about

My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

advice

any tips on how i can? i want to go to a modeling agency on october 18 and so that gives me about a month and a week to lose 20 pounds. any tips will be appreciated-especially on food or diet plans or pills. and please dont give me crap for asking i want real tips!

xoxox

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Good luck!


-Laura (17-f)

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Would it be wierd for a fourteen year old girl to date a sixteen year old boy. Its only a grade apart, (so like freshman/sophomore)but its still like a two year diference, what do you guys think?

Totally fine.


-Laura (17-f)

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i need some songs to help me cope...

does anybody know any songs about a guy thats a total tool, jerk, cocky, etc??

my boyfriend and i broke up because he's become such a tool.

every song i can find is about cheating and such and he didn't cheat so they don't really help.

Thanks

Listen to Hollywood Undead. It will make you feel better, I promise.


Or try these break up songs:
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-Laura (17-f)

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Hi,
i want flat stomach,i tried running, dancing, jumping but whatever i try, no good. my stomach is my worst feature and i cant go to a gym

can you tell me an exercise routine that can get me a flat stomach?

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:)


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Okay. I'm 20yrs old, Female, about 5'3ish and I weigh around 155. Most of my weight is in mystomachand love handle area, I just started walking, I can't really run, cause of my quick weight gain and it puts strain on my knees, I only I guess "speed" walk on a treadmill for abou 15mins. I'm also on the debo shot (been on it for almost a yr in Nov) and I know that makes you gain weight, so I plan on changing that also.
I just need to know of any good websites, that I don't have to pay for to help me with a meal plan. Keep in mind that my daily life is VERY different, I work a 3rd night shift and sleep during the day (not all day just from 8am-4pm, getting the full 8hrs) Or if there are any deits things I can buy to help me weight lost go a little faster, I've never been this big and I'm startin to feel really uncomfortable about my self, and that is nothing like me, I was 105 for the longest time an I have gained so much weigh with inthe past yr and half.

I just need some sort of good advice on what my best bet is going to be with losing ths weigh that i have gained.

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-Laura (17-f)

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I sweat a lot during sports and on hot days. what is the best deodorant that is over the counter? are there any other ways to prevent sweating to much? thanks in advance

Dove Clinical Protection is excellent.


-Laura (17-f)

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Hi, My name is Brittany well i wanna have sex with my bf he is so omg cute when ever i see him i feel nervous and i feel like ima have an orgasm just from looking at him and we spend a lot of time togehter alone cause no ones home or is sick and we kissed once but it was on accident and i wish it wasn't and whenever he just pokes me i wanna jump on him and rade though his parade and omg like i belive in marriage before sex.what should i do before i reveal myself in so many new ways to him.

Please i need advice fast!

Don't do it. You're young, you'll regret it, and it's a dumb idea.


-Laura (17-f)

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The teacher and me haven't talked about this stuff this year yet, I never know how to explain it all to her. I need to know what to say first, I know she wouldn't tell on me. I don't really know if she cares though.

I'm sure she cares. I think you should tell her and ask her for help. She'll be able to help you if you just let her.


See her after class or school, and tell her you need to talk to her about something serious. Then, tell her what you have been doing to yourself. Let her know that exercising isn't helping. Just be open with her and don't be afraid.


-Laura (17-f)

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To question everyday to myself, why should I be alive? I'd be better off dead. & Happier. I have no one I can trust, to talk to. I don't want to get sent to rehab, or a physicatric center. I just want to be happy, I have a counselor, but I don't want to talk to her anymore. She doesn't help, It's wasting my time. I have one teacher I can talk to, but all she does is tell me that excerise will clear the mind, no. It doesn't. I'll run, then come home and cut myself. & My heart is pumping so fast, I cut deeper. Who should I talk to? How can I talk to this teacher? Will she even give a shit? I'm not sure what else to do. Once you reply, I'll check back and answer any other questions, your advice is amazing- and I'm hoping you can help solve some of my issues.

Thanks for inboxing :)


Why should you be alive? Because you're here for a reason, you're young, and you have SO much left to live for. Think of how much you still have ahead of you- prom, graduation, college, getting married, a job, children, your entire LIFE is still ahead of you. Life is such a beautiful gift, and everybody takes it for granted. You just need to stop, look around, and enjoy all the beauty in the world.


As far as your counselor situation, if you want a new counselor, get a new counselor. If exercising doesn't help you, do something else. Find a PASSION. Try writing, drawing, singing, an instrument, cleaning, something-anything that gives you pure joy.


A question I do have, though, is how do you go about talking to this teacher? Like, what do you say to her and what does she say back? Send me another inbox and I'll try my best to keep helping you out :)



-Laura (17-f)

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Where can I get a jacket like this, but waaayyy cheaper.


http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/3036519/0~2376776~2374327~2374375~2381291?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=2381291&P=1


The same length, color, and military style.
Thanks :)

Try Forever 21 when it's closer to Winter. Somebody I know got a jacket JUST like that, only it was yellow. However, I'm sure they will have other color choices :)


-Laura (17-f)

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anyone have a good book?
i dont like anything dealing with murder unless its like awesome!
something like adventurous and funny and keeps you on your feet.
thank you!

The Lonely Bones by Alice Sebold. It's about a young girl who gets murdered, but keeps watch over her family. It's VERY well written, and keeps your interested/entertained throughout the entire book.


If you would like more, let me know :)


-Laura (17-f)


EDIT:
This Lullaby by Sarah Dessen.
Thirteen Reasons Why by Jay Asher (a suicide related storyline)
The Almost Moon by Alice Sebold (a murder novel)
Just Listen by Sarah Dessen.
The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time by Mark Haddon (an interesting and addicting murder novel)
Tweak by Nik Sheff.
Burned by Ellen Hopkins.
It's Kind of a Funny Story by Ned Vizzini.


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okay, well theres a guy, matt, hes known for a player, ive known him since before kindergarden. and believe it or not, i liked him SINCE kindergarden. i dont know what it is but i just cant get over him. i talk to other boys to get my mind off of him, but everything comes back to him. now he has a girlfriend(name will stay unknown) and shes known for doing stuff with guys, i have a feeling hes using her for her reputation. and i have another feeling that he might use me. ive told myself before that i love him and i think im right. what do i do. =/

I don't really get what you're asking. If you're asking whether or not you should "like" him, you can't control it. If you like him, you like him. If you don't, then you don't.


Just follow your heart, but don't get involved in his current relationship. Don't mess things up between them, because you'll just be known as the girl who got in the middle. Stay out of it and let this girl realize her mistake (if that's really what it is).


-Laura (17-f)


P.S.
CONGRATS ON BEING MY 3000th QUESTION ANSWERED :D

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there's this guy whom i really like or i think i like. i'm not going to justify that because i don't want to get hurt. well, last year my friend called him up and asked if he'd date me, and he told her no. also he and i weren't so close then. we argued a lot, but were friends. now i talk to him a lot more, and we laugh more than argue. we're the same in many ways. i don't really see him much outside of school. i will not admit my feelings to him because i don't want to ruin our friendship, and he may be doing the same. i'm not really sure what kind of girls he goes for. i know one girl he crushed on last year but they didn't work. he's black and i'm white, but he acts white. haha. what should i do? pursue my feelings? or ignore them to keep the friendship? really would help if i knew if he felt the same, but i couldn't stand the rejection shame.

Well, there are 2 major options you can go about to solve this problem:


1. Be blunt about it.
2. Be shy about it.


I highly suggest being blunt about it, and either asking him if he's into you too, or simply asking him out yourself. Guys like when girls show confidence, and there's no better way to show you're confident than walking up to a guy and asking him out!


Or, you can go the other route and be shy about it, possibly doing nothing to show him you're interested in him. Sometimes, people who use this method drop subtle hints such as smiling [which is common in girls and doesn't always show you're into a guy] or having a friend ask if he's into you [this only shows that you're too shy to do it yourself]. This option is really kind of stupid, and is used all too much...


As I always say:
Life is WAY too short to not take chances and risks once in a while. Why sit around wondering what could've been, what would've been and what should've been, when you can answer all of those questions and then some by being honest and telling a boy how you really feel about him?



-Laura (17-f)

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okay, well i just recently got a haircut. i usually go to my hair stylist but she was out on vacation so i decided to go somewhere else. well, the lady today messed up my hair and cut my bangs really short. so now i have to wear my bangs up.

you see school is starting. i'm going to be a senior. i have NEVER had my hair up for school. and by never i mean never. i think the last time i put up my hair was in 6th grade. i really don't like having my bangs up...

and another thing, my senior pictures are in two weeks ! i really wanted my hair to be down for them.

my question is...is there anything i can do (other than pray or extensions) to make my hair grow faster in the next two weeks?

As much as we wish there was, there's not miracle way of making your hair grow super long, super fast.


Why not get extensions just for the day of your pictures?


-Laura (17-f)

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19/f

everytime i mess around with a guy, whether its even just playing strip poker, or hard core flirting, him feeling me up, ANYTHING i get soooo wet! and it feels disgusting.

i usually wear a pantyliner everyday, because i tend to have a lot of discharge but when i'm with a guy, obviously i'm not going to wear one and then it gets all over my underwear and its all nasty, and pretty much soaked it makes me feel disgusting.

does this happen to anyone else...?
i wish i didnt have to go through this.

Don't wear a tampon. The person who said that is obviously not educated in tampon use, because it's not safe to wear them if you're not on your period. So don't do it.


That being said, a lot of girls get "wet" when they're turned on. Flirting and strip poker probably turn you on, as it would most other women your age. It's nothing to worry about :)


-Laura (17-f)

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so everyone is telling me in order to lose weight i have to diet but noone is being specific! what is a good diet like i kno about some fasting my cousins did and it work i jus need to kno specific foods or diet & fasting names or something cause idk what to eat & not too. and how much should i run i need to lose like 10 ta 15 pounds off my belly thanks in advance !!!

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From there:


As far as how to obtain that goal goes, start with changing your diet. This is the biggest thing, and it will have the biggest effect on you. Make a meal plan if you have to, and STICK TO IT. Find alternatives to junk food. Here are some tips to help you get started:


1. Replace ice cream with sorbet.
2. Replace potato chips with baked chips.
3. Replace pop with fruit juice and/or water.
4. Eat fruits for snacks.
5. Replace white bread with wheat bread.
6. Pack your own lunch for school/work; don't buy.
7. Don't be afraid to try new foods. Try new, healthy recipes.
8. Control your portions. Make sure you're eating just enough to fill you up. Stop when you're full; don't stuff yourself.
9. Don't use diet pills. They don't work. They're a waste of money and time. The best way to lose weight and get healthy, is to do it NATURALLY. There is not miracle weight-loss pill.
10. Change up what you eat. Keep it healthy, but don't eat the same thing at every meal. You'll get bored, and you're more likely to stop eating well if you eat the same thing.


And most importantly: DON'T CRASH DIET. When you starve yourself, you screw up your metabolism. When you screw up your metabolism, it's harder to lose weight. Crash Diet = Worst possible "diet" EVER.


-Laura (17-f)

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IF u keep masterbating will that lower your sperm count?

NO. This is a really stupid and totally not legit rumor.


-Laura (17-f)

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Im not fat, but my legs do carry a lot of my weight. ive been trying super hard to work it off( i eat very healthy, i run at 2 miles every day, i have volleyball practice for 3 hours and its all running). the weight just doesnt seem to go off. i really want to loose the weight because im starting high school and i dont want to be critized because of my legs. please help.

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and a lot of older girls in my cross country have something similiar from the earrings i got.
i feel like im copying them but im not doing it cuz of that..
should i still wear them? or not at all?
will they think im some poser who wants to do everything like them?
help!
thanks.

Wear them and forget about what others think. Just because a few people have something doesn't mean they own it.


And as long as you're not wearing the same shoes as them and copying their hairstyle, it's not big deal ;)


-Laura (17-f)

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Hi! 14/F


Okay, i found out that my ex ex boyfriend still likes me. That he liked me ever since we broke up, and he apparently feels dumb to ask me out again because he dated my friend, even though i warned him that she likes other guys and she will break his heart he still dated her. She got mad at me because he never talked to her that much,and he always talked to me. Well, i couldn't help that. Well while she was dating him she found someone else, they broke up and i found out that he liked me this whole time after that. Him and my friend broke up about the last week of school and now we are starting a new year. :/ He told me friend that he still liked me, he told her not to say anything though.He was dating his recent girl friend to keep his mind off of me. I know quite silly. They broke up and what i need to know is should i ask him out?? Or wait??

Thanks!

Well, there are 2 major options you can go about to solve this problem:


1. Be blunt about it.
2. Be shy about it.


I highly suggest being blunt about it, and either asking him if he's into you too, or simply asking him out yourself. Guys like when girls show confidence, and there's no better way to show you're confident than walking up to a guy and asking him out!


Or, you can go the other route and be shy about it, possibly doing nothing to show him you're interested in him. Sometimes, people who use this method drop subtle hints such as smiling [which is common in girls and doesn't always show you're into a guy] or having a friend ask if he's into you [this only shows that you're too shy to do it yourself]. This option is really kind of stupid, and is used all too much...


As I always say:
Life is WAY too short to not take chances and risks once in a while. Why sit around wondering what could've been, what would've been and what should've been, when you can answer all of those questions and then some by being honest and telling a boy how you really feel about him?



-Laura (17-f)

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