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Being too involved with someone not in the same state.
I've been talking to a guy I like a lot from another state. He's in Florida and I'm in Connecticut. We've been talking for 2 months now and a couple days ago he stops replying/won't answer any of the new texts I send. He only has an instagram, I have him added on there. He's liked and uploaded pictures since the 2 days have passed. Our ages are 19 and 26. I know that seems a little old for me but we have a lot in common and he's amazing! He does like me too and i know he isn't catfishing me. Don't worry. And we aren't together. Am I being too clingy or what?
I feel like I'm being a little clingy. I just thought he was different and perfect for me. We totally click when we're talking and it's amazing. He never said anything bad about me like i am too clingy/anything like that. And That night we weren't fighting at all. Any advice?
I am a female and the 19 year old to be clear.
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The most logical reasons as to why he's not responding to you is either because he's really busy or isn't interested in you anymore.
Since you said he still has been uploading instagram pictures, then he's probably not THAT busy.
So my guess is that he's just not interested.
It doesn't mean that it was your fault. It doesn't mean that you are clingy either.
Have you guys met in person? If not, then he probably just sees you as some girl he talks to that he met over the internet and not something that is serious.
So my advice to you is to find someone else and not worry too much about this guy because he doesn't seem to feel the same way you do.
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Lets think on the more realistic side of the story.
This man is about 17 hours away from you in an entirely different state. I know he seems to be amazing to you, but do you even know if he has someone down south? I agree with the user below me, Sounds like he was just looking for a little enthusiasm on the internet. You cannot be into someone you never met and while you know very well there is little to no chance on it working out due to long distance.
I don't think you are being too clingy but I definitely think you are over thinking on something that it is not. If you want to find a real relationship then I would suggest looking somewhere else and not over the internet. It's fantasy vs reality. The internet isn't real my friend
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Okay..well at first i thought he was cat fishing you.. but he probably has been really busy and doesn't really have time to talk because he is 26 AND probably has a job. and i don't think your being too clingy because you want to talk to him theres nothing wrong with that. but the thing is just dont like text him 24/7 he probably needs space to think or something.. so i think you should just not text him back until he starts texting you again.. cause then you'll know if what you have is real or not..
Sincerely,
Nobody :)
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The only thing you aren't doing right, is not taking the message.
He's not replying because he doesn't want to reply. He's no longer interested. That is what 'stops returning calls' means.
Yes, it would be nice if everyone would be kind and respectful, straightforward and honest when they loose interest, but most people aren't. Especially online, where they can easily get away with ghosting and never having to face the person they disappeared on in real life.
You probably didn't do anything wrong, and even if you did, it's not like he's ever going to try and help you out by letting you know what it was. So, as hard as it is, all you can do is shrug this off as him being a jackass. It doesn't reflect on you personally. Frankly, it has far more to do with the long-distance, and online nature of your friendship. In most cases where ghosting happens, it's because the ghost found someone else, closer to home and more convenient.
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