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He's 31, and I am 23... What does all this mean?
i meet this guy in August he's 31 im 23..i've grown a lot of feelings for him..he says he has feelings for me too and can see us together in the future but just wants to take things day by day and isn't ready to commit right now...but he's constantly saying he.thinks im beautiful and too good for him.he always concerned about me talking to my ex...we had sex for the first time Saturday and he said he didn't have condom and i told him i didn't have birth control. he said he'd be careful. ...he came inside of me and didn't even try to pull out..and said hopefully i didn't get u pregnant. .then he says im not ready for kids but if i was to have a baby i would want it buy you..then he starts talking being a family and so on...does he love me, or is this an accident or is he trying to trap me bc he doesn't want t comit but doesn't want me with anotherguy..
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No, he doesn't love you.
He's extremely disrespectful and seems to be a bit controlling. You don't even want to be with a guy who says one thing then does another.
He doesn't want to commit to a beautiful girl who is "too good for him" and talking about being a family. That's ridiculous.
He won't commit to you, but doesn't want you with someone else. That is controlling.
He didn't even try to be careful while having sex with you. Hopefully you at least took the morning after pill.
He's not worth it.
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I sure hope you took Plan B, the morning after pill, its effective range was originally thought to be 72 hrs after unprotected sex but new research says 120 hrs. Here a link about it.
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I highly suggest you take the precaution immediately.
Zane is right, you don't want to be messed up with this guy and especially not as the daddy to a child of yours. He sounds controlling to me too.
If the guy isn't incredibly immature, there's always a chance that if he said the things you say he did, seeming to contradict himself, that he may have a mental illness as well or he is playing head games with you, that is NOT the action of a person who loves you. Yes, get away from him, cut off all contact and find yourself a better guy.
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Go for the hills...fast
The guy is manipulative and has a lot of insecurities. If you carefully reread what you posted hopefully it will dawn on you that he is not only manipulative but he is a bit controlling.
Don't ever fall for someone who says he loves you, Then goes off on a rant about how he thinks you are too good for him and worries about you talking to exes and other guys. Obviously, This right here is someone who is controlling. This has real bad news written all over it.
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Run! It's a trap!
Or an idiot, but very likely a manipulative, controlling ass.
He's probably not trying to get you pregnant, not deliberately. But his carelessness is so extreme that it's cruel and disrespectful. When you add controlling behaviours and his lack of a commitment to his not understanding the importance of safe sex, you end up with guy who is either a deeply mucked idiot, or a vicious user.
Let's assume the best - that he is simply screwed up and stupid - at 31 it's not like he's going to grow out of it, and you don't need to waste your time on someone with all these warning signs.
Finally, never EVER, trust someone to pullout unless you really want to have a baby with them. It's not an effective technique - even when a guy tries to do it.
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