interest in the relationship.
There is a huge difference between giving someone space and having someone be completely inconsiderate in a relationship. He isn't even trying to contact you or let you know what is going on. It doesn't take much of anyone's time to give a call or a text message. To be honest with you, Even a text a week seems to be a bit of a cut off.
So I would likely consider the relationship to be over at this point, He has made no effort in letting you know he is okay or even to keep touch with you while he is away. Obviously he isn't too committed to making a relationship work. Yes, He blew you off and just moved on.
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